Due October 2009 - Feeling better and feeling baby!

[princessmel]

I have started the new thread

Morning all!

Hello to confuseddotmum and pasturesnew I only joined a page or two back myself

BellaCullen DS1 started as a natural birth in the pool, I got to 9cm and then failed to progress. They said they would get me ready to use forceps and I asked for a c-section instead as I'd been told he would be about 9.5lb and I was feeling pretty much exhausted at this stage. It also suddenly occurred to me that he might get stuck with forceps and I'd be cut below, only to end up with a c-sec as well. The c-sec went well but the lead up to it and my 10 or so days in hospital recovering wasn't what I'd expected.

This time I will be having an elective c-sec so the recovery should be a lot better.

morning everyone

feeling a bit less stressed this morning, but SPD is hideous

Anyway, hello to all the newbies and the oldies

someone asked for a hospital bag list so here is mine:

hospital bag

2 nighties for labour (front opening for breastfeeding)
1 decent pair of PJs for post birth pictures
5 pairs of disposable pants and 2 packs of maternity pads
slippers
dark coloured bath towel
1 bottle lavender oil (post birth bath)
1 pack of arnica tablets (for post birth bruising)
3 pairs breast pads
vaseline - for baby's bum (makes the first poos easier to wipe off)
nappies - 6
2 outfits for baby
receiving blanket
toiletries - for me

MY OWN PILLOW!!!

Will buy snacks nearer the time (fruit, water and crackers)

also, extra shirt for DH

Morning all.

HumphreysCorner I did post to say that ds2 had swine flu last week but had the milder version. At ds1 school most the kids have had it and 2 of his class mates are off with it at the mo. It varies in extreames. Ds2 had a fever rotten cough and cold and was very pale and grumpy but it wasnt that different to a cold.
My friend had it and had sickness and upset tummy and was really poorly, it just depends.
I have a bad throat and ear but have been told to wait if I get a fever then to call the dr straight away.
littlepea Im so sorry to hear about your friend. Such a terrible thing.
fanjita I had posted this before but I had an Anterior Placenta with ds1 and the movements were muffled!

Morning all-old and new!

Littlepea- how totally awful. You must be in shock-sounds like something from a film-I hope you are ok today. FWIW I think you have made the right decision regarding moving-best to keep loved ones close.

Twinklegreen-so pleased all has gone well for your dd! I hope she is well on the mend now!

Huge hugs to all feeling rough for various reasons. My moans at the mo are: I have a nasty cold, still feel quite sick/can't find anything to drink, some heartburn, tired and can't get comfy to sleep and a very active baby that hurts me when it moves!!! The list could go on!

My friend went in to be induced last night-so will be waiting for news!!!
She has had loads of scans etc over the last few weeks as the baby was small and they didn't think it was growing. Eventually as far as I know they weren't too worried but then it was breech and then they discovered she had low fluid (i think mine was 75-80 0n the 1-100 scale and hers was 4!!!!) and that was what did it in the end (baby had turned).
My sisters sil is due on thurs (same due date I had with dd!) so hopefully 2 new babies very soon!!
Plus a good friend found out she is expecting-due in March and my friends sister found out yesterday she is too! Babies everywhere!!!

I haven't thought about hospital bag yet as I think i'm in denial that i'll need one packed as i'm hoping for a home birth-suppose I should get it sorted soon!

Swine flu all around us here-most of the local schools have it now-to be honest it is prob only a matter of time!!

I'll be 30 weeks on sunday can't believe it! The only thing I have done to get ready was to buy a few vests etc (not really needed but hey!) so really must get my act together!

Re weight gain-I've put on a stone and a half already-just hoping it comes off as easily as it has gone on

Can't remember what else I was going to say

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littlepea - just been catching up with the thread - so to hear your news

must have been a terrible shock

hope you have lots of RL support

ruby I hope you're not too worried. AFAIK 28wk bloods are standard so this may not mean anything. As for your scan, could it be that your bump is measuring small because of babies position? I hope you don't have to wait too long before your scan. Can you ring your MW to get some answers to your questions? I think consultants always err on the side of caution coz they're used to dealing with complications whereas MWs are used to normal pregnancies IYSWIM?

littlepea I hope you're treating yourself well while you get over this shock, can you go back to NI for some support?

My MW has gone AWOL!!! LOL...She has put herself on leave with no cover, so none of us have apppointments, she was meant to phone me 3 weeks ago with my test results & a new appointment, none of which i now have. So im hoping to find a new one....who the hell ever said the luck of the Irish...if it wasnt for bad luck i wouldnt have any luck at all. I am laughing, as i think i have just reached that point where i think, what the hell lol... DH has been warned that i might start rocking back & forward.

Just been to see DS at his sports day, i lasted only 1 hour & had to come back home. Its far to hot here, and my back is killing me.

With hospital bags i think it depends on what kind of birth you are having, and how long you are staying in. As long as you have the basics, then family can bring things up with them daily. I was really glad that my MIL had brought me a load of packets of cakes etc but you get really hungry between meals lol... Mothercare also does a hospital bag, its big & has most stuff for you & baby. Only thing i would say is, we had all baby grows etc for a new born, then when my son was born, he was really long, and none of the clothes fit him, so this time im getting 0-3 months instead. And the dispos pants are the best thing for a c-section too.

Dont worry about the size of the baby being small, DS was & looks like this wee one at this point will be too. But the last month i double & my DS was almost 9lb, so the doctor had worried me for no reason.

Hi to all new pregnant ladies, this is a great thread with the best people, so you will enjoy it. Hope everyone is well xxx

Lol, I bought Newborn and had to rush and buy early baby clothes as the Newborn buried my DD2.

Passed the school this morning on the way to nursery and there weren't many cars there.

Raining lots so hope it isn't where you all are.

HC
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Hi all,

Haven't the energy to post lots right now! Sorry

I am reading it all though.

Littlepea that is awful about your MW. Sounds very odd!

Oh and recent bump pics on my profile....

In fairness, her daughter had her baby at 27 weeks, back in the UK, so im hoping that the little one hasnt taken a turn for the worse.

HC....please send the rain over here!!

Not been on for a few days as the cleaning bug has taken hold and I'm shattered. Baby kicks hell out of me when I try to lie on my side at night with the result being that I am up and wandering round the house until 4am, cleaning and cooking. Husband thinks he's now married to the next Masterchef

We went for the 4D scan yesterday and it was amazing. You could see so much detail- he gave us a couple of smiles and was kicking away. He seems comfortable in the oddest position-one hand is under his bum and the other one is under his knee, bringing his leg up to his face! . He's moved into head down position atm and is using the placenta as a pillow, very cute. He currently weighs 3.9lbs - apparently that puts us on target for a 9lb baby. Massive feet as well. Will try and post pics on profile at some point.

Hello and welcome to confuseddotmum and pasturesnew littlepea - so sorry to hear your news. Alo a bit shocked at your midwife!
twinklegreen-do glad your dd is on the mend

Big hug and wave to everyone, especially those of you feeling rough.

Hi all, just wanted to check in as this week has been mad & I'm grabbing 30 mins to myself to read up on baby stuff. I'm nearly 28 weeks & getting heaps of movement. Have limited myself to 1coffee a day hut didn't have any today & baby was going nuts. Does this mean 1 cup a day is not havng an effect or baby is having withdrawal symptoms!
I have a fairly neat bump in front but have put on over 2 stone already as I had to eat myself thru the morning sickness time. I'm worried about this & getting it off but trying not to be too hard on myself.
Will stop now incase I start rambling, but hope everyone is doing ok.
kk

Hello thanks for letting me join the thread!

HT, 4D scan sounds v exciting.

Littlepea, read your posts, hope you are OK, think you can get an antenatal appt with your GP if your MW has disappeared, I hope?

Please don't worry about weight now KK, most of it really will be bump, you know.

Hospital bag posts v handy! Last time we forgot cotton wool for nappy changing and hospital MV was a bit grudging in giving us some from the cupboard.

My baby has moved round and feels like I constantly have an elbow digging under my ribs, it's really sharp!

princessmelLovely pictures very neat bump!
Where did you get your longtops/dress from? Are they maternity? They are lovely colours.

I'm having so much trouble reading and digesting this thread-sorry for missing loads of stuff out

My friend had her baby last night!!! A little boy (she really wanted a boy!) named Jack Michael weighing 6lbs 7 so not as small as they had thought. I think that was the weight of her dd! Can't wait to see them and find out all about it-though will have to kick this blooming cold first (lets hope it isn't a lingerer!!!)

It is all feeling so much more real now!!!!

I keep cleaning and sorting as well but it is knackering me and i'm getting frustrated I can't do as much as I want!

Better go-just had a call from the accident repair place-have to take my car in now-and i'm not up and dressed

Have a great day!

Haven't posted for ages, but have been keeping up with everyone's news. Relieved to hear that Twinkle's DD's op went well. Shocked at Littlepea's experience, what an incredible tragedy.

Ruby, hope you're doing ok and managing not to worry too much until you know more. When is your next scan? My SIL had a lot of scans towards the end as there was concern the baby wasn't growing and she had very little fluid. The baby was only 5lb something when born, but seems to be absolutely fine (now 10 months).

Is anybody else feeling almost psychotically hormonal? I had a huge fall out with DH yesterday. I threw some some of his clothes out of the window in a fit of temper . He's not talking to me now (I suppose I'm being punished, but to be honest I'm almost enjoying the peace) but he did make the tea and do the dishes and take DS out so I could get on with some of my freelance work (got a deadline coming up and that's what the row was about in the first place)! However, it's DS's birthday on Saturday and I don't want us not to be talking for that. I was pretty out of order, I can only assume it's hormones.

Thanks LittlemissBliss According to what loads of people say then I have a huge , massive, about to drop bump!!!

The green top/dress is from Primark and is not maternity. It was just a top that I thought I could wear over leggings for a longish time! On holiday I wore it with bare legs.

The purple one I got from La Redoute. It is not maternity either. I wore it before I was pregnant but it looks much nicer with a bump!

I am wearing a lot of smocky, dropped waist, drapey things that I had pre pregnancy and now they are looking quite nice!

I am almost certain I have SPD. I am getting pain in my groin, bikini line area. I will speak to the midwife soon(hopefully today) to see what she says. I am always doing so much , yesterday was lunch at a friends then soft play before school pick up at 3 etc.

So will be restful today. I feel guilty when we do that though, as dd just wants to watch tv if we're having a flopping day. And then quite often falls asleep. She doesn't seem to go off and play unless she has a friend here or if I'm doing 'jobs'.

HT the 4d scan sounds fab

Hope you're all ok.

Morning all

I was just wandering if anyone has come across ICBINB recently? Or Flame? I hope you are both ok x x x

Hi everyone

princeesmel your bump looks very neat to me too, I have had alot of those comments in my last two pregnancies but so far have avoided them with this one. I'm hoping that it means I'm smaller this time as I've had a couple of whoppers!

In fact I'm clinging on to two vague hopes for this baby;

1. It will come on time, maybe even a few days before due date
2. It will be a lovely petite 8lb or less!

I have a feeling I may be setting myself up for a fall but hey, we've all got to dream!

Was thinking that I'd love to hear a bit about other people's birth stories, anyone want to share? (obviously not too graphic, we don't want to scare the first timers too much )

Thanks Twinlegreen

I have C+P a bit I wrote about my births earlier in the thread.

Here.......
I am just going to wait and see, and if I have to be induced again ( was with ds as he was overdue and with dd as she had mecconium in water) I will be having an epidural asap.

With ds I had no gaps between contractions and no room on the delivery suite for 10 hours. I was induced on the antenatel ward and then had to stay there untill a room was available. I had no pain relief as the gas and air was portable and ran out and the pethedine made me sick. I was hysterical, so by the time I was given a real room I demanded an epidural. They were reluctant as they guessed I was at 10cm but I was so out of control they gave me one. I wouldn't let them check me either, I was like a crazy lady! Anyway, due to the late epi I couldn't push and ds had forceps and ventouse and I'd had to be prepped for a c section , with a spinal incase he wouldn't come out.

With dd as soon as my waters broke at home, in bed in the night, we went in, all happy as I though 'no inducing!!' But they checked my pad and said the waters were 'green'. I was gutted! They said she'd done a poo and needed to come out. So I had an epidural BEFORE they induced me and then waited 4 hours, till I was 10cm , then had half a top up of the epidural and then pushed her out!! PERFECT.

Hope you're all ok. I am flopping at the mo. Had the nursey picnic earlier with dd.

I had a 27 hour labour. Had pethadine injection, and then was given gas & air. They made me sit & bounce on a birthing ball with my DH sitting behind me so i didnt bounce off, then they shouted...your waters have broken....did they hell lol.... i was laughing so much that i fully pee'd myself lol....after that i went through 2 big bottles of gas & air (which i loved) then had 3 epidurals. It should of been clear from the start that i couldnt deliver as i was too small, so ended up going in for a EC-section, but felt the cutting, so i was put out cold. May sound like a nightmare but it was the best time ever! I was so high, it was great. My doctor was Dutch & i swear looked like Goldmember from Austin Powers. I came round to see my MIL looking at me, holding my DS & i was still so drugged up that i said to the nurse, i dont like her, shes the MIL from hell! To this day she thinks it was the drugs talking lol..... Part of me is glad im getting knocked out again this time round, but i really do wish i could have a normal delivery, i had a right laugh. For all first-timers....no-one ever has the same birth, so go in there with a clear head & dont worry about what other people have been through, what you get at the end is so worth it.

PrincessMel....you so dont have a large bump, its so neat!

Kliene, my DH has been getting it in the neck also, but he deserves it!

My hormones have calmed down a bit but I fully expect them to turn up very soon-I was a nightmare last time-mainly bursting into tears for very little reason. Unfortunately it is dd who is getting most of it as my patience has gone-and normally I have LOADS so she has been shocked dp should get more-he deserves it!!!

I had about a 34hr labour-woke up in labour the day after my birthday-lasted all that day at home (trying to convince myself it wasn't happening!!!) phoned that night to let them know-they said the birth pool was empty and to phone when we were on our way-a couple of hours later we rang and they said they were full-I had to go somehere else! Que me crying etc as we didn't even know where the other place was and they had no pool. Finally got there and due to stress my contractions had slowed. It turned out to be a lovely mw led unit-I had my own bathroom and because they could see how upset I was I spent most of my time in the bath! My contractions were very strong and regular that by midday mw suggested breaking my waters-which she did. There was a tiny bit of morconium (sp) which she said she wouldn't have been worried about if it was my 2nd or 3rd. I was transfered to the original hospital by ambulance. For some reason I was never offered G&A-was just given pethadine-and then when I was in the ambulance they forced me to have G&A. I hated it as i'd been drinking so much water throughout and had none with me and it really dried my mouth out. Got to hospital spent 3hrs pushing then had ventouse and then they realised why her head was crowning and then going back-the cord was twice round her neck!!! The room filled with people and when she was born they wisked her off to be checked. All was fine-thank god!
I was very out of it as I was so tired and drugged up (had 2 shots of pethadine in the end). I loved the pethadine-totally hallucinated (sp) but really don't want to use it this time as I remember being quite out of it and I'm also sure it is what caused all our trouble with feeding to start with. DD didn't cry for 4 days! She was also drugged!!! Could add loads more detail but have already rambled too much!!!
Sorry for the bad spelling-no time to re-read!

Have just seen photos of friends little boy-he is gorgeous! I'm getting excited now Just trying not to think about the pain!!

My last labour was a bit of a disaster...well, except that I got a healthy DS of course!

It was planned to be a homebirth, using a birth pool in a box. (I'm not very good in hospitals).

I had a show on Tuesday afternoon, then irregular contractions all night...eased off Wednesday day-time but DH worked from home, just in case, repeat pattern until the early hours of Friday morning (yes, I was bloody knackered!)

After a big contraction sometime around 2am on the EDD, I went to the loo and my waters broke! Contractions eased off again for about an hour, then started to come pretty quick and were regular and long by 5am. I called the MW, and when she arrived she did a VE and found that his head wasn't engaged - so I was at risk of cord prolapse. As I'm quite close to the hospital, DH drove and MW travelled in to meet us there.

Contractions were coming one on top of another, I progressed from just TENS, to TENS + gas and air, to pethidine....

Unfortunately, whilst everything seemed to be heading the right way, my cervix wasn't playing. I barely made it to 3cm's.

I was being monitored constantly as DS's heartrate was too low - they were concerned that my contractions were compressing the cord. He was finally born at 14.29 by emergency section.

So much for my planned home, waterbirth.

This time around, I'm under consultant care, planning on having the baby in hospital vaginally, and have already started getting very stressed crossing my fingers that my cervix plays ball this time!

My experience wasn't very good, I had no midwifes looking after me other than randomly popping their head in to check I hadn't had it yet and make sure DH was coping with me OK . The VE were brutal and an area of significant concern for me this time around, thankfully my consultant has been sympathetic and has put in my notes that only senior staff that can make decisions can do VE's to try and minimise the number I have and also make sure that they are done 'sensitively'.

I'm also hoping not to hyperventilate this time around as that really wasn't helpful.

Hopefully somebody will come along with a really lovely birth story to inspire us in as we launch into the final trimester!

all of my labours have been very different
ds1 i was ten days over and due to be induced the day after so dh and i decided to try some home tecniques to start labour which worked brilliant my waters broke but nothing happened for 2 days then my waters went again and the pain came with them, i had an epidurel and i slept through the labour .When it came to pushing he got stuck and his heart was diping so they were taking me for a section when his heart stoped completley, they put me back in the room cut me open and pulled him out with a vontuse it was horrific but all was well thank god
DD ,i was ten days over again and was on my way to be induced when contractions kicked in and i had the biggest show ever, i was 3 cm so made my way down to delivery when i started pushing in the lift, it took about 5 mins to get to ten cm, i got on the bed but would not let them touch me until they gave me drugs and pushed her out with the bag of water still not broken, i tore alot and was in shock for a few hours due to the speed of delivery
ds2 i was induced at 38 weeks due to his size and had a perfect labour , i coped with the pain brilliant and the midwifes examined me after 2 and a half hours as they said baby was coming, but i had not dilated even 1 cm, i lost it at this point but the doctor streched me to 2 cm broke my waters and he was born 30 mins later, pain was ok and only had pethadine and gas and air, i also felt the ring of fire this time and this is what i dread again! i kept sucking him back up and telling the midwife's there was no way i was going to do that but glad to say labour got better each time and i'm really looking forward to this labour

Hi all

My 2 labours were different also. With DD1 it was 25 hours of contractions then she got stuck so had to have an epidural so they could turn her. Also had gas and air and pethedine. With DD2 my plug went and I started leaking waters so went in and after a night of nothing they were going to send me home but then said if I came back the next day they couldn't deal with me as no staff so I could be induced. So pessary put in at 10-30am and DD2 born at 2-27pm. Had pethedine and gas and air and was just demanding an epidural when I realised I had to push. I'm pleased I could feel to push as I couldn't with DD1 and also couldn't wee properly for days after DD1 was born.

DD1 is 6 tomorrow so have been busy preparing for a family party tomorrow. Sick of the rain so doing an inside buffet.

Hope all OK.

HC
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