Just found out that a couple of my social circle are not attempting breastfeeding second time around, but will be going for bottles from day one. No medical problems/issues, just said it would be easier to have bottles and a toddler than breastfeed.
I didn't want to pry, and I respect their choice of course, but I'm really curious why you would not even express the colostrum to give your child - I thought it was soooo important for the immune system.
I admit I'm a bit biased as I still bfeed DD 22 months, and do use it as a parenting tool to a certain extent. We massively struggled at first as DD had a missed tongue tie that wasn't picked up til 5 months, so I know what it's like to have pain and struggle, and I remember from when our toddlers were little that these mums had to give up fairly quickly first time around and know how difficult it was. But why not express a bit of colostrum?
So please let me know so I can understand better?
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Educate me: why would you not want your baby to have the colostrum if no medical reason?
RainbowsFriend · 21/04/2013 18:22
about the floppy white tits!
' Plus i didnt want my dp to feel funny about my boobs if our son had been there. In my opinion my boobs are there for sexual reasons only for me and my dp.'
i think the above is why some don't even try as they believe breasts are purely sexual. I didn't feel totally ok with it with DD1 but just wanted to do what was best for her not myself/DH. I also can see further past that and not just what this society constantly pushes upon us.
Yes, attack.
Can't think of a complete stranger commenting on my 'floppy white tits' and how I chase DD with a fishing net or whatever ridiculously ignorant comment Hubba came out with as anything other than that.
Obviously wasn't having a pop at any feeding choice was I. Here, have a 
to go with the chip on your shoulder.
It is not a universally accepted truth that colostrum and BF are that important. Some people genuinely review the information available and conclude that for a child in a more developed country with careful formula preparation the differences are so vanishingly small that they are not important. I am one of those people.
There are many things I do for my child. I prioritise for both of us, so there are other things I don't do. For example we read to her, we talk to her, I try to cuddle her as often as she asks, I co-slept for both of us 
but don't any more, we fed her on demand, we held her for most of her naps until she was older than most people would consider, we intentionally limited her baths to reduce the risk of eczema and have never used sodium lauryl sulphate in a shampoo, body wash or bubble bath and didn't use anything except water in baths until about 6 months.
Things I didn't do - I didn't BF her, I didn't put her in cloth nappies (is this for the child or environment?), I didn't prepare all of her food from scratch using organic ingredients, I didn't shield her from all forms of sugar until her 12th birthday, I didn't ban TV.
You pick your parenting choices, some more actively than others and prioritise differently. I don't jump about complaining about the things that other people bathe their children in, even though this is important to me for my DD. I don't muse on MN about why my friends use baby bath products every day with sodium lauryl sulphate in them and then have babies with eczema, even though I have read up on it and have formed an opinion.
I know it can be difficult to accept, but some people just don't believe that BF matters that much.
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