Is there a breastfeeding while pregnant thread already?

[MummyBerryJuice]

If not would anyone like to join me?

Experienced and first time feeding while pregnant mums welcome. I'm almost 11 weeks with DC2 and am still feeding DS (15 months). We are currently working at night weaning him (although he is incredibly persistent) and he still feeds 3/4/5 time per day, although he is starting to eat more solids.

I don't know anyone in RL who has fed whilst pregnant or tandemed and it would be great to be able to share frustrations etc with others.

So please come and join me, or point me in the direction of the right thread

Thanks for trying Penguin .

The thing is that we've been trying for almost 5 weeks now and although there is some improvement in his sleep (in that he sleeps for longer periods) I don't feel like I'm getting anymore sleep really. Part of the problem is that he caught a nasty bug a week-and-a-half ago and so I was feeding him more frequently again at night and sleeping next to him for comfort.

DH is going away for a stag this weekend but I think that the following weekend we will repeat what we did when we started this and I will stay away during the night and leave the 2 of them to it.

I feel so frustrated with him but then he looks up at me with his big, brown, innocent and accepting eyes and my heart melts (and I feel guilty ). Oh well I suppose it comes with the territory

MBJ, I am in the same position as you, 7 weeks pg, awful nausea, and DD 15m wants to feed all night long.....like you, I can't do the crying thing and am just hoping she will grow out of it. She always seems to have something going on...teething, bad cold, nasty bug, so is awake a lot at night.

I've slept in the spare room a couple of nights and she has managed with DH and dummy though she hasn't been happy about it and I just feel guilty and end up going through about 4am.

Feel quite pressured to get her night weaned at least for now...makes me sad in a way. Don't have any amazing advice I'm afraid, just sympathy and solidarity!

Hi youcanget (). I don't think there is much to be done. Sigh . My MIL is driving me insane too. We live in the same village and my family are abroad (I'm a Saffa) so we spend a lot of time with them and although she can be very helpful a lot of it really, really grates....

She just HAS to be in charge of everything, to the point where, after having been told not to she still went out and did shopping for DH for the weekend and baked cupcakes for the stags and their friends 'because I would go and do the cooking for them if it weren't the Master's this weekend' Nutter.

Is it just my hormones that is making her extra irritating?

Sorry about the moan-fest. It really helps to get it off my chest.

Hi all, can I join?
I'm about 7-8 weeks and still BFing DS aged 19 months. He tends to feed morning, naptime and bedtime. We nightweaned him over xmas using the Jay Gordon method and it worked very gently and very well for us. No crying from DS, perhaps becaue my hubby used to do some of the night wakings as DS was such an awful sleeper we used to take turns to comfort him. I too couldn't bear the idea of CIO so I have much sympathy for those facing that dilemma. Took a week of my DH settling him, then another month of occasional wakes and DS appears to have cracked it. Nightweaning also triggered my cycle back from beyond the grave, and as we appear to have caught the first egg, here we go again!
I started reading the Adventures book then had a bleed so thought I was tempting fate by reading it too early, so it's currently languishing under teh bed til I'm feeling less superstitious.
My nipples are absolute agony at the moment, I remember they were with my first pregnancy but that was without a very territorial toddler on the scene. The first latch on of the day, and freeing them from a clamped mouth once he's fallen asleep are so unbelievably painful I see stars! I think my supply may be waning too as his feeds are getting longer and he's more agitated during his bedtime feed. The only solution appears to be no nap, so he's exhausted come bedtime, but that isn't really fair. And tbh right now I need his nap as much as he does.

Welcome Poppet.

DD has always been a quick feeder and never one to hang around for comfort (was the flip side of having a really really fussy eater). Also I wouldn't have survived work is she had been like that.

You know you have nothing to feel guilty about and these are all part of mother natures quirks and plans

That sounds like a line crossing MIL, go ahead an be irritated and blame any outbursts on the hormomes.

I'm glad that there are a few of us and all similar gestation's as well :)

hi every one (esp youcanget and poppet!)

Mbj that really does sound rough. Like penguine i feel very lucky. I am sending you a wet fish with which to slap your mil. What an irritating woman. She clearly needs to get a life.

Hope you are feeling ok now poppet. Early pg can be a scary time.

ooooo wet fish, I suppose I can spare some of those

Arf!

You have made me smile

Hi, I fed all through my pregnancy and tandem fed for 5 months (and I'm a doctor too!).
I did find that I really wanted my dd (then aged 2) to stop feeding by the end of the pregnancy but felt it was cruel to stop her with a new arrival.
I tandem fed from birth, post section, one on each boob. The midwives were clearly horrified but no one said a word. I have to say not one health professional supported tandem feeding and I actively tried to ensure my hv did not find out.
However, the 2 yr old demanding 'booby' gave it away and i was advised to stop as it was too much with a new born.
I have to say it wasn't tiring and actually made life easier as I could sit down to bf and not have to worry about what dd was up to. It also ensured I got a rest regularly when all 3 of us cuddled up together.
I'm still feeding ds 15 months on but dd (now 3.5) has stopped. We do all co sleep though (don't tell my hv though!!)
Good luck

Great thread. Just found out I'm (sort of sccidentally) pregnant, gulp, maybe 7 weeks, with DD1 now 14 months and still loving the boob. Did a test because BF had got so PAINFUL. It really is agonising for the first couple of minutes, then it settles down. But it's enough to make me really put off feeds. Did others who find/found it painful find it settled after a while?
Luckily, DD started sleeping thru the night about a month ago. Unluckily, this corresponded with such a sore back that I've not been sleeping anyway, sigh. Usually get around five hours sleep these days.
So just wanted to share my night feeding experiences in case it helps. DD was waking at least two times for feeding until recently, sometimes four. I didn't need to wean her off that though - just needed to get her to learn to go to sleep by herself. Once we cracked that, she just suddenly stopped waking up at night. I was gob-smacked. The way we did it was with pick up put down, as I really did not want to leave her to cry. After a while of that though, noticed the technique was upsetting her rather than calming her, and noticing too that she wasn't really upset, just annoyed (loudly crying but not actually distressed, if you know what I mean), we just left her to cry for maybe 3 minutes and she went to sleep. And slept RIGHT THRU. YAY YAY YAY! Now every night I do PUPD twice or three times max, then leave her to cry. Never cries more than a few minutes and if I hear her getting distressed I go straight in and repeat. On the odd occasion she wakes in the night, I don't feed her but just do the same thing again - and she's totally fine with it. once again, I'm gobsmacked. I do hate hearing her cry every evening though. But on the other hand, she is sleeping much better so it's got to be better for her in the long run.
Meanwhile, everyone telling me I must stop BF now so that she has 'lost the memory' by the time the next one comes. Nice to hear there are others out there not doing that - though if the pain keeps up I may need to think about it seriously. And is it not really draining on the body?
Oh dear sorry for incredibly long ramble. Am a bit freaked TBH!

PS Poppet45, that sounds tough! We finally managed to get rid of the nap feed recently - actually, after I went back to work she had no choice! She goes down for her nap in her pram now. DH says usually around a five minute walk is enough. Is that a possibility, rather than feeding to sleep?

duracel i'm about 15wks now (struggling to remember exactly ever since it changed after mw dating scan must work it out again!) and the pain has definatly subsided.

Ds has slept quite well last couple of nights...between two and four feeds/snacks. Better than him getting up for hours and requesting bread/scones/grapes etc which is what happened twice last week . We've been encouraging high calory grazing in the evenings to avoid this and it seems to be working. Though i am all out of snack ideas...it's never ending!

Hope you are all well. Except mbj's awful mil who i hope has a slightly annoying itch she can't get at. Or sumat.

Hi all!

Well... we aren't sleeping at all it seems but at least it is sunny and warm so life seems less dire . Had a great meet with my NCT group this afternoon, and DS is currently asleep in the car. (Safely in the shade with the widows open on our own, private drive. The front door is also open so i can hear him - just in case one of you starts to think I'm neglectful!), and I'm MNing and eating pickled onions. Yum

My boos are also a lot less sore now, duracell, I just cannot abide the feeling of him feeding at night. Makes my skin crawl. Oh well, such is life.

I am looking forward to my 12 week scan next Tuesday and am hopefully going to do some shopping for new maternity clothes this weekend.

Haven't spoken to MIL all day, but feel I must qualify on here that she really is VERY, VERY lovely and super helpful. I just suppose that as I lived very far away from my own mum since I was 18 I am used to just gettting on with things myself. And I sometimes feel like she thinks I am incapable (which I blatantly am not)

Hope you are all well and have a great weekend planned

a bad night's sleep here as well. I have started a support thread for the over one's who don't sleep through. You're more than welcome to pop over :)

Went shopping for some maternity rags today and am really happy with my purchases. So much better than last time I did this. Feeling really bouyed by it .

Got two really nice dresses from monsoon too which aren't really maternity wear but are lovely, flowy, 70s sundresses that will definitely last through the summer, even with a big bump.

Yay yay that you guys says the pain of feeding gets better. whew.
Have so much sympathy for the non-through sleepers. DD was the worst baby ever from about 5.5 months - sometimes up to 8 feeds per night. It saps your strength.....OMG. And being pregnant at the same time....!!? Some kind of slow torture really. But ha! it will all be over soon and just think we'll all have two (or more) lovely adult children to look after us in our old age .
Maternity clothes - oh the horror, MBJ. I only packed them away three weeks ago, and got out my 'skinny' clothes (which I still don't fit into incidentally) - and today back out they came and the skinny ones are gone for another couple of years, realistically. Sigh. Already can't do up my top button and I can only be around 8 or 9 weeks.
......Anyone else so tired that they wonder each morning (and then a few dozen more times as the day progresses) how they will physically get through the day?

I'm 22 weeks pregnant and feeding a 2-1/2 year old, but I have nightweaned her and she sleeps through in her own bed.

I think my milk has actually all but dried up that's what my daughter says but she's doing it for other reasons than a drink. I don't mind and actually would like to be still bfeeding her when the baby comes as I would like help bringing my milk in (having another planned section I think, although first planned section with her did not cause any feeding issues and milk came in on day 2) and also I'd like her to not feel pushed away.

It bloody hurts sometimes. Having demand fed many times a day until 20-22 months I was so used to the feeling of breastfeeding but now I really notice it and it's not that pleasant.

I don't mention it to anyone and she only feeds at home and only once or twice a day. But two midwives I've seen have told me to stop, without any convincing reason for doing so. One said something about the quality of milk suited for newborn being messed up by my daughter feeding.

I don't plan on listening to them in this regard. Also, never had a HV for my first (was born overseas) and plan on keeping any meeting with HV brisk and to the point and ignoring anything

This will sound a bit bonkers. I do worry now that I could have problems bfeeding another child, even though I'm feeding one. Looking back my problems with my daughter weren't that bad -- smallish baby (but she's naturally on the smaller side, I can see that now), born at 8 months, jaundice etc, flat nipples. I had major weight anxiety though and paid for a succession of counsellors and doctors until I got that under control.

I just don't want the same to happen again and would like the numbers of some breastfeeding counsellors (either private or otherwise) who could come round at the drop of a hat and help if I ran into difficulties.

I plan on co-sleeping with this one too. Again, might be one issue to dodge with HV.

Good luck everyone.

I remember lying to the HV 'no, I don't plan to co-sleep'

to be fair, DD was a slow weight gainer and I never had any issues with HCPs and I saw quite a few different HVs. A good week was a 3oz gain. Even at 13 months, she's in 3-6 and 6-9 clothes (and the larger ones only because of reusable nappies).

My supply have def. dipped, she ate a huge bowl of porridge just after I fed her yesterday morning. She still has 3 feeds.

Know what you mean about the tiredness duracell it takes far too much energy to go to work. Last night was good for us, she went from 5-10pm-2:30am but then to 4:30 (convinced her to not get up until 5:30).

otch my obst has been fine with BF, so feel free to ignore others.

Just marking my place as I'm mobile.

I'm tandeming AND pregnant! Not done much nursing lately as I don't seem to have much milk according to my eldest. I also need some new bras as my nursing ones are falling apart now and I swapped around the time I got pregnant thinking I was done with them! It does make nursing hard though as I have to strip off each time.

Hi All, Not pg with no 2 just yet but planning on tandem feeding if poss when it happens. Quick, possibly daft, question. When the new baby is born, presumably your body prioritises the baby and produces colostrum for 3 days? How does this work with the toddler feeding too?

I just wanted to say if anyone is worried about it, I'm an impatient mummy (I always deliver early) and I've never had anything but support from my my doctors and midwives. As long as you're not on pelvic rest (banned from sex) there's no reason not to nurse in pregnancy.

I must give off an air of 'don't fuck with me' because as soon s my HV started talking about putting DS down for sleep 'sleepy but awake' in his moses basket, I would look at her and she'd say 'but not of you don't want to' DS asked to be fed at my booking appointment a the MW didn't say a thing. Although she did look a little shocked.

sancerre regarding colustrum, yes your body does go back to producing colostrum in the third trimester onwards until your milk comes in again. apparently due to the laxative effects of colostrum, a toddler's nappies are rather 'interesting'. Perhaps confuddled will come back with more info.

Thanks, Mummyberryjuice, I've been wondering about that for ages (but too scared to start my own thread)

hi everyone.

My supply has definatly dipped, and tastes different but still looks like milk rather than colostrum (would be very early).

Well whatever it is it is causing some serious early mornings and midnight feasts here, with ds getting up and "mah" "mah" ing till i supply bread, mangos, philadelphia etc. I'm glad i don't have to squeeze them out of my nips mind. !

I'm trying to front load him with cals before bed but it has limited success (and is very messy as i follow him round with snacks for him to drop/smear wherever he goes. Gah.)

I am extreemly of your monsoon dresses mbj!
My copy of adventures has arrived and i can't wait to start it...but am reading "bfing older children" from the library so better finish that first.

Mw tolerance of ill informed/interfeering/ rude hpcs is much less now i'm not a nervous first timer. Bring them on i say!