Due November 2009: Second trimester thread!

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New thread for you as it was geting a bit big...

broodzilla welcome. My Dh was exactly like yours with DD. Pretty unhelpful and isolating, but it all changed at the birth!

scarlotti my brain has turned to mush already. I'm finding it really distressing trying to function properly because of it. I really have sympathy with early dementia sufferers in that respect. I carry a jotter around with me at work and have to write everything I do/want to do in it or else I just end up walking round in circles wondering what I'm up to.

I'm really interested in a BF sling - DD had silent reflus last time and was a nightmare. I bought a didymos when she was about 4 months and it was great, but it's too long for wearing for a newborn all the time. Will try though.

Thanks everyone with your brill tips for what to buy for the Beebee (our silly nickname for bump). You are saying so many similar things, it's clear you know your stuff! Like you grace09, got a list going on already

Morning all. DS woke at 5, didn't want a feed, just a cuddle i think ad then went back to sleep, i couldn't and then DD was up at 6. It is her first morning at pre-school today and she is SOOOOO excited, am sure we will sill have lots of tears when we get there!

Agree wth others on not being able to live without muslim squares, have tonnes of them and my 2 also still use them for comfort.
also;
lots of maternity pads - 2 at a time to start with! (though found that heavy duty panty liners were fine after a while and didn't feel like i was wearing a nappy!)
bouncy chair & play mat (though DD used to give DS a quick knock to his head as she walked past when he first went on it, just letting hm know his place i think!)
ibruprofen/paracetamol for after the birth. though have always been given it by MW, it's nice not t have to ask.
BF pillow and comfy chair
DD & DS stayed in moses basket for a few months, though actually in the cot after a while,i think it made transition to cot and their room easier.
am sure there are other things but can't think at mo.

I dreamt last night that I was a contestant on a reality TV show based in the middle of the sea where we, the contestants, had to retrieve food out of the inside of giant killer clams. Pregnancy dreams! Pah! Perhaps I should stop watching Big Brother!!!

Raggie beebee is cute. We don't have a name for this bump, but DS1 was 'the lodger' when he was a bump (we kept talking about doing up the spare room for the lodger). And DH even set up a website for family and friends to read called wwww.thelodger.com where he wrote a blog about progress as the bump grew! He carried on until DS1 was about 4 months old.

Morning all - hope everyone looking forward to the weekend.

Have finally settled on a name for the bump - calling it Stitch after the v destructive alien - it's definitely much more wriggly than the last one, which was Bean!

One thing I found absoluely invaluable last time was Sky tv - v sad but when I was up in the middle of the night BFing while DH slept, it was nice to have UK Gold for company...

Moses basket great for about 3 months - but try and borrow rather than buy as they grow out of it so quickly,xx

Scarlotti I did four years at university when DS was 3. It definitely makes you more focused, there's no way I'd have got a 1st if I'd just done the student thing. Still I did get to have a go at recklessness every now and then. Met dp on my course as well so glad I did it. NOBODY from my youth had babies young and I still remember how alienating anti natal groups are when your the baby with a baby. I'm still really close friends with the first other young mum I met, we were at a hearing test centre and she was wearing a rainbow jumper, I just remember walking up to her and saying "you don't look like you have a fixed rate mortgage or a pep".

Hope you're all well

Good morning, hope you're having a nice day. I'm off to Poland tomorrow to see my sister and her three sprog tomorrow. A birthday, a christening to go to, gonna be a busy weekend. It's also the only time she'll get to see me pregnant. Can't wait.

Broodzilla - have to admit I'm rather touched by my DH's behaviour. We've been together forever and he's always been adamant that babies are not his thing. However now he seems to be more into it than I am, really. Must admit that I still feel like this pg is happening to somebody else... But he's being v sweet, asking how the baby's doing, saying good morning and goodnight to my tummy - I'm seeing a completely different side to him. Makes me love him all the more.

Sorry for the emotional post, blooming hormones!

Both times, my husband has reacted to the news of my pregnancy as if the judge had just passed sentence while wearing a black cap. He's enthusiastic enough about trying to conceive, but once there's a nine month deadline looming, he starts muttering away like Eeyore: 'P'raps I better try and get some golf in this summer... there'll be none of that next year. Or the year after, I shouldn't wonder.' He's been even bleaker this time - I think because we both know what we're in for as far as sleepless nights and endless misery go...

However, last time when DS arrived, he was amazing - I was in such a bad shape after the birth that I don't think I changed a single nappy for the first three weeks except for the night when I was alone in the hospital (and couldn't stand alone unsupported, but still got told by a nasty midwife that I 'had to learn'.) The baby lived in the sling on his chest in the evenings and weekends because Daddy always seemed to miraculously settle him. So far, it seems that enthusiasm during the pregnancy bears absolutely no relation to the kind of father they are once the kid actually shows up...

Tabbycat I watched many episodes of Home in the Sun on UK Gold or whatever it was every night while bfing DS1 in the middle of the night! Memories!

Afternoon all

Hooray, the cream from the doc seems to have worked!! At last I'm comfortable again.

My dh was great during pg but then hands off after ds was born Hoping he might be a bit better this time, but at least my expectations are much more realistic.

ninja our twenties sound quite similar! Do you find it amazing to think you brought up ds on a pittance, but now never seem to have enough money even though there are two salaries coming into the house? Dd never seemed to miss out when she was little, but we lived on practically nothing!
I wonder how I managed sometimes.

Hello everyone,

I'm new to this site - it's great.

Can I add my name to the list as I'm due on 26th November 2009 - based in South London. Nervous and excited at same time!

Oooh, thank you so much to all the old-timers with the star tips on what to get for the baby!
So helpful! Some of the stuff you'd never think of unless someone told you (like taking paracetamol to a hospital)!

Becky I'm doing a PhD full-time. Although I'm struggling a bit at the moment, it's such a strange existence at the best of times, isolating and so on... I have found it a god-send with the ridiculous nausea. No-one around to mind me setting in my PJs gagging all day long.

Thank you also to everyone writing about the DPs/DHs. Tamlin your post made me laugh - that's exactly what my DH is like! Last night, I changed tactics and instead of going into long explanations and making him look at the catalogue, I just condensed all the info into a 5-minute quickie. He looked constipated (or in pain at least) and then just went "and how much is all that going to cost?". Shortly afterwards he commented on something that made me realize he hadn't actually taken in ANY of what I'd told him, apart from "blablablamustbuysomething".

I've managed to get DH to feel the bump ONCE. (Although you can feel it really clearly, he got up and left after about 2 minutes when he'd felt it a couple of times and hasn't come near it since.) He'd never dream about talking to it or asking how it's doing!

I really don't mean to sound negative or ungrateful, but have decided that as far as I'm concerned, from now on until November, it's me and the Bean. That way, I don't have to be upset or disappointed with DH and his lack of enthusiasm. Hopefully it'll change when the Bean is really here, but I'm not holding my breath.

Anyway - on a happier note TGIF! (There is always something special about a weekend, even if you do work from home! )
Oooh, and can't wait to see BB tonight...

Hi all,

Welcome mumsiebumsie! I'm due on 26th Nov too, so we can compare notes Is it your first?

Is anybody else still feeling absolutely knackered? Every day between about 2 and 4 I am just exhausted. I fantasise about going to bed as soon as DH gets in to take over, but in reality by that time I feel a bit better.

Broodzilla sorry your DH isn't really 'getting it'. I do think it's all a bit abstract for men until an actual baby arrives. My DH has never been the type to wait on me hand and foot (apparently this shows real respect for me as he knows I am perfectly capable myself {hmm]) and he hasn't started during pregnancy! I do (not so) secretly crave a bit of pampering, but I don't think he really understands that. He was great during labour and when DD arrived though - really hands on. That's when it counts I suppose.

Has anyone got any nice plans for the weekend? It's a boring one for us. DH is stressing about some exams he has coming up, so I've promised to be around to crack the whip/ make cups of coffee while he's revising as long as he takes DD each afternoon so I can have a nap.

Oh and we are completely broke at the moment and our microwave broke this week. Then, about ten mins ago, our TV just stopped working. I'm terrified that's gone too. A microwave I can live without; no CBeebies during the mid-afternoon slump? I'm not so sure...

Hi everyone and sorry I've been quiet lately. Am ill AGAIN. Got a horrid chest infection and high temp so am in bed, under Dr's orders... Just going to catch up on all the posts, but welcome to mumsiebumsie! I am also living in South London (although originally from Yorkshire).
Hope everyone's well x

I just can't be bothered to do anything that takes any amount of energy! I don't have that totally wiped out cannot function after 6pm feeling anymore though.

No plans for the weekend: feeling a bit down for some reason (that one little thing will make me cry feeling). Must be just hormones.

I need to find some shoes to go with my IO pink dress - I am rubbish at fashion - any ideas? nice pink dress

Broodzilla, think I replied to you already in the other thread, but good luck with the PhD, you can do it!

This Saturday, I'm taking my first night off from DS since he was born. I desperately, desperately need a break, and my sister just got a promotion so I've got an excuse - I'm going off to stay with her in Oxford to have a celebratory dinner and then watch terrible movies. She'll have to drink most of the celebratory wine herself, but I'm sure that won't phase her.

Am SO looking forward to lying in Sunday morning, you have no idea...

BBL I would go for a silver or gold (like model wearing dress) sandal with a small heel. I love the dress!

Welcome to the newbies! So sorry Katster you are feeling ill Such a misery.

Nothing new with me. Keep getting headaches. I recall getting these with DS and it didn't last for too long. I have a feeling we're having a boy. I knew with DS he was a boy from the start and never once thought it was a girl. We had the boys name decided and never agreed on a girls name. We call my bump - the bop - well this is DH's pet name for it. He is another DH who doesn't like to get too involved with the whole PG thing. But when DS arrived he was fantastic and still is - so can't complain

Hope you all have lovely weekends!

BBL just realised it's the pink dress you have - so silver would look nice.

I will have a look around town for some suitable footwear tomorrow!

Fruitpastels reading your post has made me realise that my headaches have actually got better. I was getting them every day.

Tamlin have fun in Oxford. Say hello to the old place for me. I miss it a lot

Katster sorry you are poorly. Take good care of yourself.

DS1 and are eating home-made ice lollies - yum!

BBL - agree with Fruitpastels, silver sandals would definitely look nice but you should be careful when buying. I bought some very nice looking shiny sandals last summer, they were comfortable in the shop but I could barely walk in them, the straps were really painful. So I only wore them once. So I would be careful with straps (especially as we tend to have swollen feet in pregnancy) and also with too high heels (especially if you are "rubbish at fashion" you are maybe not used to them?). I think it is very important to find comfortable shoes.
Welcome mumsiebumsie! Is it your first?
katster - Sorry to hear that you are ill again. I hope you will be pampered by your husband this weekend and then you will soon feel much better.
In fact, I do not seem to be able to completely get rid of my (light) cold which I have since easter. I think it is changing from cold to hayfever depending on the day. And there is definitely a part of pregnancy related blocked nose involved. Every morning, I wake up around 5, and have to blow my nose several times and I usually have a bit of nose bleeding too. My poor husband wakes up every time. A few days ago he asked me (with a very desperate and little voice) if I was thinking that this would continue until the end of the pregnancy. Anybody else with the same problem?

Poor katster and ursigurke! Can't imagine actually being ill on top of feeling sick (not so muhc anymore, thank goodness) and knackered ALL the time. I have definitely read that blocked nose is common in pg. Do we call it a 'symptom' like and illness? Or 'side effect'? I don't know!

This weekend, Laugs, I am in report-writing hell for my darling Y6sbefore they go off into the big, bad world of...secondary school! So I don't care if it rains. No, I do. It has been SO miserable in London today - like Autumn, shudder.

I like all your bumps names, ours is 'titchy', ds was 'littlen'. was trying to get dh to feel titchy last night as he/she was really wiggly, but he took so long coming out of the bathroom (from admiring himself) he missed it all and could only feel my pulse.

lol at Trikken

My DH is away in Tanzania for ten days I am expanding so fast but no real wiggles or kicks yet. 15 weeks this weekend so a bit to go before feel anything? What say you wise old-timer ladies?

I'm not used to heals at all: I do big boots most of the year around and flip flops in the summer! I like clothes but just have never been educated in shoes.

I've had blocked noses in pregnancy - esp in the am. It's one of those for the list of 'symptoms you never get told about'.

I didn't feel anything until about 18-19 weeks with DS1. I'm 16 weeks now and haven't felt much more than a vague flutter.

raggie thanks for your sympathy, but it is really not that bad. The cold/hayfever/pregnancy side effect (whatever it is) is really just light. And as I have so many different light allergies I am used to a high usage of tissues all year round anyway. I'm actually glad I only have this little problem, there are much worse options. And my poor husband will need to get used to early mornings anyway
Our name for the baby is Schnucki, I can't even imagine how that sounds if pronounced in English, rather ugly I think. It is a bit of a silly name, it started rather as a joke but it is a neutral word and not he or she as so many of the other words you could use in German so I guess it's a good name. And in 2,5 weeks the scan will probably tell us more. The scan is actually on my husband's birthday. I really don't know how i will be able of thinking of a birthday present for him... maybe a morning without blowing my nose?