Night Feeders Part 5. Calling all women who find themselves feeding when they'd rather be sleeping!!

[Writerwannabe83]

This is a thread for anyone who wants support when things seem tough - especially for the women whose babies don't like sleep!!

We'll do the usual introductions:

I'm a first time mom to my 6 month old, EBF son. It's been a rocky few months, lots of ups and downs but we've finally reached a point where he's asleep by 7.30pm and only waking once during the night.

He very rarely naps in the day - and when he does it's only when he's in the car or his pushchair. It's very frustrating!!

And the last little thing about us is that we have just started the weaning journey - it's fun but messy!!

Morning all

And no worries to all the posters who can't be here regularly as we still remember you and like hearing how things are going!!

Arron was slept from 3.00am-6.30am in his cot and then after a quick feed I kept him in with me. This was only because it was the time of the morning where people were getting in their cars and going to work so this could be heard as well as people chatting and front doors shutting. I figured Arron was more likely to drop off during it and stay asleep if he was in bed with me. He was asleep again by 06.50am and we have only just woke up.

cariad - if I were you I would definitely cancel if you feel anxious about how DS will cope. Sleep is so important for babies and you have to ask whether it's in his best interests to keep changing his time zones and disrupting his sleep patterns etc. If you do cancel make sure you ignore anyone who makes you feel like you're being precious, you know DS the best and stand your ground. I hope you are otherwise having a lovely trip though

Thanks Writer, I am going to give it til Monday and see how DS is then. I bought non-refundable tickets but I can get a credit which I can then give my parents to use. We might be better off going when he's about 3.

I am having a relaxing time, it's nice that my mum can help out. DS is asleep on her lap atm! Haven't done much except shop and catch up with friends and hopefully it'll warm up soon so I can hit the beach.

cannot how old is your lo's?

I know its been requested before but I am gonna request it again, can we put ages (and names if you wish) at the bottom of posts, it really helps to know what stage every body is at and what I can look forward to :)

Whoops

Elijah 9 weeks

Sorry keep forgetting!!

Hunter 18 months
Ryder 23 weeks

cookie - your "oops" post made be laugh

Arron - 6.5 months

First time mum to Finley 8 weeks and 4 days!

redling I'm the same at baby groups getting up/down and never had any problems before pregnancy and was still doing Zumba at 25 weeks. It's frustrating I know :(

writer I use a plug in night light thing from ikea think it was about £3 and I leave it on all night as it's dim enough to not cause too much distraction but I can see what I'm doing. ds gets really distracted by any light so it's ideal.

cannot ds awakes around 6 every morning regardless of how much sleep he has

Freddie 15 weeks

Edward is first baby. 7 months. I'm back to work two days a week from Nov 3rd and he will be starting nursery.

He is breastfed + solids about twice a day now (refuses bottles) and has just moved into his own room. Has slept through 7-6 a handful of times but generally wakes needing a feed around 4-5ish now.

He's been a bit unsettled the last week but we've been away twice and he is teething.

So many baby boys and so many lovely names

Is Sammy the only one with a DD??

I'm definitely going to invest in a night light then - thanks to everyone for your advice

Arron is having his first nap of the day but he's in my arms as he fell asleep during feeding. I will get him used to the cot at night before moving on to naps in the cot. One battle at a time

Well, managed a nap this morning for which I feel a bit better. Hv coming in a bit, just having lunch and even managed a trip out to see friends this morning!
Pattern of waking roughly 1.30 3.30 5.30 then up for the day about 7.30/8 but I'd forgotten how tired I'd be! Got a bit of a Velcro baby but I guess at this stage that's normal. Think I might look at gripe water as we seem to have a lot of wind.

Dd1 2.4
Dd2 4 weeks

I'm a DS too!
Hudson 5 weeks

Ryder had a 2hr20 cot nap

Hello to everyone who's posting! Nathaniel (Nat) who's 8 weeks and 4 days as well oliviaR!

Nat seems to have no issues from the vaccinations, he slept well enough last night. He's had a couple of sleeps this morning but Mam is trying to get him to sleep now, as his Grandad and Uncle will be here mid afternoon. My dad is just so desperate to see him, I'd hate it if he was overtired and crying, instead of all rested and happy to be with them! My mam is very good about getting him to sleep (very calm holding and rubbing back) but she does put him down as soon as he falls asleep, she's learnt to persevere and hold him for about 20 mins before putting him down!

I'm pleased with Nat's sleep at the moment, he's starting to stretch out his night sleep to longer chunks and he is also starting to go down easier at night, I can just feed him, sling him over my shoulder for 20 mins until he burps and sleeps and then pop him in the cot. He seems to like the cot. He slept 8.30-12, 12.30-1.40, the about 2-5, Then 5.20-7.20. 3 wake ups in 11 hours is fine by me. I told myself when I was pregnant that I wouldn't sleep properly for a year, as I find it much more psychologically helpful to not be desperate to get back to 'normal' but accept that normal will happen one day! Otherwise I'd get frustrated. Talk to me in 6 months though if he's still waking up that much! My main issue is worrying he doesn't sleep enough during the day as he will not switch off!

Sammy & Redling thanks - nice to hear she's normally noisy! mw told me the old wives tale re broccoli and cabbage making babies noisy. But have heard that's nonsense!

Writer mibe is tiny still but I try to feed her in the dark with just a night light or tge landing light on.

Trying to type 1 handed sorry! Grumpy dd today! Clinic appt annoyed her but she's on her percentile and fine!

Suzy is dd 4 weeks

DS is 8 months on Sunday. Would love to give my name and his but as the boards are public and we both have fairly uncommon names I'm not so keen, as you never know who's reading. Such a shame we can't set up a private message board!

My postnatal group from here for Hunter only really posts on our secret fb group now

How do you make secret Facebook groups??

I'm just doing Arron's bedtime feed now. He's only had 2 naps today, both of which were only half an hour so he's a pretty tired boy.

(Arron, 6m 3wk)

Same way as a normal group Claire but you just change settings to secret and no one can search for it and none of your posts show up on your timeline and your friends can't see your posts either

Tail end of a later than usual bed time feed

Maybe we should have one

I put Arron in his cot after his feed and the crying commenced. I waited two minutes before picking him up and soothing him. When I could feel he was on the verge of falling asleep on my shoulder I put him in his cot and he started crying again. I left him for another few minutes, picked him up to soothe him and once he was nice and calm I put him back and he started crying again - which brings us to now.

Surely this is the way to do it though? He has to learn that his cot is for sleeping in. If I keep giving in and feeding him to sleep before putting him in his cot he's never going to learn is he? I just don't know how many cycles I've got to keep going for though? Do I just carry on going to him every two minutes until he gives in and decides to just go to sleep??

I've worked out how to create the group but I can only activate it if I have someone to add as a member

So if anyone likes idea of a FB group we can chat in then just private message me

Writer you can add me, I'll pm you :)

Will message you Claire x

Just replied to you both and FB friend requested you. When you've accepted I will create the group