Annoying things people say about BFing

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DS2 is 4 weeks old & in-laws have just been here for the weekend. Here's just two of the annoying things they said:

-'he can't be hungry again!' (yes he can, he's only 4 weeks old!)
-'ooo hasn't he got a temper!' (when DS2 crying because hungry-I practically had to force them to hand him over for a feed!)

Anyone else have any delightful comments to share?!

from my cleaner...
Im sitting on the sofa BFing my 7 week old in the same place i always sit
cleaner "shall i close the curtains"
me "no why"
cleaner "someone might see in" (we live in a small culdesac / dead end)
me "and so what id they do?"
cleaner "they might see you feeding"
Me 'goes off on one' along the lines of... "and so what if they DO see me, Im feeding my baby, if someone wants to watch me feed my baby then there are very welcome, they can WATCH AND LEARN how babies are supposed to be fed"
cleaner "you really dont care [about (non existant) people seeing me feed] do you?
me: NO!!!!

also our lounge window is up high (our cellar is at ground level ish) so you would have to be either a giant OR live in the house opposite to see anything anyway

From sil: "so when are u giving up so we can have a good night out?".

..... So I have to GIVEUP to go out for a few hours

"stick a bottle in his mouth" - from my mother!!!! ( serious issues- enough said)

Posted too soon-
At gp surgery awaiting ds vaccine and our name was called but I happened to be bf..
Me: " just feeding- can u call us next?"
Gp: " oh- sorry- would u like to go to a private room?"

Erm.... much!!

I did get "I think you're wonderful for feeding him yourself" today from DH. Soppy git!

Wow, people are so incredibly rude! I will need to give my family and in laws some as they have been very supportive which really helped when getting started. Kudos to all for rising above such ignorance.

As well as many of the above comments, every time we visited DH's parents, I would get taken aside and MIL would whisper "Is she off the breast yet?". Maybe she needed to know whether I would be doing anything embarrassing over the tea and biscuits.

DS2 is 11 weeks and I have been waiting for the why are you not feeding him solids yet that I had daily with DS1. So it started last week.

My MIL doesn't actually speak to me directly but says things to DS's.

Day 1 - DS2 crying because it was just that time of night (5-6pm) and bad mummy had put him in bouncy chair to make tea
MIL To DS2 "Are you needing a bowl of porridge?"

Day 2 - When DS2 had been up during the night because both him and DS1 have the cold "Is that him getting hungrier?"

Day 3 -
MIL : "When will he get solids?"
me : "4 months"
MIL to DS2 "It won't be that long now"

DS2 was 10lb5oz when he was born and when he was weighed at 9 weeks he was 15lb8oz so not starving. And last night slept from 7.30pm to 5.30am had a feed then slept until 8.30am when I had to lift him to take DS1 to Preschool

When DS1 self weaned earlier that I had planned at 6 months MIL said "About time"

Sorry stealth MIL rant but hopefully won't get flamed if I hide here!

Are you still feeding him? (when DS was about 7 months) I thought you only had to do it for the first two weeks or so.......

Although to be fair, it was from the daughter of a work colleague, and she's only 15. All the adults who know me have long since given up commenting. The Politics of BF, the Ann Sinnott book on BF Older Children, and this site have made me a formidable opponent.

I'm that your dc slept from 7.30-5.30!!! Jealous much!!!! My 20 week old not even close to that!!

I spend most of my days on sofa with DS2 clamped to my boobs and DS1 3.4 wrecking the house but they both sleep at night and at least I have an excuse as to why the house looks like a bomb has hit it.

He can't be hungry again!
You can't just keep feeding him!
(he was days old at the time)

He'll never sleep through if you breastfeed him (complete rubbish, he is/ was the best sleeper ever)

You'll never make enough to feed him (if I'm big enough to get pregnant and grow a 8.5lbs baby, I'm big enough to feed him!)

Bottle feeding is better because then you know they're getting enough

I was constantly asked 'Are you sure he is getting enough?' when DS was first born.
My brothers attitude to BF is shocking as his DP is completely against it, he told me last week that when his DS is born he 'won't be fed any of that crap'

So pleased this thread is here. We visited my best friend this weekend who has dd 3mo and ds 3years, my dd is 22 months, didn't sleep well all weekend and was inpsired by the 3mo to feed a lot!

dh isn't comfortable with extended feeding but ultimately recognises that it is my decision and I am trying to gradually cut down as we are ttc. Friend took it upon herself to decide that I should stop and said the following over two days.

she doesn't sleep because you breastfeed.
breastfeeding is making you tired (I have insommnia)
she is in control of you and runs rings around you
she doesn't eat as she is full of milk (we were in a park cafe, she wanted to play on the swings so wouldn't sit down)
children need boundaries and you need to say no.

I was so cross by the time we went home. Sorry for the rant.

My FIL seems to have in his head that BFing is something us poor women have to suffer until we 'manage to get them on a bottle'. Since DD was a week old he's been looking at me sympathetically saying "Have you still not managed to get her onto a bottle then?" He must think I'm USELESS - DD is 8 months old . He's not being rude, I think he;s genuinely concerned for me, poor silly man.

On a lovelier note though, when I was crying wioth exhaustion yesterday (DD feeds between 4 and 8 times a night - reverse cycling, I work 4 days), DH told me how wonderful he thinks I am, having carried her for 9 rather difficult months and fed her for 8.

Hate the use of the word 'snacking', it has such bad connotations (snacking = you can't control your appetite, you're greedy etc).

Also was told 'it's titillating for the woman, you know!' by a female relative. I think my nipples were actually bleeding at the time But anyway that's a rarity I hope.

'it's titillating for the woman, you know!' - that makes me feel a bit ill if that's true for anyone.