Due March 2010 - do my boobs look big in this?

[donttrythisathome]

Hello everyone,

I can't find a March 2010 thread so thought I'd start with.

This is my first and i think my EDD is 2 March 2010.

Come and join me!

IWCAS - welcome heartily. You're clearly going to be an amazing mum with such determination... so, congratulations!

Especially in your situation (although actually to ALL forst time mums regardless of circumstances) can I recommend NCT antenatal classes? Not so much for the teaching, but for the friendships you'll make. My class has become like family, and we've really got each other through all the ups and down of motherhood.

If you don't have the support of your partner then this might be especially worthwhile... it's good to have people to talk to who aren't your mum sometimes! (Even if only to moan about your Mum's well-meaning meddling!).

All of you trying to keep a show-home whle trying to sell, I feel your pain (especially if you have a toddler in the house) and wish you a speedy sale. It's a right pain in the arse...

LOve to everyone else too - hope people are gradually stopping the puking!

db
xx

Hey Everyone,
Gosh I haven't posted for a few days and there are SO many posts to catch up on. I've been ok the past couple of days, this morning I felt really crap though and spent all day lying on the sofa as that was the only way I felt as if I wasn't going to throw up.

I really am not in the mood for maternity shopping just yet. I went a few weeks ago for maternity bras. I found mothercare a bit too much to deal with. But then found Jojo Maman Bebe which was actually quite low key and the things looked a lot nicer. I just want to get past the scan and then maybe embrace maternity clothing. Until then my clothing options are fast running out! I have a total of about 4 tops I can wear. I almost feel as if I need to donate all my clothes to charity or something.

Welcome to all the newbies. IWCAS well done for sticking to your guns. It sounds like you will be a fantastic mum.

Big hugs to anyone who's journey has ended.

Scooby Finally got round to reading back on your posts. OH MY WORD - your Boss YOUR BOSS!!! [fume]

Hope GP was more than just sympathetic, but was sympathetic with a doctor's note.

IWCAS I would second DBs NCT advice. Even if you are a resolute anti-whale-song-give-me-the-epidural-at-6-months-pregnant type it's absolutely the friends you make there that are the really important part. How many people do you know who when asked "how did you guys and your kids get to be chums" would say - "we met when we were pregnant together"

So Arcadie - were you in the NCT then...?

urm nope but my friend was .....

Good luck IWCAS - I second the comments about ante natal classes, try to pick classes that run for a series of sessions rather than one big intense session, you make closer friends that way.

MrsSnow - I've been shopping on-line as I cant'bearsed am too busy to get to the shops, ebay is great for maternity bargains too

Bring on the fat pants

I would also recommend NCT classes- but look into them NOW - they book up very quickly and spaces are limited. Beforehand, I was the most skeptical person about friendship created through it but 7 out of 8 of our group still meet up fortnightly, it's been wonderful.

Also good luck and welcome to mumsnet IWCAS, that kind of fighting spirit will definitely put you in good stead for motherhood!

Had my booking appointment today. Has anyone got a bounty pack or lloyd's pregnancy gift pack? I normally hate this kind of direct marketing towards mums and have never really used any 'baby products' (breastfed, BLWed, cloth nappied my first DS), I'm not sure whether it's of any use - can anyone tell me what you got in yours?!

Hi all

long story but walked out of work having been told to carry on regardless of fact that my environment is clearly not safe and all other ladies prev in my position were removed. Seconds later was sharply elbowed full force in the stomach by a colleague. Obviously not on purpose but clearly not a safe environment for so many reasons - so I walked out in tears. Went to GP. Told the many tales and upset. Didnt go terribly well. Had hoped for a sick note for two weeks to get me to twelve weeks (never asked for a sick note before!)so that I can calmly and slowly challenge work from a distance without having to worry that the upset will harm my baby. Best I got was 'self certify for a week and speak to your union' Yeah tell me something I dont know but sadly these things tend to grind slowly and a week may not be long enough. GP also insinuated perhaps I was misinterpreting what I was being told and the emails I was sent- clearly thinks I am just being hormonal!! Thankfully the people who have seen the email and know the situation know otherwise. Thankfully DH also works for same employer - he is well aware they are wrong and fully supportive of me. Cried most of the day and it's not hormones - just sheer frustration!!!

Had a quick scan of other messages - welcome to IWCAS - good for you and welcome!! Glad to hear the rest of you are starting to get scan dates and all going well at the mo. Thanks for the words of advice from HR people- I was quite convinced but you start to question things!!

Good luck for a good week for the rest of you. xx

Hi all
sort of been keeping a low profile but EDD 10th March, DC2, scan next weds so fingers crossed. With you all on the feeling rubbish bit but won't bore you with the details!! v excited and hope my bean's a sticker, too many people know now for it not to get extremely messy if things go awry....

just quickly to say
scooby not sure what you do for work but you should definitely not feel in danger at work, and DEFINITELY not feel unsupported. I can't advise really but just try to sleep on it and see how you feel at the end of the week, and if you think you need more advice, try looking here for ACAS guidelines? but huge sympathy.

SLiD i had my booking app yesterday, complete with bounty bag - not sure I got all that tat last time?!!? I thought I just got the yellow book. Anyway, I went through it and just kept out the vouchers i think might be useful? I' also a bfing, BLWing, semi-cloth nappy user but being slightly lazy realistic I have kept the newborn nappy voucher, if nothing else they'll keep DD happy, she's obsessed with changing the doll's nappy! also got sanatogen vitamin voucher, another bounty bag voucher and a book full of tat vouchers which I'll stick by the loo and read at leisure...

did anyone get anything REALLY interesting? I did a LOT of filing yesterday so perhaps it was just too much more paper on top of everything else!!

hope you all well

Mummy||||||Elk?>~_ sounds like you scored!

Scooby- nightmare. Can't offer advice but do offer sympathy.

Retromum- the saga continues. Dr faxed Birthright. Birthright told me they didn't have it. Called Dr who faxed again. Birthright told me they have it but don't take appt over the phone. They will send a letter which will take 5 working days. Off to look at private nuchals as backup.

hello all.

had booking appt with mw today. she gave me a scan date of 4th sept. i will be 11 wks.
really debating about wether to go for a scan this week tho. i have had 2 mmc in the past, the 1st not picked up until 11 wks.
still have strong symptoms so fingers crossed.

glad to hear everyone is doing well, apart from the sickness, sore boobs, expanding waist lines etc!

That's good news IWCAS! Despite what's happening with your relationship this baby will still be his flesh and blood, and hopefully he'll be a good dad too! If he wants to come to the scan he is definitely curious which must be a good sign!

sighs My nausea seems to be getting slightly worse, however today I've been ignoring my own advice to eat little and often... will raid fridge in a minute.

Question for those who have had 2+ children and who BF'd: Was it easier the second time?? (I'm hoping so!) I found it very difficult in the beginning, had all the bad stuff - baby not putting on weight, not latching on properly, horribly cracked nipples, mastitis, not knowing how often or how long to feed, etc etc. But after about 6 weeks we finally got the hang of it and I ended up BFing for 7 1/2 months!

Annamama - obviously I've only got one DD, so can't give you any personal experience (and anyway didn't have any problems with BFing (luckily). But a friend from antenatal had a helluva time forst time round - littlerally couldn't wera clothes at home for the pain, and really almost gave up on a number of occassions. However, with number 2 she had no problems at all... no pain, no engorgement, no mastitis, no cracked nipples, nothing...

Hope it turns out to be the same for you.

IWCAS - maybe he's just getting over the shock and will surprise you further... Men are weird at the best of times IMHO.'Specially when it comes to babies.

Scan tomorrow. Bricking it...

!£$&**£!@&!!

db
xx

Hello everyone!

Haven't been here in a few days, and now so many new posts to catch up on...

It's really sucks that some of you are having problems with your partners, bosses etc. I really sympathize, pregnancy is already a lot to deal with as it is. Hope it all works out for you.

I've been reading a great book "what to expect when you're expecting". Lots of very useful information, which is great, as I will be a first time mom.

I am wondering about the scan thing. Mine is only on Sept 1, and at that time I will be 13 weeks. Is that normal? I've been reading that some of you have had your scans already...did you have to push to have an earlier scan of did the GP suggest it? I can't wait to have mine, so anxious!

I've noticed myself getting hungrier and hungrier, I literally can't leave the house without a HUGE snack in my bag. Always thinking about food. ALWAYS! It's almost paralyzing.

Those experiencing MS, hope it all gets better for you soon. I read that ginger is supposed to help.

All the best,

Annamama- I too had mastitis and cracked nipples with DC1. I found BFing so painful at first I would dread him waking up but with DC2 and DC3 it was totally different. Only very mild discomfort at first, which soon went. Hope this helps!

Good luck for your scan tomorrow, DB. Mine is not for another 2 weeks.... Iwonka, dating scans are normally carried out anywhere between 11 and almost 14 weeks so 13 weeks isn't unusual (even if knowing that doesn't make the waiting easier). It's also within the period of time during which the nuchal fold test can be carried out should you wish.

Re NCT, has anyone done NCT refresher classes? Or is anyone thinking of taking them? I'm thinking about it, mostly because since having DS we've moved and I don't really know anyone with young children yet (and work doesn't make it easy to go along to toddler groups etc).

Am off to Pizza Express for a work lunch tomorrow. Rather dreading it as can't find anything on the menu that a vegetarian who currently hates veggies, garlic and basil can eat. Will it look odd if I stick to coca cola and dough balls without the garlic butter???

Oh, and Iwonka, I meant to add that IME getting an earlier scan where it's not medically dictated e.g. because of bleeding is normally down to the efficiency and workload of the hospital concerned. (Always assuming that your GP/midwife faxed your details through promptly.)

Hi all, not been on for ages. I'm really suffering with the MS. Also, been on holiday last week too (which was really nice).

I've scanned the messages as best I can, so here goes

Welcome all the newbies
Retromum,Arcadie,Poppyjen,Shyla good news about your scans!
chubby,cheepz,Marmite,MumofAdela,Meita - so for you. Best of luck for the future and big hugs coming from me. Meita, beautiful post. You should write some of it down in a memory book.
Designerbaby - how is your bronchitis/cough? I have had a coough for weeks now. Thought it might be hartburn related as really hacking. I'm getting really worried about my pelvic floor the longer it is going on TMI - sorry
Dophus - did your scan show one or 2 babies in there? I am worried about twins too as I have a big bump too and am sooo much sicker than I was last 3 times. Think I might just faint if it is twins - no scan til next Friday though, when I will be 14 weeks exactly!
Scooby - work situation is a nightmare. Try seeing another doctor for a sick note?? And Saviska's post on page 30 is exactly correct.
Becky - LOL at your point about eating chocolate without having to hide behind the fridge. My cheeky little things now smell it and ask about it (or smack their lips in the case of my DS (age 15 months), so I need to be extra careful!
Annamama - LOL at maternity wear discussion.
Surprise - Good for you - much respect. Strong girl. I second NCT for friends (don't worry too much about some of the 'advice') and try teh local meet ups on mumsnet. It's all about having a support network to bounce ideas off of.

Have still not told work. I don't work near my boss so not seen her for weeks. Seeing her next week when I do a big presentation, adn I am stressing already about how I will hide it. I ran a marathon less than 3 months ago so had a flat as a pancake stomache. Now it is sticking out as far as my (much bigger than normal) boobs!

Got my scan next Friday, so once that is all ok I guess I will just tell her after that. Gonna have to do it some time. It's weird, I find it quite embarassing to tell people - no idea why.

Anyone else have terrible terrible skin? I look like a teenager - so frustrating!

Iwonka With DS my 1st scan was at 20 weeks. With DD it was at 14 weeks. I've only had scans so far with DC3 because of early bleeding. I know it seems a lifetime to wait until 13 weeks but it's very normal.

annamamma BFing 2nd child was IME about 2 billion times earsier than first time round. Less sore, less worried, less vomiting (so probably had latch better and therefore less wind) JUST so much easier.

DB Hope scan all good.

Scooby Miserable GP. You must be SO cross. Hope you stick to your guns and get result you need. Annoying work people.

So what's the most preg-brained thing of foolishness you've all done so far?

Today, I left the DCs change bag on the bus. Complete with lunch, totseat(expensive portable highchair dooberry) 2 cups/bottles and at least 1 WASHABLE nappy (don't care about losing 3 pampers - but the washables are pricey). I am a muppet. Stood at busstop for an hour flagging down the number 6 bus every 10 minutes but to no avail... vanished. Hoping it turns up at the depot tonight. SUCH A PREG BRAIN.....

hello ladies may i join you, my scan revealed that i was 11 weeks yesterday to my due date is 3rd march- (i thought it was 16 feb so will see if date moves again at 20 week scan,)

looking forward to getting to know you all, xxxx

Thanks for all the encouragement re BF, yeah it's gotta be easier this time around! DB I'm glad you wrote that you had no problems first time around (lucky you), we don't want the first timers here to be put off... sorry!

Went to park with friend + our DCs. I said "oh I think my belly is getting bigger already!" She said: "I didn't wanna say anything but yeah I've noticed." According to my pregnancy book the uterus is still supposed to be underneath the pubic bone and the baby is very very very small! How is it possible to have a bump already?

Arcadie, hope you find your bag! At least you didn't lose your child!

We have a narrow bridge near where I live with right of way from the other direction... A cyclist was coming towards me in the distance I thought, but suddenly he was right in front of me in the middle of the bridge. He was well pissed off as he had right of way and swore at me. I wanted to say "sorry pregnancy brain" but all I could do was sit there with a stupid face thinking "ehh what happened?".

Afternoon All

Well I've had a dreadful day so far.

Sickness is in full swing and DD gets upset if I shut the bathroom door on her so I had to leave it open this AM, she decided to wander in whilst i was being sick and told me "oh dear mummy yuck yuck" I was thrilled to say the least then she carried on to tell me to stop it mummy! If only it were that easy.

I then decided to go to Battersea for maternity clothes as I couldn't face it in the end yesterday and they have a jojo maman bebe maternity shop there as well as a baby one.

Well I didn't have any money on me and there was only parking bays. 45 minutes of driving round all the side streets and getting lost and frustrated and then I ended up in a one way street the wrong way without realising. A rubbish lorry tried to tell me with handsignals before getting out and telling me this and that there was currently a policeman behind me watching!. So I decided to try and breath and ask if he knew anywhere I could park for free but instead I burst into tears, cue him getting the policeman who tried to calm me down and DD and then very nicely offered to cycle in front of me to a free car park. Once we got there he then paid for a ticket for me for 2 hours as it was only free for 30 minutes.

Bless him he was the loveliest man and I tried to explain that I don't always cry about not being able to park the car .

Excellent preg brain stories. Keep em coming.

Big welcome to all the newbies - it's lovely to see more and more women joining us

Loving the pregnancy brain stories - retro what a good samaritan! Last night on the phone to my husband I was ranting about how I'd lost my blackberry as it wasn't in my handbag or lying around anyway...it took me ages to realise I was, er, actually talking to him on my blackberry at the time, hence its "disappearance"

DB good luck for your scan tomorrow - hoping it's a much calmer experience than last time

Just been for booking in appointment, having to opt for consultant led care what with me having a whopper the 1st time around. Not sure I completely understand what that involves yet.

Preg brain - asked dh if he was hoovering just as he was plugging the hoover in - duh