I think that slightly misses my point. I’m not suggesting that intellectually serious or highly academic children are “dry”, nor that academic excellence and personality are mutually exclusive. Quite the opposite.
My point is that there are a number of exceptionally successful schools where the academic outcomes are every bit as strong, but where academic attainment sits alongside a much more deliberate emphasis on character, confidence, leadership, sport, music, drama and broader interests.
Sevenoaks unquestionably attracts a particular type of family for whom academics come first. In my experience, some attach rather more social significance to academic ability than it actually confers, as though being exceptionally clever automatically also makes someone interesting, sophisticated or socially impressive. It doesn’t.
Take two equally academically capable children, but one also excels in music, sport, drama, debating or leadership and has strong EQ, confidence, humour and curiosity. To my mind, that child simply brings more to the table. That isn’t anti-academic; it is recognising that academic ability is only part of the person.
And in a world increasingly shaped by AI, I think that matters more, not less. Judgement, creativity, communication, resilience, leadership and emotional intelligence are going to become increasingly valuable. I don’t think character formation is one of Sevenoaks’ defining strengths, and for me that is a dropped ball.
I do accept that if co-ed is non-negotiable, particularly outside London, the shortlist narrows considerably and Sevenoaks becomes part of a potential pool. However, there are stronger co-ed alternatives, though, and if single-sex is an option for either a DS or DD, the field opens up considerably to schools delivering equally elite academics alongside much greater breadth and character development.
Sevenoaks is clearly a very good school. I have no axe to grind with it. I just find it bland and rather unnecessarily on some shortlists when there are other schools achieving the same academic excellence, while producing more rounded, interesting and socially confident young people.