Why does my mil hate breastfeeding so much?

[nickytwotimes]

Jesus, it's not like I am asking her to do it?

Why are some people like that?

I think some women (and men) were genuinely brainwashed into believing FF was far, far superior. Doesn't make it any less annoying for you.

Ignorance?

Sometimes because they weren't able to, feel guilty and want other people to fail to make themselves feel better? Pretty unfair and unpleasant reaction and noone should feel guilty about it but I've certainly experienced this myself. :(

What's she saying?

If she's anything like my mil its because she didn't do it, came up with all the excuses not to do it and you are making her look like a fool and a liar.

Keep it up :o

She says she thinks it is horrible and to do it in public is disgusting.

...so guess what I did today when we were out for lunch?

Because it is the one thing that she can't get involved in.

well, i think it could be a mix of ignorance and jealousy.

whilst i was feeding ds2 yesterday my mumsuggested i give him a drink as he was obviously thristy. what the fuck do you think i am doing woman???

also, whilst giving him his bedtime feed one evening, she suggested i give him a bottle of cow's milk to get him off the breast!!! what exactly would the point be to that? replacing milk that is specifically tailored to his needs with milk that is meant for baby cows!!!

Oh, I love feeding him.
I ffed ds1 due to listening ti the likes of her and it still annoys me that I gave up bfing him.
I'll be feeding this one as long as possible

lol at drink!

I thinki organiccarrot has a point. Some people seen to want to undermine bf to justify their own decisions.

I think also as a culture we see breasts as primarily sexual which is deeply I recall one mner recently saying her mil called bm "naughty milk" WTF?

Because she has been brought up to think that boobs are for sex and that sex is dirty, ergo boobs are not to be touched, talked about, shown in public, or to have any attention brought to them whatsoever.

nicky i was the same with ds1. i stopped bfing him at 7 weeks on my mum's advice. she told me he wasn't getting enough from me and being young and inexperienced i listened to her. i actually still resent her for that because i don't think it was ds she was thinking of at all.

X post, christ, did it take me that long!

Why is it the old bags who can't stand breastfeeding always clutch onto gamy used tissues or hankies?

Surely carrying snot around in a bit of cloth is way more vile than anything a breastfeeding mother does

I think if you were told that you were doing the best for you baby by feeding formula, and then times changed and people decided that formula wasn't all it is cracked up to be, you might feel a little bit defensive, and this could come across as hostility.

yy, she defiinitely thinks they are 'dirty'.

it's a shame really.

Yes, to be fair formula was originally marketed as being superior :(

It's wonderful, life-saving stuff but it's not superior!!

(obviously)

PMSL @ "naughty milk"

Only when your OH partakes.

yeah, formula was the big thing then.
but i would never dream of saying she tried to do anything but the best for her kids.
jeez, i think she did such a good jpb that i married one.

just wish she'd lay off.

Nicky - how is your DS doing now? How's his reflux?

And good on you for feeding whilst out today, did your MIL go all cat bum mouthed? pgrin]

My mil told me bf was unnatural and fil said they didn't have it in their day and it was new fangled

lol at new fangled bf!

LOL andiem

Andiem, that's perfectly correct. If you go along to the British Museum next week you will see their extensive collection of stone age baby bottles on show.

It's a good job someone came up with breastfeeding though, with all those babies going hungry when their mothers weren't able to formula feed.

Of course, for years though people just wet-bottled. But it's now less common for people to bottle feed another person's baby.

organiccarrotcake

Gosh BF is terribly newfangled! Was told off for very subtly Bfing outside a church once (having gone outside so as not to offend). The woman didn't know what to say when i asked her whether she thought Jesus was formula fed or not..........