Due November 2009 - we just can't stop chatting!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

A new thread!

wizzywoo sorry you're having such a terrible time, I really hope it improves for you. It must be so annoying to have to be on a low fat diet too - I bet you can't wait until this baby is out. Do you think your DD has been acting up because of your stay in hospital? I suppose a few of us will have that to look forward to in a few months, but not much we can do about it.

scarlotti I know exactly what you mean. I have been having fantasies about going back to work (in a proper job, not freelance) and being a real person again. I'm not very good at not working, which I'm not at the moment. I feel like a mother and a wife and like I've lost the part that is me. Yesterday I got the bus into town at commuting time and since I haven't commuted for 18 months I was looking at all these glossy, sophisticated people off to their jobs, while I was in yesterday's frumpy clothes, no make-up etc feeling, as you say, quite inconsequential. Not exactly the frame of mind to be starting 9 months' maternity leave... I'm sure it will pass though.

Laugs am the same, I think I get a lot of my identity and self esteem from my work. I studied hard to get there and am good at what I do. Have never had difficulty finding work, this patch is purely because I'm pg and so there's a time limit on how long I can work for. I miss using my brain to work things out - and I too am sat with unwashed hair and no make-up. Sadly I'm just not the domestic goddess type, as much as I'd love to be!!

Hopefully maternity will be different as we'll be too busy/tired to think about such things

wizzy so sorry to hear you're having such a hard time.

Had routine GP appointment today. He told me I was gaining too much weight. Am nervous about consultant appointment tomorrow for GD. Reckon they're going to have a go at me about my weight and have been trying so hard to eat healthily since I got the test results. I've gained 6kg which I thought was ok (but was overweight before I got pg.)

On a plus note my BP is excellent, there's no glucose in my urine, baby is head down and 2/5 engaged whatever that means!

He said the pain I get in my hands was carpal tunnel and quite common in pg. can't do much about it but if it gets a lot worse I could wear wrist splints. It's odd when I wake up the pain is so bad I can't even flush the toilet or turn taps on but it fades as the day goes on.

lemontop I've put on 2st 3lbs since getting pg (that's about 14kg) so I can't see what the issue is. My mw said that it's the rate of gain rather than the whole amount so don't worry.

2/5 engaged means the baby is 2/5 of the way down into your pelvis. Baby will get to 5/5 engaged before birth, but probably only just before. With first babies it's a way of tracking how you're getting on. With subsequent babies, our pelvises are already a bit wider so ours bob in and out as they please!

Had carpal tunnel last time so can sympathise with you there.

Just had MW appt, so talking of babies bobbing in and out - mine is transverse at mo - thought it had been bloomin uncomfortable! Plenty of time for it to turn though so not worried.

Got to go pick up DCs from nursery in a bit, is DD's last day before starting preschool tomorrow and I fee all upset and nervous for her (she doesn't seem to care mind!!).

wizzywoo - I am so sorry to hear what a tough pregnancy you're having. Hope you manage to feel a bit better soon.
Lemontop - I weighed myself this morning and have gained about 7.5kg over my pre-pregnancy weight but I also lost a bit of weight during the morning sickness phase so it's more than that in reality. I'm 30 + 3 by the way. I seem to be really slowing down in teh weight gain department at the moment. I gained loads of weight very quickly around 20 - 25 weeks and then things have been much slower over the last few.
Went to the dentist today, it is one of my guilty secrets that I hate going and put it off quite often. I hadn't actually been since getting pregnant despite my mum and dh nagging. Was really worried that there would be something wrong but thank heavens all fine. Got a lecture from the dentist though about "when you have a child you need to demonstrate a good attitude to the dentist so that he or she won't be scared of us"!

cant remember who posted about feeling inconsequential, but i definately do today. its probably as I have been stuck in the house all day. have only just started mat leave and am already bored to tears.

Back fro GTT. Ugh, not even lucozade! Thought I was going to be sick the sugar caused such bad heartburn.
Had student midwife. Not that that should be a problem but felt a bit guinepig ish.
Got them to agree to a retest for strep at 36wks. A friend of mine had a homebirth after testing + for strep. Said she did the unmentionable garlic thing but that the thread came off and had to have dr remove it

M2B I am in Hotwells

Scarlotti that's perfectly understandable If you can't make it, obviously, fair enough.

Lemontop hope your appointment goes well tomorrow.

Sorry to hear some of you are feeling low and bored. When I first got ME, and was gradually loosing my mind from bordem, I found that crocheting was really good as it gave me something productive to do, and made me feel like I'd achieved something. Also, I did a research project, just to keep using my brain. Hope maybe that helps.

Am on such a downner today. Have been since last night really - have booked a GPs appointment for tomorrow, as am rather concerned. Have only just got out of bed today, just couldn't face the world. Have spent the whole day wondering about ways to kill myself without hurting Bryn Even by my standards this isn't right or normal. Don't know quite what I'll say to the GP, I don't want to up my dosage of ADs really, and am not keen on asking to go into the physc unit, as would be an adult ward this time, and they're really quite scary. Seeing MW on Friday, too, so will have a talk with her. Someone suggested its possible I'm suffering with pre-natal depression or whatever its called, as well as my other stuff. I have no idea what's going on, but just quite frightened of myself.

Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest. Feel so bad and guilty for feeling this way, so feel worse, and then its a big downwards spiral from there.

ninja that stuff is soooo grim

I have a question re my hospital bag. The name suggests a small bag but when you start to add up all the stuff that's got to go inside it sounds like it should be called a hospital suitcase but surely taking a case would be a bit excessive? I know I've got at least a 24hr stay if that makes any difference.

I took a small suitcase last time cos there really is a lot of stuff you need. I might do again this time too.

Erika it could be the effects of your meds. Who is your care provider? Is it your CPN? You could talk it over with them.
Are you having thoughts or impulses?

Lemontop ugh and double ugh. Did you spend the time after feeling very sick? I'm a bit worried about how ill it made me feel.

Had a shock when student MW told me I was measuring 34wks . Trained MW came and did measurement to double check, dead on 28. Few

Can't keep up with all the chat!!

Erika glad you have a GP appointment tomorrow- may be antenatal depression or your meds? Is there anyone you can speak to if these thoughts carry on this evening?

Ninja I haven't been measured yet this preg so was going to get the tape measure out and have a go- but have forgotten where/what the mws measure. Petrified of having another whopper baby so anxious to know as several people reckon I look bigger than last time argh!

Trikken Scarlotti Laugs I too am feeling very odd without work, I think it's a bit too much of who I am! But when I am not working I go crazy with big schemes which is even worse as I can't relax. I have done the biggest ebay load ever in the past two weeks, and next have to start clearing out my silversmithing box in preparation for mass production for Christmas craft fair and presents. I also want to paint dd an alphabet poster like I made ds - otherwise it's not fair on her and she already doesn't have a 'dear dc' book of her own as ds did. Plus got to decorate the nursery! And get ds safely off to school next Mon for the first time! And send ds birthday thank you cards! And start aquanatal! etc etc- so purposeless because workless yet madly busy and stressed all at once!

I was going to approach NCT and others with idea for a kind of 'new mums hiking club'!? Just want to sound you all out- does it sound a bit mad? The coffee groups etc were great last time and I met some great mums but there was a LOT of cake involved. I was thinking that maybe some mums would like to go for a nice bracing walk to shift the baby weight and banish the winter blues and THEN have cake. [hmmm] Do you reckon anyone will join me?!

Sorry, my posts always too long!

Wizzy so sorry to hear your pregnancy is being so difficult still.

sounds like an excellent idea wook think I'll try and walk more, and hopefully will have wii fit for christmas so that'll help too, also liking the cake thought too tho.

I've been on these ones before though, a higher dose. And been on them for the best part of a month now. Surely I wouldn't be having a reaction to them at this point in time..?

Ninja I don't really know my new care provider. I think she's a CPN, but not entirely sure, have only met her twice for about five minutes each. Do know she's away this week, though - got rather desperate earlier and called the unit she's based at. There wasn't a duty physc on either, which I found rather suprising. I have my first session with her next Thursday, and was told she's not back until the day before that Am glad to hear the MW remessured at a sensible size for you, though!

Wook I tried to talk to DP earlier but his responce was "Make a GPs appointment, not much I can do, is there?" - think he's struggling again today too. Haven't heard from him since then. My parents do try but they can't understand it. And for what its worth, I think that sounds like a fantastic idea.

Erika Sorry you're feeling so low. It's good you're talking about it and aware you need to approach the GP and midwife about your feelings. Bryn needs his mummy, try and focus on the good things that will happen over the coming years with your baby boy. Motherhood is the most rewarding job in the world and worth every emotional hurdle. Let us know how things go tomorrow. Thinking of you.

Wook I've seen a local NCT group all meeting up and jogging around the park with their babies in the pram.

I've also given up work and feel like I'm needing a project to get on with. I've spent the day boxing up DS's old toys and clothes. I'm starting on my Ebay tomorrow and get rid of some things. I'm keeping hold of all (the good stuff) DS's clothes, shoes etc, but if this bubba is a girl then I'll be clearing out so much stuff! Having a boy would save me so much money. I've already warned DH to be prepared for a huge shopping spree if we have a girl Think I over did it today though and was being sick tonight. Feeling much better after my dinner and putting my feet up.

Grobags/Sleeping bags - I think they are great! DS was in one until he went into a bed. He loved the security of his sleeping bag.

wook please tell me you're somewhere near Oxford. I'd love to do something like this! Am already thinking about getting an all-terrain pram so I can go for walks.

skorpion thats why I love my urban detour, you can go anywhere with it.

Be careful buying diffferent pushchairs for different reasons...you can overdo it...btw anybody want to buy a Jane Powertrack?

There is a buggyfit that runs in Witney www.buggyfit.co.uk/ they have a list of classes on there. I was at MS yesterday and they had a few exercise posters up on the board, nothing like hiking mind - sounds great.

Turtle - we also have a powertrack I could do with getting rid of, absolutely loved it as we live in the country and great for walks across fields etc but we just have too many little people for a single buggy now!!

wook I think the hiking group is a great idea (though I'm more of a leisurely stroll kind of girl - the word 'hiking' might put me off). A group meets in our local park from Pushy Mothers here, which seems to be a walking group. Personally I think the £20 joining fee, plus £7 a session is too expensive, as walking is free! But the idea is a really good one. As you say walking is a great way to banish the baby blues and for shyer (sp?) members of the group it's probably not as intimidating as entering a room full of strangers.

erika I hope you're feeling better today and that you managed to get hold of someone who could help. I don't have any experience of this, but I can tell you're already so dedicated to Bryn and that this little baby will bring you so much joy. Plus, you have your book to get on with . How's it going, by the way? I can be a hard task-master if that helps? I am currently bullying nagging coercing DH into doing some training for the Great North Run and I must say the Bossy Boots cap fits me well!

wook I am coming up with a million harebrained plans to keep me busy. I never follow through though... My latest is to hire a hall and have a 'proper' birthday party for DD's 3rd. We've only ever had small family get-togethers before as our flat is small, but she keeps talking about having all her friends there. I will be 36+3. Am I mad??

Laugs If you have some help with the party then it should be more managable, but maybe do something that is small scale so you don't exhaust yourself. Like you, I've only had small gatherings for DS's birthdays. Would like a nice party for him this year, but I will be 39+5 so don't think it's wise for me to plan anything.

Laugs - we were thinking along the same lines for DD's 3rd but if I hadn't given birth would be 40+5!! Did a village hall party for her 1st birthday, was quite a lot of work, doing the food in particular, then the setting up and clearing up afterwards. Was great fun tho and if you have people around to help then is doable. We've decided that it makes more sense for us to do a swimming party at local leisure centre - turn up, have pools to ourselves with music and floats (parents also allowed), then they provide a tea and clear up!! All we have to do is party bags and cake. Also, it works out at £9 per child which is probably less than would end up spending on village hall do, after all the food etc.

Cross posts Fruitpastels!!

Thanks for the ideas. I like the idea of a swimming pool party as the BEST party I ever had was at a pool (I must have been about 6). Our local pool's closed for refurbishment though and it seems silly to trek everyone elsewhere. I'm looking at soft play too, but that doesn't give me much opportunity to flex my creative impulses!! I might actually have to get on with cleaning and sorting boxes instead...

I'd probably have plenty of help as my parents and DB/ SIL would be up staying.