Due March 2010 - do my boobs look big in this?

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Hello everyone,

I can't find a March 2010 thread so thought I'd start with.

This is my first and i think my EDD is 2 March 2010.

Come and join me!

Dalrymps - I also sleep badly... I have weird dreams and wake up frequently, often thirsty and/or needing the loo, then it's hard to go back to sleep. Try to go to bed early and read in bed until you feel sleepy... oh I want my bed now... zzz...

DB - on the subject of pregnancy farts etc, haha, yeah the mystique is gone from my marriage too but that's part of why I like it! Bad one tonight in front of TV, DH had to use cushion as gas mask.

Retro, hope you feel better! Go to GP and get your urine tested for infection to rule that out...

annamanna - Sorry to be insensitive but i'm glad i'm not alone with the poor sleeping. It's such a bloody pain! I have totally cut caffiene out of my diet and have a horlicks before bed, oh and we bought a thinner duvet so I don't get too hot, not much else I can do... Hope it settles down soon for both of us.

No 'mystique' left in my marriage at all, that dissapeared a long time ago! My dh is the kind of man who finds farts incredibly amusing though, good job!

Retromum - are you feeling better/managed a poo ?
I am finding this whole thing very difficult. Have had constant pains, twinges and cramps which i am trying to be calm about but now have a whole new pain for the last 2 days which is like a constant throbbing in my (TMI alert)vagina . I could try googling it but i think i might end up on dodgy websites! Anyway i cant stand not knowing and so have booked myself in tomorrow for another expensive scan. I am so impressed with how positive and calm everyone on this thread is being. I really am going to have to get a grip if i am to survive the next half a year or so

veryworriedme - bear in mind that many of us are second timers,so it's all a bit familiar... you should seen the threads I was posting a couple of years ago!

Perfectly natural to be panicky, it's all very strange and there's all sorts of weird sensations that come and go.

Just try and keepo thinking about all the massive changes going on inside to reassure yourself that some twinges are understandable but get reassurance from scans or midwives when you need it ? it's partly what they're there for and they won't think you're silly or anything.

And we're always here...

FWIW it feels like my uterus is about to fall out today. Can't explain it any other way. Very odd. But I remember the sensation from last time so... hey ho...

db
xx

Hi all, still no posting much cause of the sickness. Had my scan yesterday but they say I am only 10 weeks, not 12. She said I probably had a long cycle. Feel a bit cheated cause I was hoping the sickness would be stopping but looks like there will be a couple more weeks of it. Hope everyone is getting on ok.

Hello everyone, ages since I posted, but have bben reading up on everyone's progress each night - by the time I've put dd down to sleep I've got about 10mins to mn before starting on dinner - by the time I've read everyone's posts there's no time to post myself!!!

Well, the first trimester is nearing an end, ladies - some of you are there already - I still have 2 long wks to go before my scan and it already feels like I've been pg for EVER!

Just went to have a look round a gym - haven't joined since I had dd and want to get back into my swimming to get everything back into some semblance of order ready for the marathon that labout is! Having children is soooooo expensive - on top of my gym membership it'd be another fiver to put dd in the creche for an hour. Hmmm - makes it an expensive swim!

Glad to hear everyone is doing so well with the symptoms - pg farts and all! My constant refrain is 'it wasn't me, it was the baby...!'

Just reading all the messages about NCT. I did these classes with my 1st child. They were great for meeting people. I met my closest friend at these classes and our boys (born 18 hours apart) are the best of friends. The actual classes were useless and didn't teach me anything, but that could have just been my teacher. Loads of people in my area said the hospital classes were better. So definitely worth it if you want to meet people.

MINICOOPER sounds like my gym. Really expensive to use creche. Never been brave enough with either of mine to use it anyway. I just go in the evening when I am not too sick.

Glad I am not the only one suffering with bad wind

Was just thinking of how much my 15-month-old DD has learnt in her short life. She just heard an airplane outside and started flapping her arms. And she can say "more strawberries!" Well not exactly like that but I know what she means! Anyway, my point is I think it will be a bit of a shock to have a newborn (if/when I finally get my hands on it!) They are so small and so helpless and they don't "do" much except eat, sleep & have their nappies changed... But it's all worth it for that first smile!

I don't understand how they can tell so exactly by a scan how many weeks you are. Surely some babies are bigger/smaller then others...? Or maybe not at that early stage. Anyway I guess it's better to be told you're earlier than you thought so hopefully you don't have to be induced!

annamama as I understand it from my extensive reading and googling, all babies develop at a very similar rate up to a point (not sure what that is) but up to 12 weeks they should all be the same.

I too have a long cycle so on Thursday am ready to be told that 12 weeks might not be accurate. Saying that I had an early scan at 7 + 4 and was told, and I quote, "Yewah, that's about right..." by the vague but sexy Dr.

On the NCT side of things I have booked in as I am new to this and only plan on doing it once (DH is older but is his 1st too) so looking forward to making local friends. I'm sure there must be stuff i'll learn from it but will probably go to the NHS ones too although DH works hour and a half from home so if during the week unlikely he will be able to attend.

Very excited about scan on Thursday

Veryworriedme The throbbing could well be vulval varices. (ie varicose veins in your fluffy bits) They're not dangerous but they do throb and there's not a lot you can do about them. Sorry. Maybe it's just a tight fitting pair of pants eh?! [brightside]

Hi all. Its getting exciting now that scan dates are approaching. Ours is next wednesday.

Work has improved slightly - couldnt have got worse! I was told to turn up 10am Monday and see what happened. On arrival I was taken to the boss who preached a bit and then gave me a desk job to cover for someones leave for two weeks whilst she thinks about what to do with me. Ultimately its safe so cant complain. Also found out today another female of my level is pregnant - 6 weeks. Quite amused at the issues that will create next year when we are both off!!!!! That lady already is in a safe job so won't be a 'headache' for my boss as it was put about me. Shame!!!

xx

Ah fetal doppler arrived today, we only heard a glimpse of a fluttering heartbeat but that was enough for us xx

Can't wait for 12 week scan next week just to check all is ok.

Good luck everyone xx

hi all
sorry just caught up on everything - this thread moves fast if you take your eye off it doesn't it!
Glad everyone ok and feeling similarly fat/windy/rubbish - i mean, CLEARLY i'd love you all to be feeling superdooper but the fact that it sounds like you feel v like me does make me feel a bit better
Anyway, dating scan tomorrow - am feeling v nervous about it so fingers crossed. All being well, I think they'll put me back a couple of weeks, so my guess...is for something like the 23rd March...not the 10th march. You heard it here first!

hello lovely ladies...

Just had my booking appointment at the Whittington - the midwife was LOVELY. Went through everything in lots of detail.

In short, because of fairly miserable delivery with DD, I'm getting lots of extra appointments to keep an eye on things this time and discuss my options.

I'm getting a couple of extra appointments to keep a check on my blood sugar in case undiagnosed GD had anything to do with DD being so huge - although midwife suspects strapping 6ft 4" rugby-playing so! Although she did say that even taking that into account, and my going 2 weeks overdue, a lass of 5ft 1" giving birth to a 4.3kg baby was "unusual". .

I'm getting a specific appointment with a consultant to discuss my first birth in detail, possible causes of the problems and the implications it may/may not have for this delivery.

I'll also be getting a couple of extra scans later on to keep an eye on the size of the baby as D-day approaches - "so we know what we're dealing with"!!

But on the upside she did say that with careful monitoring there's no reason to assume that the same will happen again. She said that I didn't have any of the "major" things (like pre-eclampsia or a low-birthweight baby) which means that consultant led-care (i.e. no birth centre or water pools) is a given, although I did have quite a few of the other 'factors' which means it needs thinking about a bit more carefully.

But she said they'd do everything they could to support my decisions about it, and commended my desire to try and go natural second time around. She said that birth experiences can be drastically different ? especially between babies 1 and 2.

She said that because of my 3° tear I would be offered an elective caesarian as a matter of course if I wanted it. But I'm not at all keen to go down that route. I couldn't imagine such a long stay in hospital away from my DD, or being unable to pick her up/push a double buggy etc. for 6 weeks...

My mum would probably have to come and stay the whole 6 weeks . I love her dearly, but 6 weeks???

That said, if it came down to a choice between that and another induction, I'm not so sure. I don't think my body likes the prostaglandins... .

So, what with that and my bonus scan in 3 1/2 weeks (for nuchal screening) I'm actually feeling quite looked after, whic is nice. I thought I'd be even more ignored for number 2 than for number 1!

So despite the ANC at the Whit. looking a bit shabby, I'm actually feeling a bit sad that I probably won't be having this baby there... everyone without exception so far has been wonderful and I like their attitude.

Anyway, have written what is probably a very dull novel, so will sign off before I =send you all to sleep.

Sleeeeepppp... mmm... good idea!

Nighty night,
db
xx

p.s Scooby - glad your work is finally at least trying to help. Although "headache"!!!??? What the... !!?? I'd give her a bloody headache... . It's as if you're having this baby just to make her life hard (because it's all about her, evidently...) What a crappy attitude. [Fume] [Fume] on your behalf... I'm suddenly feeling very lucky in my job who have been nothing but suportive and pleased for me - even though it's a difficult time for them.

p.p.s. Arcadie "vulval varices"!? Bloody hell. . Veryworried - lets just hope it's just increased blood supply, eh?

p.p.p.s. Right, really going now... zzzz...

Hello Ladies and little bumps,
I hope everyone is getting through the m/s and other ailments. I've been ok but I have been very very lightheaded. I can't do anything for feeling like this. I looked it up in a couple of pregnancy books and google and the general advice is just to lie down... finally found it one book which says to lie with your feet elevated above your head and that should help. Well it did, until I tried to get up to do some things...

I've totally given up on using the tube, every time I get on it I feel as if I need to get off else I'll start throwing up.

I've still got a fortnight till my scan, but I have my midwife appointment next week. Not really sure whats going to happen there. A friend said 'just form filling' great.

DB - glad to hear that they are going to keep an eye on you this time round.

MummyElk - hope you feel better soon

xx

DB How nice to have had such a long chat with your midwife and that they're taking last time into account. OOp North here the recovery time after a CS is no longer 6 weeks - it's "when you feel ready to drive/push buggy etc". But i know what you mean about not voluntarily putting yourself in for major surgery.

DB- I want your midwife- twelve weeks and I'm still waiting for a booking in. Scan tomorrow and am not looking forward to it: the fear that it's all gone wrong has kicked in. All symptoms gone overnight so panicking. Did this last time and it turned out alright, so I know I'm being silly- not very good with the irrational part of being pg.

Can I start today again please?

Hello everyone.

It's been a little while since I last posted, but we're still hanging in there! I am knackered and sick but feel more reassured because of this. It's quite exhausting trying to keep a very active nearly 2 year old entertained though, when all I want to do is crash out. Still, at least I do not work anymore. I remember in my last pregnancy I had a very stressful job, had conference calls all the time & had ms really badly. It was grim!

My booking in appointment is next Thursday and I have a nuchal scan date of 14th September, which feels ages away. I am half considering going for a private scan before then as there looks like a fab clinic not a million miles away. But, I'm not sure if it's a bit of overkill to do that. The good news though is that my health authority no longer charges for the nuchal scan - bonus!

puree, just read your post and I really think you should insist on a booking in appt asap. Good luck with the scan too

I wish everyone well

Hi Everyone

it's been a while since I posted. We've been manic getting our place ready to go on the market. It's been a week of scrubbing, painting, shining, planting, scrubbing again and poor DH has had irrational, tired pregnant woman to deal with on top of that! Yesterday I asked if he'd like to share a pizza with me for dinner or should I put 2 in - he said 2 and I was overcome with affection for him and burst in to tears from which I could not be consoled. Have gone STARK RAVING MENTAL. The next minute am screaming at him for daring to suggest we could buy a less than matching door handle.

Good news is we're nearly there and everywhere looks lovely (why do we want to move again?!), but I can't wait to be able to just come home from work and rest instead of having 5 hours DIY in front of me! Seriously my whole body aches.

Scan next Weds, which I'll be really glad to have over with and know all is well. My symptoms really died down from 9 and a half weeks so even with the 7 week scan I've been really paranoid. Everyone says don'r worry, that happens to lots of people as the hormones gradually ease off from 9-12 weeks, but I can't help worrying! A wriggling baby on the screen should help and really wanted to get a fetal doppler, but making myself wait until after the scan as of course it's hard to hear anything this early and I could just freak myself out more.

I do have a bit of a pot belly now and as I've still not regained any of the weight I lost through MS I think it must be a mini-bump (but am terrified that it's all gone wrong and it's just wind or something). God am neurotic.

We go on hols for 6 days the day after the scan so again, really hoping nothing is wrong as will be really tricky timing - though obvisously bump far more important than holiday!

Enough about me, ramble, ramble...

Hope your place has sold for a huge price Dophus! Designerbaby - glad your midwife was so good. I heard today that an ex-colleague of mine who had nightmare first birth (72 hours, eventual emergency c-section) has just popped her second out in 3 hours with no pain relief - here's hoping for you!

Pureeandpearls - totally with you on the paranoia - but you'll be fine!

Mrssnow - Be warned - I was surprised to spend an hour and a half at first MW appoitnment. they took loads of blood and a urine sample, so as well as form filling there are some little surprises. BUT it was really sueful, we talked about where I'd like to have the baby, all the tests etc and she was lovely. Really keen for me to try a home birth if I want to (not sure yet) even though it's my first.

Good luck with all the scans everyone and here's to everyone joining me on the other side of morning sickness.

x

hello everyone!!

I have scan next Tuesday and I'm so scared that something might be wrong..but that's just normal. I'm somehow feeling quite low and pathetic about everything as I'm so exhausted, nauseous, bloated, and had cold recently. All I want to do is sit and do nothing. Idea of cleaning makes me want to throw up...taking 2 year old out for a walk makes me sooo exhausted especially in this strong sun. And I'm learning to drive at the moment. I went out driving with DH this morning and just exploded into tears which didn't help either of our confidence.

All I want is shade, breezy air, good book to read, and snooze...is that too much to ask of this real world..???

Not to concern you ladies but we're on nearly 900 messages. That only leaves us 100 left to sort out the new thread title.

How about "Do I look pregnant yet or just fat?"

Cyphercat - I want shade, breezy air, good book and snooze too! Hope you get at least some of these...

I'm scared too that something will be wrong at the scan! Mainly Down's since I'm so OLD! (MW kindly said that I'm not old enough to be at highly increased risk though.) But even if you do get an increased risk, that doesn't mean that there will be something wrong, just further tests... Must be very distressing though, I know DB went through that.

DB - I'm sure you'll have a much easier (and natural) birth this time! Good that you're being looked after anyway. I too was in labour for ages, like 3 days, didn't sleep... and DD turned out to be back to back and had to be pulled out with ventouse. It just seems that people have much quicker and easier births after the first time, let's hope so anyway!

Rebecca, good luck with the house! We're going on holiday the day after scan as well, sure we'll be fine.

Rindercella and eveyone who's still sick, hope you feel better soon! Think I'm finally slightly better now, touch wood.

MummyElk and others, yeah of course it feels better knowing others feel crap too!

Hi!

I've been away for ages, but I have been lurking and reading the posts.

Just wanted to say that I'm pretty much at 12 week date (a day or so to go) so I'm doing cartwheels in my mind! Happy!

I had my '12 week' scan and booking in appt at 10wks+6days and everything is fine and dandy. Baby looking active and getting more baby-shaped than the little blob we saw at 8 weeks!

Midwife was lovely, went through lots of questions, got a good history from me and a bit from DH. Next scan is at 22 weeks Which is sometime late October.

I was thinking though:- I didn't get to see the notes she'd made on me; do I have a right to request these, or is it best to wait until later? Also, she didn't mention any additional tests for abnormalities or anything of the sort. Didn't even mention these to me. So, does this mean that she thinks I'm at such a low risk that it's not needed?

Advice please for a first timer!

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