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Annoying things people say about BFing

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RunJHC · 13/11/2011 15:25

DS2 is 4 weeks old & in-laws have just been here for the weekend. Here's just two of the annoying things they said:

-'he can't be hungry again!' (yes he can, he's only 4 weeks old!)
-'ooo hasn't he got a temper!' (when DS2 crying because hungry-I practically had to force them to hand him over for a feed!)

Anyone else have any delightful comments to share?!

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AnaisB · 13/11/2011 20:01

From my gran the first time she met DD. Oh, are you feeding her again? Probably your milk is no good.

Graciescotland · 13/11/2011 20:05

Lovebeingafireworkthat is a bit I got your spoiling that boy he'll have to marry a woman with enormous breasts or he'll never be happy

spongebunnyfatpants · 13/11/2011 20:15

I'm pleased I had a boy, I don't think I could have breast fed a girl.
From one of the women in my anti natal class, whom I bumped into a few weeks after we'd given birth.

teenagerswhodhavethem · 13/11/2011 20:15

gracie, that did make me laugh, DS is 3.8 and he is absolutely boob obsessed, he rarely feeds now, just the occassional nuzzle if he is feeling a bit jealous when DD is feeding, but he loves them, he likes to sleep on them, he tells me they smell nice!!!

stegasaurus · 13/11/2011 20:25

I told MIL that I had taken EBF DD to be weighed when she was a few months old. WWeight gain was good, going up the centiles. MIL's response: "Didn't they tell you to give her some formula?"

MIL when DD was about 6 weeks old: "When are you going to stop breastfeeding so she can stay the night here?" DD is now 6 months, still not stopped breastfeeding and I still don't want her to stay the night anywhere without me.

stegasaurus · 13/11/2011 20:31

From my HV a couple of weeks ago: "are you still breastfeeding?" I said that I was but would probably have to stop soon as I will be going back to work. Rather than offer advice on how to combine work and breastfeeding (won't work with my job but she wasn't to know that), she said "and she will have teeth soon and you won't want to breastfeed her then." It's a good thing that I read this forum and know that it is possible to still breastfeed babies with teeth.

Queenkong · 13/11/2011 20:34

Several people - "When are you going to stop BF?"
Me (diplomatic) - "Erm, not really sure. He's 6 months soon so will start solids then and take it from there..."
Them - "Oh right. As long as you're not like so-and-so. They still BF their 1/2/3 year old."
Me - "Ummm..." (fully intend to BF until DS self-weans.

Booboostoo · 13/11/2011 20:56

"You're feeding her again?! She's using your breast as a dummy!"

sad to say this came from my mum who is proud to have practiced controlled crying from day 1

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 20:58

'ugh thats gross'

'good job you don't have boys, that would be weird'

'it can't be good for her anymore' (7 months)

good job noone knows she still has the odd feed

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 21:01

I never thought that I would feel so 'wrong' in other peoples eyes for allowing gecko to swell wean
I just hide it now, ain't worth the hassle

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 21:01

swell wean???????

I'm blaming it on autocorrect

NorkyNamechanger · 13/11/2011 21:09

I was recently in a meeting with some very senior members of staff, who have responsibility for children's well being, breastfeeding, obesity...
During the meeting, as they were discussing uptake of bf in the local area a comment was made about those weird people who bf until their children are three. They all fell about laughing and making urgh noises.
I sat there, not impressed, but the most junior member by far. And I am feeding a 2yo and just finished feeding a 4yo. Fuckwits.

pearlgirl · 13/11/2011 21:10

Lots of "he can't be hungry again"s with 6 day old ds4 - he could be and he was. MIL's latest is that bf past 18 months will give a baby a sweet tooth and make them obese in later life.

NorkyNamechanger · 13/11/2011 21:11

i'm a large white mammal which hides its nose when it hunts in the snow btw

HerdOfTinyElephants · 13/11/2011 21:40

DD1 (3.5) did tell me very seriously today that DD2 (8 months) didn't need milk any more. But I suspect she has an ulterior motive...

spartafc · 13/11/2011 21:55

I've had:
'it's better to ff because you can see how much they're getting' - or, of course, I could just feed him till he's finished and not worry about how many millilitres he's had!
'once they can eat solids there's really no need for all this' - interestingly, apparently fluids actually are quite important, so medical research has shown anyway . My DSis (the font of all this wonderful knowledge) did let her kids drink cows' milk once they could eat solids, but, as we all know, that's different and that's ok.
'ew, he's got teeth. That must hurt.' Nope, not one bit.
And the old classic 'past 6 months you're not really doing it for the baby, you're doing it for yourself'. Which is true, I am doing it for myself because I want to be sure I've done the absolute best I can for my child. I have asked my DSis how her research findings differ from those of the WHO, but she wasn't really able to answer that.

teenagerswhodhavethem · 13/11/2011 22:03

When the HV found out my plans were to tandem feed she tried to pressure us to put ds in nursery as it would be too much for me

Rosemallow · 13/11/2011 22:28

You're really selfish BFing DD/DS, when is my son/am I going to get a chance to feed them? (this from ex P's mum who, when I gave her a bottle of expressed milk to feed DD couldn't be bothered and got bored after 2 minutes)

'Good. He'll be able to have follow on milk soon.' (DS is 9 months old)

'I think you just like showing everyone your boobs' (wtf?!?)

The usual 'you're not still feeding her/him, are you?'

'DD is a bad sleeper because of BF' (Erm, no. DS is also BF and has slept through since he was a week old)

'you're spoiling those babies, feeding them when they want' (how can this make any sense, at all?!?)

And a couple of non-BF ones from the same person:

'my son (ex P) was eating steak at 4 months old' (that'll explain why he's overweight then)

'my son was able to cook himself burger and chips under the grill at the age of 4. His baby sitter used to let him do it' (ex P has confirmed this to be true. One of his earliest memories. So much wrong with it, I've no idea where to start)

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 22:49

its taken me till now to work out who you are
I knew the mammal, I knew I knew you (overuse of that word)

but for the life of me I could not get that other word that I KNEW (there it is again) was there

was such a relief when I remembered it
dh was a leetle perplexed when I suddenly shouted it

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 22:51

ooops I meant dp

LoveBeingAFirework · 13/11/2011 22:57

TrinityRhino think it's best if you give up now

TrinityRhino · 13/11/2011 23:02

so true

NorkyNamechanger · 13/11/2011 23:02

Which word do I overuse? Is it fuckwits? :o

NorkyNamechanger · 13/11/2011 23:06

Oh I get it now sorry! I wish there was something I could do before I leave about this.

Homeandaway · 13/11/2011 23:10

When are you going to stop feeding him? When he is 30? Erm he is currently 3 months old......

Same person told me the reason he is not sleeping through the night is because I am STILL breastfeeding. In fact a lot of people have said this.

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