Due April 2009: Episode 18 - Mumble gets married and we have triplets and twins here!!

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Let the ramblings commence.

well this is my 2nd springy, and although I obviously know a hell of a lot more about childcare and how I cope as a mother etc, I'm still just as protective feeling with this one. Even though it isn't even born yet. I find I'm extremely nervous in cars when I'm pregnant.

Well done boff, quite right what you said on the other thread. Just shout if you need back up

LuLu, that is quite scary - I expected you'd have to sign stuff! I was a bit surprised that I was just left to pack my stuff & leave after I was discharged a couple of weeks ago (& that they never even gave me an identity bracelet!) without any questions, but with a baby? Very strange!

Do babies get knicked often then?

I am only panicky with my children about crossing the road, and making sure they are secured safely in cars. All other risks look relatively small to me now. I have little truck with stranger danger because it's so incredibly rare.

No Bleu they don't. I was just very paranoid (and over-tired, hormonal and excessively anxious and pfb-ish) But I did think that if someone was inclined to swipe one it wouldn't be that difficult.

Lol at you not wanting the other baby though LuLu

Yes, exactly Boffin. The rational and reasoned side of brain assures me that stranger danger is incredibly rare, but it has to fight it out with the irrationaly paranoid side of my brain .

Don't they microchip babies or something over here

I have heard of one baby getting nicked in Nottingham 15 years ago, and security has been tightened since then (hence buzzers on ward doors).

However I would point out that if you have a HB then you know for sure the baby at home with you is your own!!

Thats cats and dogs bleu

Smutty - ironically I actually know that other baby now. Met him through mum & baby groups. He's actually quite sweet - just wasn't a particularly appealing newborn .

(May look into microchipping - particularly after nearly losing DD in a massive 3 story M&S yesterday...)

LuLu - thats a coincidence , good job you didnt want to pinch him really

Oh just pets then? Perhaps someone should tell the mother that I saw let her little 1.5yr run all over Asda by herself the other day. Seriously I followed the little one around myself because her mother was unconcerned. Kid left her side in the clothing section and wandered about for a good 5-7 minutes looking at the cds and dvds a good 50yds away and COMPLETELY out os sight before wandering back to her mother with one.

The other thing I would say about fear for one's children, is that my view is coloured by half the family being German, and relating some pretty horrendous war stories, in which children were more or less abandoned, and left to walk hundreds of miles home from boarding school and so on, so I have taken trouble to teach mine some basic refugee survival skills in case of societal breakdown. Now that is my paranoia. But it also taught me how resourceful and resilient children can be when they have to. I think (fully) English people don't quite have this understanding of children's capabilities. I want mine to be able to manage without me if necessary, if it came to an extreme situation (terrorist attack being another more likely scenario). I want them to be able to weigh up situation and think on their feet from a very early age.

Having said that, obviously this can't apply to the maternity ward!

Bleu - thats asda for you

I was utterly shocked tbh, but happily nothing happened. (I didn't get knicked for stalking a baby for instance)

though i must say i shop at asda and always have dd's hand and she knows not to wander (more chance of her being nicked in asda than anywhere else lol )

Boff that reminds me of what Mom did for us. From an early age she made sure we knew how to get our own food and clean our own clothes and let us pay for things by ourselves (she would stand back and watch from a distance) stuff like that. Neighbors were amazed that at 5 the youngest was expected to either make her own sandwich or ask for one to be cooked for her. By 7 we were using the stove...

It might have been part necessity though with so many of us milling around wanting fod and the like at different times...

I think it's easy to be paranoid about Stranger Danger or whatever, because you always think that your child would be the most desirable child around & is likely to be targetted That's how it is in my head anyway

Boff, are you on some sort of HB based commission? I think what you're saying about being able to cope without you is really sensible. I've become very aware of my own mortality this pregnancy, purely on the basis that I feel that I have to survive at least the next 18 years so as to not leave my child motherless before adulthood. I know he'd be fine (especially as my family are so lovely & supportive - & DH will be a great dad, assuming he wasn't killed along with me!) & that it's not like you get a choice, but I am suddenly aware of a great responsibility & would hope that if the worst were to happen that he'll be as well equipped to cope without me as would be possible. The same goes for scary events at which I'm not present (like a terrorist attack, or similar).

LuLu, that M&S thing sounds terrifying. I'm going to go spare the first time I realise he's gone scampering off & I can't see him. I know it happens to everyone, but just the thought of it makes me want to cry with fear!

Nutty, you mean you don't shop at Waitrose? Get out! PVC windows & shopping at ASDA? What are you? I bet you give your DD sausage rolls & FruitShoots

Told DH he could pick up whatever he wanted for supper and I would not complain in the least as long as he cooked it all himself and cleaned up afterwards... he's called 4 times in the last 2 minutes asking me about randomn foods and if I can eat them or not yet...

Springy - lol waitrose is miles away from me (as is tescos et al) whereas asda is round the corner (i get it delivered now though

yep i'm a slummy mummy and proud she even like's ..........wait for it..........Mc Donalds as a special treat

lol Nutty.
I'm strangely positioned in that I have a Waitrose and an ASDA equally placed (and in walking distance) from where we're living now. When I want a treat I go to waitrose; if I'm buying everyday items I tend to go to Asda.

What (if anything) do people know about Limerick Ireland?

Haha, Bleu - is he intending to serve up brie & pate? (Mmmmmmm)

& McDonald's? How disgusting I shan't be owning up to my McDonald's cravings from earlier in the pregnancy, then I'm ruining the child's life before he's even born!