Newborn been on breast literally all night?

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ok she was born at 5.45 yesterday am. Was feeding ok during the day but since 9.30 pm last night she has jus literally been at ny breast everytime I take her off she cries so I haven't slept at all and my nipples are so so sore already:( I know my milk won't be in yet but she has had a lot of meconium 3 loads not noticed wee maybe due to the v dirty nappies? I'm now sterilising a bottle as I his need to sleep even just for an hour. Any ideas or is this normal as I do not remember this with my other two

So this is day 2, so I would say either today or Monday, are you able to feed her lying down? Tell all visitors to go away and go up to bed and just lie down to feed her, even have a sleep while she's suckling. Get the midwife to help you get onto position. I found this really helped and it. Meant I hot to snooze! My baby was 7lb3 and she was exactly the same, I ended up giving her one borrle of formula at night til my milk came in so don't feel bad about doing that, try and keep your nipples exposed to air as much as you can, I bought a handheld fan for labour which I used to fan my nipples in the early days.

It gets better I promise, these first days ate definitely the toughest.

It might be that's she's not fussing because she's not full. You might just be perceiving her fussiness that way iyswim? What I mean is, she might be a bit windy (hence the knee jerking) and be sucking for comfort/to bring milk in/because she's windy etc. Has she been checked for tongue tie?

Checked her nappy she had pooped lol no wonder she was wriggling poor thing ! Thanks for all the advise I will keep going xx

Please can you get someone over to check the latch. Just in case? Ask the MW for a BF counsellor or something. It's tough at first but worth getting someone experienced to watch you feed.

Midwife checked the latch yeaterday and said it was fine but I do have really big boobs and looks like I'm drowning her a bit ?

Seconded lying down to feed so you can sleep. If you're scared of squishing her get you DH to watch while you nap!
Good luck, you sound like you're doing fab!

You're not drowning her I have big bazookas too and it was fine :)

Ha ha oh good the joys of being women eh?

I used to support my boob with one hand and hold dcs with the other. Try that if you feel she's being a bit squashed. First few days are hard but you need to forget images of bottles of formula being guzzled, a bf baby only needs the drops of colostrum til your milk comes in. Bf is so brill once you get past the first couple of weeks. Def get the lansinoh, I found it essential with both of mine

My milk came in on day 4 or 5 as I had a section. Have faith, your milk will come in and well done, keep going. you're doing a grand job

Thank u everyone she being rather clingy again now but it dnt care jus think DP wants a cuddle and everytime he takes her she cries :(

Let him snuggle with the two of you. Your arms are probably a bit tired by now, so he can always sit behind you with his arms round you and holding her.

those tiny drips are liquid gold!
that's colostrum :)

don't worry, the first couple of days are hard.

I found that DD wouldn't stop crying or rooting for milk when she was on me, at all.
DH used to take her and she would howl and howl to start with, but then after a while, she would settle (and even slept on him!)

it got to the stage where she wouldn't go to sleep for me - only for DH. I was the food, he was the bed

it did settle down, though.

I love the cuddles as she will grow so fast but yes I do need to go for wee and also eat my dinner hot ! Lol she must b getting stuff as she has pood like 5 times today! Haven't noticed wee but maybe it was all mixed in.

wee is very easily absorbed

if you need a wee, then go!
give her to DH and try to close your ears to the crying.
i know that sounds harsh, but it's only a couple of minutes each time, and the more you do it the more likely she will go to DH for a cuddle without crying.

Hahahahahahaha yes and I need an extra long fork

or a massive spoon

Or a shovel xxx

We did shift eating for the first week. Dh would wander round the house with screaming ds while I shovelled my dinner down at high speed. We then got a chair that rocked itself and bunged ds in there when we were eating. We still bolt our meals now 6 yrs later!

DD was like this; she wouldn't sleep unless she on me either. It drove me nuts. SHe also latched on her way, whihc wasn't the way I wanted her latch and it was bloody painful.

I rightly predicted she'd be a biter 6 months on. [wince face]

Aww don't worry this is all totally normal, my DD fed for about 18 hours a day in the first week, in 7 to 10 hour sessions and I remember crying with exhaustion. The only way I got through it was to keep googling the benefits of breastmilk.

Also everyone around me wanted me to give up (for my sake) and that gave me the determination not to give in :).

If it is any consolation, by 6 weeks (sorry I know that seems an age away now), she was down to short ten minute feeds and it was so much easier just popping her on and off than faffing on with sterlizing bottles etc.

My best tips are to set up a 'feeding station' with a comfy chair, pillows, snacks and tv remote to hand, and make sure you have been to the loo and have a huge glass of water handy. Try to think of BF as your 'job' which means everything else can wait or someone else can do it. If you can rope someone in to being you food that will help!

As pp said, don't worry about how much comes out when you squeeze, my DD is 15 months now and I can only get a few drops out like that too. Your body knows how much to produce because your baby is telling it, with the constant suckling. Do rub those few drops into your nipples though and allow to airdry, as it really helps with the soreness.

If you fear you may fall asleep when feeding lying down, give some though to proper co-sleeping.

If you do end up formula feeding, don't beat yourself up :) x

Astronaut I'm glad u said that when she latches on it is pure agony but she is worth it :) think my milk has come in finally ! Getting fed up with visitors now wishthey would pee off they want to hold her and then she screams so they shove her back on me and I'm left with her all fretful then it's "oh she starving jus giver her a bottle" I'm like no she jus don't like YOU!

Saffmellow: that's what I have been doing regarding feed station can I jus ask wen did first go out and was she settled in a pushchair? Mi e cost £500 and worried she not gonna b happy in it ?

Defo stop all the handling by visitors. she needs you and only you right now :). Sounds like you are doing great. what colour poo is she doing? it should be going mustardy by now- good indication she is feeding ok uf so xxx

I didn't go out until ds was about a week old I think. He was fine in his pushchair. Dd hated hers and used to scream but she was a second child and had to just get on with it. After a few go's she got used to it.