Due May 2009 We're Nesting and Napping, Squeezing and Holding

[FiKelly]

here we go

my DH not a happy bunny (welsh)

oh dear - never mind. I managed to barbecue some meat while the game was going on - before DH came and took over - so have just had a yummy tea of barbecued pork and lamb, wholewheat pasta and salad. Think I'm okay with this with GD. Working a bit blind till I see the specialist.

Trouble is now I'm craving chocolate

DH has taken stepdaughter to the fun fair for an hour so I get some peace I think she learnt a few new swear words during the rugby

pulapula its interesting to see that your DH is the same as mine in terms of being excited but not wanting to pay for it, hmmm men! Mine is £140, I've not cancelled it, but the lady who does it was supposed to ring me so I could pay upfront today and she hasn't so not sure what to do, they want a £30 security deposit (havn't paid that yet) then the rest on the day, with a £50 cancellation fee, but I guess that only applies if you've already paid! I think if I don't go, I'll regret it, and then spend the next 2months worrying and then if bubba comes out and theres something wrong, i'll blame myself for not finding out.

Fi Im with you, I feel really down at the moment, if Im honest with you, Im really struggling, Madi has been horrible today, seriously naughty, and I couldn't cope with it and had to ask MIL to take her, so Im now doubting whther I can do it with two, and now I think shes going to think I cant do it, its bad enough that my family seem to enjoy pointing out my inability to cope, my nan specifically, who goes on that she never had anyone to help her when she had her kids etc etc, to top it off my DP has been out since 12 today and won't be back till 11pm and I can't stop crying, is at times like this I really get down, feel so alone, I dont know if I've told you girls on here, but I dont have any parents, and the only family I have is one set of grandparents, one set of auntie&uncle and 4 brothers and DPs family. My family are truely awful to me sometimes so 9 times out of 10 I only have DPs family.

God I've just realised how much I've written, I guess it helps to get it off my chest, but my laptop is looking rather damp from the tears!

Please dont feel the need to acknowledge my post, I hate the fact I look so needy just good to know your there to 'listen' and understand where Im coming from

chocbunnies you are not needy! just having a bad day.

It helps to get it off your chest.

GOD I want chocolate!!

why are there so many adverts with easter eggs?

Hug for Chocbunnies

nice to know chocolatebunnies i'm not the only one bawling. I'm going to head off to bed before i start again and hope i'm feeling brighter tomorrow. DH & I are spending tomorrow pm touring the central delivery suite at the new hospital we're going to for LO birth this time. I didn't know it was mothers day when we booked it.

thanks for the hug febes

thanks for your support looby fi i think bed is on the cards for me too

Fi and chocbunnies, hope you and anyone else feeling so low are feeling better after a good night sleep. xx

am babysitting at a friend's house tonight and am feeling quite relaxxed as there is nothing for me to worry about except relaxing, watching tv, and good to have the laptop here. not sure what else on telly but think i'll be watching a Knight's tale on film4.

no chocolate here either .

Hello

I added myself to your list months ago but haven't really posted or lurked much since then.

Have just read the last couple of pages and realised that I've been missing out on chat with people who are going through the same thing as me.
I too am v emotional atm. Everything seems to make me furious or sob like a baby. DS is entering the terrible 2 stage and is making me wonder if I've taken leave of my senses having another.

My last day at work was yesterday so I hope i'll be able to keep up with you all and post regularly now I've got more time.

leakyR, with work behind you, it's one less thing to worry about. terrible 2 stage is frustrating for all parties involved. my 3yr old is still doing tantrums and dd2 at 18 mos is showing early signs of terr 2's. sometimes, i'm screaming at them by 7am (then, i know it's going to be a bad day). but other times, i'm so taken with them.

i do think it's normal to question our sensibility of having a (or another) baby. but, we'll cope and pretty soon we won't imagine what it was like without the new little one.

Hallo girls x
fi not surprised you're feeling poo hun, you have a LOT on at the mo and coupled with pgncy hormones its no wonder you are fretful! You've a ton of stress going on at the moment and you're also very pregnant - don't be hard on yourself, it will all sort itself out, even tho there are days when it feels like its a nightmare.
choc - big hugs to you too chicken, it must be hard without a close direct family, especially at times like this. I have days like you when my little monster is being hard work and I think OMG how on earth are we going to cope with 2 - think its a natural and normal reaction. Some ladies on here are on 3+ so it mustn't be that bad!! Understand about the scan as well - when we had ours done I was shocked that we were having a boy and its taken a long time to get used to the idea but now I can't wait. I'm sure if anything was wrong it would have already been diagnosed thru normal scans ,growth etc tho again I think we all worry about this until we are holding perfect, little newborns in our arms (and then the worry really starts )

Elvis the pelvis is hurting today - been on feet a lot and Pip is starjumping in my bum, fanjo and abdomen. Tummy is itching like mad, so obv stretching some more. Think I'll rename myself Michelin.

Just ordered some yoga pants and new jeans - seems a bit silly with 6 weeks left but my under bump jeans are crippling me (or falling off if I go beltless) and my comfy joggers are always in the wash so what the hell.

Off to snuggle DP on sofa

Hi all, sorry not been on for a few days and am too tired at the mo to do a major catch up on the thread. Have just read this page though and am reassured to hear I'm not the only one who has sobbed their way through the week! Have been feeling very stressed, tired and generally miserable and tearful off and on and DH has been quite baffled what to do with me! He referred to the baby as 'Hamish' earlier in the week, to which I burst into tears and howled 'Don't call him that'. He was only joking, but was rewarded by 15mins of me sobbing. Oh dear.
Feel better today though thankfully, but am also struggling to cope when DD2 starts acting up. I just don't have the energy (or physical strength come to that) to deal with her mega-tantrums.
Will try to catch up properly (and in a less moany fashion) tomorrow. Another tiring day on the cards though - DH has friends here from Edinburgh and Belgium so is on a 2 day 'hospitality trip' - ie, bender so I'm going to my parents tomorrow (not as relaxing as it sounds unfortunately).
Enjoy Mothers Day tomorrow all, hope you get spoilt rotten.
Baby going ballistic and tummy looks like there's an alien trying to get out! Off to bed now. Night x x x x

Hi detsy BTW. I like the naming of the pelvis. That's made me smile

Sorry that some of you are feeling teary today. Those pesky hormones.

Sometimes I surprise myself that i haven't cried for AGES - think i'm just hardened, as i'm sure in the first few weeks i would blub at anything slightly sad on telly. Even the comic relief clips from africa or of children suffering in the UK didn't make me cry. The closest i've come to tears recently is when i really fancied nutella on toast for breakfast- I made my toast, then discovered DH had finished the jar off. I was so disappointed lol.

Anyway, time for bed for me. Just been out on my future SIL's hen do. It was hard work (had to stand up a lot) and felt a bit old and "passed it" but nice to meet her family and friends. The wedding is in 3 weeks which is something nice to look forward to.

happy mothers day to all!! Those without littles yet will still be snoozing no doubt, I've encouraged dp and dd to go down and get breakfast but can hear them singing tommy thumb and dancing!
Hi frazz sorry you're in the weepy clan the hamish thing did make me smile, poor you! Not long now till we have our little edwards. It's bloody tiring with one terrible 2 practising her tantrums so do sympathize. But on other hand u r v lucky to have an upstairs utility talk soon x

happy mothers day

ds woke up at 5.30am but dh and i managed to doze while he played in his room till 6.30am. feeling a bit brighter this morning.. no tears yet. having breakfast in bed and playing tents under the duvet with ds. no sign of a card or anything as of yet will be bit disappointed with dh if he's not bothered.. but at least we'll be spending the day together apart from delivery suite tour when ds is at my aunties as he's not allowed on the tour.

re our house hunting that's got me all upset. we're faced with a choice between a tiny house with almost no garden in a nice area that has a choice of average rated schools or a larger house with massive garden in a not so v nice area with an outstanding ofsted rated primary. any opinions anyone? pros/cons?

Morning and Happy Mothers Day!

Didn't sleep very well last night. My pelvis is killing me and my one leg just seemed to be throbbing all night - weird.
Think I may have overdone it with all the shopping, gardening, walking yesterday. Don't plan to do much today. Going to pop and see my mum with a card and chocs in a bit - not that she'll really appreciate it . Won't be there long tho cos of the smoking.

Also feeling quite worried about the GD thing. It's been going over and over in my mind, just seems odd that I don't see the specialist for 2 weeks when I'll only have 4 weeks left to go then till d-date.
It's been great to have the advice of people on here llare, blotted momino sorry if I've missed anyone, but I can't help worrying that i'm damaging LO in some way . Think I may have been looking at worse case scenarios on the net too much.

I mean perhaps I'm not GD and so they are not that concerned? Been going over and over what the MW said. She told me that the results of the GTT showed that my glucose intolerance was impaired and that she had changed my Consultant so that I would now be sent to the Specialist in GD and another doctor to help me manage my sugar. I took this to mean I had GD as she went on to say that if it was properly managed I SHOULDN'T have any problems.

Have voiced my concerns to DH and he says I should ring my MW to talk about it. I don't like to bother her but it is worrying me .

Am I going nuts?

Sorry for long post.

fikelly hope your tour goes well.
Sorry to hear the house hunting not going too well. It's a minefield isn't it? Before you have children it's all about the house. When we bought ours schools just didn't come into the equation - now it's the main focus. Saying that tho when we bought our house they were in the process of building a new sports college up the road that's now got a good ofsted- so that's secondary education taken care of.

I thought there was a good primary up the road but am a bit about it now. My great nephew goes there and his reading and writing skills are appalling (his sisters aren't much better) I suppose I am comparing him to my stepdaughter who goes to school in Oxford .He's just been diagnosed as dyslexic, he's always had problems and my niece questioned the school about why it wasn't picked up earlier (he's 11) she was told that he wasn't the worst by far. I know it's not all the schools fault but it does make think .

Morning all,

Happy Mothers Day and Happy Mothers-to-be Day to first timers!

Sore shoulders this morning from sleepign in same position for most of the night - but no choice anymore so just have to put up with it, as better than a squashed bump or no blood getting to uterus!!

Fi, re schools, it must be very tempting to go for catchment area of an outstanding ofsted rated primary school, but I just have to say that outstanding ofsted reports don't necessarily mean the best schooling and education for your child. Some children are much happier and learn better in 'good' ofsted schools than they would in an outstanding. You need to be looking at the Ofsted reports and at the Value Added Score. The higher the Value Added Score the more children have progressed in that school during their time in each key stage i.e. a child may have come in with a low Foundation Stage score, but by the time they go into Key Stage one may have exceeded expectations with their progress. I.e. schools with a higher Value Added Score take children with low scores and end up with much higher ones. So an outstanding ofsted school, may have a much lower value added score than a nearby 'good' school. Does that make sense????? So I would say it's better to have a choice of schools and make the decision based on how you feel about the school when you visit, what other parents say about the school and how the staff and headteacher make you feel about it, and of course what stage you feel your child is at regarding their development.

An exciting day ahead for me, it's part 2 of my best friends hen do - a trip to the spa (2 spa's in 2 weekends - am very lucky girl).

Enjoy what's left of the sunshine (if you've got some) before the rain and north winds arrive next week!

I'd phone.. i'm sure you'll feel more confident after they explain the reasons for their concerns. i didn't realise gd had any pos negatives for lo except baby size. if i was worrying i'd need to phone or i just wouldn't settle.

Happy Mothers day all!!

Looby - Sorry to hear about your GD. I was thinking last night when I couldn't sleep that 2 weeks was a long time without seeing anyone re GD. I think you should ring your midwife and ask to see is it a GD nurse or midwife?! If she doesn't give you any joy then try and speak to a Dr at your practice and ask for their advice.

Fi sorry to hear about your housing troubles. Afraid I have no advice, but you have my sympathy.

I too have spent much of the last week in tears or a mood. Yesterday capped it all when DH didn't speak to me nearly all day. Men! To top it all off I appear to have a stomach bug today - not sure if it was me over indulging on apricots last night to get my system going or I've caught the bug from work!

Someone mentioned itchy nipples ages ago - boy mine are driving crazy!

Looby I see my 2 consultants every 4 weeks or so. One is a diabetes specialist and the other is an obstetrician. I have a scan before the appointment, they review baby's growth and have a look at my sugars, as I have to keep a diary of my blood sugar three times a day. I'm not surprised you have to wait to see them, as they only run a clinic once a week.

I am quite surprised that you haven't been asked in to see the diabetes nurse. I went in the next day and was shown how to monitor my blood sugar levels with a monitor. If you are really, really concerned you could go and buy one from Boots with the strips, but they are quite expensive (£20 for the strips) and I had mine on prescription. THey also arranged for me to see the dietician (who didn't tell me much, tbh) and a diabetes midwife, who is off sick so I haven't seen her yet!

What was the result of your GTT, btw? Did they tell you what the reading is? GD isn't overly common in pregnancy, but managed well it is fine, really! You're going through all the feelings and emotions that I did when diagnosed, and my nasty nurse made me cry, too. In fact, I haven't been particularly happy with the "care" I've had from the nurse as she told me I was probably not suffering from GD but from undiagnosed type 11 diabetes. However when I questioned on her this she admitted she was probably wrong as my GTT was borderline anyway! Grrrr.....

Step away from googling and the net, it'll only scare you and that way madness lies....I did the same too!

gert2a i'll look at the value added bit and it hopefully will help me understand their reports better.. ds is only 2.5 at mo so still time for the ofsted 3's in the nicer areas to improve i suppose. very tricky decision all in all.

daisydoo i'd say the apricots did it.. i'm eating dried figs in same fashion to offset the iron tablets.

Fi - I'd DEFINITELY go for the big house with big garden with excellent local schools! Your local area is transient and right now with the housing market the way it is, loads of up-and-comers will be moving into bigger properties that they couldn't have afforded before the crash. Even if it's not so nice an area, as long as your immediate neighbours are pleasant that's the important thing? We live in a so-so area, have a reasonably sized house (for the area) and the local schools are pretty good plus our neighbours are fantastic. I would be miserable in a small house no matter how pleasant the aesthetic surrounds were!

Looby Can you call your consultant's secretary and ask for a cancellation appointment? I don't know if this will help or not by my GD wasn't diagnosed until I was already 40w with my eldest. He was born totally healthy at 40w5d and I sh!t you not, I had lived on creme eggs and dried apricots for months beforehand. If not, does your GP surgery have a diabetes nurse? I don't actually see my consultant because my GD is managed so well through modifying my diet so I just have to take in a record of my sugar levels to the practice nurse once a fortnight and she reviews it with me in conjunction with my maternity notes.