I was in an article in a National Paper about breastfeeding in public, this is a letter I received to my home address?..what do you make of it? Scary, bonkers, laughable or charming?

[TheGodmother]

For obvious reasons have changed my name, but how would you feel getting this letter. I assume he found my address by googling my name and location. He also gave his name and address which I haven't googled, too scared in case he is some kind of nut!! Anyway here it is

Dear TheGodmother

I read with great interest about the article regarding breastfeeding. My views are quite liberal. When the subject comes up, I often ask if anyone is offended by seeing a cow milked by a farmer. The answer is no, the only difference is the "animal" that produces it.

The he goes on a couple of paragraphs about woman wearing short skirts and would much rather see a woman feeding a baby, so that the baby get the goodness he needs from milk.

Then he goes on to say - If I get sexually aroused about by seeing breasts in public, then it?s my problem and not the problem of the woman concerned.

As a man I could easily have took advantage of the situation like some pervert and say something like....

I just watch breastfeeding woman and stare and enjoy the site. It's like a cross between page 3 and watching Carry on film. Sometimes I take pictures and after I have started about 5 mins, I start to have a stiff down below, I take advantage of this by putting my hands in my pocket and then I adjust my...

..but I'm not that sort of person. I respect the beliefs of other people. I am glad that you are no longer shy to breastfeed in public.

Thanks for reading this letter and I wish you luck in the future

why not approach the newpaper you did the article with, they may be able to advise you better

i'd also mention it to cops tbh

i think this guy is obviously lacking a few brain cells to send a bfing mum a letter like this.

I certainly would be googling his name and address to find out what i could !!

Very Strange, i you ask me.

He's definitely a weirdo or worse. I agree with others who have said you should tell the police.

I wouldn't be surprised if he is not known to the Police already!

I would copy it to the people at the paper who wrote the article.

police. He's making all sorts of sexual comments. Might not bother you, but what else is he up to?

Police.

It's logged then, in case you get anything else from him.

Bin it.
You don't even know if it is a man - could be an anti-BF woman trying to stir trouble.
Sort out your contact details so you can't be googled, and try and forget about it.

Give a copy to the police and they can file it, just in case it's not a one off.

Working for the NHS if I received a letter that explicit the person would probably prosecuted - it doesn't matter what job you do, you should not be subject to this sort of thing. Is this thing not covered by a law under sexual harrassment- the police may at least write to him to warn him not to do anything like this in the future - perhaps you could spare someone else from having to read about his peculiar sexual fantasies?

You need to go to the police, there is nothing supportive about this, it is perverted and quite scary. If he's innocent he won't mind the police contacting him but they need to be made aware of a potential problems - can you really bare the thought of him taking photos of other woman breastfeeding? and if he has pictures of the women, he has pictures of their babies too. I think it's your duty not to ignore this, although he can no longer find you at your address he is still a potential problem to other women and children. Good luck and I can understand your reasons not to want to go to the police but I am certain they would take you seriously and say that you have done the right thing. Imagine if at some point in the future you read in a newspaper that this man had been caught perving on women? I'm sorry that you've got this letter, the last thing any breastfeeding mummy needs.

what do you think you are going to do about it godmother?
do you have a partner? am guessing he will be livid with this perv, if hes anything like my dh, hed want to go stright round his house and batter him for upsetting me! though thats obv not advisable.
i second everyone who has said go to the police. it may seem 'harmless' but you dont know where it might lead.

he is getting sexual kicks talking about / watching breastfeeding and went to the trouble of googling you and writing to you about his masturbation habits..

police...for sure

it is a gross invasion of your privacy

he might do this to lots of women , he really needs to be told this is highly inappropriate

Wrong, that is so wrong. I would be asking the police if the content of such a letter constituted any type of offence. And if it does, ask them to have a word with writer if they could find him. Wouldn't press charges straight off though, unless they told me there was a similar history to this guy. Because who knows, it may even be using someone else using a false name with view to getting the named one in trouble...

I hope you can decide something that helps you put this nasty thing behind you.

Police imo.

It's good he can't contact you again! He sounds like a total fantasist - probably so much of a fantasist that he thinks you may even contact him, and that's why he put his name and address. Hoping he can have some correspondence with you to fuel the fantasies? Obviously deluded, but there are a lot of strange people about...

It may be useful for the cops to have this on file if he gets up to anything more sinister in future. you wouldn't be accusing him of anything, just saying 'this is what he sent'.

Just read the OP nothing more ..

Hes a perv, a perv pretending not to be a perv (but still a perv)

am so for you.

The Police - he's a prick at best, and a pervert at worst.

TBH, I laughed it off, haven't told me DH he'd go mad, didn't want me to do the article anyway, for precisely this reason!!!

As for googling, as you know you can find anyone's details just by knowing their full name and basic area where they live. Unless you asked to get removed from the electrol register.

Have several relations in the Police so may pass it on to them informally.

My BF put a Death Notice of a relative, in the local paper a couple of years ago and a weirdo rang her, asking for the gory details of the relative's death. Yeugh, so many weirdos.

Definitely perv. I agree go to police just in case. Then you don't have to have the letter in the house.

Agree police and warn the people who live in your old house (or ask the cops to do it).

police, now, the ring.
Arrange these words into the most appropriate course of action.
Odds are that it's a harmless isolated incident by a creep. But it might not be...

aha
i htink i saw you
was it you wiht eh glasses?

i cant see what law it breaks?
there sa telecimuncations act bti thats for nuisance phone clals
is it harrasment?
oneletter?

How horrible. Definitely perversion there. He says he isnt thinking those things, but clearly is otherwise wouldnt write in such lurid detail. Urgh
Drop it to the police, it cant hurt i dont think just to be safe. Tis a violation imo of your privacy imo.

section 5 public order