Is there a breastfeeding while pregnant thread already?

[MummyBerryJuice]

If not would anyone like to join me?

Experienced and first time feeding while pregnant mums welcome. I'm almost 11 weeks with DC2 and am still feeding DS (15 months). We are currently working at night weaning him (although he is incredibly persistent) and he still feeds 3/4/5 time per day, although he is starting to eat more solids.

I don't know anyone in RL who has fed whilst pregnant or tandemed and it would be great to be able to share frustrations etc with others.

So please come and join me, or point me in the direction of the right thread

KD the right person makes a massive difference. I initially had a twonk registrar when discussing delivery who got me really upset and didn't feel like it a 2 way discussion , him more dictating. Then I saw a nice consultant lady and the VBAC MWs and even though I'm doing exactly what he said, I feel in the right head space about it. I think if I had gone into labour in that more scared state I'll be more likely to have similar trauma to as before

Kinds like a good compromise Penguin. I agree, it is all about feeling listened to, once one is confident that the hcp is hearing one, one is more likely to listen to their pov too.

I did go back to bed loopy. DH took DS as seven, I slept in the 9:30 and am doing some jobs around the house, while they have gone for a walk. They will probably end up at MIL's house but I'm not complaining as it has been a difficult few days.

Loopy, I'm so glad things are going well for you, that's great. :)

Ha, asking me for advice is like the blind leading the blind I just muddle along and put aside some money each week to pay for their therapy when they're older

You are so right about being used to lack of sleep, DD1 never slept through so there's was no great shock for us. Actually DD2 sleeps better most nights. DD1 has started to night-wean herself I think (famous last words). She still wakes up a lot and asks to be BF but if I'm feeding DD2 then I ask if she can lie down and wait her turn because I'm comfy and can't be arsed to feed both at once. Most times she is fine with this, lies down and goes back off to sleep.

I'm not organised enough for each to have a side, I just give whichever one wants it whichever side is fullest.

I've started a tandem thread here so we're easy to find in case any newbies crop up.

Hi all

Loopy it is so good to read your post "from the other side". Though ds is too young to compromise really so our challenges will be different me thinks.

Sui i too know nowt about it, but really hope you aren't in too much pain.

Fingers crossed for you for tuesday kd. Can you make a list of questions? I'm a bit too keen on lists as a crutch. We are generally sleeping much better thank you.

Mbj i am all about going back to bed. My rule is that if the world service is on when we get up i go back to bed. If the today programme has started i stay up. Farming today is no mans land and can go either way.
The unit sounds lovely! Esp partners staying.
It must have been distressing for you too, to see your ds so upset. I don't blame you for feeding him.

Penguin i'm so glad you have a plan that works for you. Have you thought about waiting for the urge to push? Rather than forcefull/valsalva pushing when fully dilated? Don't know if it's relevant but there is some info on it in "Birthing from within". I can't believe the poor interpersonal skills of some people in the caring professions.

Has taken years to write this on phone! Despite my marching up and down hills today nothing much is happening. Have decorated my bump with henna though which is fun. Ds's reaction was priceless! Ds was born at 40+5 so hopeing it won't be to long now. [impatient emoticon]

Right, off to check out the the tandem thread, cheers eaurouge

Hello everybody.

Good to hear from you loopy . it sounds like all's going well (or as well as it can do with a baby and a toddler!).

I'm really pleased you got to talk to somebody more personable penguin . I hope the vbac goes well. I think a large part of my problem with this pregnancy is that I don't think I'll be able to convince myself that I'm physically capable of birthing a baby vaginally. I think that psychological barrier will be a big issue. Of course I'll wait and see what the doc says on Tuesday. I agree with what moon says about considering waiting for the urge to push. With DD it was all such a panic, so early and I'd not been to antenatal classes, didn't know what was happening etc and one of the worst things for me was people telling me to push and then telling me I was pushing wrongly (needed my chin down on my chest). Obviously we were a bit different because there was a medical requirement to get DD out as quickly as poss, but I've since done some reading and I think it would have been a far more calm and potentially mode successful birth if I'd been allowed to get off the bed, feet out of stirrups (!!) and just let my body take the lead.

Well, my latest is that my morning sickness seems to have come back with vengeance. I woke at 7am in a cold sweat and have been retching up bile ever since. Despite taking one of my anti sick ess tablets. I had hoped that it had gone away forever and certainly didn't expect it to return at 11 weeks or should that be

I hope I'm slightly better by Tuesday as at the moment I'd struggle to achieve a full bladder since I can't even keep water down !

Hope everybody gets lots of sleep and that moon's bracing walks soon pay off!

still nowt.

Sorry you are kd. If you wanted to work on your birthing fears i'd really recommend that "birthing from within" book. There are drawing/doodleing exercises to work through ishoos. Also the natal hypnotherapy cd contains loads of stuff about safe manageable birth, baby gliding out etc. I find the phrases popping in to my head now!

Do they have VBAC MWs where you are? I think here people are referred to them quite early on in the pregnancy. Although mine isn't a VBAC, she was excellent at understanding my worries, wording them better than me and also validating my feelings, not dismissing them with a fact.

I think DS is dropping his daytime nap . He's had only 30 minutes for the last 3 days.

I'm not ready and tbh, I'm not entirely sure that he is either.

Having been thoroughly poked into posting from my completely obvious and not at all subtle thread about my ahem "friend"

Haven't announced to general public yet, nor half of family (oops) so am hoping nobody I know is reading this thread (or indeed, if they are, why they've not told me they're pregnant and breastfeeding!)

Anyway, waffle waffle... 5 weeks preggers. BFing DD who will be 2 as of Nov 14th. She's mostly down to 1 feed a day now (of her own accord - decided she preferred a yoghurt instead of her post-nursery feed, and suddenly stopped waking in the night too, thank the bloody lord) so am basically assuming she will wean at some point during the pregnancy. Not sure how I feel. On one hand we've had mostly painful feeds since about 13mo because of a lip tie pushing her teeth into my boob, but on the other hand I feel like "hey, I've beaten that, why give up now?!" so basically taking each day as it comes.

Only other major anxiety is the possibility of hyperemesis. Suffered with first pregnancy (twins lost at 8w, MMC) and with DD (all the way through - lost ~40lbs) so am expecting once I hit 6w it will come back. I have no idea how the bloomin' hell I'm supposed to cope with that, work, and a toddler.

So there we go.

PS. if anyone asks, this story was posted entirely by 'my friend' ;)

Oh also - currently co-sleeping and would like that to continue. Anyone co-sleeping whilst pregnant have any tips for when bump appears? Am thinking kicks to crotch / etc won't be so cute when I'm huge... (long way to go yet)

Hi jemjabella
nice to see you over here.

I really hope your hyperemesis doesn't rear it's head. I've not had anything approaching hyperemesis but I have had to go to doctor and get tablets to stop me being sick as I go through periods of not even being able to keep water down. I've twice had to haul dd off me mid feed and run to throw up which was quite upsetting for her. But I thought that was better than vomiting all over her!

So I have my scan and antenatal clinic tomorrow. I have made a list of questions/thoughts. I am actually quite nervous about the whole thing. This pregnancy feels so different to when I was pg with DD. I'm more anxious than excited.

Hi jem and congratulations

We are a very friendly bunch and both you and your 'friend' are very welcome indeed.

We still co-sleep for the majority of the night. DS goes in between DH and me and although he prefers to have me face to face, I do get away with having my back to him most of the night now. He is a pretty bad kicker, but I instinctively protect my bump. I think.

38weeks tomorrow.

Good luck for tomorrow KD.

I know MBJ poppet hasn't been on for a while to update us. I'd expect baby poppet is still in hospital and poppet is probably run ragged trying to balance it all. I remember how all encompassing it was with DD, just trying to keep the house running while spending as much time as possible at the hospital and of course dealing with the dreaded expressing sessions. It must be so much worse for her with a toddler to care for.

We don't co-sleep all the time, but I have never had a problem. Not even had a moment of 'how should we do this then?'

Hi everybody, sorry for the long absence: Internet has become unreliable.

Lots of exciting news- which I cannot re-read as, I have now realised, I have picked the wrong page to add a message...

Thank you to those who asked about the SPD: yes, mobility was affected last time: could not sit more than 30 mins in a row and on some days I could not walk to the gate of our development (50mt from our front door). Am dreading the thought of not being able to go out again, ESP. As I hate driving (which, in any event, made the SPD worse).

penguin: your clinical plan sounds very interesting and, in a way, calming do you feel better after it? I am seeing the midwife tomorrow and hope to get sby sympathetic: it would be good not to be kept awake by that as well as th SPD...

jem: welcome and congrats to your friend ;-)

congrats to jemja and friend. we're still cosleeping with no probs. Bar general massiveness making it a bit awkward at times. Eg, getting up to wee without setting a matteres tsunami in motion.

Mbj, i hope this is just a phase...i live in fear of ds dropping his nap.

Penguin that's really interesting about your mw describing your fears so well. I guess she has a "bank" of other women's experiences to draw on. Which shows you are not alone. I'm glad you've found such a good one, tis a lottery.

Sui good luck for mw tom. Hope they are able to help with your pain.

And am thinking of you with crossed fingers kd.

Have been having some nice intense tightenings last night and atm. Hopefully early doors... With ds this went on for days and he would have been born on this weds iyswim.

Ooh! Exciting stuff moon

Why are you up so early?

DS is awake and has had me up since 4:30 and if the past few days are anything to go by we won't even be able to nap together.

Good to head from you Sui hope the midwife goes well. And I hope your SPD doesn't come back as badly as you had it before. That sounds awful.

Exciting news moon fingers crossed you will have baby news soon.

How old is your ds MBJ I think he's quite young to be dropping his nap isn't he? Fingers crossed it's just a phase. DD at the moment would sleep fir hours in her buggy if I let her but I need to wake her after about 90 mins or else she just won't sleep at night.

Well, DD woke me at 5am. Clearly wanted a feed so I fed her, but that really didn't satisfy her so I went and got a cup of milk and she drank that and seems to have settled back to sleep. I struggled to get to sleep last night and am doing so again now, I think just nerves about today's appointment.

On the feeding front I think that unfortunately I may be leaving you all sooner rather than later. DH thinks I should wean, I'll see what the doctors say. But since she doesn't seem to be getting much and is settling with a cup of milk, I may start trying that in the next few weeks instead of a feed. I think I would have been gently encouraging her to wean at two ish anyway, which is when the baby will be due. It's sad though to think about the end of our BFing relationship.

He's 21 months old. According to my mother though, neither my brother nor I slept during the daytime after our first birthdays (but then we did sleep at night)

was up twinging but has subsided now. Dh has gone to work and ds and i are off to meet friends and have lunch.

Hope you got some more rest mbj.

Are you happy with your dh's reasons for weaning kd? Or is it more that till two was the original plan?

KD you say what DH and GP opinions but what about your own.

FWIW me and DD weaned around 17 (?) weeks and I'm still here It just kinda happened, I think DD had got used to hardly any milk so was not waking up just for hunger, a few sucks and she would often be off again. I was dreading the night feeds due to the pain. Me and DH agreed that we would try and settle her first and feed if that didn't work. Well apart from one time, it always worked. She would wake early around 5am, demolish a large bowl of porridge and then go back off. After about 3 weeks she then started to wake later. Didn't sleep through for another few months though, so night weaning is not the magic cure that people like to think it is. Even now 50:50 is probably a optimistic ratio.

moon should be this week though [hopeful] what's your EDD, mine is 15th but am guessing it will be this weekend.

The race is on my EDD is the 18th but I'm definitely feeling things happen in my pelvis. I'm guessing before next Tuesday. But please not on Friday when DH is in Edinburgh.

you see I have signs whatsoever. Have just decided it will be this weekend . I think DD is keeping me too busy