whats the longest anyone has bf for? anyone still doing it with lo's at school?

[prettylovebird]

ok i know dd is only 7 months,but, i want to bf her forever, and just wondering what it will be like when shes at school or preschool

Bitty ????

In my personal opinion,..rather strange if she's at school...but... entirely up to you!

yes but don't kids start preschool at 2year 9months ? thats not very old is it?

plenty of people on here have fed until their children are three or four - the oldest I know of was four when he self-weaned. DS2 is three and still going, but he doesn't attend pre-school. By that age children use it for comfort rather than nutrition, and are well aware that it's something only their mother can do, so if mum isn't around they're happy with bananas (or whatever) until she reappears. Is that what you mean?

No,...but you did say school or preschool...school is rising 5! She is only 7months at the mo,...what makes you think you'll actually want to bf her forever?

well dd will only b 4 years and 2 months when she starts school, seems so young, because dd loves it and its easy, cuddly and good for her, and i can't think of ay reasons why not to.

hi policy, well i just wondered what mums did, say feed them before and aftr chool and then say again before bed ? and just generally how they found it

may i ask did you intented to feed ds so long when he was 7months?

As I said plb, it's entirely up to you,..and you're reasons are completely valid, however, you might find your dd does not want to bf until then and you might well change your mind... Is dd your 1st child?

My DD still had feeds at three. It wasn't , by then, a 'feeding' situation. sometimes she would just want to latch and she fed a bit but she was eating by then ( obviously). As policy said it is more a comfort and connection at that age.
It just stopped very naturally when she didn't need it anymore and I lost any sense of her needing it so it just ...well ...stopped .

I always knew that I would bf DD for as long as she wanted to as she has two sibs with really bad immune systems and bf was part of a protective strategy for her particular circumstances.

I do remember freaking out the guy who came to give me a quote to re-carpet her bedroom .
Almost never fed outside home after about two because she was too interested in what we were doing and would always prefer a biscuit !

'may i ask did you intented to feed ds so long when he was 7months?'

Probably not as long as this, no - I had a major wobble when he was about two and thought about stopping, but decided to carry on and haven't regretted it. However, I always knew that I'd feed him for longer than the average - DS1 was fed until he was two so I'd already established my 'weirdo' credentials' (I'm joking... but sadly there are quite a few people who think it's weird.)

Not at 3 policy!!! Just when they're at school !!!
(I'm joking,..I'm joking)

watch it...

Just incase you're wondering I bf ds1 until 15 months then ds2 came along and I bf him for about 18 months. My friend bf her ds2 on demand until he was 5.. tbh it was awkward, and uncomfortable in public and I know some of our friends refused to come out because of it.

With DD I fed until 7 months and went to switch to bottle feeding because I was given the impression that this is what you do.

Then I had DS, and found MN. I b/fed him for as long as he wanted to - that was always my aim. He self-weaned when he was 2.4. I'd have gone on for as long as he wanted.

It didnt feel weird at all. You dont wake up one morning feeding a 2, 3 or 4 year old, after all. They grow right in front of you and you dont see it

There was a girl at DD's pre-school who was still having a b/feed in the evening before bed. It seems to be more common in last/youngest children.

i dont bf, but would like to say i dont find it weird until they are much older say7/8, to me thats a bit odd. but a 3/4/5 yo i wouldnt have a problem with, dont know why my cut off is there, just how i feel! lol!

good luck and hope it gives you and dd brill health benefits and a lovely warm feeling!

I b-fed DS until he self-weaned at 4yrs 2 months. He had only been having a getting up feed and bedtime feed for about 18 months, then latterly just a bed-time feed for months, so nobody else knew about it to think anything of it. Life during the day was much too interesting for DS to think about bf-ing.

I BF DD 16m and unless I tell people they don't know because she very rarely signs Milk in Public as she is too distracted.

I intend to self wean - and think things may be heading that way atm. I would happily feed her until she was 3/4 at bed time.

I have no judgements to make on anyone else feeding in any other way. Do what feels right for the 2 of you and you won't go far wrong.

macdoodle - I have been on MN for a few years now and had debates with most regulars. I have never been so appauled by someones lack of sensitivity. If you have to make such a Bitchy comment please don't do it on a thread like this. The OP is feeding a 7m old. Not a 7 year old. Feel free to Start a new thread if you want and tell everyone feeding a toddler they are "Bitty".

this is a long winded one but the SIL of DS2's beaver scouts group leader(got it??) BF her DD until she was 7.

Still bf DD who is 3.5. She starts school in Sept, and is at pre-school now. I keep asking her when she is going to stop having boobie as we call it, and she says never, she still likes it. It's definitely a comfort thing, early morning and last thing at night in that half-asleep half-awake lovely cuddly moment. I must admit, I'd like her to stop but I don't want to make her go cold turkey! I have thought about throwing her a No More Boobie party and baking a boob shaped cake to mark the occasion! Then maybe letting her choose a special new soft toy to cuddle instead. I weaned DD1 off her dummy (she was not bf) with the bribe of a Barbie scooter but I am not sure that would work with DD2.

I had assumed that macdoodle was joking...? Maybe not.

I fed dd2 until she was 2 1/2 then had to stop because I was put on ads. Ds1 stopped on his own at 11 months and I was completely devastated but was already pregnant with ds2 and was told the flavour of the milk can change so thats probably why he didn't want it any more. Feeding ds2 now he's 12 months and have no intention of stopping until he wants to stop(can't see me doing it when he's at school though).

I breastfed til ds self weaned. He was coming up to 4.

I do have a friend who breastfeeds her school age ds. There is no routine to it, she just feeds him when he asks for it, which sometimes can be days between him asking.

OP I can relate to your intense feelings of wanting to go on feeding forever, but most children (if allowed to) will self-wean aged between 2 and 4, so it would be a bit more unusual to go on longer than that. I personally did not want to stop when ds did - it was a lovely part of the day and so peaceful, just one brief feed at bedtime to wind down. Lovely. Just enjoy it while it lasts - there will be other stages and things that you share together, that are just as wonderful as this.

I personally had assumed that macdoodle was an ignorant twat, but you are very charitable, wonky

i still fed dd in public and she is a big baby! probably looks about 1already,always get positive comments and smiles

what a shame ingles some people wanted to stop going out with that prson that was still bf there 5 year old

"My friend bf her ds2 on demand until he was 5.. tbh it was awkward, and uncomfortable in public "

for whom exactly?