routine

[lindseylou1]

Everytime my little boy stays at his nannas he comes back whingey its only for one night but its everytime. He's a very happy baby usually and is for her she says also but it takes me a day or 2 to get back into a routine that works for me. He's 3 1/2 months and is taking 8oz of milk for me 6 hours but she feeds him 5 hours and says he was hungry but if so why is he going an hour longer with me.also he is usually happy to go to sleep on his own when i put him in his cot and takes bout 5. - 10 mins to go to sleep during the day but she rocks him to sleep. So becomes very clingy when comes back. I do give my baby lots of cuddles especially at night time where he is at his cuddliest and sleep from 9pm till 8am - 8.30am. Its this just me being fussy ???

Sorry, no experience - I bf all mine so never left a baby this young with someone else overnight. He probably just misses you. a 3.5mo is still very small to expect him not to be clingy.

lindsey, I agree your baby is v. small to be going overnight without you - he is not really old enough to understand changes in his surroundings and is bound to need extra reassurance and closeness when he gets back with you.

Are you saying he goes 6 hours between feeds - this seems a h.....u.....g....e long time....and it would not be surprising if occasionally he shows clear signs of wanting to feed more often.

Is he taking less milk with her? I find when my DD's GM feeds her she seems to think DD is finished when it's clear to me she's just having a rest.
As regards being unsettled - I think that's par for the course if they stay away at a young age.

Your mum can't very well leave him for an extra hour if he seems hungry because that's the routine. He is only little.

Thank you for views but as for my baby sleeping through the night, he has only ever woke up twice through the night since he was born then went to once and now sleeps through, i talked to my hv and she said that is fine as he is gaining the weight what he is supposed to be. She said if he was hungry he would wake up.

yeah she does think he has finished regards to him having a bottle as i have asked her now stowsettler and told her.

and as for going 6 hours I've tried giving him it earlier before but just refuses it, i give cooled boiled water in between. No doubt there will be an issue over that

I'm not quite sure why you think this is odd? He is very young so naturally he will want extra comfort (rocking,milk etc) when he is away from you for a long time. If its upsetting you and him then maybe don't leave him overnight until he is a bit older.

Now i know its normal i was just a bit confused as he is not like that with me and i am first time mum.

i didn't wanted to be judged i just wanted a bit of reassurance

Childrens routines change when staying over at grandparents homes etc.. My girls were the same when they visited there dad or grandparents. It's a pain because they don't follow the routine and generally do it there way. You also have to remember they get more fuss from grandparents, so a lot of picking up and cuddling and in general Molly Colling..

Your best bet if you are concerned about routine is to have a chat about it to them If you feel that its that much of an issue. If not then you will just have to work around it.

Only you know your true child's routine. As far as feeding pattern, your child is still very young and patterns can change for whatever reason, I think the only think your ahold approach them on is the rocking the child to sleep. If you don't like this way it wouldn't hurt to raise it.

Thank you kelb, i did have a word before you put this post on actually. I'm not going to stop my little boy from staying over as i think its good for him and he is good as gold for them. In fact now u mentioned that he is the same if we go out visiting he's always a bit more unsettled at night that will be down to more fussing. It is nice for advice instead of being told the does and don'ts

sorry, lindsey, thought you meant he was going 6 hrly between feeds in the day - now i see you mean at night only :)

My god some people can be so mean and judgemental on here sometimes!!

I dont have much experience myself as a first time mum but id imagine hes just unsettled being out of his surroundings and away from you at a guess.

Also as kelb said, grandparents seem to like to spoil them a bit so they are bound not to stick to the routine. My mum had my ds just for a few hours the other night and when i came back she clearly hadnt stuck to the routine (albeit a very loose one that we have!), he was wide awake smiling up at us from his pram but i didnt mind because theyd clearly both enjoyed lots of cuddles and i dont mind or think it hurts once in a while to let grandparents enjoy them like this.

Also from what ive noticed even the most experienced parents who dont know your baby like you do like to try things that they think will work or should be done with your kids because it worked with theirs!