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Calling all night time feeders - always up feeding when we should be sleeping! Let's keep each other company PART 2!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 05/06/2014 21:14

I think to start the new thread off we should reintroduce ourselves and our babies for the sake of our own memories and also for any newbies who may join Smile

I have a 10 week old DS who is EBF. Has been sleeping through the night for the last week and I'm just waiting patiently for things to go downhill as I'm sure they will Smile

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Cannotbelieveit · 20/06/2014 22:43

Much respect to you frank ThanksWine

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2014 22:43

Well September will be here soon enough, I bet you're counting down the days!! I used to have a boyfriend in the Marines and I found the time apart very hard (obviously it was nowhere near comparable to your situation as we didn't have a baby) and I just remember hating not knowing here he was, what he was doing or when I'd next see him or hear from him, it is tough.

I don't blame you for having a cry, it must be horrible to be separated from him at such a special time in your lives Thanks

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PollyP0429 · 20/06/2014 22:52

Evening everyone, frank you have massive respect from me, don't know how I would cope in your situation. Those soothies look interesting, I have someone bringing me a particular dummy from Switzerland on Friday to try, if that doesn't work there's another avenue to go down.

DD eent down at half 7 after her fed then woke at 10 for another, she seems to be making a habit of this. I hope it means shes gearing up for a nice long sleep but it hasn't so far...

Cannotbelieveit · 20/06/2014 22:55

Polly try soothies if the other dummy doesn't work!

midnight1983 · 20/06/2014 23:32

Thought we had our baby down for the night, as he stayed asleep on transfer from living room to cot, husband and I both got into bed AT THE SAME TIME for a change, lights off and drifting off...when a familiar crying began Shock hoping this is regular pre midnight feed as prelude to sleep and not a proper wake up...baby boy is 16 weeks btw

BirdsDoIt · 20/06/2014 23:40

Evening ladies

frank that's amazing that you're doing all this on your own - superhuman effort. It will be so lovely once he's home. Hugs in the meantime. Do you have other family close by?

cariad hope your Friday night isn't horrific!

DH back in with us tonight, first time in a couple of weeks. I'm not sure how it will go - have kind of got used to a double bed all to myself (and occasionally DS) - not sure how I feel about sharing again!! I do find it annoying to have to worry about waking him up. If he snores he will get short shrift.

Trying to replicate last night has just failed - DS awake approx 10 mins after we went to bed so I'm now downstairs trying to stuff more milk into him but he's fallen asleep after 9 minutes (and he normally feeds for about 30). Hmm. Although asleep in my arms I'm not convinced he'll stay that way in Moses basket...

mrsm yay to rolling! DS started lifting legs and rolling to one side in the beginning of the roll manoeuvre yesterday but has a long way to go before mastering it I think!

Birdlet is 9 weeks today

BirdsDoIt · 20/06/2014 23:47

midnight that's exactly what DS did. Fun isn't it.

polly you said upthread about feeling resentful of DH sleep sometimes - I know my DH has to work so it's far better for him to be well rested - but yes still illogically resentful of it, especially when things have gone off the rails sleepwise. Someone said to me it's important not to indulge in the pain Olympics...hmm...virtually impossible sometimes although very sensible advice I suppose!

BirdsDoIt · 21/06/2014 01:34

And we're up again (DH, helpfully from his side of the bed: 'is he hungry?')

mrsmugoo · 21/06/2014 01:35

Humph... I'm coming down ill with a sore throat so really needed some decent sleep tonight so of course DS had decided to go back to his old ways. Awake at 11:40 and 1:30 so far...

midnight1983 · 21/06/2014 04:13

He ended up sleep eating and going straight back down and slept until 4! I'm now trying to persuade him that 4am is ok to eat but he must go back to sleep in his cot...

Birds, my husband also bloody asks that. I thank him for his input very politely. That's the story I'm sticking to.

I try not to compare sleep with my husband but I do feel keeping a small person alive is just as demanding as a job. More so, if the LO doesn't want to nap/nap in their cot etc that day. But realistically most of our big fights revolve around comparing sleep amounts and cab get very ugly.

midnight1983 · 21/06/2014 04:14

Very quiet here tonight - did all the babies sleep?!

BirdsDoIt · 21/06/2014 04:58

Not mine! We're up again. Although we both had a sleep from 2.30-4.30 so that's something I suppose. And DS has now decided to latch on properly without the tugging and twisting that was doing my head in (and brutalising my nipples) at 1am.

Nicely done with sleep feeding at 1am! Have you managed to get him to settle again this time round?

Cannotbelieveit · 21/06/2014 05:32

Just up now to feed, 7 hours thank The Lord!! I needed that sleep (tonight will be bad!!)

puggywug81 · 21/06/2014 05:33

Well here we were down at 10pm up at 11pm had a top up feed then back down till 5am so all in all not a bad night.

Cannotbelieveit · 21/06/2014 05:46

That's great puggy!

midnight1983 · 21/06/2014 05:57

Yep, slept again straight away until now. Looks good to get him back down...

Thinking about when he was a newborn I believed he would never learn to sleep at night. (He didn't get the hang of sleep until he was around 12 weeks old, and it is still intermittent) I remember dreading the sun going down in those first few weeks because I knew I wouldn't be getting any sleep. I used to actually feel jealous and resentful of cartoon characters who were asleep!

Has anyone else read that how you slept when you were pregnant can affect your baby's sleep pattern? If so, any bad sleeping is defo my fault - I used to hate sleeping! Though now I can fall asleep the minute little one has his eyes closed and is safely in his cot...

midnight1983 · 21/06/2014 06:02

Btw, do you all have your babies on your rooms or in their own rooms? I'm interested whether this will affect how he sleeps when we eventually move him out of our room. Sometimes I think I get up too quickly to any noise and disturb his trying to self settle.

Cannotbelieveit · 21/06/2014 06:12

He's in with us in his cot and probably will be til he sleeps thru as he will have to share with his brother at first (14 months old) and I don't want him waking up!!

DS1 went into his room at 8 months and after a month or so he didn't stir at all (he sleeps 7-7), it's only teething that gets him up now! We use a video monitor for DS1 (will get extra camera for DS2 soon), which is good as if he stirs I can see whether he's actually properly awake and I need to go in or not, before I think I used to go in and not give him chance to settle himself!

mrsmugoo · 21/06/2014 07:05

Morning all.

the 1:30 wakeup was pretty brutal, took me until 3 to get him back down again. I think he was hit, bless him.

Anyway, he was wake at 5:10 but I'm feeling pretty rough today (cold and sore throat) and so I think I literally just ignored him and went back to sleep for an hour. Oops.

My DH got the riot act read to him yesterday about supporting me properly this weekend while I'm not feeling well so that I can shake it off quickly. He offered to get up with DS this morning but I said he might as well not as DS will need feeding and a nap by 8am anyway and if DH gets up early I will never hear the end of it all day about how tired he is and he will probably disappear off for a nap in the afternoon leaving me holding the baby (literally). I'd rather be the one taking the nap thanks!!

mrsmugoo · 21/06/2014 07:05

*that'll be HOT not hit LOL

FrankelandFilly · 21/06/2014 08:32

Thanks all for your comments. I'm not hunting for sympathy, I always knew this was a possibility so I just have to suck it up. I can't complain too much anyway, DD seems to be a very easy baby compared to what some of you have outbid with what with colic, multiple wakings, etc.

Despite 3 consecutive nights of sleeping till at least 6am DD reverted back to a 5am wake up this morning. I fed her and put her back in her cot so we got another couple of hours, but I I only dozed lightly.

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Writerwannabe83 · 21/06/2014 09:09

Someone has abducted my 'sleeping through the night' baby and replaced him with an identical demon baby!!

I hoped Thursday night's 2am waking was just a one off, but he woke at 2am again last night too. He was awake until almost 3.00am but then after finally dozing off he woke again at 4.00am!! He then cried for an hour so I ultimately bought him into bed with me (for the 3rd time in his life) and he eventually drifted off. He's awake and feeding now and I feel shattered!!!

I'm only tired because I'm just not used yo getting up in the night. There was a time where I would have classed last night as a good night Grin

DS is 13 weeks Smile

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mrsmugoo · 21/06/2014 09:17

Writer from people I've spoken to - sleeping through the night at 3 months is the exception to the rule and anything from 1-4 wakings a night would be considered very normal so although you've had a taste of sleeping through… it's definitely not out of the ordinary for your DS to wake for feeds in the night. Especially in this heat where babies are thirsty as much as anything.

mrsmugoo · 21/06/2014 09:28

Hugs to you Frankel - my DH works in the music industry and summer is a busy time for him with festivals so he is away a lot. He's just got back from being away for a week and it was horrible without him, so massive props to you coping on your own for so much longer.

DH is off to Glastonbury next week. We are going for the day, but we'll still miss him for the nights we're on our own :(

BirdsDoIt · 21/06/2014 10:17

Well I take it all back, DH entertained DS (and then got him to go back to sleep) from 7-10am so I got an extra 3 hours sleep, badly needed after that rubbish night. And now he's downstairs making us porridge while I feed DS from my exploding boobs - DS must think he's found some kind of milk fountain because he hasn't been fed for 5 hours and milk is now spurting everywhere!