How to stay awake during night feeds part 6 - all welcome to join us!

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Hi everyone, cannot believe we have exchanged over 5000 messages!

mrsn when we shared our locations on here a while back, heff, goat and I all turned out to live near Uxbridge so we met up having met on here. It is lovely, if you are ever down south let us know!

macaroons sounds like we are in the same boat I officially return to work on 15 Feb but that is actually the Friday before half term so only have that day and then another week off before full time return hits. I am lucky that DH is being a SAHD til 1st July so no drop offs, pick ups or worries about the childminder ringing me because babyfunch is ill etc, and she is in great hands with him, much as I have been critical of him til we talked it over recently. However I am worried about being at work on no sleep - I will get in a lot of trouble if I lose my rag with a pupil or indeed a member of my team (one of whom is a pain). I will have to perfect the art of letting some things go (eg uniform issues in the corridor as opposed to in my lessons - I spend a lot of time arguing with pupils about these and intend to stop save for the very worst!) and dealing with others by just reporting bad behaviour to heads of year rather than dealing with it myself. I am head of faculty so will focus just on what happens in lessons in my faculty rather than working quite so hard on having the best corridor behaviour in the school in my area - it is great having that but takes a lot of time, energy and conflict so it will just have to go n the back burner until I am getting proper sleep again. At this rate dd will be in year 7 by then herself and can help me!

Welcome newbies hope you aren't here too long!

heffs DD is 4 an a bit months and has really regressed.... She was starting to do one wake a night maybe sometimes two and now we're virtually every 2 hours after 10 or 11. Sorry that's no help as I've no idea how to stop it but wanted to let you know you weren't alone!

lilianna baby loup settles herself now but I'm sure she didn't until about 12 weeks.... I started with getting her to settle herself at the morning map as that's easier to deal with than the nighttime one..... TBH though I co slept for a long time and think you've just got to do whatever works when they're little......

Hope baby lou is better today susie yay for granddad's singing!

Hope everyone makes it Out somewher today, we can walk in the village but cant really drive anywhere so at risk of going a bit stircrazy......

Thanks Loup and Brain, I was going with the opinion that getting sleep (for me!) was more important than how I got it so will carry on settling her and see if she starts on her own in few weeks and go from there. At the moment she wants to sleep on me during the day and wakes when put down so we are working on that!

Sorry to hear susie and dark had a long night too, hope you managed some sleep and babyloo is ok.

MrsN It is amazing how happy babies are in the mornings when in a few years you will have to drag them out of bed! Love the big stretch and smile I get in the morning though, makes me forget about the night :)

Babylil has her 6 week check and first jabs today :( Guessing we might be in for a rough night but trying to think positively (while having calpol on standby!)

Think its just a bit of everything heff. I'm really hard on myself & beat myself up feeling guilty about lots of things & mistakes I've made. Wish I didn't do it. :( x

I'm feeling really fed up today - feel like I have hit a motivational and parenting brick wall, if I have to take one more load of washing out of the dryer I'm going to crumble. In fact I just have for no reason. I feel drained and of course all of this makes me feel so guilty when I look at my beautiful boy because I shouldn't feel this way when I am so lucky to have him. I feel totally drained. I feel lonely. Why can't I pick myself up! I'm sick of feeling rubbish and sorry for myself.

Amey and MrsN I'm sorry you are feeling rubbish. I've only been doing this a few weeks and the routine is relentless. I'm sure you are doing an amazing job and are beating yourselves up needlessly. Sod the washing and cleaning for a day and do something nice. Hope you are ok x

Hello new people, muffintop, Liliana and Bigwhoop. I was on a kit day today and DH's school announced last night that they would be closed today so he got night duty all alone. I stayed in with him and babyfunch til she woke around 2 then decamped to the sofa, got a few hours' sleep, then went back to bed when they got up about 6. Got to work for 10 and had quite a good day. I have warned my boss that I will be running on low batteries worse than useless when I return due to sleep deprivation!!

Chilli I also get stressed about how I will cope but I think the adrenaline rush of school will see me through each day - is your job like that?

Amey and mrsn I have been feeling really low too - whenever I think about sleep or nights I get tearful trying to tell myself it can only get better.

heff I think we are having a very similar experience to you. Is babylump in your room? I have been to bed about 7 the past two nights to sleep when babyfunch does and she has started waking at 10 instead of 1:30 before refusing to settle . So I think I am disturbing her, so she is off to her own room tonight. We wanted to stick to the six month guidelines but at the moment everyone is miserable so something has to change. The risk of cot death is still minuscule whereas the risks of me crashing the car or dropping her while exhausted are pretty high at the moment. I am trying not to pin my hopes on this working but hopefully it will bring some small improvement.

Will be back later during bedtime feed!

Sorry to hear you're low mrsnpatz as much as I adore DD it is relentless having a LO and the lack of sleep is an added killer, hope you feel better soon and have had a nice day! I made sure I saw two friends wit little one today so I could rant about baby Loup!

Hope moving babyfunch works, I moved baby loup a few weeks ago as thought it would help her sleep through, worked for a while! Baby loup is down and out for he count after only 3oz..... She hasn't pooped today and was so tired I couldn't burp her so expecting a bit of an evening of it.

Good luck to all for a good night - SLEEPY dust to all x

Relentless is exactly what it is - as much as I love baby chilli, at 3am when I've barely had any sleep I wonder how the hell I'm expected to do this all over again tomorrow.

funch I work in a hospital, and my job entails juggling quite a few different things, so I worry if I'm not on the ball a patient could be adversely affected.

and and ((hugs)) for us all, poorly babies, wakeful babies and sad mums (maybe no wine for the babies) and a timely reminder that goddamn it, we are superwomen for even getting out of bed in the morning!

chilli I worry about losing my temper with a pupil - most are lovely but like all schools we have a few really unpleasant characters. I will have to watch my temper and stress levels! Also I cannot see myself keeping up with marking properly. I hope we can both find ways through it all

loup even if babyfunch just has a few better nights now she is in her own room I will be grateful! A good night for us is currently 'only' awake for about 60% of the time between 2 and 7am .

Thanks for the non-baby sleepy dust...honestly 2 babies would be impossible...no idea how people with twins do it!

Happy sleeps everyone

Oh dear. Also had a bit of a rubbish day feeling totally exhausted. I think it's the combination of miserable weather and being stuck indoors all day. Babybrain also being quite hard work with teething and now also has a cold - poor little chap

Hope you all have good sleeps. I agree with your sentiment chilli - we are superwomen for getting out of bed and we should keep reminding ourselves!

Thanks guys, I had a counselling session earlier and I feel a bit better after that.

A good night would also help but little man has been down less than half an hour and woke up again - hoping this is last feed!

It's wild outside, so it's going to be cold in here tonight!

Glad you're felling better mrsn brrr it's so cold out, I've put a heater next to baby Loups cot.... So far despite only taking 3oz baby loup is still sound asleep, now wondering have I been overfeeding her?! I feel so confused and bewildered by it all

Am going to hold out until 10, dream feed some Expressed milk and pray to the sleepy gods that tonight she sleeps

Have good nights all x

Evening all.

Took babyloo to the drs because he still wasn't quite right this morning and he diagnosed a viral infection, it will just run its course. He is loads better than yesterday and has been asleep in his cot since 6.30 so hoping he will transfer back again without too much trouble but have told dp that he might be on the sofa if I can't settle him. Dreading leaving him tomorrow for work, I left him with my mum for half an hour while me and dp went to look at a car and he was inconsolable for half an hour until I got back-he was hungry though and I had told mum I would feed him when I got home.

Just had first transfer fail so really hoping he's not going to end up in put bed, as much as I love it I just don't sleep properly and I really need some sleep-as we all do!!

Hope all those who've had rough days feel a bit better tomorrow and hope we all get a good night tonight.

Hope the lack of messages for the last hour and a half means you're all getting nice sleep.

Well done mrsn on your first session and glad it has helped a bit already. Hope you get a good night to help build on that.

Afraid I can't help with that loup. I have no idea how much babybrain eats, though depending on how tired he is, sometimes it doesn't feel like much.

susie glad you have a diagnosis from the dr. Makes things a bit more manageable. Don't forget your mum will have coped with sad and meltdown babies before so she'll be ok. It's not so long and it'll be good for you to have the time too. I've got a kit day at the end of this month... It is hard when you feel uncertain that they'll be ok.

First feed here, far too early!!

Hi iv just came across this as not being asleep yet my little boy is having a growth spurt!

Glad to hear that babyloo is improving susie. Hope you are getting some sleep now.

Babyfunch only made it from 7 to 10:30 in her room before waking so I fed her a good big feed and she slept til 12:30. I was reading a baby book that said they can have pain from teething around 15 weeks and the description matched exactly what she is like at the moment, so I have given her calpol and dummy and she is calmer but still waking when the dummy falls out which is every few minutes! But much better than before the calpol as she was really screaming then. Don't think I will be getting any sleep any time soon though .

Gah, just spent ages typing a long message and mn went down and lost it.
In a nutshell we're here and sympathy to others who are to for whatever reason. Hope those that are quiet are getting some sleep.

Finger crossed for a successful transfer and will prob see you again in a few hours

Haven't posted for a while, hope all is well.

We have moved baby to his own room and have started to put him down while he's still awake so he can learn how to self settle. Took an hour for him to calm down before his afternoon nap, took 5 minutes at 7pm so I thought its going well, he slept till midnight which is quite good, then just now after the feed it took him an hour to settle.

Knackered. Hope he will sleep till at least 6am. (Given its 2 now!)

Ill catch some sleep too, am down with a cold sorry too tired to name check.

Good night everyone

Just done a second big feed at 2:30 and was finally dropping off when she started grizzling again so I have pit dummy back in and am sitting here waiting for it to fall out again...hopefully she will be asleep and not cry when she let's it go else will have to start all over again . Sympathy to anyone else still up! Consoling myself with the idea that she will nap in the daytime after such a bad night!

Had epic transfer fail after last post and it took over an hour and a half to settle him, he woke again at half one but I put his projector on and he went back to sleep until now, his last calpol dose is wearing off now so hope he will go back down. I wish calpol was like the old days when it tasted nice-the new ones are horrible because they have no sugar to hide the taste of paracetamol - it's a reall struggle to get medicine in to a baby who won't open their mouth! I've told dp he's got to get up with babyloo at the weekend because I'm desperate for some sleep now.

Thank you brain re tomorrow - you are right and my mum did say they would put him in the car and take him for a drive if he got really upset.

Attempting transfer....

Morning all! Dd went to sleep after my last post last night and yesterday was actually pretty good. I finally took advice and snoozed when she did. As a result I feel quite fresh at 0340! We are onto second feed since 0230 having just done 2nd nappy change of the night. DH has gone to sleep on the sofa as he has the busiest day of the month at work tomorrow. I hope DD goes down after this feed, though, since I've got a number of workmen arriving first thing tomorrow. Oh! The things you organise in the late stages of pregnancy thinking it will all be a breeze, surely.

Hi all, first feed here although he's been up before for cuddling and dummy replacing . macaroons I wish I could put baby small down awaKe buthe just cries and I cave in, spent 1.5 hours at lunch picking up and putting down before I gave in and let him sleep on me! How are you doing it?
susie you can still buy the sugar one! I did as would rather baby small had sugar than artificial sweetener, after all sugar is natural and those sweetnersa are made with god knows what. I've tasted it and it tastes just like the old days
Attempting transfer

Morning all!
First feed here, baby larle dropping off.
We had our first lunch out today and attempted bf in public. Did not go well without my trusty pillow, not sure how we will feed without it!
Sorry to hear of all those having a bad night.
Hopefully the calpol will help those teething, I've got all this to come!

Back again! Transfer went ok so really hoping the same happens again as i really need a few more hours.