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I'm a dummy

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 22:54

Angry Putting my DS back in his cot for the 8th time in the last 30 mins. He's ebf, after his bedtime feed he falls asleep on me, wakes when I put him down, this is followed by 5-15 pick ups, falling sleeps, putting down, immediately crying episodes till he eventually will settles for a couple of hours. I need to pick him up because he just cries hysterically if I don't soon as I pick hi. Up he gets his suckle n drops back off. Any advices?

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AnythingNotEverything · 26/12/2013 22:56

How old is he? How long between him falling asleep and you putting him down?

Twinsplusonesurprise · 26/12/2013 22:56

Can you put him down before he's totally asleep?
He might be getting panicked by stirring and wondering where he is. How oldis he?
Sorry, brief, one handed typing while BF!

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 22:58

He's 15 wks. Sleeps 2-3 hrs at night. Lone he's down his feeds take 10 minutes and he's back down, I'm presuming he's in a deeper sleep.

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kd73 · 26/12/2013 22:58

Sounds like you are soing a great job! How old is he? If not wanting to try a dummy, try a clean little finger to let him suckle on when you have popped him down......

kd73 · 26/12/2013 22:59

Do you normally use both breasts each time he feeds?

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:00

Tried doing it straight away then tried 10-15 mins after but no difference. He's off the breast head back mouth open zonked right now soon as I put him down he cries Hmm

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FionasFatFairy · 26/12/2013 23:02

I found with DC3 that the shock of the cold sheet would wake her, so I would feed her wrapped in a muslin nappy, then, when resettling her, make sure she was snuggled in the muslin and her face was on the muslin not the cold sheet.

ChazzerChaser · 26/12/2013 23:02

Mine always slept on me for the first 6 months. He started to be happy in his cot when he was ready. It's not for everyone, it's what I needed, but wanted to say in case you thought that wasn't 'allowed'

Twinsplusonesurprise · 26/12/2013 23:03

I always put DS down awake and show him his you, reassure him I'm here and stroke his back then go. He falls asleep on his own. He's 13 weeks tomorrow.
BUT he's always drowsy and I know he wants to settle as he'll start fidgeting in my arms.
Could you gve that a go?

ChazzerChaser · 26/12/2013 23:03

And at night he slept snuggled in my armpit, mouth by or on boob.

Twinsplusonesurprise · 26/12/2013 23:04

Dur
Shd be show him his toy!

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:08

Finger didn't work Sad

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 26/12/2013 23:10

When he starts to fall asleep do you then offer the other side, and then again until he is just unwakable?

Can you sleep with him in your bed? If you feed lying down then he falls asleep where he is and then you can simply roll away from him if you want/need to (We put a single bed next to the double for dh to sleep on.

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:13

Thanks starlight, he's not even feeding though May have 2-3 sucks then he's head back off the boob. Can't co sleep, no room n I can't settle I'd DC in with me...

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:15

Trying the muslin now. I'm on the 14th pick up Angry

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 26/12/2013 23:16

Is your baby sleeping in the same room as you?

Can you put a mattress on the floor and then feed him lying down on that, then roll away and climb back into your own bed to sleep?

StarlightMcKingsThree · 26/12/2013 23:17

That's what I did with dd when we went on a 2 week cruise at that age Hmm

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:19

No he's in own room, have a nursing chair but cheap and creeky. Feeding lying down would be perfect n been lent over his cot so many times but think he's grasps it's not normal and fusses...

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starlight1234 · 26/12/2013 23:23

Sounds like my son...I found a dummy perfect solution till he decided at 3 mnths he preferred my boob.....

Do you not want to use a dummy?

The only way he learnt to settle without my boob was nursery used to rub his tummy till he fell asleep I did the same and it worked.

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AnyFuckerWillDo · 26/12/2013 23:25

Oi chocolate. I bloody love Bf,love that or comforts my BB n everything about it.

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Lovelybitofsquirrel · 26/12/2013 23:28

Does he sleep in a sleeping bag? Do you do last feed in that? Helps lessen transition from warm mummy to cold bed. We also pre warm the mattress with a hot water bottle and take it out just before lowering him in.

BitScary · 27/12/2013 14:54

Start of the 4 month regression.

Sorry! It's fucking hell, but it does pass after 7 weeks

BitScary · 27/12/2013 14:59

oh yes and my tips are a) both boobs every single time even if it's the last thing you feel like doing and b) this move!

StarlightMcKingsThree · 27/12/2013 15:14

OP, If you've made an informed decision then I don't want to interfere but can't leave it unsaid that the Guidelines are for your baby to sleep in the same room as you for all naps and night time sleep until at least 6 months to ensure he is regularly disturbed and prevent a deep sleep from developing.

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