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Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

Infant feeding

Anyone else planning to bottle feed (don't shoot me please)

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camerafairy · 04/07/2011 17:59

Anyone else planning to bottle feed and what are your reasons? Mine are because I have to work very quickly after the birth as I have my very busy own business and need my mum and partner to be able to share feeds with me. I will not be breastfeeding at all, please don't come on here to shout at me! It doesn't mean i'm putting my business before my baby

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LittleMissFlustered · 04/07/2011 19:07

I'm being open to the fact that formula might have to be an option for me this time around, as am discussing new diagnosis for a pre-existing condition and there's a chance I may need to take medication that's not overly good to share.

Whatever you do, do so with a clear conscience. The shouty types in each camp have way too much time on their hands if all they can do is belittle the feeding choices of others:)

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 19:09

yeah i know, all things i have considered, i'm just concerned my back ups aren't as good as me (without sounding big headed) its really scary being self employed and due any day, people complain so easily, i knew it'd be a risk when i discovered i was pregnant but the only other option to ensure no problems was an abortion - but that wasn't something i wanted to do...

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 19:13

Congratulations on your pregnancy camerafairy.
No judging from me. I chose not to BF both my children. You make an informed decision it is totally your choice.

GreenTeapot · 04/07/2011 19:15

Can I just say that it isn't always really hard at first - it can be, but some find it really easy too. You don't know which camp you'll fall into until you try. If you have the opportunity to give your baby even a tiny bit of breastmilk it is a great start for them. Good luck :)

ILovePonyo · 04/07/2011 19:16

If things are really bad after you've had baby you can get your back ups in, otherwise hope things go well for you if you end up working.

(as a side note may I recommend swaddling, worked v well for us. As a relatively new mum myself that is the only bit of advice I have )

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 19:20

THANK YOU :) your comments are v much appreciated. i'm due in 8 days and i'm SCARED!

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TheRealMBJ · 04/07/2011 19:26

in that case you may want to post on here. Apparently they are lovely ladies and you'll be less likely to be 'shouted' at.

TheRealMBJ · 04/07/2011 19:28

Oops, sorry . Don't know what happened there.

coldcomfortHeart · 04/07/2011 19:36

'the kind of exhaustion and stress BF and working as i do would involve'

BF is not always stressful and exhausting! TBH that's quite a negative view. I really don't think anyone in real life or on here will shout at you, if you have made your decision based on all the information.

But like others have said, you could bf for the first few days, or the first day, or even just the first feed. Baby is unlikely to refuse a bottle after just a short time of bf.

Best of luck. It is a bit scary, but it'll be ok.

DialMforMummy · 04/07/2011 19:40

I FFed my LO. No regrets whatsoever. I found it dead practical and the added bonus was that I was not the only one who could feed him. It also meant that my first moments with him were not stressful as they can be for some people who bf.
Some people might make you feel bad about it. Ignore them.
Be aware that your boobs will be very sore and leaky for a few days while the milk supply goes down.
Enjoy your time with your new baby!

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 19:45

thanks CCH, tbh i'm going by experiences as told to me, that i'll be up all night, no one else can help and then get up and be on my feeet watching every moment for ten hours the next day, its more about the demands of the job than the BF, i just couldn't get up 2/3/4 times in the night to feed when have to shoot the next day, sometimes i have to get up at 6 and travel for hours and not be back til the early hours, it'd wipe me out and it wouldn't be beneficial for the little one to have me so exhausted and grumpy, i'm very lucky i have such a supportive mum even tho she is very pro BF she understands why i can't - but i will definitely consider the first 24 hours, and had considered expressing, its not that i'm anti BF or haven't thought about it a lot, its just very difficult with my job being as demanding as it is I need all the help I can get and if mum and OH can share the feeds, hopefully between us we will have a happy little boy who is well nourished, loved and happy

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camerafairy · 04/07/2011 19:47

erm, yes, what happens to your boobs after birth if you don't BF? My mum told me they might get engorged.. when they shrink, what happens? I know they won't stay this big, do they sag? Just curious...

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sprinkles77 · 04/07/2011 19:49

I agree with a previous poster... it's worth attempting to BF in hospital, just because it gets the MWs off your back, and then you won't have to faff with sterilising. Hopefully you won't be in that long, and then you can switch to FF when you get home. I FF from the start and no one made me feel bad about it. My boobs were not that sore and barely leaked at all. Do what every makes you feel happiest... happy mummies go a long way to making happy babies.

BoojaBooja · 04/07/2011 19:53

You're considering expressing, which I think is a good thing. Perhaps this will work out, so you won't need to use formula.

wigglesrock · 04/07/2011 19:53

When your milk comes in (after 3-4 days), your boobs will leak a little and will be sore. Take some painkillers, use breastpads, don't touch them!!, even in the shower. The soreness will go after a few days. My boobs sagged but am putting that down to old age!!

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 19:58

thank you, v helpful

wiggles - i'm 29, is that old? I have no idea if my boobs will sag but they have gone up a fair few sizes so i am a bit scared they are going to sag when they go back down again...

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ILovePonyo · 04/07/2011 20:00

Booja your post is unhelpful, there's always one who will drop in a little dig, camera ignore.

I found my boobs are about the same as before camera, maybe a bit saggier but not much, I'm 30 and first baby - who knows if I decide to have more

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 20:02

thanks Ponyo, you're cool :o

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ILovePonyo · 04/07/2011 20:04

wigglesrock · 04/07/2011 20:04

I'm 37, no you're very, very young I'm blaming the first two dds!!

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 20:10

37 isn't old, my OH is 38 and I count him as 'my age' :)

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camerafairy · 04/07/2011 20:14

sorry to be thick but i'm not familiar with the abbreviations what does DD etc mean, i'm guessing babies/children but i'm not sure what each abbreviation means..

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wigglesrock · 04/07/2011 20:15

darling (!!) daughters. I have 3 girls.

camerafairy · 04/07/2011 20:17

ah, so DH is... darling husband...? and baby boy is...? DS?? 3 girls, how lovely! MY OH has 2 boys so I was pretty sure ours would be a boy too

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Secondtimelucky · 04/07/2011 20:27

You've got it!

Back to your original question about night feeds - will you have the ability to be in a separate room with someone else sleeping in with and feeding the baby? If you do, great. If not, you might find that breastfeeding is less disturbing than being woken by someone else dealing with a crying baby - there's a longer time lag with bottle feeding and you don't have the hormones to put you back to sleep. I'm not knocking your decision at all - you absolutely must do what's right for you and your family. But I think it's easy to overestimate how well you will sleep if you're not actually well out of the way.

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