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growth spurt?? advice / moral support needed please

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chiefcookandbottlewasher · 23/01/2008 10:40

i am breastfeeding my dd, 6 days old today. So far she has taken to it really well, no problems latching on, a little bit snoozy on the breast but getting some decent periods of sleep between feeds.

Since yesterday however, she has fed almost constantly round the clock with hysterical crying the minute she comes off the breast (she does this voluntarily but just wants to go back on immediately). She snatches small sleeps in between feeds.

My milk came in over Sunday/Monday and ironically the initial nipple cracking that i had has now healed and i have no discomfort when feedng. My main concern is that dd may not be getting all she needs from me, but last night after a solid 3 and a half hours swapping between one breast and the other i gave in and fed her some formula. she took about 30ml and promptly threw most of that back up so she appears to be filling up on my milk, its just that she can't get enough! Also, where initially my breasts were swollen and felt quite hard, they have now softened again and are comfortable. I take this as another sign that dd is getting plenty from them. I have checked that she is not suffering from wind, she does not just want to suck on a finger or dummy for comfort, has regular nappy changes etc.

My husband is concerned that dd is missing out on something and this is why she wants to feed all the time, also that i am getting only snatched five and ten minute bursts of sleep. He is trying to persuade me to switch to bottle feedng. I am determined to carry on feeding dd myself, can live wth the sleep deprivation (as long as its only short-term), and am hoping that this is merely a growth spurt and will soon pass. Can anyone advise / reassure me that I am doing the right thing? Would be really helpful to know that others out there have been through the same thing.

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chiefcookandbottlewasher · 23/01/2008 10:48

bumping myself. Help!!

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soremummy · 23/01/2008 10:50

mine fed like this

soremummy · 23/01/2008 10:52

sorry feeding atm so slow typing. It gets better thee baby is establishing feeding/milk look on kellysmom web site

soremummy · 23/01/2008 10:52

tiktok or someone will help you re this

chiefcookandbottlewasher · 23/01/2008 10:55

thankyou, will try the website. Have also discovered the art of one-handed typing - amazng what you can do with a ravenous baby permanently attached!

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soremummy · 23/01/2008 10:59

Lol my dd is 8.5 mths old so it gets harder as they try to help you type. Just put her down you can tell because now I can type properly!

chiefcookandbottlewasher · 23/01/2008 11:03

how long did this feeding pattern last for you? Was it fairly short term or do I need to start stockpiling tinned food and toilet rolls?!

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soremummy · 23/01/2008 11:07

Yep Breastfed Child means Stockpile Food! Only joking. It didn't last long a few days.. then it starts again when they have growth spurts... 2 months ...3 months etc I would just make sure that you keep eating yourself and just because the baby cries to be fed she will survive the 5 minutes it takes you to make/eat a sandwich! I ended up quite ill because it's like burning the candle at both ends and this is baby 4!

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 11:15

Same problem here, he is driving me mad
I've fed him at 8.45 for 20 mins, then at 10:30 for 20 minutes now he is hungry again!!! I've winded him plenty, he has a clean nappy what the fuck is wrong with him!!!

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 11:16

He has been scream on and off all morning just about managed to get him and me dressed as I need to go out this afternoon.
Have expressed earlier so going to give him a bottle as my boobs are now sore.

soremummy · 23/01/2008 11:21

How old is your lo?

chiefcookandbottlewasher · 23/01/2008 11:22

soremummy, I never needed telling twice to eat more! Will take your advice, thanks. Bouncingturtle you have my sympathy, know this doesn't help you but am feeling better that i'm not the only one!

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Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 11:24

he is 4 weeks tomorrow. He's been doing this about every other day now pretty much since he was a week old and i'm at the end of my tether.

soremummy · 23/01/2008 11:25

I have fed my dd at 1am, 3.20am, 7.40 am 8.45, 10.40 have just managed to get dressed and I sooo wish that I could get her to take a bottle now and again I have milk in freezer but she won't take a bottle!

soremummy · 23/01/2008 11:27

Stick with it they do eventually settle for a while then they do it all again! To be honest my dd doesnt sleep much but I have found that if i go for a walk she will sleep for a few hours in the pushchair but doesnt sleep for more than 30 mins if im at home so I find I constantly feed her if I stay in the house.

laundrylover · 23/01/2008 11:42

You are all doing really well and supporting each other on this thread is great. It does get better soon - my DD2 is nearly 2 now and I even miss those days.

Just think how pissed off you'd be if you switched to formula and the baby was still the same only you had to make up a bottle rather than whip a boob out!!

Formula is not the answer - rest, cuddles and support from those around you (especially partners -rap on knuckles there Mr Chiefcook!!). Sometimes what helps is for someone to take the baby out in the pram/car for an hour and you can just sit and enjoy the peace, have a bath etc and just switch off for a while...

Good luck and let us know how you are all getting on in a couple of weeks.

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 11:49

Thank God, he has fallen asleep, just gave him 2oz of EBM... now off to express some more...
Think I might have an early lunch too while he is asleep!!!
He rarely goes more than 2hours between feeds, please reassure me that this will increase over the next few weeks, as I'm finding it tough only getting sleep in short bursts! Don't want to rely on DH too much during night now he is back at work as he needs his sleep, as he has a long commute to work every day.

soremummy · 23/01/2008 12:27

Your doing well just go with the flow, if i am honest each day varies with mine one day I can't leave her for more than an hour another day she will go 3 or 4 hrs between feeds....... some of it is thats she is spoilt. She is baby no 4 with the others being 17,15,13! But what a surprise she was and MOST days are a joy she has broken every rule book in this house.. she feeds on demand, she doesnt like being spoonfed, she can manage yorkshire pudding or apple in her hand but no teeth yet, she shares our bed! That was a no no for the others. She doesnt go to bed at 7, won't have a dummy, won't have a bottle. I have finally got my head round the idea that she will never be a text book baby and will do her own thing she is like all babies an individual it does get better/different.

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 12:41

Nope spoke to soon, have had to feed him again, be on for nearly 30mins, and now has thrown it back up after I winded him. And surprise, surprise he is now crying again that he is hungry.

soremummy · 23/01/2008 12:53

Does he just want a cuddle/comfort

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 12:57

Just fed again, have been offering him his dummy, but he is not that interested. I've given him cuddles too, and been putting him his bounct chair. He has now dozed off on my shoulder.
Jusr feel useless and frustrated. I've even shouted at him to shut up because i can't cope with his constant crying.

soremummy · 23/01/2008 13:00

Can you just go for a walk see will that settle him? if you get to the stage were you feel angry/frustrated leave the room for a few mins.

mamijacacalys · 23/01/2008 13:13

Sounds quite normal to me.
Both mine were boob monsters in the early days.
DD once put a whole pound on in a week and the HV was convinced I was topping up with formula. Nope, was just at on settee with boob out all the time....
IIRC things change at around 6 weeks then again at 12 weeks when you get longer breaks between feeds and get into a better 'routine'..but then again they're all different.
If you're really needing a break, get your DH/DP to take her out in the car for an hour...
HTH and happy feeding.

laundrylover · 23/01/2008 13:13

Turtle, if it isn't raining too much, wrap him up and go for a walk to clear your head. Take your purse and if he goes to sleep go for a coffee and a cake or even just sit in the library with a magazine.

I have shouted at my babies too but it doesn't help eh? BTW am on ADs now so much calmer.

Bouncingturtle · 23/01/2008 13:16

I'm totally on my own until dh gets home from work, so passing ds on to anyone else is not an option. I have to go and take him to the register office in an hour, so hoping he will fall asleep on the way over. He is dozing now so am going to eat some lunch.
i really do hope it gets easier