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Called a pervert for breastfeeding

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 18:50

I know that some of the reasons people breastfeed are lost on some people but I am really hurt that one of my closest friends called me a pervert last night cause I am still breastfeeding my nearly 8 month old son. She has told me before she thinks its perverted to bf a male. It all happened via text & when I called her she has refusded to pick up. I am now left really hurt/angry/shocked/upset. Has anyone else come across this kind of name calling for breastfeeding?

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mamama · 03/06/2007 01:11

You have every right to be hurt, angry, shocked and upset. I was told the same thing by a security guard when I was BF my seven month old very discreetly in a corner of a cafe. He yelled at me

Anyone who says such things is very rude, inconsiderate and showing how little they understand about babies, motherhood and breastfeeding.

I'm sorry this happened to you

VeniVidiVickiQV · 03/06/2007 01:43

Gotta feel sorry for folk that say things like this.

Makes you wonder what happened to them to think this way, havent you?

Sakura · 03/06/2007 07:53

hee hee, you want to see the faces of people when I tell them that my 8 month old is still exclusively breastfed. (She refuses all kinds of food, and Im not pushing her- shes as chubby and bouncy as anything)
That upset my MIL that one

allgonebellyup · 03/06/2007 08:04

well i bf my daughter til she was 2 ffs! tell yer mate THAT! i must be the biggest pervert around.. and bfed my ds til 16mths..gosh, a boy! i got so much sexual pleasure from it, its untrue ..

GreebosWhiskers · 03/06/2007 08:10

Your so-called friend sounds like a right eejit.

I'm still bf my ds (almost 7 months) & intend to for some time yet, even tho' my parents want me to stop. You're doing the best thing for your ds & you've gotten past the hard bit of getting established now so just keep going for as long as you both want

A woman in our toddler group got accosted by the manageress in a launderette in Inverness when she was bfing her baby girl - the woman was screaming that it was disgusting & that men could see her & it would serve her right if she got raped! Some people just have not got a clue.

Katy44 · 03/06/2007 08:10

So sorry your friend is treating you like this
If I'm still bfing ds when he's 8 months I'll be so pleased and proud

Katy44 · 03/06/2007 08:11

"serve her right if she got raped"

what is the matter with people like this??

Quootiepie · 03/06/2007 08:22

My husbands Aunts boyfriend (there's a mouthful!) has this attitude. He said BFing once they could talk (!) was perverse. He is supposed to be an "educated" (ha) man and Dhs aun works in the NHS. Just a shame I didn't BF past 9/10 months, I'd love to be Bfing DS now at 14 months infront of the old moron.

Katy44 · 03/06/2007 08:23

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mush4brains · 03/06/2007 14:39

I think its the most natural thing in the world & have no intention of stopping & will just stop when DS wants to- mind you do hope this would be before he went to school!!- but thats so far in the future. I just think its jealousy about struggling to have a baby & she doesnt want her life to change at all when she does have one, as I know she has said when she has a baby no intention of stopping doing what she wants. Now that would be nice but we all know not possible & bfing can be quite a tie- one I love though so for me not an issue & I am far too lazy to get up & make bottles up & sterilise etc- or even for that matter express- much easier to just wop them out & stare at people that look. Am quite harden to it from outsiders now, but then am lucky as have never been worried about feeding in public- odd really as when I was pregnant said I could never do it.

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Furrymummy · 03/06/2007 14:47

Is she for real????
I second whoever said she should be called mush4brains.
Seriously though, I wouldn't bother contacting her at all. She is clearly incredibly narrowminded and talking out of her arse. What you are doing is perfectly natural - after all the WHO recommends that children should ideally breastfed until the age of 2.
Who needs friends like that, especially as she is such a coward she daren't make that comment to your face!! Oh I'm on your behalf!

bananabump · 03/06/2007 15:32

GreebosWhiskers: I thought it was illegal to stop a woman from breastfeeding her baby in Scotland? Your friend should have called the police.

Mush4brains: your friend sounds like a bitter idiot with problems, tell her to go argue with the World Health Organisation!

mm22bys · 03/06/2007 18:58

She is the one with the problem, and she is the one who is not worthing of having you as a friend.

I would dump her for good!

Sorry though you must be upset and disappointed in her...((((hugs))))

GreebosWhiskers · 04/06/2007 20:58

Bananabump - it is supposed to be illegal to stop a woman breastfeeding a child under the age of 2 here in Scotland. Unfortunately she was so shocked & humiliated that she just ran out in tears. This happened again just a few days ago, this time in a Tesco store - dh pointed out an article in the Courier about a woman feeding her tiny baby on a bench inside one of the entrances & a staff member told her she'd have to leave Again, the poor woman was so humiliated she just left but a friend did complain to the store who issued a statement apologising for the 'mistake' & saying it shouldn't have happened & wouldn't happen again

I think businesses face up to £2k fines if they breach this law so not much of a deterrent for the bigger companies.

jetjets · 07/06/2007 21:16

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