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My thicko partner...

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tomtomclub · 19/10/2006 19:35

Has given ds (4 months 16lbs 6) a bottle of aptimil instead of Hipp organic that he normally has. I was out at the shops and it was the one thing I asked him to do. Will it harm him to have one bottle bottle of a different formula and then back to his normal???? Am I overreacting at partner's stupidity? Aptimil bought a while ago as possible change due to ds eczema, but we decided against it as his skin got much better. Advice please.... could murder stupid DP. He knows which formula we use!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRR. Anyone else done this????

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lulumama · 19/10/2006 19:36

IMO - one feed of the 'wrong' milk won't hurt! don't stress too much....!

hertsnessex · 19/10/2006 19:37

its no big problem, really dont worry. could have been alot worse......my dh fed ds1 wotsits at 6am for breakfast when he was a yr old.........!!!! and he is allergic to most colourings! he had a rash for days.

cx

hauntymandy · 19/10/2006 19:40

cant see a problem..next time leave a bottle made up!!!

Wallace · 19/10/2006 19:50

Not as bad as my dh who watered down my EBM with tap water

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tomtomclub · 19/10/2006 19:52

thanks ladies - I do tend to overreact a bit!! lol at the wotsits!!! What are men like eh?? Sorry to generalise - am sure there are plenty of responsible, efficient men out there .. just a shortage in this house!!! The excuse was ' he was screaming his head off...'!! Now we've had a massive row about it and it's blown out of all proportion! A large glass of white wine and a dose of Mumsnet will soon sort me out though!!

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ANAconda · 19/10/2006 20:32

frankly i think you owe him an apology. tell him you realise you over reacted and really appreciate him helping out so you can have some time off.

tribpot · 19/10/2006 20:36

You may find ds' poo changes as a result in the formula, so don't be alarmed if that happens. One bottle won't hurt, although I can understand your annoyance. Further training will obviously be required before he undertakes longer periods of care on his own - I suggest starting immediately (Then again, I am biased because at that age I could have left ds with his daddy all day had the mood taken me).

Judy1234 · 19/10/2006 21:25

There's a very important issue here in making sure men feel equally competent and are trusted to do things their own way and make mistakes, just as all women make mistakes with their children.

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tomtomclub · 19/10/2006 21:58

I dont think I owe him an apology at all. I have been looking after ds and stepson while dp is off work this afternoon playing golf. If he hasnt got the nouse to fed our son the right formula, what is the world coming to?? Perhaps next time he'll use his loaf and have a proper look in the cupboard! He has three children from previous relationship and he knows better!!!

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QueenPeaHead · 19/10/2006 22:00

won't make a blind bit of difference.

give the man a break

MerlinsBeard · 19/10/2006 22:06

sorry but if u expect him to use the right formula, don;t have different kinds in the house!

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tomtomclub · 19/10/2006 22:12

PS - when I say I'm at the shops, I mean I'm at Sainsbury's doing a food shop. Not swanning round M&S. Are men meant to be treated like uber sensitive souls who can't complete a simple task? He would be the first to give me a dressing down if I put the wrong petrol in the car! Perhaps this is a different thread altogether!

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lulumama · 19/10/2006 22:53

i think he'll get over it!don't give it another thought!!!

tiktok · 19/10/2006 23:26

Wrong petrol in the car is a lot more likely to have a bad effect than giving a baby different formula - what sort of harm could possibly happen??? All brands are virtually the same. Your dh probably couldn't see that it mattered, and it doesn't...what matters is your baby is fed, that he has helped out, and all is well

superloopy · 20/10/2006 00:57

I have found that you need to anticipate the dumb things that our DH/DPs will do and the fact that they have "man eyes" which don't allow them to see or read properly. Get rid of the formula you don't use and lay out everything he might need when you are not there. This works for me, I am a bit of a control freak, so it makes me happier. It also makes DH feel a little more useful and competent.

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tomtomclub · 20/10/2006 12:48

Thanks all. Just want to point out though, that we are not all experts on feeding babies - which is why I came to mumsnet for advice. This is my first and I just wanted to know if it would make a difference if he had a different formula. He's not long been on formula and has had very bad eczema so was slightly concerned that's all. I was more cross with dp because he didn't think. He knows which one we normally use. Was not expecting to have to take ds to A&E or anything. Am not at all familiar with formula and wasnt sure if all of them are the same, but now I know. Thanks.

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tiktok · 20/10/2006 13:50

Sorry, tomtom...re-reading my reply, I can see why you thought I was sounding as if you ought to know all this! Why would you, though?

I think I was defending your partner for some reason, who I felt really wasn't being a 'thicko' at all

yellowrose · 20/10/2006 14:06

Gosh, now feeding a little baby is being compared to putting petrol in the car ?

Tomtom - sympatheties I can see why it would upset you. I have no experince of this as I breastfeed, but I get absolutely furious if people offer my son food or drink I would never ever give him - esp. when my mum does it beacuse half the time I think she does it to piss me off, she is good like that !!

She is always going about how I should feed DS chocolate for snacks, etc to fatten him up and I say it's bad for his teeth (he is only 2.4 yo) and she says well, but look at your sister's children they always eat chocos and sweets and they have good teeth AND they are skinny as...bla..bla..bla.. I feed my son carrotts, apples, rice cakes and bread for snacks and in her book that is child abuse as I am depriving him of lovely sweet things that toddlers should always be munching on !!

Just make sure your DP always has stocks of the brand you normally use so he doesn't do it again and give him a slap on the wrist too

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tomtomclub · 21/10/2006 23:41

Again thanks ladies - I do appreciate the advice - have realised how ridiculous I was being - poor DP.. he really isn't a thicko in the slightest!! Was just having one of those days I think!! Anyway - am sure it won't happen again, and even if it did, I know now not to panic!!!

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