Anybody else due in NOVEMBER 2009 :-) PART 3

[ldeeanna]

Hopefully this has worked?

belgianbun congrats on the scan!!! I'm interested in your comment re. 98th centile. Was it a nuchal scan or dating scan? I had the impression that at the dating scans I've had, they plug in the crown-rump length and out pops a due date which is one-size-fits-all. If there are centiles, then that may explain why my EDD is massively early compared with my LMP dates, and I just have a bigger than average bean.

I was weird about telling my parents with #1, and IL's too. But everyone is SO delighted and emotional it pales into insignificance very quickly.... enjoy!

Hope so! Thanks for your messages. Here I go

Will not be able to check mn until Tuesday, I think. Wonder what page you'll all be on then? This thread goes so fast!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Sun is coming out here in Brighton

Congrats on scans. More good news!

I've been feeling a lot of stretching type action going on this week. My bumpette seems to have got a bit bigger. Really starting to show now.

I'm in a bit of a clothes limbo. My normal trousers don't fit but tried on a pair of jogging bottoms in mothercare that were absolutely huge. I might go into central London tomorrow and have a look for some new clothes.

I went to pick up a free cot this morning. Felt a bit early but it's not assembled or anything. I've put it in the spare room not to be looked at for a few months at least. I can't believe how generous people have been. We've been offered so much stuff already!

Forgot to say that heartburn is kicking in for me in the evenings, and I'm determined to do something more effective about it this time around. I STILL find Rennies tucked away in various nooks and crannies of handbags and suitcases 2.5 years later!!! I went to the chemist and they gave me Gaviscon Advance for free on the minor ailments service. I'll need a repeat prescription from MW to continue getting it free from now. Apparently Ranitidine is very effective once Gaviscon is no longer working, and is safe on pg. I have a bottle in the cupboard that DD never got around to needing, so I'll ask about using that too next time I see MW.

Hello everyone!

Congrats BB on your good scan news. More scans next week... good luck to all those having scans next week. I've just heard that a friend of mine from where we used to live is pregnant (a total surprise and not planned but happy) with her third. She had a scan today as she had no idea about dates!

I'm in a clothes limbo too so wearing leggings most days with dresses / long tops: a bit of the hippy chick look going on!

Does anyone feel just so out of breath all the time? I spent this morning aimlessly wondering around town trying to find a present for my brother's partner's birthday and now I am utterly exhausted and feel as if I've run a half marathon or something. I can feel my heart working twice as hard as normal. Or perhaps it is digesting lunch?

Belgianbun we must have walked past eachother! We were waiting over 2 hours from appt time, so I was wondering if you were there Also, glad you said that about the mad shouty man, 'cos after I posted, I thought 'sht! what if it was BB*'s DH!!'

Yes, also interested in centile thing - I was certain I ov-ed (due to temping etc) on a certain day, but EDD according to scan is 3 days earlier. Doesn't really matter though!

Pinkfizzle thanks for sharing that about HB. I was a bit panicked yesterday and this morning, but then the more I think about it, the more I think that I have a fast HB, I was seriously stressed (esp after long wait building it all up etc) and apparently it can fluctuate enormously. And I do get to see him/her again in a week and a bit! My DH can't come to that scan but my Dad is working in London and has offered to come with me - I would love him to, but am slightly concerned other people might think he was the baby's Dad!! Is this a ridiculous thing to think about??!

Tamlin I really feel for you re the cat. I know how attached we can get to our cats, and I must admit, I am concerned how my boy will react to a baby. I think you are right to put the needs of the cat first though, v brave, and a v tough decision for you.

I fainted in the vets today... Had been sick straight after breakfast (12 weeks today - sickness hasn't realised this yet!) so think this is why. Has anyone else suffered from fainting/lightheadedness?

Hope you're all having great weekends. Apologies for mammoth post...

Hello! I think me and DH are going to do the deed tonight for the first time in forever! I'm a bit nervous. Like being a born again pregnant virgin...

I am craving sour things, lime jam, lemon drizzle cake, sour haribo, but they give me awful heartburn! i was the same when pg with dd, it's ridiculous!

Oh, and when I told my mum I was pregnant first time, she assumed I would be moving back in with her and got all excited about having a baby around the house again! Never mind that i was 21 and had lived away since I was 18, that i was with the babys dad and he was 31! She was behaving like I was 15! It was only when dd was about 6 months old that she finally changed my room around and stopped holding it open for me to come home!

Heartburn is grim - I only had it near the end with DS, so I really feel for you girls who are getting it early! I think that if it gets really bad, you can get your antacids free on prescription..?

I've definitely, decidedly popped. The thing that always strikes me as funny about pregnant bellies is that I always thought they'd feel soft and squishy, like a breast or something, but mine is all taut and hard like a ball that somebody's inflated too far (and towards the end, taut and hard with knobbly bits sticking out!) Not hugely comfortable already, I really hate having any pressure pushing on the bump which makes it hard to dress...

Thanks, everyone, for being so nice about our cat. DH took DS out of the house this morning, and once she realized, she promptly came downstairs excitedly to run around the house and investigate everything. Made me realize again that it's really not fair to expect a nervy spinster cat to endure the company of tiny tots...

Hi everyone,

BelgianBun, great news about your scan!

Brightonbaby I hope you enjoyed telling your parents in the end, what a nice birthday present for your mum!

Tamlin sorry you had to make a hard decision about the cat, but I'm sure it was the right one. My DB and SIL are hoping to have a baby next year, but keep talking about getting a cat first (like to practice caring for something , I just want to say 'Nooo', but it would be a bit rude...

I have bought myself some maternity jeans and they are so comfy. I also feel much better about myself as I'd been wearing trackies that I'd normally only wear at home/ to bed out into town and feeling like a total slob. I got ones with the buttons on the side, and I'm only one buttton in on each side, but it is still so much more comfortable than my normal jeans. And only £16 too!

Oh yes, and my boobs are alternating between extreme itchiness and sharp shotting pains and I am starting to get very breathless pushing the pushchair up even the slightest slope. I am a great big bundle of loveliness, as you can imagine.

Good morning all! I've just missed one day and it is already too much to catch up for my pregnancy brain...
Just remember two things: I'm really sorry for those throwing up in public transport. That must be terrible.
And about the feelings when you tell your parents: For me, it was easy, they knew we wanted to have children as soon as possible after the wedding and it was on the phone, I guess it might be a bit more embarrasing face to face. But I am sure 99% of parents are happy about grandchildren

Could I moan now, please? (sorry about it).
My in-laws are here and therefore I am apparently not allowed anymore to say "you have to" to my husband. Even if it is for showing how to assemble the kitchen machine!
He doesn't even listen and already tells me that there is nothing he has to do!
As his mum still tells him to take a jacket when leaving the house, he usually compares me to her and get really annoyed when I am giving any kind of advice or remember him about something he really has to do.
It really annoys me that I have to suffer just because of his mother or his relationship with her.
It's mothers day in Austria today and that's why she is here. Every year she follows him
everywhere! I won't bother you with their IMO very stupid traditions that didn't really change since 30 years (poem included) but, since I know my husbands family I hate mothersday and I will never even tell my children that it exists!
End of moaning, sorry.
I really hope you will all have a nice sunday with your families!

Oh usigurke I feel for you. I think fitting into the son/mother-in-law relationship can be really hard, and harder still can be watching it!! My MIL thinks the sun shines out of DH's a*se and gets really mad if I say anything negative, like even an affectionate joke or something. Really strange. I wonder if we'll become these mothers if we have boys??! Good luck with surviving Austrian mothers day though...

BeckyBL hope it went well!! We had a chat about it last night, as we really haven't done it so so long either. DH said whenever I want to, but he is scared of damaging the baby and I am scared it will make me bleed and hence freak out!!

OK I am worried again - I was fast asleep last night at around 11.30pm and DH was still up watching something on TV when I had a really vivid dream that there was a tarantula in the bed I came SCREAMING downstairs into the living room and shouting 'Dad! Dad!' and DH had to seriously calm me down and prove there was no tarantula in the bed... You don't think the shock /adrenaline rush / craziness could have hurt the baby do you?? Am scared I gave it a heart attack or something... Go my first pregnancy yoga class today, really hoping it helps me calm down a bit!

Katster It's normal to have mad/weird dreams when pg. I put it all down to worry, anxiety and the unknown. I had some terrible dreams earlier on in this pg and they have settled down now. Your baby is tucked away safe and sound, with no clue of your nightmare, so please don't worry. When my DS was a newborn, he slept in a moses basket next to the bed, I used to wake up in the night frantically looking for him under the duvet, thinking I had lost him. This went on for weeks. Life calms down once we're in full full swing of pg and then we won't be able to sleep as we're so uncomfortable!

Morning all.

usigurke I do feel for you. It is hard sometimes the MIL thing. My MIL is lovely but soooo different from me in personality. I think you'll just have to grit your teeth and when it gets too tense disappear somewhere by yourself (that's what I do - pretend I need an urgent nap).

DH and I did do the deed last night and it was very nice but my bits ached a lot afterwards. I remember this now from previous pregnancies They just seem really tender! It was jolly nice to be back on the bonking wagon though.

DS2 is poorly so I am worried about him now. He's fine really he's just got a temperature with no other obvious symptoms. He used to get like this when he was a baby - it could be quite frightening at times. He had a bad night claiming there were 'holes' in his bed so I am a bit tired today after reassuring him that there are no holes in his bed. We've dosed him up so he's ok at the moment but clearly looks unwell. Poor mite. That's nursery for you (he started a month ago)!

Oh Katster what a horrible dream!!!!! Poor you. I think pregnancy hormones do give us the most vivid dreams. I woke up in a huge strop with DH for not wanting fish and chips but buggering off by himself to buy a spring roll (????). He had to apologise when I woke up.

katster, I always have disturbing and weird dreams during pregnancy (including sex dreams which leave me wondering if I have a hideously warped subconscious). Recently, I dreamt that I gave birth to the baby and it came out stout and thick-necked and with its back covered in fur, and then I realized it was a Ben (from Doris Lessing's Fifth Child) and woke up bawling.

Becky, is it a cold thing? DS and I are both sick with some sort of achy sore-throat virus - I feel as if I've got two golf-balls in my throat. Apparently it's doing the rounds as I've got friends in London and Oxford with the same bug...

Tamlin I asked him if his throat hurt and he said yes, but then I tested him with 'does your elbow hurt' and he said yes, so I don't know, that is unless it is strange throat and elbow virus! I'm keeping an eye on him. He's upset because I said if he's not better tomorrow he can't go to nursery.

BeckyBendyLegs that is so sweet that he said his elbow hurt too!! Aaaw. Hope he's feeling better soon. Echoing Tamlin, the bug I have had is a sore throat/ear/sinus/general crapness one, so it could be that.

Tamlin I have had weird sex dreams too. Was thinking it might be because I haven't had sex for so long and now it has become an issue - in that it will be really weird next time we do, because it has been ages, IYSWIM!! Need to get plastered and ravage him, but that isn't really an option!!

Can I ask, on people's scan notes is there a horizontal line next to the measurement, with a small vertical line at either ends and in the middle (if you can visualise it!) with a blob somewhere along it? Is that the centile measurement? I don't understand if it is though, 'cos if it was really big, would they not just say you were further along than you thought?? Anyone else confused?

katster, yes, that just indicates roughly how big or small your lo is (or that's what it does on mine) and where the hb is on the scale of normal. Mine seems to be on the small side this time, but I'm not sure how much it means - rates of growth differ even this early on, don't they?

Just read something scary-bf came home to find me in floods of tears pointing at the computer and couldn't understand me! I was reading on MN birth stories-things the books dont tell you! Dont advise reading it-scared the hell out of me-very graphic and gory!

Very pleased for you bb!! And the nuchal results-as you were worried about this! What a relief! Mine came back as low too!

just checking in.

ideanna - same thing happened to me! But I'm persisting with them, I think it's the best education on what to expect and I've even made DP read them too - I want him to be prepared for the birth and able to support me as much as possible and it's the truest birth experiences you'll come across.

Also, for anyone else in glasgow only entitled to a 12wk scan and no nuchal - my midwife explained yesterday this is because their health board deliver 12,000 babies a year and the QM's actually did the research on nuchal scans but don't yet have enough staff trained to do so many scans, although this is due to change in September.

Ideeanna I read that last night and it was indeed scary - and i've done it before! In fact, I'm sure it wasn't a coincidence that I was sick 5 minutes later.

fruitpastels I used to have the exact same dream ALL the time, where I'd wake up panicking that DD had slipped under the covers or that I was lying on top of her. It was awful! And Katster, even though we mostly pass off as normal women, there is clearly loads of underlying tension and nervousness throughout pregnancy and the early days of being a mum - I'm sure our bsbies are well equipped to cope with that.

I think the lack of sex has become an issue with us too. We haven't done it since we found out I was pregnant. I really didn't want it for ages, but then when I did start thinking about it, DH had gone off the idea. He reckons he's worried while everything is so 'soft' and that it will be fine once my tummy gets a bit more firm (When does that happen??). To be fair, in the evenings he would have a very short window of opportunity between me being sick (often before, then after dinner) and going to bed. I can't imagine he is overcome with desire for me in this state!

Just had cheese on toast at lunch and took one bite and convinced cheese gone off since yesterday. Sell by is about a month away but it is just wrong and I can't face it. Been so sick and can't face going in kitchen to tidy up lunch. DH is going to think I'm nuts when he comes home in a bit...

Oh..and on dreams...I never have sexy dreams. Last night I kept dreaming that DS had woken up screaming and I (he sleeps with me) sat bolt upright and grabbed him and started telling him it was all ok, etc. The poor boy was fast asleep. This happened 4 times. I think perhaps tonight he goes back in his cot.