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Infant feeding

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could dd go without night feed

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kbaby · 09/08/2004 12:04

quick question.
dd is 10 weeks old and for the past week ive started waking her at 10.30 pm to feed. This means she is now going to 3.30am before needing a feed.[she was previously being fed at 8 and then again at 1am] The past 2 days when she wakes at 7am and i feed her she only takes a few mouth fulls. This makes me think that shes not hungry in the morning because she was fed at 3.30. How do i put this to the test and see if she would go through until 7am. Do i offer water

ps breastfeeding.

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vict17 · 09/08/2004 12:08

Hi kbaby - is she really screaming for milk or just chattering to herself. We just left ds as he wasn't making too much noise and he settled himself back to sleep and now doesn't wake in the night. Having said that I think that was at 3 months or maybe after that.

Twiglett · 09/08/2004 12:14

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kbaby · 10/08/2004 17:23

thanks, she wakes at 7 herself and because its been 3.5hrs since last feed ive been automatically feeding her thinking that was why she woke. maybe i shouldnt and wait until she asks for it.
im not doing gf, found it far too stict and when i tried it i felt frustrated because dd wasnt doing what she was meant to. now we demand feed and go with the flow.

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Egypt · 10/08/2004 20:22

i still demand feed kbaby, and am wondering should i be instilling some sort of routine by now. shall ask hv on thurs.

dd is prob waking at 7 because that's her wake-up time. its like us, we wake when we've had enough sleep (well we used to ) not because we are hungry.

mears · 10/08/2004 21:14

I personally would stop waking her at 10.30pm now and see what happens. I think at 10 weeks it is more the norm that she will still want a 3.30am feed. I found that actually waking the baby before I went to bed was starting to disrupt their own rhythm. By stopping 10.30pm, it does not mean she will automatcally waken. I personally never tried to make my babies sleep all night. I just fed them if they woke and tried to do it with the minimum of fuss. I brought them into bed, latched them on and went back to sleep myself. If I woke again I put them back in their cot. I think the trick to getting through night feeds is sleeping through them yourself

Flip · 10/08/2004 21:44

Ds2 was sleeping through 12 hours at 10 weeks. I never woke him for a feed and just let him wake on his own. Whenever he woke I offered his dummy first before a feed. He stopped waking and is still an excellent sleeper at 8.5 months and is bang on target with his weight, so never under fed.

You have to do what you think is right. The past three nights prior to tonight I did controlled crying with him at bed time and tonight he didn't make a fuss because he knew there was no point. He'd only just started trying it on and I stopped him before it became an issue.

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kbaby · 11/08/2004 15:22

Mears the nights I dont wake dd for a 10.30 feed she then wakes at approx 12pm as she has then gone from 8pm and is hungry, so i then feed at 12,3,6 whereas if I wake her at 10.30 it seems to fill her up enough to last a bit longer at the time when were sleeping, the nights then go like 10.30,3.30,7

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mears · 12/08/2004 01:01

I would still give the 3.30am feed Kbaby. That way you all get back to sleep quicker. She is still young so I wouldn't offer water yet.

ginababe · 12/08/2004 01:22

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Ghosty · 12/08/2004 01:40

I would still feed her at 3.30am kbaby. I used to wake both of mine at 10.30pm and DS only dropped the middle of the night feed at 12 weeks and DD dropped hers at around the 3 month mark too.
I would try to offer DD a dummy before the feed and if she went off to sleep she obviously wasn't hungry and if she was hungry she would spit the dummy out and not go off to sleep.

poppins · 12/08/2004 01:55

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ginababe · 12/08/2004 10:35

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kbaby · 12/08/2004 11:48

well the 10.30 feed doesnt seem to have worked for the past 3 nights.

monday night went like this;
fed 7.30,10.30,2.30, woke at 4.30 but resettled with swaddling. fed 5.50

tuesday night
fed 8.00pm,2.00,4.30,5.30,10.30am. i didnt offer the 10.30pm feed as she didnt fall asleep until 10 and then i thought it best to to wake her. Although she still went to 2 before needing a first feed. i also think she didnt really need the 5.30 feed and i shouldve tried resettling her first.

last night;
feed 7.30,10.30,1.45. 2.30 reswaddled/ settled. feed 6.30, 9.30.

is it because the past few nights she has woken up and ive been feeding her when perhaps i should try resettling her and feeding if that doesnt work?
also any ideas on how i can try and get her to sleep without waking to be resettled/swaddled.

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ginababe · 12/08/2004 12:06

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spikeycat · 12/08/2004 12:14

ds2 is 19 weeks old and goes to bed about 6.30ish, I wake him at 10ish and then he wakes up in between 1.30 - 4am. I woke ds1 up at 10 and it was never an issue, stopped waking him at about 9/10 months as he was on more solids then and I wanted him to learn to go through, I stopped getting up to him in the early hours when he went in to his own room at about 6 months.
Do you think I can start ignoring ds2 for the early morning feeds??

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kbaby · 13/08/2004 16:54

Ginababe, I start the feeds at the times stated and normally feed for 10-15 mins. And yes DD did go from 5.30-10.30am. I assumed she wouldve woken at 8.30 for a feed but instead she slept straight throughand I didnt like to wake her as I thought she could do with the extra sleep.

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Flip · 13/08/2004 17:32

I honestly found that from putting ds2 in his own room from about 6 weeks old made it easier for him to sleep longer. Like I said earlier, he slept through from 7.30pm until atleast 7.00am from 10 weeks old.

Sandi102 · 15/08/2004 20:43

kbaby, ds2 (13 weeks) was getting up at 2.30am for a feed but recently stopped having the feed and instead wakes, plays and falls back to sleep..i have a rough feeding routine:
7am wakes
7.15am feed
10.30-11am feed
2.30-3.00pm feed
6.15-6.45 feed
and he's in bed by 7.30..
10.30 dream feed and now he's sleeping through

he has a completely different sleep and feeding pattern to ds1..i now belive you can only be guided by your baby..mothers cannot set thier own feeding and sleeping schedules..babies rule!

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kbaby · 15/08/2004 22:35

Sandi102 thanks. I generally feed every 3 hours during the day and I supose as you say DD will do as she wants. I was speaking to a mum in mothercare yesterday and she said that her bf 3 week old goes from 10 until 6am!! DD is now in her own room as I thought that may help her to stop waking but doesnt seem to have done the trick.

I can still live in hope though

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