Due November 2009 - second trimester thread part 2

[skorpion]

Hope this works

If second / third pregnancies are bigger, I'm only having the one baby grumbles

I'm not a fan of Bio Oil, tried it for years to help with my scars and it was useless. Boots have a brilliant maternity range, though. Am a fan of their honey olive neroli body butter. Smells great, feels lovely, and keeps everything moisturised for 12hrs. DP gave me a bump and back massage with it last night

Had a total hormonal over load last night - burst into tears because I was so happy when DP called the baby "My son", which is ridiculous, because he ALWAYS does it. Then burst into angry tears because the roast potatoes didn't cook properly.

And then I fell asleep during sex Oops. Luckily DP thought it was hilarious... Don't think I've ever been more embarrassed!

Erika its amazing you even agreed to sex tho, tbh im so tired the suggestion of it makes me fall asleep. poor dh, been so good about it tho.

Hi everyone! I haven't posted for absolutely ages but hope you're all well.
I am finding it difficult not to get really obsessed by how much weight I'm putting on at the moment. The last three weeks or so I seem to have put on almost a kilo a week and am feeling really upset about it. I keep telling myself it doesn't matter, and that I should just be happy and grateful to be pregnant and healthy, but then someone says something like "not long to go now" to me assuming I'm further on than I actually am and then I get all upset again. Overall I've put on about 5.5kg (I think that's about 12lb)since getting pregnant and am 24 + 4 today. I was quite slim to start with but certainly not a stick. Would anyone like to put me out of my misery and let me know how much weight they've put on so far? Just so I can get some idea of what's normal? Sorry to be so me-me-me.....
Hope everyone has a lovely day.

eeyore please don't worry. You will put on weight, there's no way out of that. I think just as long as you eat as healthily as possible, try and keep fit as much as possible, all will be well

I've put on about 3.5kg, but I'm only 21 weeks today, no doubt will soon be catching up.

I personally think it is the staying fit(ish) that's more important, both for coping with labour and recovering afterwards. Well, at least I hope that's it - my first, so not an expert.

Trikken - Usually I'm quite up for it!! My libido has been higher since I've been pregnant then pretty much ever... Its crazy. Glad your DH is being good

Eeyore, I'm sending you some unMN-like hugs. My tip? STAY AWAY FROM THE SCALES. Ask the MW to keep the weight change to herself, and don't weight yourself at home. Its not the same, I know, but when I was recovering from my ED staying away from how much I'd put on made me feel better.

Is anyone else keeping a pregnancy diary? I started writing in it on the night I turned 20 weeks, and make a point of writing in it every week. Trying to persuade DP to write too, think he's a bit unsure as to what to write.

skorpion I did a questionnaire on www.thenappylady.co.uk and got a response from an advisor as to which ones would suit my circumstances best. It's free. I've also posted on mn in the nappies section to get some advice, there's plenty of helpful people willing to share. Am going to get a few types and then see which suits best I think.

Ditto with the restless legs, mine also can turn into full cramp - that wakes you up!!

Weight wise - mine works out at about 9.5kg so far Guess my body is just far more efficient at creating those fat stores as it's done it before. Sigh.

Sex. What's that?

scarlotti thanks for the website, I'll definitely use it.

eeyore, I don't think you have already gained a lot of weight. I first lost 3kg, then it was rather stable and from week 14 or 15 I started to put on about 8kg already.
If you are planning to breastfeed, it will disappear quickly. I still remember my sister telling me that she could eat as much as she wanted and was still loosing weight while breastfeeding.
scarlotti, thanks for that link, I've just filled in the questionaire. But I'm planning to go to a nappucchino as well. I don't like buying things I haven't seen.
Just out of curiosity: Does anybody has a clue about the position of the baby? I read you could feel the body parts and I can't imagine that. I do feel something hard sometimes, usually just right from my belly button but I have no clue if it is head or bottom. I also wonder if the kicks I feel are rather hands or feet.

lemontop feels like its all downhill now.. Dh is very concerned about my size... i get terrible cramps in bed and turning is like shifting a glacier with your groin..what a mare.

PS eeyore2 have put on 5 kgs..and my current weight is what I weighed with DD full term.

PPS..sex....no thanks..poor DH

Thank you so much ladies for reassuring me that I am not becoming freakishly fat. I think I have been frightened by the book I read that said you should put on 400g per week. I have resolved to be more relaxed about it, but at the same time STOP EATING the chocolate digestives at the office....

GARRRRRR!!!!

Went back to the council offices AGAIN today for the fourth time, to be told that I have to go to a different council to get my bus pass because of where I live!!! SURELY they could have told me this the FIRST time when I went in and showed them my address??? AHHHH.

I hate people today. sulks ursigurke, sometimes I do know the position. I feel elbows as well as kicks at times! I can feel how the baby is laying if I poke him too...

Also in the 'sex - what's that?' club!!

Has anyone else found that their breats are leaking a bit already? Am only 22 weeks, remember them starting early last time, but didn't think it was this early!

beepbeep i find mine do, but its usually when im in the bath for some reason, or maybe just concious of it then, but its only a little.

also my belly-button is no longer a cute circle, but a huge crater-like hole. ds likes to talk into it, and also tried to stuff a sweetie into it the other day because "sister might want a sweetie too".

beepbeep, mine are leaking a little bit, I sometimes find little white stains in my bra and once, I saw a little drop coming out... freaked me out a little bit. I suppose I should get used to that before starting to breastfeed...
speaking of it: does anybody (or did anybody in their first pregnancies) "prepare the breasts for it? I read in a (generally good, maybe sometimes a bit oldfashioned) book that you should prepare your nipples. I suppose it wouldn't be the worst idea but I don't think I'm able to torture myself (the described methods are really a bit harsh)
trikken, same kind of belly button over here but no cute story to tell about it like yours. I guess if my husband starts stuffing sweeties in it it's just weired and not cute like your son

My belly button is still pretty much the same - I still have my belly bar in, too.

Trikken that's so cute!!! DP and I both said "Awww"

We're being lazy and fat tonight - pepperoni pizza on the way!! Ohhh its here!!!

scarlotti, were you happy with the advice you got from thenappylady? I just got an email and what they suggest is about the opposite of what I had thought in the first place. Maybe I did the ranking the other way round .

My belly button is nearly popping out. Also I have a faint line called the linea nigra appearing, i had this with DS. It faded a few months after birth.

DS (nearly 4) was watching me rub oil on my tummy tonight, he wanted to join in and was so delicate in rubbing my tummy. It was a very sweet moment . I'm under pressure to produce a brother for him as he he insists it's a boy!

usigurke I was ok with her suggestions, I mainly used them as a starting point and then read up on the site as to what is good or not. There's another called clothnappytree that's good - and the mn board is fabulous for advice.

Re preparing your nipples - nope, never done that here. If you get the latching on working, then your nipples don't actually rub in the baby's mouth so won't get sore. Easier said than done though at times..

My belly button is bigger and still dips in, just! Have put in my maternity belly bar now so am all set!

My belly button sticks out already.

Can I join the 'sex - what's that?' club too. We manage about once a fortnight and (I hope DH doesn't read this) that's too much for me. I find my bits really ache afterwards. They are so tender.

I'm watching BB. I'm two nights behind though - I'm watching Monday's BB. I can't watch it in the daytime as the DSs are off school and it's a tad rude for them!

Scarlotti - where did you get your maternity one from? Need to get one.

Evening All

I've done it again - I haven't checked in for a few days and now I'm frantically trying to catch up, which will mean another long post from me (sorry everyone!) I hope anyone suffering from swine flu/other lurgies are feeling better x

Scarlotti Thanks for the advice, I hadn't thought about tucking the extra slack on a single duvet cover under... My Night Garden theme is therefore back on again!

Katster don't get me started on the touching of the bump/commenting on the bump topic. It's like we're public property. 3 completely random people were shocked on Saturday when they asked when I was due and I told them. One said she thought DH would be running for the hot water and towels any day now! Wish people would stop patting it. I think it would be deemed inappropriate if I went around touching men's beer bellies... - "ooh, you're looking rather apple shaped - it must be a Heineken baby" wouldn't go down too well methinks!

Turtle Have you tried propping your bump up with a pillow? I started with insomnia last week and DH bought me a Dream Genie and it's helped a lot, even though I didn't think my sleepless nights were caused by that...

welcome tink - glad you could join us. I completely sympathise with spd - I'm on crutches and pelvic brace at the mo and back at yet another physio appointment tomorrow.

Helips Snap! Just bought a green Phil and Teds double at the weekend and it arrived yesterday. Still in box though, as haven't got energy to get it out or more to the point, try and force it back in the box the way it was again! Hope you're feeling better x

I have a question about breastfeeding - did anyone have CS first time round and still manage to bf? I have to make a decision at some point as to what I'm going to do due to my complications, ie, being induced and have long labour again (so I was informed today by x linked ichthyosis specialist, boo hiss!) or have elective cs but have no family around to help us. I didn't bf first time round but hated expense of formula so would really like to try this time but scared of how to manage the pain of cs if it comes to it.

Baby has hiccups again. Seems to get them about 20 minutes after I've eaten or drank anything... Difficult to concentrate at work when it happens!

I think I've bored everyone enough now so i'm off to bed. Hope you all have a good night's sleep.

Forgot to ask - is there anyone from around the Morpeth/Newcastle area? There seems to be a couple of happy groups in our club from Oxford and London. Just wondering if anyone lived anywhere near me?

WizzyWoo, there are a couple of people touching my belly too, some without even asking. I would never do that but I've realised that they are only happy for me and want to show it and maybe say hi to the baby. If you see it from this point, it is actually a nice thing. And I really like getting comments about the size of my bump (which is not yet huge though), maybe that's a first timer thing.