Due in Nov 05 - Part II

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Here we go all!

x x x

HK, hope everything goes alrignt on Tuesday, I can understand that this will be the last place you will want to be but if you need us we are all here for you when you are ready to come back.

On to more positive things, what a great decision, you are going to make a great counsellor, if you are this easy to talk to and this supportive on a website where know one really knows each other then face to face you will be amazing as you will be able to put people at there ease without any difficulty.

I admire you for taking up the volunteer role, this I would imagine will be very traumatic but it may also help you as well in the long run to come terms with your own losses. Not sure that I would be able to do it though.

Beks- Well done! Sounds great.

Hi All (old and new) not been able to get on to the computer much since a virus crippled us, we managed to get McAfee installed but TBH that has had its fair share of problems.

I am sorry to hear of your news hellkat xx

As a childminder work never seems to end (I start at 8 and finish at 6) We haven't told anyone about the pregnancy so sometimes it quite hard. After I have had my 12wk scan I will start looking for someone to cover me so I can have some proper maternity leave but I don't know how easy it will be?
Hope everyone has a trouble free couple of weeks.
Xena

Morning ChaCha, how are you feeling now? Do you have certain times of the day when you feel better or worse?

I've found that fizzy Haribo type sweets will break my sick feelings a bit and eating a little and often seems to stave it off a bit too although from mid afternoon onwards I'm not much use to anyone and I'm usually in bed by 9pm these days, which is only an hour after my ds!!!

Have a good day and here's to being a hermit for as long as we want, you will feel like going out again soon, especially when you realsie you won't be going out again for what seems like ever when your little bundle of joy arrives!

I was very sad and didn't leave my ds overnight until he was 20 months old, but now I can go out for the evening or away for the night and not miss him a bit, well at least not until I'm on my way back!!!

HK might sound great but I think I must be mad as I'm opening a soft play centre, so will be surrounded by kids and lots of noise all day long - ear plugs to the ready I think

Lol sounds fun though. Little one's being able to fling themselves about!

Morning girls!

HK what a great idea to become a counsellor, you'll be brill.

Chocqueen I think you should defo go for it although I want to know what job it is, sounds v. exciting!!

Beksmum you are really brave to start a new business! What would it be - my nosy side coming out yet again!

Cha cha, Twinkle and yingers, sorry you're all feeling so sick not much longer now. Ps twinkle have a lovely holiday

Enthusia and chacha, sorry if you felt left out, but as BEKsmum said, we probably do sound a bit jaded, I've still hardly told anyone and I'm 12 wks on Thurs!! Still worried there's nothing there, I've got 1st MW appt early May, so hopefully she'll be able hear a little heartbeat.
I don't get a scan til 20-21 weeks though.

Who else has got a scan coming up??

x x x

Hi Beks, still feeling crapolla but am mananging to sit my park my behind at the PC
It used to be more of a post 5pm type of sickness but now it seems to be 24/7. I have the most disgusting taste in my mouth too that doesn't help and nothing is enticing my taste buds. I keep thinking of the scan and the sac and the pea that i saw and feeling totally sick. I cannot actually believe what is going on inside of me and the more i read about it the more i need to lie down in total shock horror! I'm the kind of person who faints if i cut my finger...you can imagine how i am at being PG then. Oh dear! I really must get on but can't be a**ed ..

ds has just trumped and promptly blamed it on the 'trumpy snake'??? Not heard that one before!

cha cha - not feeling too bad, no chance of a rest working hard, and catching up on housework that i have been ignoring for the last 2 weeks.
Managing to get on with life as normal even if i am a bit mad at the world.

Xena - didn't realise you were a childminder. how many kids do you look after? what are are you in.

Cha cha how many weeks are you now? is it 8? not many more weeks of sickness, should start tailing off around 11 weeks, mine started to get gradually better arounds then. It's just about gone now, although if I chew something for too long (chewing gum, steak etc) it makes me heave really spontaneously!! Sorry, has that just made you heave too?!!

x x x

BEKsmum, you're so right about second pregnancies. With DS I was so excited and happy even with my head down the loo. We were living in Tokyo at the time and I made a whole website for our families and friends based on the pregnancy with belly pictures, my ultrasounds and a weekly journal. Yesterday I was told that I would need to take the images from my 7 week ultrasound to the nuchal scan next week. I had no idea where they were and eventually found them tucked into the bread basket!! Oh dear, so different now.

Chocolate, I would go for the job. It sounds great and I'm sure it would give you a lift to squeeze some work in before the baby arrives. I really miss work sometimes and would love that kind of opportunity. Good luck with it!

Hellkat, what a wonderful idea. I really admire you for wanting to help others.

Jenjam, I'm glad the scan went well. I'm going back down the thread now but I wanted to say that I totally understand your post about worrying about how a baby will affect your lifestyle and identity. That was really tough for me first time around and it's a worry this time too. Having one baby I feel like I've been able to maintain some sense of self but with two I worry about feeling smothered with the 'mother' label. There are some great books out there though that talk about these kinds of feelings. The Best Friend's Guides are brilliant and very funny. They're by Vicky Iovine and cover everything from pregnancy to the first year of motherhood to getting your groove back. I also enjoyed Rachel Cusk's book A Life's Work and, for some pregnancy humour, Mel Giedroyc's (of Mel and Sue) From Here to Maternity. All great stuff.

I'm doing OK here. A bit of a sore throat which had me going to the doc yesterday. I think I'm just being extra cautious but she did say that anything that causes a fever can cause miscarriage, which really freaked me out. She just said to take paracetemol and drink a lot of orange juice, so that's what I'm doing. Other than that I think the ms is subsiding and I'm just feeling quite tired right now. I'll take that over being sick though!

The doc also told me that I won't have my booking in appt until 16 weeks and then won't see a midwife again until after my 22 week scan! I was really surprised. Last time they did lots of blood and urine tests and monitored my blood pressure. But it was different with DS. We were in Japan the first four months with private health and then were in a different area of London when we came back. Oh well, I guess everything's OK. Got my nuchal scan next week so we'll know for sure then.

My stats:

Me, 34 and SAHM
DH, 35
DS, 2y 9m
11 weeks and 2 days pregnant after two early miscarriages last year
Princess Royal Univ Hospital in Farnborough

Good lord, just saw the size of my post!! I guess I haven't been on very much lately. Had to catch up.

Tex111 LOL!

Hi Rodeo, Yeah i'm just over 8 weeks. And still sat at the PC .. i'm going to start growing mould. .

Wow that is a long post Tex!

I personally love to read long posts though and it's lovely to hear from you x

IKWYM Chacha, I've been on pc for ages have just been reading a thread on pregnancy entitled 'Don't know whether to laugh or cry, my MIL wants to name ds to be Gerard' It's a nightmare - but hilarious!

will have a quick butchers

ha ha! Had to laugh at 'Satsuma'...

Hi Diddle I look after
15mth old 10.15- 2.45
5yo 8am-9am 3.30-6pm (and sch hol)
6yo 8-9 3.30-5.30
8yo 8-9 3.30-4.30 (and sch hol)
9yo 8-9 3.30-5.30
plus DS 7 DD 3 and DD 9mths

Booked for Sept I have a 5yo 8-9 3.30-5.30
2yo 8-5
3mth 8-5

I have only got the space for the 5yo so I am hoping that in the next month Ofsted approves me for extra spaces if I employee an assistant otherwise I won't be able to take the 2yo and 3mth old. bascially the long term vision is to turn the downstairs into a nursery/afterschool club (and upstairs and the loft into our living space)

I briefly went back to work after DD1 and that would have been perfect for me somewhere for DS to go before and after school and DD to be there for the day. So I am hoping there will be the demand for it.

xena - wow, you have it all planned. I look after 15 over the space of a week, all part time. I love it. would love a nursery.

Hi Diddle and Xena, am gatecrashing, feel free to throw me out at any time
Can you start a nursery from home?
Is childminding a lot of hard work? Can you tell me a bit more about your field of work..adv's dis's etc... Thanks

cha cha - gatecrash as much as you want.
I have no idea if you can start a nursery from home, suppose that si what i am dong as a childminder really, better ask Xena that one.

I have been doing it for 2 years this week and it does have good and bad points.

Good: It is great if you ahve your own kids, which i don't but i started it because i wanted kids and didn't want to leave them with anyone else. So i can still eanr money and be there for my children as and when they need me.

You are your own boss, make your own decisions. if you want to go to the park and sit in the sun with an ice cream you can.

You can choose your own hours and charge what you want to for your services.

If you feel really rough you can sit down and watch the kids play without the pressure of having someone demanding work from you.

You can put a load of washing on if you want to.

You get to be a part of the childrens learning process's and watch them grow and be a part of that. seeing a little take his first step or watch them develop so they can walk and talk is great.

Bad:

You're your own boss, this can have big downfalls too, You can't easily have time off, or get cover for your job, as my recent months have proved.

It can be very lonely being at home all the time and not leaving the house unless you're with the children.

Lack of adult company can make you very depressed. But then some areas have a very good childminder support network. Ours doesn't.

You're house masy well get trashed by the children. Luckily mine isn't and i use my lounge as my play room.

I have to make sure that i pack all signs of children away once they are gone otherwise i would go mad.

Its a good job though, it doesn't pay excellent money, although i am doing very well and still have vacancies. But if we needed to live off just my wage then we could just about manage.

Thanks Diddle, really informative. You both gave me an idea..hmmm...

it is something you would like to do?

It sounds like an awful lot of hard work but then so is teaching. I don't want to look further than tomorrow but if this pg is to be successful i don't really see myself leaving him/her in care to go back to work - teaching is such a stressful job i come home knackered at the best of times and there's no 9-5 with it IYSWIM - lesson planning, marking, evaluation, reports carry on well into the evening. The thought of being able to still work, having that bit of independence, being at home and being with your child sounds great..
Diddle, i misunderstood, do you have kids?