Night Feeders Part 5. Calling all women who find themselves feeding when they'd rather be sleeping!!

[Writerwannabe83]

This is a thread for anyone who wants support when things seem tough - especially for the women whose babies don't like sleep!!

We'll do the usual introductions:

I'm a first time mom to my 6 month old, EBF son. It's been a rocky few months, lots of ups and downs but we've finally reached a point where he's asleep by 7.30pm and only waking once during the night.

He very rarely naps in the day - and when he does it's only when he's in the car or his pushchair. It's very frustrating!!

And the last little thing about us is that we have just started the weaning journey - it's fun but messy!!

Glad you had a good time away mrsmugoo

I'm doing Arron's bedtime feed now. It seems to be getting earlier every day but come 6pm he starts looking really, really tired. We're back home now after spending yesterday and today at my dad's house and it's nice to be back with DH. He was supposed to be going out with work tonight but he's decided he's missed us too much and so will stay home

I think Arron is asleep in my arms and I have reached that awful point of the evening where I ask myself, "Do I dare transfer him to his cot?"

How old is he Redling? My DS was like clockwork and needed a milk feed every 2 hours until he started solids.

I was supposed to be going out to dinner with friends tonight and leaving DS with DP but three of them cancelled so now we aren't bothering. Am so disappointed as it would've been my first night out with friends in 8 months. It's so annoying when people cancel at the last minute and it always seems to happen to me!

Hey everyone!

Great weight loss claire

Great weight gain Squizita

Ryder has been feeding for 15 mins. Has napped twice today for a total of just under 3 hours.

Meeting up some of Hunter's post natal MN group tomorrow at Hatton country world so should be good fun! We all met on here on the antenatal thread for April 2013 and have been very tight knit since (we just use our fb group now)

That's really nice that you keep in touch from meeting on MN

When I first joined MN when TTC I joined one of the 'Conception Buses' and got talking to them but I was very fortunate and conceived on Cycle 1 so I didn't really become part of that 'family' if you know what I mean. When I look at the Conception Buses now all the posters seem to genuinely know each other and care about each other as they go through cycles of BFN's and I find it so lovely. Although I'm glad I conceived so quickly I do feel cheated about not really experiencing a Conception Bus journey with all fellow TTC passengers.

Did you use the ante natal threads much? Tbh I can't even remember how I found MN!

I didn't know the ante natal forums existed - I just migrated over to the pregnancy forum.

I made thf mistake of putting Arron in his cot, he woke up straight away and now I can't get him to go back to sleep. He's having a meltdown at the moment. I'm trying not to give in and rush straight over but it's hard...

I didn't know the ante natal forums existed - I just migrated over to the pregnancy forum.

I made thf mistake of putting Arron in his cot, he woke up straight away and now I can't get him to go back to sleep. He's having a meltdown at the moment. I'm trying not to give in and rush straight over but it's hard...

I used to look at the pregnancy boards and occasionally post there but I never joined an antenatal thread. This is the only thread I regularly contribute to, I'll occasionally contribute to another one and of course I love reading the various AIBUs as some of them are hilarious.

I didn't do NCT classes either (over £300 in London and I have a love-hate relationship with them anyway) so I didn't make any mum friends and although the local NCT claims to have lots of events, all the times I've gone I've been the only one there! I chat to the other mums at various baby groups but haven't really made any friends there. I did a baby massage course too but all the other babies were a fair bit younger than DS and the other mums had all done NCT together so they knew each other and it was a bit cliquey. It's entirely possible that I'll go back to work and not have made a single mum friend during my maternity leave!

I haven't made mum friends from groups either

But i have a few of my old work friends who have babies and we've kept in touch and see each other once a month or so! But I really wish I had someone who lived close who had kids too!!

Where are we all from?? I'm just outside Warwickshire

I'm in North London.

One of my good friends from my old work has a baby a few weeks younger than DS but she lives out of London now so I only see her everywhere few months.

Evening all
I too am at that point (hudsons asleep in my arms do I transfer him to the Moses basket ?!?!?)

I'm from kent living near Maidstone
I too don't have any friends with babies yet, well not near where I live

I'm transferring to the Moses basket

Will catch up posts as soon as poss... just seeing if dd will "do" a growth bag! Tense watch n wait... If this fails it may grumpy her up for the night so FX it works...

Epic fail he's awake!!

I'm a Brummie living in Stratford upon Avon!

Ryder has been asleep 2 hours but if the last 2 nights are anything to go by then he might be up before midnight

DS will not sleep and will not stop crying. AAARGH!

Cariad007 DS is 7.5 weeks, so very much too young to really be in much of a routine at all, but he does give me some freaky nights were he wakes for a feed at 1.15, then 3.13, then 5.12 etc... I know it probably isn't the case but when he was 5 days old and had lost 17% body weight we pumped (and eventually FF) every 2 hours for 3 days, and he hasn't really spaced
out his feeds out much since! We get occasional longer periods of sleep (like today) during the day, but generally 2 hours at nights. Last Friday he only fed once between 12 and 7, sadly it hasn't been repeated.

I think baby massage did something to Nat, he slept in an incredibly deep sleep from 4 until 7.30, so 8pm sleeptime was blown out the water. DH has taken him up to bed now, and I'm taking over at 4. I should be sleeping but I'm actually having a glass of wine and listening to music on my own, it's pretty blissful. Wondering about cracking out a G&T seeing as I've done all my breast pumping. I'll probably regret this at 5am when he wakes up but I really want this time to myself. I do this during the day as well, (not the drinking!) I thought I'd be 'sleep when the baby sleeps', but I tend to read or do some bit of house stuff that's been nagging me.

I didn't do NCT. I felt that if it was a class that concentrated heavily on 'perfect and natural' birth, and that didn't happen, it would be pointless. Also, with the 'mum friends' aspect, my DH calls me the most Antisocial outgoing person he knows. I can talk to anyone, have a job that requires customer service and meeting people, and am quite an extrovert, but I absolutely hate being in a situation where you 'have' to make friends! I have good friends but I take a while to really like someone, and have the fear of ending up spending time with people who you don't really like 'but they're a friend!'. Luckily we have a lot of friends with kids, and my child free friends have spent time with us since DH was born.I'm meeting with some mums from prenatal yoga so I'm not totally antisocial :)

Bugger. Perfect sleep till 11 then a poo nappy. Cried on changing mat. Now only settles 5 min anywhere even on me before waking even with milk. Drat.

I'm from north west London.
Came over via the miscarriage support boards then pregnancy. I didn't use ante natal boards either.- too superstitious!

Squizita There's nothing more annoying than poo upsetting sleep, is there?! Nat has just started doing his one poo a day at about 2am, it's such a pain to have to change in the dark and properly wake him. I don't bother now from 11.30-6 unless he poos, he's got no sign of nappy rash and never cries at all for nappy changes.

Redling - I know what you mean about having some time to yourself when baby sleeps. My DH is always telling me to sleep when DS sleeps and he never fully understands when I say I don't want to because j need some 'me time'. I tell him that the only time I get to relax, enjoy the quiet and do something that I want to do is when DS is asleep and I don't any to waste that time by sleeping.

Squizita - sorry to read that you have had a previous miscarriage

Arron is currently awake after only going 4.5 hours. He's being quite needy and clingy at the moment as he's still suffering with his cold so I'm feeding him to settle him down again. Following my hospital appointment earlier I'm wearing a 24 hour ECG recorder and not surprisingly, DS can't stop playing with all the stickers and wires that are attached to me. It's making breast feeding that little bit more difficult

Well he managed 6 hours so better than the last two nights, he's on the second side now, would be lovely to think he might go til 6ish, we shall see!!!

Hey writer are you ok? Too many messages to catch up on I missed you had a hosp appointment.

Redling do you know I just took DS to do a nappy change and it was Completley dry! He too never cries in the night for a nappy change, I always skip one usually the one around 3am and I feel like a terrible (lazy, I say exhausted mother!)
I do also find DS whom is only 4 weeks does have a kinda routine during the day more so, nights can be a little un predictable.
Hes feeding now after 3 he's sleep, he has freezing cold hands bless him

Sammy mw told me babies can have v cold hands/feet and feel fine- only trust neck/chest for temp. They can feel so cold!

DD is just on me - big feed and a bit windy/ spitty so settling well on me before sleep.

Writer Thanks. I have an "invisible" blood condition which causes me joint pain and miscarriage but thankfully easily treated.
Hope your hospital treatment is working out. Annoying with the monitor I bet!!

Redling Yeah sleep when she sleeps ... only time I can wash my hair etc! So no!