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Called a pervert for breastfeeding

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 18:50

I know that some of the reasons people breastfeed are lost on some people but I am really hurt that one of my closest friends called me a pervert last night cause I am still breastfeeding my nearly 8 month old son. She has told me before she thinks its perverted to bf a male. It all happened via text & when I called her she has refusded to pick up. I am now left really hurt/angry/shocked/upset. Has anyone else come across this kind of name calling for breastfeeding?

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Chandra · 30/05/2007 19:01

Well, obvioulsyl she has some unresolved issues of her own, don't let those mix with your breastfeeding, she really needs help if she thinks that.

Rusty · 30/05/2007 19:01

Still not swearing then Hunker?

hunkermunker · 30/05/2007 19:01

Berrie, you're fine to keep bf as much as you want and taking ads you know?

littlepicklesmum · 30/05/2007 19:01

My god... and that is supposed to be a friend, Take it she has not got children??
Life is far too short to waste time with people like that. Dont waste you time/effort/credit on her..

MaPickleLovesDinosaurs · 30/05/2007 19:01

How fucking ridiculous. It's the most natural thing in the world. Could anything be LESS perverted? I think it's all to do with the sexualisation of norks which has gone so far people forget what they are actually for ...

nickytwotimes · 30/05/2007 19:02

i agree wholeheartedly with the others - this is unbelievable! some friend! i often feel there is too much pressure to breastfeed, but with people like this around, i think we need it!

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 19:02

No she doesnt have children although trying for them & thinking of going for IVF. What shocked me is that she is pretty educated but her sis is a GP & doesnt see what the big deal about bfing is so she thought I would stop at about a week!!
She started of with a random text asking me what milk I gave my DS.......turned out she had been sent to get some formula but didnt know what one to buy so thought I would know. Why she just didnt call the mother I will never know.

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nickytwotimes · 30/05/2007 19:02

yes, nothing could be less sexual than bf - bloody sore in my experience!

BornToBeAPrincess · 30/05/2007 19:03

Thats terrible. Ignore her.

hunkermunker · 30/05/2007 19:04

No, I think the "random text" was probably so she could have a go at you for whatever warped reason.

Is she jealous of you, do you think?

fishie · 30/05/2007 19:04

bloody hell mush. i'm not surprised she didn't answer phone, even she must realise has gone a long way beyond too far.

do you ever want to speak to her again?

sparklesandwine · 30/05/2007 19:05

OMG

The fact that your so-called friend (although i think that some one who says this to you clearly isn't) actually associates sex with bf is more worrying, it is the most natural thing in the world to do and i am most proud that i have bf all of mine until they were about 1. She seems to be quite an immature idiot pass her email on we'll soon set her right

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 19:06

Hunker- thats what DH said. God knows what she would say if she realised that it looks like I am going to end up tandem feeding cause I am 5 months pregnant with an 8 month old!! When my mum questioned that I just told her " all are welcome at mummies feeding station!!"...she went silent!

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Berrie · 30/05/2007 19:09

Hunkermunker, do you have experience of this. I know that there is no evidence of the AD found in the blood of the baby but a Doctor wrote this to me...

Whereas it is known that some 5HT re-uptake inhibitors can be found in the blood of babies being breast fed and in breast milk sertraline was undetectable in breast fed infants, even if it was present in a high concentration in the mother. Sertaline is therefore often considered one of the antidepressants of choice for nursing mothers who are depressed. It is always possible that the normal assessment methods for antidepressants might fail to detect tiny traces of the drug, and it is perhaps for this reason that the American Academy of Paediatrics recommends against the long term use of any of these antidepressants by nursing mothers. This advice wasn't based on any evidence of damage or adverse reaction to sertraline in babies, or even of its presence in babies who are breast fed.

I adore to still BF my baby but can't get a Dr to say its to be recommended given that she is 21 months now.

Really sorry for crashing your thread Mush!

hunkermunker · 30/05/2007 19:09

It IS hard to think of breasts as something to nourish your babies with until you've done it. Before that they are...less useful and more...well, you know

I found it strange to think there'd be a little person who relied on them for every scrap of nutrition - this when I was pg with DS2, having bfed DS1 till nearly 17m. The idea of feeding seemed very strange to me then. The idea of NOT feeding seems odd to me now though, because I'm doing it!

But perverted? And to voice that opinion to your friend, in a text? And then not pick the phone up?

They're not the actions of a friend, IMO.

kiskidee · 30/05/2007 19:11

i think it is actually your friend who has mush for brains.

hugs for you.

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 19:11

crash away Berrie, I feel better for off loading on you all- thanks.

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hunkermunker · 30/05/2007 19:12

Berrie, more info here

Start a thread asking for experiences of bf and ad usage - there are definitely women on MN who do both.

I hope you feel better soon, sweetheart.

Berrie · 30/05/2007 19:14

I am wondering Mush if, since you couldn't hear her tone and she does not have children it might be a very misjudged joke?

Berrie · 30/05/2007 19:15

Thanks Hunker, I have but don't get much response, maybe I don't do it at the right time of day.

littlepicklesmum · 30/05/2007 19:17

I did both...

littlepicklesmum · 30/05/2007 19:19

Altho of course you are advised not to.. My DS is 11 months stopped BF a while ago, cos of worry about doing both.. Didn't use MN then tho

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mush4brains · 30/05/2007 19:19

Dont know Berrie, DH asked me if i thought she was pissed but then surely she would have picked up the phone by now- she's also turned off the answer phone...

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Guitargirl · 30/05/2007 19:20

Am at a loss as to how some people's minds work....

Of course she's jealous but still, that's no excuse.

I would not make any attempt at contacting her until she apologises. I have had some pretty shocking things said to me during my pregnancy and after the birth of DD which have made me see some of my friends in a different light and made me realise who my true friends are. She is hopefully feeling pretty mortified by what she said and is busy formulating her apology.

littlepicklesmum · 30/05/2007 19:24

Mush... just don't contact her. REALLY do you need that sort of support right now?? I think not.

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