Not yet November but already three babies down! Ooooh oooh nearly there!

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comma I know it can be a shock when you need a section-it took me ages to get over DDs birth (emergency section) and to get my head round needing another one this time, but if it is needed, then it is needed. It really isn't all that bad, and I hear a planned one is much better than an emergency one as well. The scar fades and is really low down anyway. I console myself by saying I'd rather have a scar on my belly then damage to my bits!
They monitor absolutely everything, so there is a very slim chance of anything going wrong (the scary stats are mainly due to the fact that higher risk babies tend to be born by section anyway) and it is all over and done with really quickly. The actual procedure feels really weird, but at least it isn't painful, and you just have to make sure you really do rest for the recovery, especially the first two weeks. NO lifting of anything heavier than the newborn baby, not even the baby in a car seat or a toddler. Do try and move about a bit though.
Don't listen to people who rant on about "natural" births - that is all very well and good when everything is fine, but at the end of the day I would much rather have a healthy mother and baby than some whale song and candles!
You have still carried the baby all this time, you will still be it's mother, you will still get all the cuddles you want straight after the birth, it's just instead of spending a day or so puffing and panting, you will spend half an hour lying on a table and a few weeks feeling a bit sore and delicate. They are both valid birth experiences, and your baby won't know the difference. All your baby will know is that it has a mother who loves it and would put herself through anything for it.

comma hope all these messages are helping you to feel better about it.

I've been on the phone to the maternity ward ... seems like something is starting although whether this will turn into labour or not who knows.
Guess either I'll be absent for a little while or back on here quite soon with a right sulk on!!

Thank you for being so kind, it really helps to deal with it.

Lucie thank you- maybe it's for the best, I just so loved last time when I had a vb and all was jsut perfect but for the epi. I know I was lucky that time.

Lissy I know, and I'm not the whale-song kind of person by a long shot, but I already have the damage to my bits, and don't want any other on top...though you can never tell waht might happen of course.

Good luck scarlotti !!!

Good luck scarlotti!

Been on my (rather deflated) ball for most of the day and just crashed out for a nap on my doughnut beanbag and the dratted baby is still really high up.

Some long walks tomorrow, methinks. Maybe even a swim, although I've just realised I don't have the car as I thought as it's in for an MOT.

scarlotti good luck!

Woohooo, fingers crossed this is really it for you Scarlotti

good luck scarlotti hope next time you post it's with a lo sleeping next to you x

Oh Scarlotti fingers crossed this is it and it all goes well for you xx

I have just finished the decorating of the hallway and new loft room. I am so knackered. I need to chill out before i sleep otherwise i am going to dream about cutting in eggshell skirting. I did that for hours as I am (only just realising it) a bit anal myself about it being perfect. But i found the perfect tool - a little flat child's brush from Ikea! (its 1nch wide) it is perfect, and creates a smoother line that my £10 brush!

We painted DDs door pink it was a spur of the moment bit of madness on our part, Dhs idea but thought we should and it looks surprisingly good! DD really wanted a pink bedroom, and really wants a princess bedroom, but we said no to the pink, so we thought as a surprise and well done for being so bloody good over this horrible period, we would do it.

She is at a friends house for a sleepover and we are going to move some of her stuff up to her room tomorrow, going to get a sign for her door, i am going to make a muslin canopy for above her bed, put some pictures up. Then thursday she can help with the last of the things to go up there and then her own room! I feel quite tearful, i sort of don't want her to go now!

Anyway, DH has got to get up at 5:45am as he is taking a friend to hospital for an operation, he agreed before knowing the time! And now, we have a morning without DD and he won't be here to enjoy it...i will though , then carpets fitted.

So, off to bed. Sorry for mammoth post all about me me me but I just needed to get it all out before i go to sleep!

pavlov I cannot believe the stuff you get done! Wished I had some of that energy! I am sure dd will love all you do for her! My dd's room is the only one properly done, it's much more fun if it's for them....

scarlotti, thinking of you! hope you have already a little baby in your arms... well actually hoping you are already sleeping and recovering.
comma, I can perfectly understand your feelings about having a caesarian. But it is best for you and your baby and they are very good at it, especially if it is a planned one. It's just the safest option. I can also understand that you want to have time without your MIL but as someone else already said, I think, you will need her. And it allows you to spend actually more time with your husband. Don't you think you will be even happy that he can be with you at the hospital (and that he wants to be there?)
pavlov, I'm really admiring you for all that work. I'm sure your dd will love the pink door. at not wanting her in her own room anymore but you will also enjoy having a few nights sleep before the next room sharer will wake you up several times. I hope you could really sleep well after all that work.

Oh my god, it's taken me ages to catch up just from yesterdays posts!! Will try really hard to remember everything....

Pav I am SOOOO impressed you've got it all done! Well done you. I'm sure your dd will LOVE her pink door and all the things you have planned for her bedroom.

Erika Really glad that Bryn is ok. Sorry your consultant appt was not good though Sounds like your consultant was a bit like mine (seems changing hospitals for me wouldn't have mattered anyway then). I hope he turns up early for you now anyway.

Scarlotti Can't believe you are still getting texts from your brother about the presnt. They are so very ungrateful and it is so unnecessary. I hope things get sorted out soon and he stops being such a prick prat.

Comma sorry about your news of the CS and it upsetting you so much. I'm sure it won't be as bad as it seems right now, and you will have your precious bundle soon and it will all be worth it. Good luck and take care.

Sorry didn't get around to more but dd is requesting some attention! Will come back later and try and catch up with everyone else!

comma sorry you feel so terrible. Take a breath and as hard as it to accept please remember you and lo will be safe and sound. Also agree with the others. You will need help after a section and maybe it may be and idea to have MIL there. Hope you're ok.

Scarlotti good luck and look forward to hearing more good news!

pavlov wish I had a pink door! your DD is very lucky..

my mother arrives tomorrow..don't know to rejoice or moan..i half need the help as the baby feels its going to pop out of my belly button. on the other hand she doesn't approve of my discipline (not needed always) with DD..i also get very defensive and wound up as she was not such a prize winning parent..i still think I need therapy hey ho...help is needed so i should be happy..sorry for ranting.

Morning all,

Pavlov well done for getting the painting finished, hope your dd likes her door!

scarlotti good luck, hope everything goes well and we hear some news soon!

I feel terrible this morning. woke in the night with a funny tummy and felt sick and then ds came into bed with us at 4.45am and wriggled around for ages. I then got up at 6.30am, still with a funny tummy and now I have been sick, yuck. I've had a few stomach pains but not sure if they are to do with the upset tum, braxton hicks or what but I have an appointment with my midwife soon so will see what she says. Sorry if tmi but all the pooing in the night has made my pile come back and now I'm in too much pain to even go to the loo. I am really fed up, just want this to be over now.

Morning!

Scarlotti How exciting! keeping my fingers crossed that this it for you!

helips Sorry you feel so poorly, hope the mw has something positive to say.

Pav A pink door, every girls dreams

Well we finally have news from the hospital re my stepdad, he is being moved this morning to a private hospital, and will have his heart bypass tomorrow. I feel pleased that it will soon be over but very very worried about the whole operation

aww pavlov i bet she'll love it!!

Just sat waiting for my groceries to be delivered again after the screwed it up yesterday, it's getting silly now haha. Got the last few bits for my hospital bag in it and I want to get it sorted hehe - it's just silly stuff like a small bottle of cordial and what not but i want it done lol

Phew, trying in vain to catch up on all the news but not sure I'll manage. Slowly (surely?) getting this new house licked into shape but the result is many-a Braxton Hicks all last night and this morning Ah well, suppose means body getting ready which is good. Torn between wanting her to arrive (just get OUT!) and totally NOT being ready (hosp bag/house/mentally etc.... )

Good luck scarlotti, got my fingers crossed for you!

erika glad to hear Bryn doing well, that's the main thing isn't it?

comma so sorry to her your birth plan isn't happening the way you wanted, but again, so exciting to know that your little one will be with you soon.

Lots of happy wishes to everyone else and sorry if I've forgotten anyone's news...just...can't...focus...so tired!

Tigger best of luck for your dad. It will take a bit of time to recover but he will feel like a new man in a few weeks.
Thinking of you

go, scarlotti, go!

helips maybe this is the start of something for you, too? Hope you feel better anyway.

tigger hope your stepdad's operation goes smoothly and you can relax a bit after it's over.

Still sick (meh) but I felt distinctly like the baby had dropped a bit yesterday, so that was something. A friend who popped round remarked on it immediately, unprompted, which was nice - not just imagining things! (Does this mean I can now loll about on the couch and lean back in chairs like I've been told not to do? Sigh.)

Also DH very randomly informed me last night that he liked a certain boy's name - one from my family - so the niggling anxiety I'd had about not having a boy's name ready just in case has been relieved. Funny that I am more worried about that than packing a hospital bag

Comma, I'm honestly so sorry. Is there any hope of getting the baby to turn, either through ECV or through natural methods? The Spinning Babies website has some suggestions for turning breech babies.

I wish I could say that I'm 100% happy about having a caesarian, but I've had a few weepy spells about it both before and after it happened. All that raspberry leaf tea swigged for nothing (to say nothing of the hypnobirthing, the Pilates, the doula, the healthy eating, the Ina-May-Gaskin reading...) Also, various doctors and midwives keep looking at the incision wound and saying approving things like 'Lovely!' and 'Very nice!' while I want to shout 'There is nothing lovely or very nice about it, ACTUALLY.' It also looks bloody huge, so I hope that everyone who says that the scar shrinks is right. (I recommend giant cotton Bridget Jones knickers from M & S, incidentally.)

On the bright side, there will be no chance of you ripping hideously down south. While lying on the operating table, I heard some poor cow roaring her head off in the room next door, and one of the surgical midwives explained cosily 'Don't worry about that, they're just trying forceps on her before they go for the section.' I thought, okay, she's going to be cut to Hades in BOTH places and all of a sudden, my section seemed a lot more appealing.

EasyEggs wow? Your hospital sound so on the ball Hope they have a better team in the labour ward!!

Sleepless yes am feeling rather the same I?d quite like MY body back now please!!

Ninja for you at the attitude in Primark. For goodness sakes, that?s totally ridiculous.

Comma sorry to hear you won?t be able to have the birth you wanted, but try to focus on the fact that you?re going to be holding your little one very soon. Big hugs x

Pavlov sounds like you had a hectic and incredibly productive day I?d love to see the look on your DDs face, I bet she?s going to be over the moon.

Sleepless therapy is fun ? I used to make origami birds in mine I?m already being ?advised? about discipline from my mum and DPs so guessing it kinda comes with the role of grandparent. Hope its okay.

Tigger thinking of your step-dad. At least they?re acting quickly.

Went out with a friend for cream tea yesterday - always very entertaining when we're together, as we both sit there talking about our love lives etc and get odd looks. Apparently men and women really can't be "just friends" in the eyes of the general population Then as he was bringing me home could hear the arguments still going on, so went back to his for dinner, and had a lovely evening full of laughter.

Is anyone else having extremem pins and needles / tingling / pain in their hands and feet when they lay down? Thinking I might mention it tomorrow as its got really bad now. Very curious.

Hope you're all well. x

www.bettacare.co.uk/acatalog/Single_Strollers_and_Joggers.html was told to check this very cheap buggy out as apparently a bit of a bargain. Not really what I'm looking for but thought I'd pass on the link

Oh and Scarlotti I keep forgetting to say I am holding my breath hear waithing for news (me now - holding breath) 9me by the end of the day if there is no news. Very excited for you, hope all goes well.

As in that's me going red in the face from holding my breath. Not me getting angry for lack of news.

Scarlotti what is happening? The suspense is killing me!
Also very at you jumping the queue!

Helips sounds like it could be happening for you too? People the list is there for a reason. I should be next! Sure I could forgive Ursigurke and Wook but others form orderly queue please.

Pavlov maybe you are in the wrong trade? Surely all that decorating cant be just nesting can it?

Comma I am sorry that you are upset but at least you will have your little bubba soon!

Tigger thinking of you and your stepdad. My grandpa (at the age of 82) had heart surgery almost a year ago and he is much better now! And that was his first illness ever I think so we were all a little bit !

Tamlin your comment has just made me realise how I truly am afraid of forceps. I do not wish to give birth anymore. Please make her stay inside. I am sure I will miss my bump more than actually love having a baby in my arms . As it is my EDD today don?t think I somehow have a choice anymore! But I knew this one wasn?t going to show on time so no surprises this end.

Another weird pg symptom. I?ve had tingling in my tongue and lips every now and then. A bit like pins and needles. Explanation anybody?