Annoying things people say about BFing

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DS2 is 4 weeks old & in-laws have just been here for the weekend. Here's just two of the annoying things they said:

-'he can't be hungry again!' (yes he can, he's only 4 weeks old!)
-'ooo hasn't he got a temper!' (when DS2 crying because hungry-I practically had to force them to hand him over for a feed!)

Anyone else have any delightful comments to share?!

Oh I forgot, FIL also tried to take a photo of me feeding in nightie 1st thing this morning and looked a bit put out when I said he couldn't...

When I met a friend with ds in the sling, he was about 6 weeks old and she said "oh i didn't know you'd be bringing him". I explained I was bfeeding on demand and she said sagely, "oh, are you still at that stage?"
Annoying.

BFing is the reason why your kids are bad sleepers. Mine have all slept through from a few weeks old because they've benn FFed.

dick

I had all the "cant be hungry again", "are you still bfing him" questions from my DM. Luckily my MIL has never commented!

My DB made the bitty comment to me, his DW formula fed from the get go and thinks bf over a year old is weird (my ds is 17mo and still bf)

My friend this week asked if it didn't hurt, bfing ds when he has 12 teeth. I said he sucks, not chews and I don't feel his teeth at all!

'he's not getting enough, why don't you give him a bottle'.
Over and over and over......

'your not STILL feeding are you ?'

I met someone who thought that breastfeeding a little boy baby would make him gay. I pointed out that if that was the case then the human population would be substantially smaller than 7 billion.

I'm BF my 14 week old and have not received a single odd comment or funny look from anyone until a couple of days ago, when my aunt warned me that BF would make my boobs 'go like flaps'. I had to laugh (even though it may be true!). But by the sounds of it I've got off quite lightly. Who ARE these people making these comments and where do they get these ideas from?!

MIL - STILL feeding?! - you'll never get her off your tit - (someone else holds DD and she falls asleep) bloody hell Jayne have you got our tit in her mouth?!

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OP just makes me think of annoying things generally - BF is but one small part of it. My auntie took a pic of DH stripped to his pants covered in poo and really stressed with our first DC when she was only 10 days old. He wasn't impressed.

But I got crap comments about formula feeding "Oh, aren't you feeding her yourself? I never had any problems." (from MIL) "She's very young to be drinking that." and "Lucky I was very determined about bF. I think only the strong survive." (from other mothers who had no idea I spent half the time in tears trying to get it right and the rest of the time attached to a huge electric pump squeezing out all the milk I could for her).

And from MIL about my decision to immunise the children "Why don't you just leave it to the other mothers stupid enough to inject their children?"

Point is...people come out with all sorts of shit. Ignore them and do your thing. And don't we all say stupid things sometimes? When a friend's sister asked me my natural hair colour I said "Like yours but worse." Still kick myself about that.

All mil - 'have you got enough milk' (DS 25 hours old) no I don't have any yet it colosrum (sp!?) milk will come.
'have you got enough milk' (1 week old)
'You'll have to wean him at 4 months because your milk will run out' (3 weeks old)
Refused to give him to me to feed many times, even whenasked by me or told by DP.

SIL every time I saw her 'all he does is eat!'
(9 weeks) 'what else does he do? All he does is eat or sleep!'
'you are making him fat!'
'you can't eat that, that's why he's fat!' (everyone, including her was having ice-cream for pudding at mil)

There were many! DS is the length of a tall 1year old at 9 months - can't feed 'em tall.

These are brilliant/worrying! feel like I've got off lightly in comparison.

And of course issy you are right, I must ignore & rise above. I won't see them again till Christmas now anyway

All from MIL:
Are you still BFing him [aghast] (he was 12 weeks old)
He'll never sleep through the night while you're being stubborn and refusing to give him a bottle (he was/is sleeping through the night)

My favourite said to a friend by a work colleague who was enquiring as to how well her 4 month old baby was coping with solids..
"we're waiting till she's 6 months old to give her solids actually"
"that's the problem with you BFing mothers. You're so used to not having to carry bottles or anything around with you that you just get lazy"

My Mil is convinced there'S no point bfeeding until your milk comes in - "of course he's not getting anything" again and again and again

In a heat wave when all adults had a cold drink constantly in their hand my DM (constantly taking little sips of water) "she can't be hungry again!" over and over again - she might be thirsty though just like you are it's boiling why shouldn't she have a drink when you're having one - I thought but did not say

And of course at 2 months and 4 months and practically all the time - he/she can't be getting enough surely it's time for proper food (despite the fact that all my babies looked like little Buddhas they were so chubby)-ARRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!

OK rant over but it really got to me sometimes

"You're embarassing me, yourself and everyone around you" - MIL - the only person I've ever had grief from. I did get a "are you feeding him again" from a friend but he's had no experience of anything other than FF to routine so I forgave him.

"But I got crap comments about formula feeding "Oh, aren't you feeding her yourself? I never had any problems." (from MIL) "She's very young to be drinking that." and "Lucky I was very determined about bF. I think only the strong survive." (from other mothers who had no idea I spent half the time in tears trying to get it right and the rest of the time attached to a huge electric pump squeezing out all the milk I could for her)."

:( :( :(

Shocking :(

One that I really dint understand is how on earth bf a boy is meant to make them gay. It just doesn't even make any sense.

Who are you doing it for him or yourself?????wtf