Help please! Friend is having feeding problems!

[nickelhasababy]

got an fb message this morning (before i was awake - she was stressing and wanted to vent)
Friend's baby was born saturday night, breach vaginal, spontaneous, very bruised.
he's not feeding.
she's had him checked for tongue-tie, and he's got a very high palate and recessed chin.

i apologise for c+ping her message, but :

"feeding couldn't be going much worse. we're syringe feeding formula top ups after every feed in a desperate attempt to keep breastfeeding. He has severe jaundice we have latch issues I have supply issues and expressing isn't getting me more than 10 ml in 30 mins and he's not weeing or pooing. any 3/4 wouldn't be an issue but add in the lack of wee/poo to flush the bilirubin out and we're getting into serious territory. I spent most of yesterday in tears feeling a complete failure."

she's bfed 4 children already very successfully, and she's pumping with an electric pump, and she's tried all positions she can think of.

he's weed once a day, as far as she can tell, and hasn't pooed for days.
she doesn't want to formula feed if possible.
another thing she said was she thinks her nipples are really too big for his mouth, as he can't get right over. and she's got a vein that keeps getting pulled by the pump, so she's in agony.

they have talked about taking him into paeds unit, but she thinks that it will make him ill (too many sick children to go past)

any suggestions, please?

thank you

:(

With her permission, I've been expressing and freezing milk all over the weekend.

I've got to post it to her, so I've got to do Special Delivery before 9am.
I've got shed loads of ice packs, and I'm going to do one last express this afternoon, and leaving it as long as possible, post them to her.
My theory is that she's got 24 hours for the non-frozen one and another 24 hours after the frozen ones defrost, so if I pack them up at 4:30 this afternoon, she's got from 9am (when she gets it) till 4:30 tomorrow to use the fresh and till about lunchtime tomorrow for the frozen ones (assuming that they defrost before she gets them)

I just hope that they're stored in a very very very cold place.

That's an amazingly lovely thing to do for your friend nickelhasababy.

She's obviously still having problems, is she managing to protect her supply though?

yes, she's trying to feed him as much as she can, and expressing when she can't (syringing that where poss)

she's never had a supply issue (ie with the others) but she's never been successful at expressing, so you can imagine how upset she is.

I stood in the longest queue ever at the post office too!
She'll have 4 little tubs packed in ice tomorrow morning before 9 o'clock.

(I feel like I do when I give blood - baby means I can't give for at least another 2 months, so it's good to be able to do something)