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Infant feeding

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Breastfeeding in front of in-laws/my Dad!!

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Chequers · 01/04/2008 20:26

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aquababe · 05/04/2008 11:34

i used to find feeding lying down easier so would take myself off with a good book or a light snooze.
seriously, they'll be more embarrised than you will

solo · 05/04/2008 12:31

Well, I just popped Ds on and fed wherever I was and with whomever I was with...If I was in someone elses house, I'd usually say ' do you mind if I give him a feed' or ' you don't mind if I feed him do you?' and I was never refused...
I've been the same with Dd this time too and intend to continue as I did with Ds until she is at least 18 months...

As for feeding in front of my dad, I've never had a problem with it and dad has never batted an eyelid as far as I know! Dd is 15 months now and so nosey that I frequently end up sitting in my parents lounge, breast bared with baby having a chatter with my mum! I fed her in front of my uncle too...Dd was only a few days old and I think we had a big joke about my huge hairy nipple - which was of course Dd's head! because that was absolutely, all you could see!

The only time I've gone to a different area to feed Dd is when my Dp's uncle is there as he has special needs and is in his 60's, he's sometimes unpredictible and I'd hate to embarrass him.

I know friends who have gone off to their bedroom to feed(many actually), but that was more in the 80's when I think there was a totally different mindset towards breast feeding...these days, I think it's mostly accepted and the more people that see it happening, the more easily it will be accepted by everyone IMO.

Elasticwoman · 05/04/2008 19:08

I didn't mind my Dad seeing my first attempts at bf, but did draw the line at letting him take a photo!

I remember him saying lovely things about bf, such as "Ah, such a comfort for the baby".

He's dead now.

FionaB27 · 05/04/2008 21:47

Chequers: "what I'm really worried about is them coming to hospital where I can't actually leave the room, so I will have to kick them out, I suppose." You will probably not be in that long (maybe one day, unless you have a C-section) and ime very few visitors made it that quickly. But if they do, your bed is your space in the hospital, and there is always somewhere else they can go. Also, there are often nurseries you can use, if you prefer to be the one to leave (you won't, as you will just have had a baby, but it might help to know they are there.)

You may find you need a very particular environment to get comfy breastfeeding, especially in first few days. If this is in your bedroom or nursery, you will probably want to go there to feed anyway, but I find on the sofa with plenty of cushions and the remote (as mentioned in this thread) my position of choice. In this case, best to ask FIL etc to leave for privacy. They need somewhere to go, so ideally the kitchen/ garden/ a walk. Perhaps dp could be primed to show them something (even if it's how you've decorated the nursery) or ask for help with something (small DIY task/ making cuppa) at the required moment?

FionaB27 · 05/04/2008 21:49

Edam - totally know what you mean about Dad being besotted with grandchild and staring while you are feeding - disconcerting at first, but just because they are so happy. My Dad so supportive of bf

I'm finding bfing in front of people easier than I thought. The tricky one for me is when visitors arrive mid-feed. Have had to get dh primed to announce that feeding is in progress so that everyone is primed - I am not about to stop what I'm doing, and if they don't like it they can about turn on the doorstep! Had one visitor arrive (completely unnarranged, how rude after only a few days!) mid feed and was not someone would have chosen to start feeding in front of, but felt really did not have a choice as they were in the living room before I could really say anything...

Anyone got any tips on controlling this? Not so much of a problem now we're at 4 weeks and the visitors have eased off a lot, but any advice useful...

ilovewashingnappies · 05/04/2008 22:07

You can;t beat a vest underneath to cover up your belly and a little cardi to cover head if you need to. You'llget used to it!

CongratulationS! All these worries will fly away when you fall in love with your baby

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