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Original poster

BREASTFED DD IS ONE TODAY - DO I GET MY FREAK BADGE AUTOMATICALLY OR HAVE TO APPLY TO THE HV?

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blazingsandals · 20/10/2007 09:33

Well???? Also, now that I am a social outcast, is there an accepted uniform (and are lentils involved?)

So far today four people have asked when I am quitting nursing. Responses have included:

(1) That's a good question, since it's as natural as breathing, I agree to do so when you agree to quit your disgusting oxygen habit
(2) Well I'm guessing logistically it'll be difficult when she goes away to college so maybe then.
(3) Are you crazy women, look how tiny my arse is because of breastfeeding (to oversized FFing mummy)
(4) Oh I'm sorry, did you want some?

So I thought, best get the badge and uniform, save some people wasting their breath telling me how BF over one is 'a bit odd'.

OP posts:
knifewieldingtoddler · 20/10/2007 16:05

rofl at jamila.

KristinaM · 20/10/2007 22:26

LOL at jamilla. At DS1s 8 month "check" the Hv asked if i was still BF him and when I said yes she said " Oh well, you'll be wanting to stop that soon then" in a firm, no nonsense voice

( just like claire verrity in fact )

Original poster
blazingsandals · 21/10/2007 08:46

You know what, there are fat breastfeeders and fat formula feeders and I know that! I used to be the former and now I'm not and actually it's to do with what I put in my mouth. May be different for others obviously but GIGA and all that.

The person in particular who said this, spent four months telling me how much weight she was losing because of breastfeeding and now complains she's getting fatter.

Now you can all be offended by that if you like. I don't mind.

and YES I could quote WHO recommendations, but if I walked up to you and said 'I don't think the way you are raising your child is good' would you take the time to do it? Nooooooo!

Anyway, can't be arsed to get my heckles up today. Have lovely warm DD in my arms and we get on better when I'm not stressed.

I shall fashion my badge from old washable breastpads and adorn it with organic raisins

OP posts:
belgo · 21/10/2007 08:54

Congratulations, freak

I tended to respond with something like: 'it means I can eat chocolate without putting on weight'.

Original poster
blazingsandals · 21/10/2007 09:29

Thanks Belgo - yes I also tend to make Nesquick at times of stress for DD

Honestly the poor child probably thought my milk was sponsored by Cadburys for the first six months of her life.

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BabiesEverywhere · 21/10/2007 09:31

Congratulations Happy Birthday to your LO

If people ask me how long I'm going to feed DD for whilst I'm NIPing, I go for the delibrately misunderstanding response "Oh, about five more minutes"

If I get asked again I reply honestly "I haven't decided yet"

BabiesEverywhere · 21/10/2007 09:33

Opps, forgot to add my DD is 14 months old

susiecutiebananas · 21/10/2007 09:41

Hi, well done you and happy birthday LO.

I NEED to ask you... did your DD go through a phase at about 10 months, of pinching your boobs whilst feeding and biting your nipples whilst pulling them out of her mouth very slowly with her gums clammped firmly shut ???

I am still having this problem and dont know what to do?
I do not want to stop feeding and intend to go on for as long as she is still interested. Which i have to say, is sadly waning already except for nocturnally, and first thing. thats not to say she is refusing when i offer it at lunch time. just not asking for it in the day. she does sometmies at night by pulling my top and patting me.

sorry to hijack... just wanted to ask since out DDs are simialr age yours has a couple of months on mine

OldieMum · 21/10/2007 10:03

I am still bfing DS (15 months) in the morning and at bedtime. He went through a phase of biting my nipples (which he found intensely amusing) and still does it sometimes (including this morning). I find that singing gently to him works. It seems to relax him and stops him feeling so playful.

princessPUMPKINmel · 21/10/2007 10:10

I've stopped being asked now, well almost. My friend asked me last night if I was till feeding dd , but only as I've been able to get out earlier in the eve and she was wondering if I'd stopped.

Dd is 2. 2 and still having the bedtime feed . Once in 24 hours. Just recently dropped the night and morning ones. By herself.

I get a lot less comments about it now. Even from my mum and sister.

Well done

hunkermunker · 21/10/2007 10:13

Happy birthday to your DD

(Please try another chocolate milk powder though - Nestle make Nesquik...)

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood · 21/10/2007 10:31

It's your own business how you feed your child. And yes, bfing is natural and in other countries they do it their kids are 3 or something blah blah blah But, people don't want to see it in public. It can give the child a thing for breasts, so they clambour over other woman, touching their breasts hoping to get something. Weird.

belgo · 21/10/2007 10:42

your post is very wierd moretolifethenmotherhood.

susiecutiebananas · 21/10/2007 10:50

hey? what? theresmoretolifethanmotherhood... my DD has never done anything like that ever to anyone but me. except when she teeny tiny and she just routed on anyone male or female, which is perfectly normal.

what a very strange and odd opinion you have on breastfeeding.

what do you think you have them for ( i'm assuming you are female) they are not decorative pieces for boys to just play with. some women, choose to use them for the purpose they are there to be used for. feeding a child.

if you dont like, dont look simple. do not expect the mother not to do it in public, it is YOU with the problem, not her.

littleNonSpecificHolidaylapin · 21/10/2007 10:56

Happy birthday miniSandal!

I stopped at 15/16m so I know how you feel. You just have to ignore the fools (in my head, I am saying that in a BA Baracus voice )

theresmoretolifethanmotherhood - what an odd post

WriggleJiggle · 21/10/2007 11:01

Congratulations Blazingsandals, and happy birthday to dd.

I love your responses. Can't believe your HV actually knows who you are though - I thought they ignored all mothers once they had given them 'the 6 month talk' about how much harm you can do bfing!
Can I order my badge now or is 51 weeks in advance a little premature .

tiktok · 21/10/2007 11:39

Are you for real, theresmoretolife?

Real or unreal....you're insulting and ignorant.

Now go away, please.

Snarf02 · 21/10/2007 11:41

Congrats i was going to stop bf when my lo was one but we were both enjoying it and as i had to go back to work pt the am and pm feed were a lovely way to bond again when i was away from her. She stopped herself when she was 19 mths but i think thats because i was 16 wks pg and my milk changed. My son is now here and i am loving bf again and because we are not planning anymore will bf him as long as he likes like i did his sister.

Most people i met were really positive that i was bf after a year but i am sure that there were some whispers from some.

Why stop the most natural thing in the world if you are both enjoying it

Congrats again

chipmonkeyPumpkinNorks · 21/10/2007 12:14

theresmoretolife, I bf ds3 for 2.6 years and he was smart enough to know that I was the only one who "did" milk. The only time he looked for milk from other women was when he was about 6 months old and he soon copped on that it was a blood from a stone situation. So fark off till you know what you're talking about.

motherhurdicure · 21/10/2007 12:16

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BabiesEverywhere · 21/10/2007 12:22

susiecutiebananas,

Yes, my DD went though the stage of biting my nipples.

I started to put teething gel on her gums a few minutes before nursing. Plus I would have my little finger ready to break the seal of her mouth on my nipple. When she started to bite, I would hold her close, break the seal and place her gently but firmly on the floor at my feet.

After a few bites, she seemed to learn the connection between biting and the end of the current nursing session OR she just outgrew it...who knows with babies ;)

Either way it stopped though at the time, it made me feel a bit on edge when feeding.

BabiesEverywhere · 21/10/2007 12:23

Cross posted with motherhurdicure

susiecutiebananas · 21/10/2007 15:29

thank you babieseverywhrere and motherhurdicure.
I started trying the putting her down and saying no. as she definietly thinks me jumping out of my skin and squeeling is entertaining. She KNOWS no now, and also is aware of my distress as she tried to make me laugh, when i'm close to tears sometimes if she's pinched me and bitten me..

I wil persevere though. I've tried not reacting thinknig she wold just get bored with not exciting jumping squeeling mummy.... not done it yet though. do have trouble putting her on the floor sometimes with my back, but will carry on.

as for breaknig the seal, sometimes she stretched my nipple so far that its about 3 cm long not sure i can break that seal. will try though and appreciate your help

Sallyallyally · 21/10/2007 15:42

Must say that although I aim to do the quiet 'no' business, DS always catches me by surprise and I just can't react quietly to an unexpected bite on the nipple!!
My DD breastfed at night forever and I was always to embarrassed to talk to anyone about it at the time. I just got on with what I knew was right and stopped when I was ready. A lot more sure of myself 8 years on with DS so don't give a monkeys and rightly proud . Whatever works, I say, as long as it's combined with lots of love and a good sense of humour.
Well done to all mothers of 1 year olds!

susiecutiebananas · 21/10/2007 15:56

what is good to know is that my Dd is not the only one to be doing this. I have said it before here, but i was getting worried she was a bit too violent. glad to know its a 'phase'... anothe bloody phase! how many are there fgs?

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