has anyone else bf one but not other??

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I breastfed ds1 for 1yr but now with ds2 I have stpped even trying after just a few weeks. It was just so exhausting and timeconsuming whilst looking after a toddler.

I now feel incredibly guilty though. Especially as ds2 lots of problems like wind and vomitting that ds1 didn't have (caused by the formula). I just keep crying about it. Ds2 had a good latch (but now refuses - I think due to having so many bottles).

I feel I've let him down and shown favouritism to ds1 and about all the supposed benefits of bf that ds2 wonlt have :(

I feel for you! You were so successful bfing ds1 but you mustn't feel guilty, this isn't your fault! sounds like ds2 had problems from the beginning, poor wee soul. There are formulas especially for windy, reflux, colicky babies, find out about the best one for him and he will be happier and so will you.

Every baby is different and their ability to latch on and produce milk varies.
You could try expressing and giving ds2 ebm.
But that is a big commitment and time consuming but it is an option.

I didn't feel guilty.

Dd1 2 weeks, DD2 16 months and DD3 10 weeks.

They are all different babies and all responded differently to feeding.

They are all different babies and all responded differently to feeding.

^ This.

How do you know the problems are caused by the formula?

I breastfed dd1 for 2 and a half years and had no problems dd2 was small and colicky and didn't get on with it at all. It was affecting my relationship with her so only lasted 3 months then switched to formula and never looked back. Each child is different and each experience of breastfeeding is too, I learnt never to judge another persons feeding choice