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No fight left

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seashellsontheshore · 30/09/2022 03:17

Feeling deflated and no where to go in my job. Sick to death of racist colleagues who get away with their appalling behaviour. I have no fight in me left.

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britneyisfree · 30/09/2022 03:25
Flowers

Sorry to hear this. I ended up leaving my job in the end. It was all hidden and under cover and I couldn't openly call them out on it.

If you can, do. If you can't leave for the sake of your own well-being. Maybe leave anyway.

seashellsontheshore · 30/09/2022 03:39

Thank you for your reply it's exactly the same with me it's all hidden and i'm made to look like i'm the bad guy when I try to raise/question something. I have removed myself from social groups, stick to my own company, do my job and come home. I used to be so happy and now I just feel so isolated. I've started looking for jobs preferably ones where I work from home. No one to bully me and left to just get on with it. I really am hating life right now. Feel so alone.

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TooBigForMyBoots · 30/09/2022 03:51

You are not alone @seashellsontheshore .Brew

LadyKenya · 30/09/2022 09:55

I have experienced covert racism at work as well. It is wearing and takes a toll. I got so fed up of the different treatment that I was subjected too, it was starting to manifest in feeling anxiety. In the end I just left my job, and found something else. I know that is not always easy to do though. Mental health is important. The job was starting to affect mine. I am not having a breakdown over any job. OP I hope things work out for you, and that you find something else.

seashellsontheshore · 02/10/2022 11:34

My job is definitely affecting me well it's more the people. It will never stop will it no matter where I go no matter what field I work in.

I just want to scream and scream until I scream no more.

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Doubtmyself · 03/10/2022 14:13

I tell you what I would do.

First:

You call in sick tommorow morning, migraine, whatever, take a few days off, paid and take pleasure those fuckers are paying for you to sleep in and take stock.

Second, you contact your GP tommorow and tell them everything you have said here and that you need support for your mental health , I'm hoping they should arrange for you to refer to speak to someone. That's what I did in a particluarly bad job where I was exactly in your space.

Thirdly, you will begin a campaign to get a new job. I work in the City and at one bank, I would cry myself to sleep each night, and in the bathrooms at work. I was racially bullied in such a subtle, sly way, even keeping a diary of the abuse read back as easily dismissed - people stopping talking when I approached , not being invited to social events, criticism for every project and work I was involved in, ignored in meetings and literally raising ideas, ignored, then one of the gang raising the exact idea and the boss showering them with praise.

IT was toxic and left me in therapy, I had many jobs in similiar firms before this shit job, life long friends who I even went on holiday abroad with, it was just this toxic job was a perfect storm of a bunch of racists all in the same place at the same time. After I left , I had a great team again.

Searching for a new job will help see light at the end of the tunnel, getting professional help with help with your mental health. Dis-engage with the place, surf for jobs every lunch time and do just enough to keep the job until you get the fuck out with another job.

HereForTheCommentsB · 06/10/2022 19:41

Hi, are you able to have an initial employment solicitors appointment (some places do a free 15 minute consultation or even just emailing to see the strength of your case) because of being made to feel you have to leave your job because of discrimination? Or employment tribunal? So sorry you are being treated like this Flowers

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