3 day old ds wont bf please help - desperate

[Bainmarie]

I had my dc3 on sat and he still will not bf. He will cup feed or syringe/bottle but nothing else. As far as I can tell, he is able to suck [will suck finger] and I have enough milk but he wont take it. He has fed once with nipple shield but now won't do this either. Please help, am desperate, still in hospital and midwives don't have any more suggestions. Thanks.

Don't they have a specially trained BF midwife there to help in situations like this?

Sorry to hear you are in this situation,

hopefully someone will be able to help xx

You should be able to get help in the hospital with breastfeeding ask the midwives again and again and again till someone helps you

can't mw call bf counsellor to come and visit you in hospital? shall i post numbers? how are you accessing internet are you on a phone?

this happened to me too and it was fine in the end, but you need some proper support.

Have you not had problems with your other children?

Is he small, try some skin time getting him to lie next to you and see if he will bf lying down. Perhaps your breasts are too full, expressing abit might help him latch on to not such a full nipple, if that might be the case.

midwives may not be trained. mine had no clue.

here bainmarie, numbers on right hand side.

bainmarie, my DD (now 2 weeks) had a cup in hospital, and had a tongue tie, so they (and me) were really worried about bf'ing - they got a specially trained bf'ing person in - demand help! where are you in the world?

Bainmarie, hope you get help. Try skin to skin and biological nurturing positions, and insist someone who knows what to do comes and helps you get this sorted.

Are you expressing and giving your milk to the baby? If not, this is something you need to start doing now.

Try and ensure anyone who helps you avoids too much handling of your baby - he may have been pulled and pushed around a bit, and this might be what is preventing him from latching on at all, now. If this is the case, he will get over it but he needs to chill and relax, skin to skin with you.

whAT are the biological nurturing positions please Tiktok?

thanks for these suggestions.
what is biological nurturing?

Have seen their bf specialist,her advice was keep trying.

www.biologicalnurturing.com/
These are positions that encourage instinctive behaviour in the baby - bf specialist should know about this, and if she doesn't......

i'm no expert but have they checked for a tongue tie? my DS was 6 days old before they noticed it - he didn't feed for the 1st 24 hours and had to be syringe fed. He got it snipped at 10 days and as if by magic, breastfed beautifully.

I had this problem, it took ages for my breasfeeding to get well established. They woukdn't let me out of hospital til he was feeding properly as I was so desperate to breastfeed. I think sometimes it comes down to thepersonality of the baby. This was deffinitely the case with ds. He was so impatient and grumpy that he found it much easier and less work to be cup fed. He really struggled to get the hang of breastfeeding. To be hones it was always difficult with him and I ended up formula feeding after 3 months which I now regret but it was so bloody painful having him bobbing on and off all the time! Could you not just express for now and see how it goes? My midwives were crap as all the other mums were formula feeding and they just couldn't be bothered to help me breasfeed, even when ds was screaming the ward down for 3 nights as he was starving. In fact, when I asked for help from one of the women and explained how distressed ds was becomming she actually said "what do you want me to do about it?" in a really sarcastic and hurtful manner. Wishing you luck though, keep trying and if not then I would go with expressing.

Thank you for your help, I really appreciate it. Ds is now feeding much better, although still with nipple shields, but am hoping to wean him off them when things get more established.