since when was offering support also about what should be said - can't it also be about what shouldn't be said.
I honestly DON'T think that the particular comment in quesiton is going to stand up strongly if P users it when confronting her DH. I want her to have the strongest arguments possible (hell who wouldn't???) and I was merely stating that it doesn't often stand up well to scrutinisation (and yes I know I can't spell it).
There was a recent thread on here where someone was sending a letter to their local council re toilets and access (or something along those lines). Lots of people supporting her telling her what she should say, but also what she shouldn't say.