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BF beyond a year - your TOP TIPS

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blinder · 07/09/2010 23:28

Well it's dd's 1st birthday on Saturday and she shows NO signs of giving up the boob. So it looks like we'll be doing 'extended' feeding.

What do I need to know? What issues am I likely to face? Will I ever be able to wear a dress again? Can I still breastfeed in John Lewis restaurants without the old biddies tutting?

I'll start it off:

Tip 1: get a new bra, the one you've been wearing continuously for the past year is the new Dulux shade, 'ennui'. Get a white one quick.

Your thoughts?

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TruthSweet · 08/09/2010 07:57

Tip 2: Enjoy the new and novel breastfeeding positions. I particularly like the 'upside down hanging over mummy's shoulder' .

Tip 3: Carry on feeding when and where you want. Old biddies can tut but you are doing the most fantastic thing for your baby/child.

Tip 4: Instil some nursing manners. No pinching, biting, twiddling, not while mummy's on the loo. What ever you don't like or want to happen - ban! You don't have to feed on demand now.

I'll be back later.....

CMOTdibbler · 08/09/2010 08:19

Institute a 'no helping yourself' rule - you don't want hands down your top

Choose a word you like to ask for milk - something like num nums is a lot more acceptable publicly than boobie

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blinder · 08/09/2010 11:52

Mmm the concept of 'rules' is a new one. I had not considered the end of demand feeding but that makes total sense.

Unfortunately she already says 'boob'. Maybe I should do something about that sharpish!

Re positions, she already loves to start feeding lying on her side and then executing a 180? turn so that she is on all fours and facing down. Strikes the fear of god into me.

But today she kissed my boob and then my (saggy wrinkly) belly after feeding and I wanted to cry. She loves me!

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SirBoobAlot · 08/09/2010 12:33

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blinder · 08/09/2010 14:24

SirBoob it creeps up on you. I said 'six months and then I can start solids'. Then I said 'one year and then I can put her on cows milk'. Now it's 'I'll stop when she goes down to one nighttime feed'.

One day you will see me on a documentary saying, 'when she goes to university I'll just express and send it to her by courier'.

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BertieBotts · 08/09/2010 15:09

DS calls mine "milk" - he's really into counting at the moment and points to my boobs and says "One, two, milks!"

Don't stress about breastmilk filling them up and them not eating - after about 15 months it didn't matter how much milk DS had he would still wake up hungry in the night (and milk would not satisfy him) if he hadn't eaten enough in the day.

SirBoobAlot · 08/09/2010 17:07

Blinder!

We're at ten months now, and DS is still very much a milk monster. So a year is very much a possibility :)

AngelDog · 08/09/2010 18:33

Blinder. I'll remember that for future usage.

1.b If you can't afford a new bra, Dylon lingerie whitener works wonders. :)

StealthPolarBear · 08/09/2010 18:39

:o Trying to think of one, but love this thread

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blinder · 08/09/2010 23:45

Any ideas how to enforce rules? Do I just distract or should I stop nursing as soon as she bites etc?

Also, my boobs are far too worn out to support vertical feeding. They sway with wild abandon. Watching her trying to catch a passing nipple is terrifying. What positions do you recommend?

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Monkeytoo · 09/09/2010 00:01

We're at 18 months. My DS has always mostly been interested in feeding at night (not great!) and after the very early days I had to encourage the daytime feeds.

Anyway - to get to the point it means that now he has a feed before bed, first thing in the morning (and during the night - that's another story) and rarely feeds during the day. It means I've been able to retire my nursing clothes and don't worry about what to wear to feed. We do feed occasionally in the day if he's not feeling well but then we'd be at home and so the clothes don't matter so much. He has cows milk during the day now if he wants it. I wouldn't turn him down if he was asking during the day but he doesn't seem to.

Anyway - rambling - on to tips. I would say just take one day at a time. Although easier usually than the early days I've had different challenges as he's got older, biting for instance. I just try to keep going and usually whatever has caused a problem passes.

Algebra18MinusPiEquals16 · 09/09/2010 00:13

ooh good thread. DS just turned one, is more than happy with boobage and I have no intention of giving up any time soon.

I've heard a good 'rule' is don't offer, don't refuse

DS is very grabby - as soon as he spots nipple he'll lunge in and he's recently learned to point, so now he just pokes it!

we are also at the 'crawling every which way while attached to the boob' phase.

last week, he was trying to do a forward roll, while feeding.

jemjabella · 09/09/2010 09:52

'don't offer, don't refuse' is a weaning technique; not recommended unless you're actively looking to wean.

Loopymumsy · 09/09/2010 10:30

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RobynLou · 09/09/2010 10:33

I've done "don't offer, don't refuse" since DD was about 18m....she just turned 3 and is still feeding, so as a weaning technique it's not a very successful one around here!
I started refusing her sometimes around 2...

RobynLou · 09/09/2010 10:36

Oh and we're the same as loopy - when DD was 9m I went back to working 3 evenings a week, she's never had a bottle, so since then she's been got to sleep just fine by DH, since she was about 18m she's occasionally gone to stay at grandparents, once for 2 nights in a row.
when I'm not around she's not bothered at all.
I'm 20weeks pg atm, so we'll see how that affects things...

pagwatch · 09/09/2010 10:37

don't justify yourself
don't look for people to be hostile - they usually arn't.

Try and remember that most people really don't give a shit. But if you feel self concious or defensive the idiots will spot you like a snappy dog

cleanandclothed · 09/09/2010 10:44

I think I started don't offer, don't refuse about 6 months ago. Actually I do refuse sometimes - but DS still feeds twice a day! Get used to the fact that stopping will be a joint decision (or, more likely, a unilateral one by the child) rather than your decision.

Babieseverywhere · 09/09/2010 10:45

Tip 7. Remember that this is only a short time in our young children lives. Nursing may be good for their development and a good way to connect with mummy but they all will wean one day, none of us will be nursing forever (even if it feels like it some days). :)

"'don't offer, don't refuse' is a weaning technique; not recommended unless you're actively looking to wean."
And it isn't a very good weaning technique, if you have children happy to ask continuously when they want milk.

Babieseverywhere · 09/09/2010 10:46

x posted with 50 thousand people just NAK and typing slowly

StealthPolarBear · 09/09/2010 11:19

Yes I agree with pagwatch
remember that bresastfeeding just isn't on some people's radar, they just haven't even thgouht about it, and couldn't care less. Others, usually elderly women, want to coo over it :)

kveta · 09/09/2010 11:48

ooh, good thread - DS is one at the end of september (noooo! my baby!! etc etc) and still feeding like a newborn, albeit a more mobile and toothy newborn. He's recently started to chuckle whenever he sees my boob, which is very cute. He also does the 'latch on then stand up and turn round' feeding technique, which is, ahem, interesting. especially in public.

my tip is to ignore elderly relatives who say 'that's disgusting, he should be on bottles by now!' and 'you'll still be feeding him when he's a teenager'.

and biting=end of feed. I'm having to instigate that rule at the moment...

pagwatch · 09/09/2010 11:50

kveta
see I have never had any elderly relatives comment . Because they all breastfed their children.

kveta · 09/09/2010 11:57

so did mine. until 6 months in my grandmother's case, and she HATED every last minute of it - so I'm getting a lot of grief from her. I think she's transferring her feelings about BFing my dad onto me BFing DS, but god, it's hard not to just shout 'SHUT THE F*CK UP!' at her :o

pagwatch · 09/09/2010 12:00

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