Spring is sprung, the grass is ris, I wonder where my toenails is - Due June 2010

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Ok, here it is ladies. Nice new thread for us all to enjoy

Oh yes, Margot, amen to that - mine doesn't intervene much in a practical way (too far away) but is brilliant for morale. She was responsible for the case of 1/2 bottles of champagne which turned up a week after DS2 was born: 'medicine, dear'.

Good luck with the nooky revival Filly because I think you're entirely right - while it's lovely to have other options for intimacy somehow they're always much nicer if they are additional to, rather than alternative to, a real, leg melting shag. Hopefully once you get past the initial 'hump' (if you'll pardon the pun) it will all be worth the effort.

I'm liking the idea of a military career, Mampam: frankly there's so much shouting and yomping in my life at the moment that I'm not sure I'd notice the difference. Perhaps I should run away to sea - do you think HM Navy will take heavily pregnant new recruits? Really interesting what you say about the situational factors specific to you being pregnant and having to keep in touch with your ex DH must put quite a bit of extra strain on you.

Seconding FTSE's good luck vibes for GibberingG's presentation: hopefully she has remembered the uplighting strategically playing across her bump to really emphasise any stray limbs sticking out!

I have to say I do recognise that feeling of wierd calm that you were describing about DH's travels which at the moment I'm attributing to actually believing him about his being here. I'm a trusting soul really and it's only in my more cynical moments that I'd actually put money on him being on a plane on the 23rd!

mampam Sorry I couldn't help but at your descriptions of DH's foreplay.

Still no action in the Snail household, but I sense a slight thawing in that area, so who knows. DH is very keen to step up to the mark and do his bit to help things along once I get a date for induction . Last time around we had a pleasant surprise that we both felt incredibly sexy after the birth, so it didn't take too long to get things back to normal in that department, although it wasn't always physically easy due to stitches etc.

No gardener here, whoever was asking, except for my dad who gets stuck in when he can. I wonder whether he'll bring gardening stuff when they bring DD back today - it could do with a bit of attention I think!

Not entirely sure what I'm doing up at this time as I worked a night shift last night and have another one to do tonight. I'm just glad I made it through the night in one piece - I'm sure I wouldn't have managed this time last week. Only 3 more shifts to work before maternity leave

Hi All, Can i be added to your list. My first baby is due on the 8th June, I'm 31 years old and it's going to be a surprise.

I could see a thread for every other month than June!

Am after some advice, is anyone else getting much swelling in the feet, ankles and legs? This week has been awful and as I sit at a desk all day it's very hard to elevate my legs - any advice would be most gratefully received!

Welcome dolphina If you are getting bad swelling, I'd give your midwife a call. It could be pre-eclampsia, and it's worth getting it checked.

Presentation went well. No need to fake going into labour or anything to avoid awkward questions.

Have no witty response to people commenting on bump size (wether its large or small in their opinion) apart from possibly denying that I'm pregnant. Telling them its a beer gut instead!

Anyway hope everyone has nice weekends. Must stop counting down to baby arrival, as it got me into trouble last time (got very depressed when overdue) but its hard. Only 11 weeks (maximum) to go!!!!

Hi dophina,

I had awful swelling last time, and am it seems to be coming back this time (have had to remove my rings). Put on 3 stone in water alone . However as barbeasty says its worth telling the midwife and getting your blood pressure checked as it can be a sign of pre eclampsia. Or it might just be awful water retention as it was in my case. I found walking at lunchtime helped stomp the water back out of my legs.

I think I'm going over the top on countdowns- I've got the calendar I cross off with huge highlighter crosses counting down to when I finish work, then there's the spreadsheet where I do the same (22 working days left). Finally there's the bit on the spreadsheet that's automatically counting down the days to the due date. Of course, I know she's almost guaranteed not to come then, but DH is adamant that anything else would be disorganised (you'd think he'd have learnt after being married to me for so long )

I have my first ante-natal class tomorrow, which temporarily-not-so-DH refuses to come to. So I will be going all on my own- he says that if there's anything important I can tell him later, but it just isn't his thing.

However, I do have to say to all those making lists for their DHs, mine keeps his own and is religious is ticking things off (then filing the list for reference . In fact, he can get quite stressed if he doesn't get around to doing something on his list. I just have to make sure all the things I want him to do sneak their way on!

Hey there,
Was wondering if I could join you guys. Am due June 24th with DC2. DD1 is 2.10 and the bump is a boy so going to have 1 of each. So far all has been good but am exhausted running around after a toddler, a dog and a husband!! Quick question, can too much walking be bad? Today I walked to pick up DD from school, 1hr there and back, then took her and the dog to the park for 1 hr and then headed to the supermarket. is that too much? To be honest feel completley shattered but dont want to be trapped in the house.

Welcome lifeinthesun I think keeping active is really important and good for you both physically and mentally so great to keep walking, but you need to listen to your body and if it feels like too much then you should cut back a bit.

Aaargh, I feel like screaming. I'm trying not to moan and complain, but I've had yet another phone call from the hospital today. They want me to come in tomorrow as there are yet more problems with my bloods. I explained to them that I was working a night shift tonight and tomorrow night, so they've arranged an appointment for me first thing so I can go straight from work, which makes life a little bit easier (I work in a different hospital in the same trust but it will only take me a few minutes to get from one site to the other in the morning). I hope it all goes smoothly tomorrow and I don't fall asleep there!!

Can I join, too, please? We're due 11th June ish and having a girlie.

Welcome to the new joiners!!

Greensnail - you really are going through the mill with these hosptial appointments arent you? I bet you can't wait til you give up work. Is that next week?

Im suffering from swollen legs/ankles too. My socks are cutting in to me. Don't remember this from the last 2 times, but the midwife didnt seem too bothered when I mentioned it to her. Not very attractive though!

Ive decided not to get a bedroom ready for this little one, it'll be sleeping in our room for 12 or so weeks, so can sort it out then!

Just a quickie - busy sorting stuff out for holidays.

I'd def pick Antarctica from those options sunworshipper, though can't say that I'd be enamoured with either!

Welcome to newcomers (where's gizmo with the stats ?), and welcome back to mampam and filly!

Hello all

Just a quick one. DH reckons that when we get, 'ooo, aren't you big,' type comments we should say, 'What this? No. This is just gas.' Just about as offensive.

I knew it. I knew as soon as I unboggled the list, we'd get more joiners! Welcome Shipsladyg and Dolphina I'm afraid I'm stuck behind a Mac that has forgotten how to copy and paste, so you'll need to do some DIY on the list if you want to add yourself before Monday. Dolphina I'm no medic but I am a great believer in exercise alleviating a lot of ills, even if it leaves you feeling a bit wiped out. Keep up the walking: unless you've got some complication of pregnancy it's got to be helpful for labour and recovery.

Haha to your DH, LaT. Possibly a very straight face and 'what are you talking about? I'm not pregnant!' might be worth trying if you really want to be evil. I'm feeling mellow about the comments tonight, to be honest: I guess people feel they have to say something and this strikes them as the least offensive thing they can come up with.

Good Morning,
Thank you for the replies yesterday. I'll continue to be as active as poss but maybe listen to my body a little more and sit down when my legs feel like they are going to collapse!!
Just wanted to ask if anyone on this thread had had a natural delivery after a previous c section? MY DD was breech and was born by c section at 38 weeks. I really didn't enjoy the experience and found the recovery slow and painful. When I got pregnant this time I asked my OB straight off if i could have a natural birth and he said that the risks were too high and he would strongly advise another section. However at my last appoinment the baby was head down and he said that maybe we could give it ago. I am now feeling very scared, not about the pain but about the poss of rupture and huge complications and what would happen to my DD if sth happened to me. Dont know what to do.

justbeme I'm with you on the socks thing. I thought it was just me. I now consider myself to have a definite pair of cankles!!
Some pairs of socks I don't even attempt to put on as they are not very stretchy and it's not worth the effort of trying to force them over my fat chubby feet and ankles.

Welcome to the newbies

lifeinthesun Can't remember who it is but I'm sure someone on here is having a VBAC this time. Was it LaT?? greensnail hope your bloods come back ok and you're not too knackered after working the night shift and getting to your appointments. What a nightmare.

Had another good nights sleep . It's really good to have the kiddies back again, although DS slipped back into his usual 'I'm bored' mode fairly quickly. Not sure he even knows what it means

DC's keep asking DH and I how the man's seed gets out of his wotnots and into the woman. I've refused to tell them so far but feel I can't put them off any longer. Just how do I phrase it?? Without being crude!!! They are 10 and almost 7. Any ideas?????

Mampam, why dont you get a book out of the library for them. There should be quite a few - normally in the parents reference section next the the childrens books.

Has everyone been out enjoying the sun - ive caught the sun today! (Didnt mean to!)

Where has CSWS gone on holiday to?

Meggy, I think it was you who has been doing a hypnobirthing course. Can I ask, what is your favourite visualisations? and any little tips you can give me ? Basically, I understand its the breathing, visualisation and relaxing.

justbeme - here!

Justbeme, I've decided the nursery isn't a priority either, I think when you have other children you can always find something more important to buy and if history is anything to go by ours will sleep between us for the first 12 months nevermind weeks.

I'm a bit of a hypnobirthing convert, if anyone wants the cd's or print outs let me know and i'll email them over.
They even help with c-sections, reducing bleeding and aiding recovery i'm told.

Ohh looks v nice CSWS -
Hope the weather continues for you!

Milly, Ive borrowed the Mongan book, cd's and some other cd's from a friend.
Cant say I can use the "silver glove", or dial visualisations. I'm more for thinking Im on a beach, or the rainbow colour one.
Ive just started the perenial massage as the book states it is a very important part - Where I have had 2 episiotomies, seems abit tender though. What about you?

No the glove didn't work for me, the misty Rainbow does work brilliantly.
I am convinced that 99% of it is purely thinking about something else and staying calm.
With my last birth I literally didn't feel a thing until 4cm's, then went to hospital and of course the whole admissions process and finding somewhere to plug the cd player in etc ruined the whole effect. This time it's on my ipod and phone and I shall be speaking to no one at all, do not disturb sign around my neck, Dh can deal with all that.
I am scared to try the visualisations at the moment as I am contracting every now and then as it is, am worried sick about him coming too early.

millymollymoo I would be interested in the hypno birthing materials sounds like it's very effective. We're opting for a home water birth so I'm guessing the tools from this could help that process. I'm not going to be silly about it though, if I need to goto hospital then so be it but want to try at home first and take it from there.

Welcome to the newbies!

Visiting my best friends in London this weekend as I'm having a double baby shower with my mate who is due end of this month. Wish me luck as I expect to get stitched up! A theme is chosen for the mum to be who has to guess from the gifts what it is. We only nBrighame token gifts like clothes or toys but invariably there are quite a few joke ones along with nice stuff. Over the years I have given my fair share of naughty gifts such as bootees I've knitted in awful wool on purpose so I think a mild element of revenge is on the cards!

Hope everyone has had good weather and been enjoying it

Perkster good for you on the home birth. We attempted it with DD, and although I did end up being transferred (she was back-to-back and wouldn't come out!), at least I spent the majority of the labour at home, and was fully dilated by the time I was in hospital so actually only spent a v.short time there. Good luck! Have you got a TENS machine?

Welcome to all the new ones!

Anyone else got backache? I'm 29+5 now so guess it should be expected but any good tips on easing it?

Thanks, justbeme hadn't actually thought of going to the library......DOH!!!

bluesnowfalcon I've been getting horrendous backache now for quite a few weeks. It's mainly when I stand up and is in my lower back. When I cook dinner or wash dishes I have to do it in stages as I keep having to sit down and let it die down before I can carry on. Could be related to my SPD though, not sure really.
Tips on easing it: Hot water bottle
DH rubbing it/massaging
Relaxing bath
Lie/sit down in comfy position

Sorry they probably aren't very helpful but it's all I can think of!

perkster you are so lucky having a baby shower.

Went to the beach yesterday, weather was scorching hot, however I only managed about an hour and a half because I was so uncomfortable sat on hard stones (beaches closest to us are pebbly rather than sandy) and I needed a wee. Glad I went but don't think I'll be going again whilst pregnant!

I've really caught the sun in the last couple of days. I think it's definitely true that PG woman tan quicker but I do tan quite well anyway as I have a Nigerian father. However I am naturally tanned from the waist up but my legs are the pastiest pale white you have ever seen and they never catch the sun!! It just looks so odd and I was hoping that the extra tanning rules whilst PG would apply to my legs but no such luck and DD asked me if I was going to buy some fake tan for them this year
I'm just wierd I think