BREASTFED DD IS ONE TODAY - DO I GET MY FREAK BADGE AUTOMATICALLY OR HAVE TO APPLY TO THE HV?

[blazingsandals]

Well???? Also, now that I am a social outcast, is there an accepted uniform (and are lentils involved?)

So far today four people have asked when I am quitting nursing. Responses have included:

(1) That's a good question, since it's as natural as breathing, I agree to do so when you agree to quit your disgusting oxygen habit
(2) Well I'm guessing logistically it'll be difficult when she goes away to college so maybe then.
(3) Are you crazy women, look how tiny my arse is because of breastfeeding (to oversized FFing mummy)
(4) Oh I'm sorry, did you want some?

So I thought, best get the badge and uniform, save some people wasting their breath telling me how BF over one is 'a bit odd'.

Good for you BS. My 2.5 year old is still bfing so I've just upgraded to the gold embossed badge and the uniform with three stripes on the lapel.

By the way my other three all fed to this age, some beyond, but they don't still request it now they're 9, 7 and 5.

As you were. < Salutes >

Spider, were they all still interested in it up til that age, i mean, did they 'ask' for it, or just tke it if offered? I 'm asking as I get the feeling dd would be happy not too 90% of the time. night is when she really really shows she wants to. I just give it to her in the daytime when she should be having a drink. plus, she wont drink large enough volumes from a cup or bottle. so i'd worry she wasnt getting enough milk if i stopped...

I dont want to at all, i wnat to go on at least til 18 months if not beyond... but, just think maybe i want it more than her, most of the time. ( well, not WANT it, oh... you know what i mean, i hope! )

Why should I go away, tiktok? I didn't say I had a problem with it at all. I said 'people don't want to see it'. I acknowledged that it was natural and that in other countries they do it for a lot longer than many consider normal over here.
You all seem to have a bee in your bonnet!
Nothing wrong with bfing at all, just your attitudes towards others.

well, i would say thats its actually others attitudes to mothers breast feeding. IN exactly the way you have put in your post. which i found really odd, and quite offensive.

Believe it or not, most mums who bf in public do not do so, so that hte can flash their knockers at the world. they do it, beasue that is what their child needs. Most, if not all are very descret indeed about it. In fact, i dont think i have ever shown the slightest bit of flesh ever when feeding in public.

we can all go aout and eat and drink when ever we need to. we can go around wearing low cut tops, short skirts etc... there are girls and women who walk aroud my local town wearing far les clothes and exposing FAR more flesh than i ever have, or than i do when feeding my baby in public.

it is your attitude and peole like you, that have a problem.

I very very rarely post anything in a disagreeable way here. I HATE conflict. however, you have compelled me to do so, with your pointless, insulting ignorant post about children getting an issue with breast and trying it on with any one with a pair of tits.

I will say again. Its not my proble or any other bf mothers problem, it is the people looking on and frowning that need to get a grip on reality. I tell you what, if anyone ever come up to me and says anything, they may well find them selves sprayed with breast milk...

assualt by breast milk hey.. i'd love to see that in court.

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood is a troll...look at the name they are using and why would a genuine poster post on this type of supportive thread when there are plenty of threads to read and join in on.

IMO just ignore that posters threads and hopefully they will get bored and go to a different thread/board.

I'd be interested in hearing from Spider too, Susie

My 14 month old needs her nursing session and signs and says 'mulk' when she wants milk. But I do remember around 10/12 months she seemed less interested in asking for feeds and would wait for me to offer.

Why do I want you to go away, theresmoretolife? Because you are insulting and ignorant - read your post and listen to yourself.

You invent a ludicrous scenario of babies who are bf for longer than some arbitrary time having a 'thing' for breasts and then as a result clambering over women to get to someone else's breasts, touching them - that's ignorant.

You then add the word 'weird' - that's insulting.

It's your attitude I object to.

There's nothing wrong with anyone else's attitude here.

'People don't want to see it,' you say. And that's a reason for stopping????

I don't think she/he is a troll - I think their attitude is all too common unfortunately.

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood

I like to see it!

I think that it is lovely to see a little person nursing in public. Good on mum's for enjoying a fufilling nursing relationship and over-riding any small minded people's attitudes.

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood - you're full of shit and you're making stuff up for attention - yawn.

Sorry, can't be polite like all these nice ladies!

Ah, that explains the post on the other thread about BF in public from theresmoretolife.. where do you get your ideas from?

Hmm I too want my badge as have been bf'ing for 3+ years nonstop now (dd is 18m now and I stopped feeding my 3 yo ds at 22m). But I am very discreet about it in public (generally only need to feed dd if on the train for a long time/ out all day as she is old enough to go w/out but still demands frequent feeds at home.

I do get a bit fed up with dd shoving her hand down my top - but that minor inconvenience and occasional embarrassment (exposure) is overridden by the benefits.

I do feel people think it is strange to be feeding a walking talking (a bit) child and as dd is the size of some 3 yo's it is difficult to be discreet but i would be surprised if anyone actually said something to me - especially if i am keeping my dd happy and quiet on a long train journey.

I did get some odd reactions to bf'ing ds when i was pregnant but it was only a problem for me when i broke ds' bed

Happy b'day blazingsaddles dd and good luck with your future feeding.

I don't have a problem with breast feeding! I did it quite happily for several months.
I do think it is amazing how easily you are would up though. Lighten up.

theresmoretolife,are you related to claire verity?
anyway, welldone to blazing for continuing to bf. you are giving your little one the absolute best

theresmore to life... people are very sensitive about bf. This is a thread for women to support each other. There are other threads if you want a fight, I suggest you go and find one.

I dont knwo why you say " people dont like to see it"

I'm a person. I like babies. I like to see them out with their families. many families eat when they are out in public and so do their babies. whats your problem? do you object to older children and adults eating in public too?

Mwahhahahahahah! missymum - the ultimate insult!

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood - I think is you put the word 'wierd' about any aspect of breastfeeding on this forum you deserve all the wound up breastfeeders you are sure to get....

Been breast feeding only 7 weeks now but I have a certificate on my fridge that my HV gave me!!! (I had a hard time for the first 3 weeks....... she has an ace sense of humour)

Well done blazing sandels - hope you've had a good day. You]ve been a Mum for a Year!!!

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood: when's the last time you were groped by a toddler?

Susie they asked for it usually.

I know what you mean about the biting and clamping. I saym 'OW! No. Gently' and then warn them next time they ask, 'Are you going to be gentle?'

My ds (2.5) kicks and thrashes about so that, for example, if I'm trying to MN whilst feeding him its very irritating as if he wants my full attention and I'm not allowed to MN.

congratulations! I'd love a badge as well (although I actually brought some fab badges from LLL saying something along the lines of 'I'm a lucky daddy as my son is breastfed' or a lucky grandma, my mum, MIL and dh wear them on their work bags with pride!

I tandem feed and my ds1 is nearly 3.5 yrs, and ds2 is nearly 2 now. I admit ds1 is almost weaned now and probably only has one feed, 3-4 days a week, but ds2 feeds when he likes day and night still. I never offer it but I don't refuse. You should be really proud of yourself. I know that most people around me don't understand how I can feed for so long but I don't doubt what I'm doing so I shrug and say 'its amazing they still feeding, isn't it, its the best thing for them, don't you think?'

• love your responses though!!!

I've also been known to reply, when asked how long I'll feed for:
'ohh..for about 5 minutes'

motherhurdicure: dont be daft! you did help! She is teething and seems to have been for almost 4 months now... on and off, but still no teeth.

I think what spiderhammer ( I think it was ) says is worth a go. more eye contact again and watch for signs of boredom etc... I have a feeling it is for attention, so we will see.. i'll let you all know.. sure you cant wait!

I really really dont want this to be a reason for stopping. Its really odd, I had said all along, I'll stop at 6 months etc... no way! cant believe I thoght that. mind you, i did think i's be going back to do a few shifts at work here and there, most likely nights... but not been able too with my back.

keep going wonderful mummies... well done everyone!

and sod the weird people that dont like to see it... its not like they have to look hey...

blazingsandals - Happy birthday to your little girl and well done on doing a full year of bf.

My DS is 1 at the end of Nov and I have no intentions of stopping. No one has asked me when I will stop yet and I have no intentions of it. It still feels so normal and natural that I can't imagine not doing it. DS adores it too.

My dd is 18 mths and still bf! I get the 'are you still bf' but in a 'if you are bf you should have stopped when she was a BABY!' way. I usually favour response no. 2. said in a thoughtful way. But why didn't I think of response 4!!! So going to use that one...just need some mug to ask the question now...

And as for a badge, I don't have one...but here's a bracelet

It's so niec to hear from so many people still bf. Even 1 of my good friends (who has lots of kids and bf them though not for so long) said she wouldn't want to go anywhere with me if I was still bf in public, after I bf my dd at her house a few months ago (dd is now 21 months)
I rarely bf when out and about anyway, though if we're in dd would still love to bf half the day, but I think it's really odd for people to be so odd about it. Saying that, I suppose I do think it's a little bit odd if they're 6 or 7 ... but I have no idea when I'm going to stop. She's certainly showing no less keen-ness. Think she's an addict!