Is there a breastfeeding while pregnant thread already?

[MummyBerryJuice]

If not would anyone like to join me?

Experienced and first time feeding while pregnant mums welcome. I'm almost 11 weeks with DC2 and am still feeding DS (15 months). We are currently working at night weaning him (although he is incredibly persistent) and he still feeds 3/4/5 time per day, although he is starting to eat more solids.

I don't know anyone in RL who has fed whilst pregnant or tandemed and it would be great to be able to share frustrations etc with others.

So please come and join me, or point me in the direction of the right thread

Moan to me! I'm here :o)

I fed DD last night from 9pm to 11pm and in the end she just kept saying she didn't want to go to sleep, she wanted to sit on the sofa.

I was beside myself with exhaustion and my nipples feel like they're going to fall off. In fact I think I might actually cheer if they did.

I am going to start applying lansinoh this evening....do you think bonjela on the nipples is a bad idea?

ds keeps twiddling t'other nipple in a way that makes me want to throw him across the room for a fraction of a second...

So i have much sympathy with both of you.

Still haven't managed to get on the computer (while mn is working) and have stuff to say but takes forever on my phone.

Boobjela

Oh, hi there Moon

Thanks Happy .

Bonjela might just work. The tenderness passed pretty quickly for me, but I'm getting a skin-crawling irritating feeling about midway through a feed (sadly especially when he looks at me adoringly ) it makes me feel very guilty. The poor little bloke just wants to gaze at his Mamma, and I want to throw him across the room.

Part of the trouble today is that I have been spending the whole day trying to clean the house and getting virtually nowhere. My cleaner (who does in 2 hours what takes me all day) deserted me without warning and this is the 2nd week I've had to do it myself. It meant that I was paying less attention to DS, which meant he was acting up, which meant I was getting nothing done, which irritated me, which upset him, which meant he wanted to feed more etc, etc.

I still only managed to get half my 'work' done.

oh dear mbj. it must be awful for you to feel like that. We have feeds where ds will not keep still. It hurts and makes me cringe and i hate myself for hating those moments. But i do hate them.

Do remember it's the pg hormones making you feel that way. It's not "you" feeling it iyswim.

I have all but given up on housework for now. I need to finish my accounts etc then try and catch up. Can't do anything with ds a round atm. Even making a cuppa is mammoth task. So i'm winding down work and using the time to get ready for the new baby. It's shit of your cleaner to let you down like that. Sounds like a tough vicious circle you had today. It's difficult being trapped under a bf child! It gives you too much time to sit and examine the mess that surrounds you...

Hi everyone

Just need a moan. Have managed to pick up a stomach bug was awake from 9pm til 4am with stomach ache last night and just couldn't get comfortable. Ds woke up at midnight and had to be fed back to sleep. then Dh rubs my back at 4am and I was sick which again woke DS up and had to feed him again!! then he woke up at 6.30 for another feed and wanted feeding again at 8am.

Why when I am feeling so crap did he want to have so much milk?!

Luckily MIL has taken DS for the afternoon so I could catch up on some sleep but had to get up as got someone viewing the house. Couldn't have picked a worse day.

and I've missed my celebration do for completing my peer support training today cos I'm feeling like shite.

sorry about your cleaner letting you down mbj. That is a real pain.

anyway, rant over, DH is working until 9pm so just waiting for the viewing and then for MIL to bring DS back later.

Agh no clarde how awful

I shouldn't be as upset as I am really as I think she was in a very unhappy relationship but, dammit, I'm going to have a baby in October!

I'm feeling a little cheerier today though, managed to get the ironing done during DS's nap.

oh no clarde you poor thing. hope you feel better soon, and that the tidying went well.

Glad you're feeling a bit better mbj.

Hurrah! I am on the computer! Yay!

I can type away to my hearts content. SOrry I have bee so crap lately...now the thread is getting long it takes my phone about thirty seconds to load each letter I type...grr. And I can't get at the computer with DS around or even napping.

All is well here...apart from the midge bites I am covered in from camping at the weekend. It was worth it though as it was loads of fun.

I'm still stressing about work etc (in fact I'm ment to be doing my books now but hey ho!) but can sort of see the light at the end of the tunnel...ish.

Re my last labour MBJ, that you asked abut ages ago...twas LONG! Contractions started on the SUnday and DS arrived on the Weds night, after 3hrs of pushing. SO this time I'll probably do a lot of the latent bit with ds and dh around, and then send them off for the early but slightly more intense bit and labour on my own till mw's are needed. Then when the time is nigh DH can drop DS at MIL's and come back (I'm planning a hb again)

MIL would take DS for the whole thing but I don't think it's fair as it could be days again!

Though it was long there were no real hiccups with my previous labour (bar suspected mecconium liquor which saw us transfer with blue lights...not great but not a problem in the end)

I'm planning on making a feeding box too...but am stuck! I'm thinking maybe a special book or two with lots of flaps etc. Maybe a nest of little gift boxes with lids...ds loves taking lids on or of atm and think he'll enjoy stacking them etc and therefore might sit still...He loves crayons and chalk too but requires supervision at the moment or eats them ...maybe this won't be a problem by then? Who knows.

I had to take him off the top of the dinning table 10 times in about 15 min the other day. He moves furniture to climb up to stuff. It is impossible to child proof for him without nailing everything down, blocking up the window frames...emptying the room basically. SO i foresee much having to cut poor dc2 off while feeding...and DS's too little to understand why I might be annoyed ay that really.

He is obsessed with babies though so maybe he'll just be fascinated and want to watch...or join in (esp when milk comes in)

STILL no sign of colostrum here...I'm amazed tbh.

SOrry I missed your post before Jubb...how was the scan?

HappyHollydays on t'other thread you mentioned you had been reading about free birthing...can you point me to owt interesting (not planning on it but just curious!)?

How is everyone?

Hope you are all still talking to me even though I have been terrible and unreliable...

Oh and had meant to ask...is anyone doing any thing to prepare for birth/enjoy their pg?

I've ordered a hypno birthing cd. Figured it can't harm.

ANd I'm thinking about doing some Birth Art stuff (partly cause I might explore this as a line of work)...

And I have been not doing my PG yoga...not since ds dropped a nap about two months ago

Someone on my 'what to put in a nursing box' thread recommended aquadraw. It looks ace. And no mess

Hi, just bumping thread to see if it is still awake

We're doing ok. Have been playing with my new fridge. DH has taken the day off work so we're going to pop into York soon. Will come back to the thread properly this evening

hiya!

Oh I added a reply and it lost it when I posted. Too tired to re-type so will do tomorrow. No real updates from me anyway...

DH and MIL have taken DS out for a walk and given me the morning off. I am sitting down knitting something for the new baby, which is great because at the rate I'm going she'll have no 'hand-made by Mamma' things.

I suspect DH would prefer it if I were focussing on what we'll have for dinner. But I'm not

Is anyone feeling a little sad about the loss of one-on-one time with their DC? Or a twinge of regret at their growing independence?

I see DS needing me less and less (daddy can put him to bed now and he didn't really ask for a bf all day today - not after the morning anyway) which is great, and natural and the right thing but... I'm starting to miss him .
Pathetic, I know . Anyone else?

Hello!

what are you knitting MBJ? I'm rather ..I have tons of rubbish half finished knitted things! I've just knitted an owl for a friends ds though as a pressy. Ds has one so I should make one for the new DC me thinks...

Are you opting for pinks now you know you're having a girl?(I have remembered that right haven't I? Hope so) I have a bit of an aversion to it...I think 'cause I was a tomboy and my mum spent most of my childhood trying to get me in to florals...so I trend to go for bright colours that are bit more gender neutral. Though I think if this dc is a girl there will be a whole lot of pink involved...MIL is desperate for a DGD.

I know what you mean about missing the one on one time certainly...I keep looking at DS and thinking that the poor little mite does not know how his world is about to be turned upside down...
Though independence is some way off in his case...he's very very clingy of late. Sobbing if I go to the loo and refusing to go to DH. I don't mind in principle as I know he'll grow out of it, but on a practical level it's really difficult.

Are you worried your DS might be self weaning MBJ? How would you feel if he did? I have seen lots of post on here along the lines of "I think my dc is self weaning cause they didn't feed today" where people have replied that their dc did that but then picked it up again and carried on.

Been to the MW today and all is well...baby has turned the right way round so lets just hope it stays that way.

People keep asking me to do One born every minute which is filming up here in Sept...I'm up for it but DH would hate it!

That Aquadoodle thingy looks ace! Are you going to get one MBJ? Think I may invest...

Hello to any one else who's around too!

Hi Moon

I'm knitting a teddy bear. I did one for DS while I was pregnant with him with leftover scraps and am doing one for DD this time with other scraps. I just happen to have a lot of Debbie Bliss cash merino left from the blanket threads earlier in the year so am using that. It will be a mixture of dark pink, light pink, indigo, light blue, and green. I also need to get cracking on winter hats for both DCs.

I don't think he is self-weaning tbh, but it did cross my mind fleetingly on Saturday and made me feel a little . Even though in a way, it would be great, I have always sort of 'banked' on bf as fulfilling a nutritional function when he doesn't want to eat and as a soother in times of distress.

I am definitely going to get an aqua doodle. It looks brilliant.

You're brave to be thinking of OBEM. I wouldn never, but then it might be because I have issues with the way in which they portray the whole process of childbirth, particularly the 'sensationalism' of it. Where are you delivering? (you don't have to answer if you don't want to ). I'm delivering in Middlesborough this time round although, DS was born in Scarborough. JC has it's own NICU where as Scarborough transfers to Leeds/Hull so I'm just being really cautious.

Hope everyone else is ok. Pop in and let us know!

I'd also love to join in... Just found out this morning I'm 4 weeks pg (this is the first time I've told anyone! eek...) I'm currently BF DS (17mo) and he shows no signs of stopping so I'm hoping to tandem feed. Question though - how does (or just 'does') the newborn get any colostrum without the older child supping it all?!
Looking forward to sharing feeding adventures with you all!

Welcome and congratulations LaTristesse .

I think the accepted way to deal with the colostrum issue is to always feed the new baby first until he/she is satisfied and then the toddler. However, once your milk comes in it no longer matters.

Hi LaT, congratulations and welcome!!

TBH I think I'll be lucky if I can put ds off when he wants milk so the new baby will just get whatever colostrum it can! I think feeding two can mean your milk comes in quicker...so there are fewer days of colostrum, but that it is unlimited within those days if that makes sense? So I'm gonna try not to stress about it too much. While I know it is important I plan to EBF so am sure it will all be ok in the long run.

MBJ I am very impressed at your knotting...mine is all very amateur! Merino teddys too...lucky dcs!

I know what you mean bout banking on bf...it's amazing when they are over tired or upset and I plan to carry on as long as possible for that alone!

OBEM are looking for homebirths this series...they are trying to get away from the medicalised view of child birth apparently.Re sensationalism... I don't think it's too bad in that I feel it does reflect peoples attitudes to birth...but I think those attitudes are often unhelpfull any way...if that makes sense.

Have you seen the US one...it is terrrifying! There have been maybe 12 or 16 births so far...every one flat on their back, IV and drip as soon as they come in...epidural asap (bar one I think but I think they may have gone for it in the end...and were treated like freaks for trying to do with out). I have nothing against pain relief...what ever the woman wants. But the language used by the medics on OBEMUSA makes it out like an epidural only has advantages and doesn't carry any risks. "you wouldn't have a tooth pulled without aneasthetic would you?" one asked...er,no, but the risks are completely different! It's spoken of as an accepted inevitability rather than an option...and most of the actual deliveries are terrifyingly paniced!

SO glad I'm not there...I'd be off to the Farm!

ANyway....rant over!

i'm planning a hb...was with ds but ended up transfering to Jimmys so hoping to avoid that again. There are about 5 or 6 hospitals in a 30 min radius from here but I'm booked at Jimmys again should we need it. I didn't really mind the transfer last time...only took 15min...but it took AGES for me to get out...would just be going home next time!

I can see the advantage of going to middlesborough there MBJ...Hopefully you wont need it but if you did having to transfer and then traipsing back to Hull or Leeds on top of a poorly baby would be a nightmare!

I've been having rally sore nips again lately...don't know if it's me or DSA being rough but it sure is giving me chance to practice my pain relief techniques!

Better dash, sorry for typos...am ment to be doing my books while MIL watches Ds so time is precious!

Hi penguin

How are you doing?

I'm good thanks. Just back from 4 weeks of travelling.

Haven't started thinking about preparing for bump yet. Still need to move countries (back to UK), find somewhere to live so that I can register with a GP (figure it will take 4 weeks), then I can register with the MWs and see if I can request a CS.

Think I'm 28 weeks but pg is going well, DD never did miss BF but I think that's because it was all night feeds so she was never conscious and never asked for it during the day anyway. She's 16.5 months now. I offered about two weeks after we stopped and she didn't take.

Reading a few posts here has made me realised I've not thought about the birth and realities of number 2 yet.

Hope feeding all your LOs is going OK. DD now largely sleeps through the night but it came about a month after stopping BF and she woke up hungry for ages. She never upped her solids (if anything dropped them a bit) and is still a skinny one but that's just her. (if anyone knows where to get skinnier fitted clothes that would be great as any UK clothes we have are far too wide and hence never fit her)

Can't help you there. DS is rather skinny too and most things are too wide for him.

May I ask why you want a C/S? AFAIK if you had one with DD you'd be encouraged to try fo a VBAC but if you insist, they will book you in for a ELCS.

When are you moving? I'm 28weeks too and my next MW appointment is scheduled for 32 weeks which seems VERY pregnant to me. We moved last time round when I was 34wees and I managed to register with a GP and book in with the MW within a week. But then, I wasn't changing booking hospitals so, I'd imagine that made things easier.

I'm going to stay with my parents while DH starts a new job in a different county, lives in a BnB and looks for somewhere for us to live. I'm hoping finding a place will only take 2 weeks (but won't get keys and confirmation for a bit longer). So figure I'll register once we have a place in mind and get the ball rolling, then can change GP and MW team if it falls through but at least UK notes will have started and hospital most likely won't change. We land in the UK on tuesday.

Don't mind asking at all. DD was normal birth but had third degree tear and still suffer and don't want to risk more damage. Since they know I won't give birth here, it's not been discussed so would like to at least sit down and discuss everything. Sounds like it comes down to consultant, some push some don't.

Right I need to get to bed, have a pleasant day (and thanks for letting me unwind here even though I don't BF no more)