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Due April 2009: Episode 15 - Barbarellys Babies Break free & BB waits paitiently (LOL not!!)

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SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 12:33

Sorry BB Love you really xxxx

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SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:05

i know!! i soooo need to know what combo

BB get your skates on sweety shag like you have never shagged before , eat curry like its going out of fashion , rasberry leaf tea till you cant take anymore gwaaaannnn you can do it!! hee hee xx

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BoffinMum · 27/02/2009 17:12

You don't get spontaneous orgasms with SPD. They give you a free boiler instead. Life is very unfair.

I almost can't be bothered to have the baby - I was looking at the pet section in Tesco earlier, and thinking it all felt more like getting a guinea pig I couldn't really be bothered to look after. I hope I will feel a bit more positive when it arrives.

SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:19

Boffin, that's how I feel. I've had no glimmer of a nesting instinct yet, even. I'm just forcing myself through the motions of getting things (very slowly) ready, but I don't care. I just think 'meh, he'll come & I'll just stick him in the Moses basket / on my boob & that'll be that'... I'm counting on that overwhelming instant love thing, because at the moment I'm not really that bothered.

I do love him. Sometimes I get excited about him. Sometimes I like playing with him & poking at him through my tummy. Mostly I wonder if I'd miss him if he just disappeared from existence without anything awful happening. That doesn't make any sense & it's something that I'd never admit to DH. I do love him, but not in a crazy maternal way. I think I was more maternal before my dating scan, all that time ago - I remember crying & getting scared that there'd be nothing there, or whatever. Now I feel a bit resentful & impatient & selfish - I'm worried about what this is all going to do my life & I'm not worried about him at all.

bronze · 27/02/2009 17:20

oh blox I can't find my notes
I've probably put them some where 'safe'.

Day before yesterday DH managed to accidently delete my documents so we've lost everything. I've tried everything known to man toretrieve the stuff but its gone.

Yesterday am our power went off from 9.30 am through til 2.30 pm. Ahhh

Ds1 has been acting like a teenager. Hes only 5 and its been hell.

My maternity trousers I bought from next the 14s were huge and the 12s too small so I've bought a bump belt thing to get me through the last couple of months.

Today my hospital bag arrived woo as did the bump belt.

My bedroom walls have finally been sorted and plastered. Its been over three years and such a relief.

I will be back on later to catch up on everything

SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:21

& I am genuinely more excited about you lot giving birth than I am about me. I almost wish I could just babysit for you all instead of having my own

SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:22

bronze, that all sounds rather frustrating But at least some progress is being made! Hope you're not getting too stressed xx

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:23

Boffin - i'm sure that you will be sooo relieved and happy when Felix is finally out that you will be kissing his lil baby bottom for being on the outside (i will be the same with my bambino) the healing can start then and at least there will be no BH, engaging, dragging feet and arms, wiggly bottoms to make things worse Hurrah!!.

birth is just a job/hurdle to get over to me at the mo, cant be bothered with it but know it has to be done. then the fun really starts

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SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:27

Springy - shall we swap for a bit lol you can have mine and i will have yours for a bit

Bronze - eek ((hugs)) hooray for the plastering though xx

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SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:28

Pfft, okay - I think I'd be better at changing a girl's nappy anyway

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:31

boo lol

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SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:34

If only, eh? It'd be nice to have a lovely non-hairy tummy for a while

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:35

immac may help?? lol

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BoffinMum · 27/02/2009 17:35

I am not sure I can call him Felix now, because the name website said he will be a total failure who will never stick at anything.

I suppose if I am bored with the whole thing I can just get DH to do everything. He does have two parents. And it was DH's idea so he should do more!

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 17:37

Yep, let your DH have a go!! sounds like a fab plan

ignore the website.

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BoffinMum · 27/02/2009 17:38

Springy, I will bf if you like and you can do the nappies.

BTW Springy, two asnonia questions (if that is the term).

  1. Do you ever worry about smelling bad and not knowing? I ask because a friend of my mum's developed this problem and got very paranoid.
  1. Can you taste food properly?
SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 17:39

Boffin, our name's going to give our son depressive tendencies, so I wouldn't worry about it. If the worst happens they can be miserable drop-outs together

SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 18:05

This turned into a huge post about not being able to smell, so everyone can feel free to skip it - it has very little interest or relevance to anyone but me, I don't think!

Anosmia

Yes, I get very paranoid about smelling & not knowing, but my family & DH are under strict instruction to just tell me (discreetly!). I'm also fairly aware of when I'm likely to smell these days, so just pre-empt it. Now I only live with DH, I never wear a top more than once without washing it no matter how long it's been on, for example. I'm generally not a very smelly person (I always got my sister to smell every item of clothing when I lived with her, to save the masses of washing that I now have - & most of it was clean for at least a couple of wears) but I think that pregnancy has made me more smelly. I make sure that I shower every day & wash my armpits 2 or 3 times a day, just in case. I'm lucky in that I know that I don't have smelly feet, so I don't worry about taking my shoes off.

There have been a few times, actually, when I've been out in ballet pumps or whatever & it's rained. The water I've walked through in the streets has dried in my shoes & been really smelly & I've not known about that until it was too late, which is embarrassing because people must think that it's my feet

But yeah, I'm super-conscious of my hygiene because I have no idea how smelly I am, or otherwise. Same goes for brushing my teeth - although I can often feel that my mouth isn't very clean, I brush my teeth at least 3 times a day, just in case. I'm not a person with generally OCD tendencies, it is just that I don't want to become a social leper without my knowledge

The food thing is complicated, but the simple answer is no. The middle-ground answer is that it's most similar (in the experience range of a 'normal' person) to when you have an awful cold & your nose is totally blocked up & food tastes funny as a result. I've heard from a few sources that the percentage of taste that is independent of smell is 25% - I effectively only have 3.25 senses There is also the thing that you can do, which you're probably aware of, where you eat something relatively plain (a slice of apple or banana, for example) & sniff an orange (or similar - something quite strong & distinctive) at the same time. What you're eating will taste like the orange.

There are other issues, too - I have no 'grey areas' of taste. It's difficult for me to articulate what that means, because it's like a blind person describing colour, but it's a case of everything being split up into the categories of taste (sweet, sour, bitter, salty & 'umami' as it's called, I think [savoury]) with no overlap between them. So if you dissolved sugar into vinegar & I drank it, I'd pretty much just be able to taste sugar & vinegar, not really a mixture of the two. Not that that concoction would be particularly delicious to anyone, but I'd find it especially unpleasant because it's confusing as well as obviously strange! For that reason I refuse to eat anything that's sweet & sour, or any fruit & meat combinations, etc. The thought of pineapple on pizza makes me gag, that sort of thing.

Then there's the spicy issue - I find it very difficult to eat spicy food because it doesn't taste of anything to me. It just feels like burning. I can eat chicken tikka masala (pretty much the only Indian thing I will eat!) because it has other flavours beyond the spice and it's not too hot. It is a very unpleasant sensation for me to eat very spicy food because of the anosmia.

Texture's massively important to me because of all of those things. I'm not quite so bad as I used to be, but I still find it difficult to have multiple types of food in my mouth at once. I eat all of my food one 'type' at a time - so with a Sunday dinner, I'd eat the carrots, then the broccoli, & so on, until I got to the meat, which I'd eat last. There would be no cross-over As I say, I'm not quite so obsessed with that as I was as a child (for years I could only eat from a plate with partitions, so the food couldn't touch each other), but I still don't like it very much & don't tend to like any form of sauces or anything on my food. Like if I have a pie, the pie has to be well away from everything else in case it leaks

The main texture issue as a kid was that everything was 'slimy' & all tasted the same. Cooked mushrooms & onions were the worst culprits, although oddly mushrooms are one of my favourite things now. I tend to like very plain foods (I'm a total carb fiend for that reason) because they don't make my head explode with conflicting aspects of taste.

I was a vegetarian for about 12 years, from age 7 until recently. My family (apart from my dad) still think that I am but it just drove me absolutely insane because nearly all veggie substitutes for food feel the same, but are flavoured to replicate the meat they're meant to replace. After 12 years of pretty much the same meal every day, I finally broke down & returned to The Dark Side

brettgirl2 · 27/02/2009 18:06

I can so relate to so many of the things being said:

  1. I also don't really believe that there is a baby in there. It's just too surreal
  2. I have no idea what to do with babies at all , but we're all intelligent women so I'm sure we'll cope!
  3. I can't wait to not be pg - and get FIT!!! Not in a vain kind of way but I'm used to being able to run up stairs, walk miles etc. Instead I am waddling around and feel about 80.
BoffinMum · 27/02/2009 18:10

Ooh, that is all very interesting Springy.

Do you find it easier or more difficult keeping a trim figure without the benefit of 75% of your tastebuds?

SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 18:23

I'm not sure, actually. I have a fairly restricted diet (I was such a fussy child & although I've made huge efforts to broaden my horizons, I'm still not great - but eating meat helps a lot in restaurants, especially) but what I do eat is mostly very heavy in carbs (pasta & good bread are guaranteed to defeat me), which I don't suppose is great. & I can still taste the lovely sweetness of chocolate (& enjoy the yummy melting texture ) so I'm not safe from that

Having said that, I think that it helps a lot that I can't crave food just because I can smell it cooking. I know that people find it very difficult to walk past bakeries, for example, because they can smell the food from outside - I never have that temptation.

Equally, I think my anosmia is the only thing that's saved me from truly horrific morning sickness - I haven't had any of the smell triggers that people find so difficult.

Obscure disadvantages are things like I've always been upset at the thought of not being able to smell my baby's head & I won't ever be able to smell alcohol on DH's breath if he's claiming to have come straight home without stopping for a quick pint

BoffinMum · 27/02/2009 18:33

I have had a mad Boff idea. How about trying hypnosis to plant the suggestion that you can in fact smell the baby's head?

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 18:44

Springy - wow! hooray for the taste of chocolate though! you will have to tape a white line on the floor and make dh walk it if you are suspicious xx

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SmuttyNuttyTaff · 27/02/2009 18:51

can you differentiate with alcohol? or does it all sort of taste the same? do you have a preference? sorry if that seems like a stoopid question but it seems to affect taste too (is that right?) i imagine something like gin and lemon would be a bit yuk like a ham and pineapple pizza?

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SpringySunshine · 27/02/2009 19:35

I don't know a lot about hypnosis at all, but I'm not sure that I'd be susceptible to it...

& Nutty, alcohol tends to taste very similar (or more to the point not really taste like much at all - it just feels oddly warm ) - spirits all taste pretty much the same to me. It depends on the mixers. But I can't really taste the difference between whisky / bacardi / vodka / etc. If it's in lemonade or coke, it's just lemonade or coke with a strange warmth to it. It's not bad mixing flavours with alcohol, because the alcohol doesn't taste of much in the first place.

There are exceptions, though - for example I can taste Baileys, because that's really creamy. But then it just tastes like warm, sweet cream... I'm not sure if that's normal

PuzzleRocks · 27/02/2009 19:37

Bronze - Hve you found your notes yet?
My maternity jeans are getting too tight now but I resent buying anything new since I will only need for a few weeks.
Hooray for your bedroom being finished.

Springy - I found it very interesting. I had been meaning to ask you the same questions as Boff as well.

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