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Feb 2010 part III,

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mamaloco · 13/11/2009 07:49

Sorry I couldn't wait anymore half of us is in the 3rd trimester and half will followed soon
Welcome sharon I have added you to the list

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pickle75 · 12/01/2010 19:00

Hi, I hope it's ok me joining so late. Due 14th Feb. I had posted elsewhere in the site about being very nervous and getting anxiety flutters at random times of the day. Received some great responses, one of which suggested this thread. I've been for a tour of the labour ward today which was helpful as I'd not been to that hospital before so it's good to now be able to visualise it. I also bought a hypnobirthing CD yesterday (to overcome nerves, nor usually not my type of thing). I also tried my first session of massaging my perineum this morning (wow I'm typing some weird things!). Have no idea if I'm doing it right but will carry on for a little while. But, still got bag to pack (step too far at the moment!!) and wash clothes, cook for freezer, buy pushchair (v. traumatic process) and buy car seat (now surely that is leaving it late!)

bethylou · 12/01/2010 20:19

Poor Clappedout - I know exactly how you are feeling. DS1 might only be 21 months but has suddenly descended into terrible twos - lay screaming on the floor in John Lewis on Saturday just as one of my colleagues walked up! At Christmas he said, 'Mummy not nice' when I was trying to get him into his big boy bed. I'm so tired - I don't have the energy for all this battling (especially as he's coughing for three hours at a time in the night through which DH conveniently sleeps while I lie there wide awake!) He's still gorgeous though and I try to remember that it's as much me as him at the moment as my tolerance is low and he senses all the changes going on in the house. The GP was very complimentary about how I was handling him this afternoon which has given me a boost - some days I do really despair and feel like a rubbish Mum too! I'm sure we will feel like it for several weeks when we have to try and share our time between two children but we will manage somehow.
p.s. Forgot to say welcome to new folks.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 12/01/2010 20:34

Hi pickle

Saw you over on the other thread - I suspect the more you do to get yourself ready for the birth - physically and mentally - the better you'll feel about it. I'm guessing that your taking charge of the process a bit might help with those feelings of "no revision before the exam" - good luck with it all!

Abs and ems - have you considered earplugs?! I'm a light sleeper (thankfully haven't had too many problems since getting pg) and they have helped me in the past. I appreciate they're not the answer if you've got to keep an ear out for a child, though...

cheers for the welcome bethylou

and Woowa - hah, that sounds mighty familiar! Those were the days, eh? Being able to party through the night, then dancing straight to work in the morning. Oh, the stamina of the early 20s! Long gone, long gone...

ktpie · 12/01/2010 21:03

Bethylou and Clappedout - I have been having little battles with DS (18 months) on the change table, he hates having to lie down and would prefer to be sitting/standing/leaping about, none of which are the ideal position for nappy changing. He ends up screaming and thrashing about and I tend to get kicked in the bump a lot, very frustrating. Saying that he has been pretty good on the change table today but I think it is because he has a cold so is feeling a bit subdued.

I'm not sleeping well, seem to have to have more gaviscon every hour or so. Back hurts, bump hurts, no position is comfortable.

Mawbroon - hope the surgery goes well.

I'm feeling about ready for this baby to come now, we're pretty well organised (I should point out that that has only happened in the last few days). I hope it isn't late like DS.

extremelychocolateymilkroll · 12/01/2010 22:38

To those suffering with snoring partners have you seen The British Snoring & Sleep Apnoea Association? Helps you to diagnose what is causing the snoring. These earplugs are supposed to be very good.

Does anyone else find that they are incredibly clumsy? I seemt to drop and bump into things all the time - like having permanent PMT.

FluffyCoo · 12/01/2010 22:40

Welcome pickle - aww, another potential valentines baby! We're all in various states of disarray here so don't be freaked out by the likes of shiregirl (good work by the way lady! V. impressed at your delegation skills!)

Hi woowa, must admit I was surprised at the NCT classes too - two full days a week apart rather than a whole load of evening sessions... I was a bit about it as it doesn't really give much of an opportunity to make friends, but that was all they could offer - I got in amongst it with the booking process really early too! DH is coming - I feel the classes are more for his benefit - but he is a total fidget-arse (like father, like future offspring) with a really low boredom threshold so goodness knows how he'll cope!!

I too am having to sleep sitting up - otherwise my ribs and hips are agony! Rolling from one side to another is just out of the question! Oh and absb DH hardly ever snores, but I do A LOT!! Ha ha - if I'm losing sleep then so should he!!

FluffyCoo · 12/01/2010 22:44

Ooh cross post! Know exactly what you mean extremelychocolatey Dropped dinner on the floor two nights in a row and have lots of little bruises on my bump from where my spacial awareness keeps failing me!!

stoofadoof · 13/01/2010 02:04

crikey - what a shed load of posts!! we're all sounding v busy with one thing or another (even if it's just daytime tv and dairy milk!

For those with crotchety toddlers - DD (now 3.2) never really had the terrible twos... until about 6 weeks ago, when they arrived with a sudden throwing herself on the floor and shrieking for 10 mins (can't remember why now)... after the first couple of days i started ignoring them, and they now happen maybe every few days and last about 30 seconds (which of course feels like 3 weeks if it happens to be in the supermarket, but is otherwise ok!!) Basically, if she's not in any danger of hurting herself, i leave her to it, and once she stops, we have a cuddle and sort out whatever it was...

having said that, bath/bed time is really bad for me - i completely lost it a few nights ago cos she wouldn't do as i asked - ended up carrying her into her bedroom wrapped in a towel, threw her pj's on the floor and said 'right then, good night' and closed the door on her ... made up a couple of minutes later, and she hasn't pushed it the last couple of nights!

dunno if any of the following is helping with dealing with the imminent arrival, but we're;

reading books including there's a house in my mummy and brand new baby... plus any from the library that happen to be in when we're there. She's been helping me sort out her old clothes etc and has 'chosen' the things to go in the hospital bag for her little brother. She's also bought him a little rabbit which she's currently looking after for him - she says we've got to wash it next week so its ready! She's obsessed with babies if we see them when we're out and about, and always say hello! We've been lucky enough to meet a couple of people with new babies the last few weeks, so she's been able to have a cuddle too, and she's looking forward to being able to help look after her little brother too. We've also been looking at photos of her when she was a baby. Finally, I've made sure that i'm talking to her a lot about what she and i will do once her brother has arrived, or what she and her dad can do, or nan etc.... not making any ridiculous promises, just some things that we'll definitely be able to do, just us. I've not tried to make her feel the bump or anything - she's started doing that of her own accord the last few days... hmm ... it'll be good if she stays this positive once he actually arrives, but i'm not holding my breath!!

guernseyfrench the only thing the mw keeps saying to me is try to get him into a good position - hence lots of on all fours cleaning and playing, lots of leaning over the back of chairs when on the computer or watching tv, and lots of bouncing on the gym ball any other time i get to sit down (like meal times etc!) am hoping it's working - he seems to have moved to the middle now, rather than the side, tho i haven't got the foggiest which bit's where and can't feel him at all from outside... mw says i've got really strong core muscles, and in fact ended up bruising me last week when trying to suss out if he was head up or down! i was sure it was the flab, but she said that's easy to get through - it's strong muscle that is tough!

I've a couple of friends who swear by going up and down the stairs sideways endlessly too when they're close to being due - reckons it helps them drop down, but dunno if there's any truth in that!

sorry everyone about the length of that, i'll shut up now!!

stoofadoof · 13/01/2010 07:09

me again - sorry! are any of you with kids/toddlers already feeling like you're not spending enough quality time with them at the mo? I seem to feel permanently guilty about it, but there just seems such a lot of stuff that needs doing (i mean around the house etc etc) and i just feel knackered permanently ... i'm not working at the moment, but it sometimes feels like i used to manage more 'good' time with DD when i was working full time... that sounds ridiculous, and i know i'm heavily pregnant and all that, but still.....

mawbroon · 13/01/2010 09:00

Yes, stoofadoof, I am struggling a bit spending time with ds. I gave up work in October specifically so that we would have lots of time to do fun stuff before the baby was born, then we spent the next 9 weeks being ill, had the upset of the Christmas hols, and now this with my ankle. There will be no normal for us before the baby is born But, he is 4.2yo and understands a great deal. He has known about the pregnancy since I was about 8 weeks, and loves to feel his brother kick and stroke my bump. I think we will be ok. He has the odd wobble about stuff when he is tired/hungry, but he has taken to nursing a lot more to help himself calm down. I have never been so grateful to still be nursing him as I am now, and he tells me there is a lot more colostrum, so he is happy to nurse for longer periods which will help calm and settle him I think.

Baby was definitely sideways yesterday, but I felt his head bobbing at the top of my bump yesterday, so he seems to be breech again. I have resigned myself to probably having to have another section. Not sure how two lots of surgery in the space of about 6 weeks is going to make me feel though....

The snow is slowly melting here now. I think we are up to about 4 degrees now (tropical) and there is only about 4inches lying in the garden now as opposed to the 8 or so that there were the other day. Can you tell I have spent a lot of time looking out the window.

I am making my emergency plan today just in case there something goes terribly wrong with my surgery and they have to deliver the baby early. My sister said she would express some milk for in my freezer, and if I can get a hold of some syringes, I will express some colostrum. This is worst case scenario, I am sure it will all be just fine, but I would hate to wake up from an operation to find they had delivered the baby and I had made no provisions for it.....

MidgetGems · 13/01/2010 09:39

Hello everybody!

Not posted for a while but am off work today due to severe black ice so have some extra time. I have been happily stalking you all so I know all my niggles and worries are just what we are all feeling!
Mawbroon you seem to be coping so well! I'm very impressed by your calm organisation.

I am in the 'not really organised anything' denial club at the moment. really looking forward to the whole nesting thing kicking in so I finally get somethings done. Like many of you we are living in a bit of a building site so nagging DH to actually get something finished is my main hobby!

hope you are all taking care if it is icy / snowy / boiling hot near you.

x

Clappedout · 13/01/2010 10:33

Hi all,

bethylou thanks for your kind words on toddlers, sounds like you are doing well with your DS, hope he's calmed down a bit adn no more major 'trums. It's such a mix of feelings, guilt, anger, frustration..maybe we have regressed to toddlers ourselves?!

ktpie I am having similar changing table battles, my DD is insisting on standing jumping, refusing to put tights on which is when she kicks me and just recently insisiting on wiping her bottom for AGES and gets furious if I try and hurry her along! Where has all my patience gone?

The lack of quality time with them is i guess making an impact, I am feeling quite sad about having to divide my time once the baby comes too, I will miss my DD, silly I know.

mawbroon good luck with your ankle surgery, what miserable timing.

fiziwizzle · 13/01/2010 11:10

Mine snores too. I have never had a partner that doesn't, actually. At least this one is very good rolling onto his side when prompted. I find it less annoying now that I'm up 4 or 5 times in the night to wee, than I did pre-pregnancy, when the snoring would wake me up. Now I can't blame him for my lack of sleep . Sleep is so important though! Can it really get worse when baby arrives? [hands over ears emoticon]

Best of luck with your operations and your preparations mawbroon. You are doing far better than I am, and I have absolutely no excuse .

As for clumsiness...! I am going through the crockery like no-one's business (why is it always the best stuff?) and yesterday split and spilt a new packet of rice all over the kitchen floor while unpacking the shopping. How?! I should just be locked in a padded room until the baby arrives.

Welcome pickle! I think it's totally natural to be nervous at this stage. I'm more in denial than nervous which is probably not too healthy either . I have tried the perineal massage, twice, but found it so difficult to reach round my bump that I gave it up as a bad job. Anyone been successful?

woowa · 13/01/2010 11:16

marking place...have nothing interesting to add......still PG...

comeonbishbosh · 13/01/2010 12:40

Had our midwife home visit today (36+3), and tried not to feel too embarrassed when we showed her the baby's room which is still very much in the 'taking out of my office stuff' and no discernible baby stuff in it. This weekend we will be giving it a really good clean and so far have being trying to concentrate on moving stuff out rather than putting stuff in, but I do feel a little behind!

Finishing work end of this week and am looking forward to not expending all spare energy there, leaving none for baby prep stuff. I too am going though a clumsy stage and burst into tears and hit the fridge one evening when I dropped a carton of orange juice! DH just had laugh when I was stomping my feet in slippers...

Hoping for a home water birth so this weekend will see us heading to B&Q for a hose and clean bucket, but quite excited. Our midwife is fab, been very encouraging to talk everything through with her.

Good luck all!

pickle75 · 13/01/2010 12:51

Just a quick update - tried my hypnobirthing CD last night. It was very relaxing - I fell asleep!!!

watercress · 13/01/2010 14:45

Stofadoof you clearly have my DD! The same age and exactly the same behaviour - no terrible twos but they've kicked in now, but she's also really excited about the babya dn talks to everyone about her imminent arrival. But I also suspect that I am not as good a mummy as I could be, what with the tiredness and achiness. I keep looking at her and feeling so sorry for her that I'm going to turn her life upside down...

Going mad here with more snow and a useless DH who hasn't even got me a birthday card, let alone a present, and is working late (it's tomorrow). Grr. He's got a nerve what with everything I did for his birthday last weekend (despite the snow, 22 of he anticipated 24 turned up for lunch!).

I had to reschedule my antenatal appointment for today because of more snow (had to reschedule it from last week for the same reason), and the surgery has helpfully told me that I can't be seen for another three weeks (in Feb!). I said I would be 38 weeks by then, and the receptionist snapped "Well, I can't do anything about the weather", to which I replied "And neither can I stop my pregnancy progressing"!

Ohh, bad tempers all round here!

threeplusone · 13/01/2010 15:09

Happy birthday for tommorrow watercress.
(shock) at them not being able to give you an antenatal appointment sooner.

My MW is now seeing me tommorrow instead of friday to check the BP and protein as I have had a headache all day and feel nauseas if it doesnt ease with the next dose of paracetamol then she has ninstructed thayt dh takes me straight up to the hospital tonight, to be checked.. the same if i get blurred vision also.. fingers crossed everything will be ok.

Mawbroon good luck for tommorrow hun xx

pickle75 welcome glad you found us

flyingcloud · 13/01/2010 15:34

Hello everyone. We had some snow last night, I got very excited, but it's all melting now.

I had a meltdown in the hospital yesterday, which is too boring to go into, but suffice to say I was given the wrong information (I didn't ask the right questions) and I missed my anaesthetist appt. I started to cry... so embarrassing... I was sobbing away in the corner, waiting for a later appt (turns out they're group sessions anyway and it really was a pointless waste of my afternoon). So I came home and fell asleep on the sofa eating white chocolate buttons (which then melted into the sofa).

My daily hormonal rage is usually kicked off by my own ineptitude. This morning I spilt a tub of breadcrumbs (ready made, bought stuff) all over the kitchen cupboard and floor. I really struggled to bend over to sweep up and by the time DH came home for lunch I was in the midst of another major meltdown.

Oh and yesterday in the hospital I managed to get an appt with my gynae - when I swung by his department there were five secretaries/nurses there chatting and gossiping while all the phones were ringing - so that's why I spend a minimum of 20 mins on hold every time I call. Also turns out that they do have appointments available but obviously when I called they couldn't be bothered to look in the diary .

Welcome Pickles!

Mawbroon we'll all be thinking of you tomorrow.

sunnybump · 13/01/2010 17:34

Pickles, it took me 4 or 5 goes to get to the end of the birth preparation natal hypnotherapy cd while staying awake. It's really good to be so relaxed but I wanted to hear what she was saying! Is that the cd you're on?

Threeplusone I feel for you, I have protein in my urine, a bit of swelling and a headache too so am being watched carefully. No BP problems though so fingers crossed it just all goes away of it's own accord. At least we seem to be getting looked after well.

Watercress that is appalling Maternity care, is it maybe worth contacting the surgery again and speaking to the practice manager or the supervisor of Midwives to see what can be done? Happy Birthday for tomorrow.

Comeonbishbosh have you already got a pool for at home? Found a bargain kit yesterday at www.ecobirthpools.co.uk and am going to buy it come payday, have you seen a better deal?

Fizi I've thought about perineal massage, does that count?You've got further than me anyhow, must try harder.

Mawbroon very best of luck for tomorrow, may it all go smoothly but you have done so much good preparation incase your LO comes early. Your attitude is inspirational.

Stoofadoof I'm trying the same, the wee dude is back to back at the moment so have spent a good while today looking at the spinning babies site. Pelvic tilts seem to be the order of the day for me, might see if DH is up for helping me do the inversion thing if my head can take it.

The hormones seem to be a bit crazy again, if I wasn't on this thread and could read it's not just me I'm sure I'd think I was going fruitlooper

Woowa was it you who mentioned partying all night in their 20's? What a thought now eh, I'd barely be ready to leave the house at the time I go to bed now, although I am still often seeing 4am and 6am but not from a post club party point of view! Crazy how things change

sunnybump · 13/01/2010 17:35

Bloomin 'eck I do go on sometimes

fiziwizzle · 13/01/2010 18:33

Oh sunnybump I wish I'd seen the Eco Birth Pools website two days ago! We just bought a Pool in a Box but it cost quite a bit more and we got fewer accessories. That's me not bothering to do my research properly. Ah well, it arrived today so as long as I hang on until Monday, I should at least be abel to attempt my waterbirth.

I've listened to my hypnobirthing CD twice and fallen asleep twice! I'm thinking maybe I should give it a try straight after breakfast when hopefully the coffee will have kicked in and I may stand a chance of making it to the end...

Watercress please tell me that your DH will pull his finger out and get card, present, flowers and cake for the love of his life who is bearing his child! Especially after your huge effort for him last weekend. I know that men are crap, and we allow them to be crap, but you deserve some good old TLC tomorrow. Hope you get it.

Re your AN appt - SURELY they have to see you before then - complain, complain!!

mawbroon · 13/01/2010 19:12

Hi everyone. I've had a busy day today. Got my emergency plan done, have spoken to the infant feeding team to make sure that the hospital would co-operate with my emergency plan. I packed my bag, and ds's bag (first night we have been apart in his 4.2yrs ) and managed to express one measly ml of colostrum. I will have another go once we have had something to eat and got tidied up. My sister gave me 25mls of breastmilk which would keep a preemie going for a while. probably long enough until I was able to express for myself.

DH is just taking DS to ILs house just now. They live 2 mins round the corner which is handy. Missing DS will be one of the hardest parts of this for me because we are quite inseperable. I don't even know what time I will see him tomorrow. I might not be in a fit state at afternoon visiting time, so it might not be for almost 24hrs.

I think they have bedside internet at the hospital, but I am not sure if I will be in a fit state to use it or not!!! So, don't worry if I don't post for a couple of days!

And don't any of you go giving birth while I'm away.

westlondongirl · 13/01/2010 19:21

Good luck Mawbroon hope it goes ok. Will be sednign massive good luck vibes your way.

Have spent the day lying of the sofa with a stinking cold. Felt too crap to fight with insurance companies/landlords today. Gave myself a day off! One day I might actually be able to get things ready for the baby...hopefully before he goes to university!!

westlondongirl · 13/01/2010 19:22

or 'sending' even...sorry pregnancy dyslexia!