10/10-sunny days and sleepless nights; third trimester here we come

[nymphadora]

And off we go again

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28 weeks today & saw MW. She had a student dr in with her so I learnt loads! All my guesses at babies position etc tallied withtheirs too. They had awful job finding heart beat cos it kept kicking at the MW dh sat with his silly grin when they did! Did measurements and I measured 30 but she said that was normal for a third as I had crap stomach muscles( she put it nicer than that though!)

glad all good at your appointment nymph

my pram and car seat have finally arrived, feel like a kid at christmas going round opening loads of boxes! the delivery man said that the other week he delivered about 20 boxes to a house with a new baby, because the baby arrived early, before they'd had time to get anything. I'm so glad I've begun making progress now as I keep hearing stories about babies arriving early (although I suspect mine will be late, just to test my patience to the limit )

Abfab I did hear from my friend and suffice it to say my weekend was filled with non weddingy things unfortuntely (she's ok though).

dilly the dress sounds fabulous!!

nymph glad your appointment went well.

Wicked was fabulous, I really enjoyed it!! LO seemed to get in the grove as well, he got all excited when defying gravity was on. I think because he recognized it from our car journeys to work.

My MIL keep telling me that I'm getting bigger by the day, I know that technically I'm supposed to be but I kind if want to deny the fact that I'm expanding by the day. Easier said than done I expect.

Elsa both my hands are a bit fatter than usual and when I took off my rings, I must have bruised and grazed the lower part of my finger cos it looks like there's a wee balloon below my knuckle. It hurts. Never mind, it'll be fine tomorrow.

Dilly that dress sounds fine, especially dressed up with a bit of bling. Isabella Oliver does lovely dresses but way too many £££ although I noticed a formal dress in emerald green on ebay recently for £15 plus £4 postage. Dunno if it would be any good though. Can you tell I have too much time on my hands at the moment?

Looks like DH will be back next week after all. Hurray, I wore him down!

Got an arts and crafts day lined up for the boys tomorrow. Bought modelling clay, acrylic paint, paper and pencils and will be on the CBeebies Mr Maker site in the morning - we're making pencil holders shaped like aliens. Yippee!

That appt sounds sweet Nymph

Hermya I know what you mean about comments about changing shape, it's so weird, especially if you were a skinny min before or did lots of exercise. It's so personal, and it's all happening really fast and y'know, maybe it's not great when people comment on it. A really odd thing happened to me, I saw my honeymoon photos and there I was in my bikini at my 'wedding weight' and I just thought, 'God I was so thin' but I wasn't ugly thin, I just think I prefer how I look when I'm pregnant!! How random is that? I thought I would cry forever when my precious flat tummy went (and yes, I was that vain!). Hmm...hope I haven't overshared there!

Hello ladies!

Haven't been on for while been busy and pretty tired - no energy surge here!

Bump is rapidly growing! Saw MW today to do bloods at 27wks as we away next week. Not seen this MW before but she was lovely.

Took DH and DD in with me to hear heart beat and then chucked them out for blood test! Was trying not to laugh when MW was trying to get heart beat as baby was wriggling around something rotten!

MW has referred me to to the Physio to get a support belt, as I'm finding it difficult to walk for long without feeling like I'm dragging a heavy weight, and also get shooting pains on the right side of my body.

Had to invest in some more maternity trousers today as I needed some more as my last pair of normal trousers no longer fit - was a bit shocked as only had them on earlier this week - this bump has had a growth spur! Still on positive side I got to go shopping and baby is growing!

Right well I'm off as need to sort clothes for our holiday and also to make decision as to what dress I shall wear on Friday to friends' wedding.

Take care ladies and speak to you soon.

Evening ,

Ooof. I am dead tired. I guess it's a combination of the end of term and being pregnant but I am just worn out. I seem to have no patience or energy and just want to sit down or sleep all of the time. I feel like an old woman - I find it really hard work getting up from sitting and hobble around for the first few minutes even if I've only been sitting for a little time. At the same time I have the urge to nest and want to clean and organise things non-stop. What a nightmare!

I have to go back to work in September for four weeks too, I don't know how I am going to manage that. Early mornings, long days and stress...that might have been a mistake. I do hope after a long summer's rest I will feel a bit more lively.

On another note, is anyone else starting to think about the birth part at all? I know I've done it twice before but it isn't stopping me beginning to feel a little anxious.

Hope all well, haven't read the thread properly today to name check but will read back over it now! SB x

Morning...bloody starving here. Had to get up an hour ago for food. Anyone else permanently hungry?

I was starving at 4am but my back hurt too much to get up and I had reflux too so I went back to "sleep" if you can call it that. Think I'll have a banana and some ovaltine right before bed this evening and see if that staves it off.

SamB123 sorry about the hobbly thing - the physio says it's because of relaxin and what have you, so it's hormones... you can do some kind of preparatory muscle clenching before you get up to kind of get you going. It's unnerving though, I keep feeling like my batteries are running down!!

Well, this is my first baby so I do think about the birth but in a very 'fluffy pink clouds' kind of way cos I have no way of really knowing what I'm in for - let's be honest!!

Nah..not so much hungry, just craving sweet things...

Sam Whatever you do, don't make the mistake I did and rematch 'One born Every Minute'. It took a hell of a lot of chocolate to calm down after that one.

Ironically, I'm not hungry at all if anything I have to force myself to eat as nothing really appeals.

Morning everyone, I've decided to take tomorrow off work to paint the kitchen! Before I get any bigger, I seem to be growing at a alarming rate now. Still getting bloomin' cramps on a night as well, guess I'll have to get used to my sleep being disrupted.

Hi ladies, I have been missing for a couple of weeks but glad to hear so many of you doing so well, haven't had chance to read back though all the posts but will try and catch up tonight.

After the SPD diagnosis a few weeks ago when I dislocated my hip, I have now also been diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I can't stop crying - feel just awful and soo guilty for some reason. I am scared to death that something will happen!! I just generally feel like the worst woman/mother in the world. It took me 6 years to concieve and I was over the moon, but in the last few weeks I have started to think that maybe someone was trying to tell me not to bother. I desperately just want to enjoy this pegnancy!!

sorry for the wollowing in self pity, but I needed to let it out to someone and I'm at work with no one to confide my feelings in. If I call DH I will only end up in tears.

Had my 28 week appt yesterday and everything was fine. Sproglet is growing normally and has plenty of room despite the fibroids. It's also moved into a head-down position, which bodes well. On the downside, this does mean some hefty kicks to the stomach! From now on, I'm on 2-weekly checks to make sure everything continues to go well.

Roo I get cramps every night too, despite eating plenty of bananas and getting enough salt. Hope the painting goes well tomorrow.

SamB I fluctuate between reading horror stories of birth and thinking of all the hideous things that could go wrong and saying "I can cope, bring it on"! I think I will get more scared as the birth becomes more imminent.

I am still in denial about the fact I will be giving birth at the moment! I read loads early in the pregnancy but then couldn't face thinking about it any more so I am ignoring those bits of my pregnancy books for now. Whenever I think about the birth it is only in terms of imagining holding the baby in my arms. However, my antenatal classes start next week and then I think the reality will sink in! DH is coming with me to all but one of them, which I am so pleased about, as my main worry is that I will forget everything I have been told the minute I go into labour. Whereas DH is very much a 'cool in a crisis' type of person.

mamjo poor you, sending big hugs your way. You are allowed to wallow, it must be a lot to get your head round. Hopefully you are getting / will be getting lots of advice and support from the midwifes /hospital about what to do? I am sure there will be many other mumsnetters too who will have been through this. It doesn't make you a bad mother - quite a lot of people end up with gestational diabetes, its why they test us all so frequently.

Aw mamjo poor you, of course you're upset. Better to get it out I think. I'm so sorry. But as tiredfeet says it's not your fault and it is really common and you will get help to manage it. I know what you mean about wanting to enjoy the pregnancy, I got v low about SPD and took that rather personally. You just let yourself feel bad for a bit and then you'll feel better, better than trying to pretend you're ok when you're not.

mamjo so sorry to hear about the diabetes (we cross-posted there). It's not your fault- it's just one of those things. One of the reasons they test for it is because it is relatively common, especially in "older mothers" (which we both qualify as!). Wow, after 6 years of ttc, to have kept going when others would have despaired tells me that you are a strong person and totally deserve to be a mother. The most important thing is that your baby is loved and wanted by you. As tiredfeet says, I hope you get lots of support through this. I'm pretty sure there is a thread about gestational diabetes somewhere on pregnancy, which may be helpful. Lots of hugs sent in your direction.

Hello , just missed my 28 week midwife appointment because it was scheduled for 13.20. I must have had a moment becuase in my diary I wrote 3.20 instead. Oops. When I realised I rang them and found out my own midwife has gone on long term sick and so I won't be able to see the same one at any of my remaining appointments. That's not great is it? New appointment isn't until next week. Must try to turn up at the right time!

Oh Mamjo don't be daft. You are going to be a fab mummy. None of the things that you are worried about are within your control in any way. Stuff just happens sometimes and it is easy to feel victimised but it's just life. I am sure you are doing all of the right things for your baby and that s/he is thriving. Often we feel awful and the babies are oblivious to it all and are very happy. Six years is a long time waiting and you are so nearly there now. It won't be long until you are holding your baby and all the angst will seem a distant memory. If it helps at all I have had many worrying momnets and I just try to take one day at a time and deal with getting through to bedtime calmly. I write a list of things I am worried about and deal with them one at a time when I am ready. Keep smiling and look after yourself .

DillyDora The hobbling is fine really - it passes quickly enough, I just seem to get stiff faster than I ever have before. At one time it appeared that I might have SPD but that all seems to have settled down at the moment and I don't have any pain other than what you would expect at 28 weeks pregnant. Pink fluffy clouds are probably much the best way to be about labour. I've had two good experiences so it's not so much that something has terrified me, rather that I do remember how much it hurt and don't much fancy doing it again!

Hermya Interestingly I don't feel like any foods, I just feel really hungry all the time. It's everso odd. My tummy rumbles every two hours, but I can't find foods that I fancy eating. I feel like I've done nothing but eat since February, I'm rather bored of it all!

Finally I am in tune with the thread and have been able to do at least some name checking. It's taken me so long to post that I've probably crossed with a load of other posts but never mind!

Hi everyone

Just popping in to say hello - still in the US so this is just a quick visit. Will catch up properly when I'm back.

It's been very hot here so have been feeling a bit faint but air con is fantastic!

Sadly having a real nightmare with my PILs. they have managed to ignore the fact I am pregnant now for over a week - just haven't even mentioned it. Keep offering me wine, asking me if I want to do things like surfing even though I have a huge belly! On SIL's wedding day (which was ok if a bit odd) my MIL kept telling me to bend down and pick up SIL's train - even though I had said how bending over loads really hurts me. Then she said she wanted the train ironed, got out the iron, put it on the floor and said 'there you are - just a quick once over would be fine'. She actually expected me to kneel down and iron the dress, when I am a) pregnant and b) all dressed up myself! I refused and just walked off. This is only the tip of the iceberg - there has been some awful stuff they have said/done

I've ben pretty upset, as has DH. I honestly thoguht they would be excited about their first grandchild, but it seems like they couldn't care less. To think I was considering inviting them for Christmas - well stuff that!

Rant over - apologies but I needed to get it off my chest!

mamjo really sorry to hear about your diabetes but please don't blame yourself - it's not your fault and you havent' done anything wring. It's easier said than done but just be kind to yourself and take it easy.

See you all properly (so to speak!) next week when I am back.

xx

piesey my MIL has been telling my DH to do more for me! thats really mean of them.

Errr...Piesy how rude are your in-laws?! Very on your behalf! Hope you're ok and so is DH (how embarrassed must he be?!)

Hope the rest of the hol goes ok.

Sam I've been doing that thing with times and dates most awkward and if, having done it twice, you reckon pink fluffy clouds is the way to go about labour then I'm sticking with it! Can't do any different as fortunately pain is impossible to imagine!

Piesy and . How bloody rude of them.

Pisey Oh my word, how bad is that!! I know it's not much consolation but with weddings people tend to be rather one track minded. But still .

piesy thats terrible! I bet you are counting the days til you come home!!! I am v for you!

Mamjo you are going to be a great mum, none of this is your fault and it is all happening because your body is taking good care of your baby. I promise that when they put that baby in your arms then all the pain will be worth it!

I have started to worry about labour too! It has been 5years since I had my DD and I cant remember what it is like!

I am still strugging with SPD and low blood pressure and anaemia. Dont have the energy to do anything at all and feel very sad that I am not spending more time with my DC. Also my house is a mess and I cant sleep fed up.

t will be so worth it though and everytime LO kicks or elbows it makes me smile.

SamanthaB I missed my glucose tolerance test on MOnday completely forgot! Shame that you havent got the same midwife all the way through.

Do you know, my labour worries are about where I am going to have the baby I think. My previous births were at Heavitree Hospital in Exeter and I had fantastic care. Up here in Kent all the hospitals seem to be dire. I've had some dodgy care so far and my designated hospital doesn't have delivery rooms with loos. {TMI ALERT}...I spent a lot of my time in my second labour on the loo. I don't want to be nipping down the corridor every two minutes. What if someone is in there? It doesn't feel relaxing and restful to me at all. Hmmmph.