Due April 2009 - Episode 13 - Springy's getting married in the morning, Ding Dong the April mums will shine (or at least swell some more!!

[SmuttyNuttyTaff]

here we go

Morning all! Ahhhh Springy, so excited for you, you have a few wonderful days ahead, make the most of it and enjoy! It all sounds absolutey beautiful, love the choice of flowers and that you'll wear a family brooch, and the mini eggs. It really is those little things that will make the day (and your memories) special. All the best, hugs and I can't wait to hear all about it! Just imagine how many pregnant ladies all around the country will be thinking of you tomorrow

Soooo... apologies for last night, I hope none of you had nightmares It was all done in the interest of science, I swear!

DH though in all honesty ---is a brilliant programmer, and has a lot of foreward thought and won't do a crap job ever, never hacking things together just to get a quick fix...BUT the additude he 'brings to the table' makes him seem a bit lazy and unreliable (he's often late for things, and forgets things until the last minute, or seems to put things off for other things while he mulls things over while seeming to be 'messing around' on the computer). It's why he's never really appreciated by anyone but the other programmers who think he's utterly amazing and always come to him for advice and solutions... Non computer people just don't see it though...
Sigh

Anyway, I'm trying not to worry. There have been some outside interest in him...but unfortunately the company is currently being taken over by IBM so they're not exactly inthe position to hire... but I'm trying not to worry
Try
try try
positive thoughts...

Oh Bleu, that's bad news, all fingers crossed he'll find something else quickly!

LuLu, so sorry to hear about your DD's night terrors, must have been really scary for you but she probably doesn't remember a thing. Hope it won't happen again!

i'm sure a lot of you will have had this for weeks as i am at the end of the month but the whole bump moving thing has started for me this week.

we were so excited to see it as havent really had many strong movements that dh can feel - or not consistently enough and he gets bored waiting, so was great to see the whole baby move in an alien type way.

Conker yay for baby alien type movement

t is quite fun and encouraging seeing the baby move isn't it

makes it all more real again that there is a proper person in there, and they are coming out at some point too.

Lulu - That sounds awful, it must have been really upsetting for you. Let's hope it was a one off.

Bleu - I'm sure he will find something easily enough in that field. Fingers crossed for you both.

i hope its soon!!! i feel far too huge for my body now. I really want to see my squirmy munchkin!!

lol i was massaging my bump last night and dh said "its not a spot you know, you cant just squeeze it like that and the baby will pop out however much you try"

lol Nutty

Do the stretch marks on anyone else's body ache a bit? I keep putting oil/ moisturiser on but they seem to be aching today a bit...Or at least it's that part of my body that is aching a bit.

Has anyone heard from Auld or Barbarella? It seems like ages since I've seen them online. Barb must be quite close to her planned due date...but Auld has a good way to go yet I believe...

Afternoon all

Bleu sorry to hear about your DHs work. Has he got much longer to go on his contract? My DH is an IT contractor too. Luckily he is under contract until October but it does mean he is working away from home all the time (but at the moment we figure better to be in work, even if we see a lot less of each other). If he can't pick up more work in October at least this bump should be 6 months old so I will look for work then if need be (and give him a chance to see what life at home with 2 LOs is like he he!).

And I think aches are normal. In the evenings I often feel insufferably itchy and twitchy. Find it hard to relax or concentrate as I just feel uncomfortable. Roll on April, eh!

My biggest fear is that dh will get depressed working too far from home. He is, in the most sweetest way, very needy and attached to me (and now the baby), it's a very light form of aspergers...He gets quite worked up about the idea of working in London or far way...that is really why I am worried. I'm not sure if I can mange to hold it together with a little one's demands, a depressed and fretting dh and my own rather emotional neediness because of the hormones... BUT then again that's what we women do isn't it? [wry smiling emoticon]

its the bright blue vein trees that do me in, i refuse to look in a mirror when nekkid now

contract up end of march..just before edd...

couldnt he work in bristol or similar (bristol city council are always advertising for it staff) tis only an hour away then

lol nutty; I know what you mean... i only dare look at my reflction clothed or in the reflection of the closet doors (which are made out of glass and thus don't show detail, onlt outlines)

we shall see nutty what our options are...hopefully after talking with a few agents he'll get an idea of what available... our mortgage is quite high which means he needs to make a certain amount to keep us here...though moving is ofcourse an option too...it's just the timing of it all...

Bleu - I sympathise, it's a very real problem. I'm pretty worried about DH at the moment. He's hugely stressed at work at the moment, plus all the house stuff and hates being away from his wife and daughter. I worry he is going to make himself ill. He's back to smoking with a vengeance (cycling would be a far better 'outlet')and tiring himself out all the more trying to travel back late at night to be with me rather than staying in hotels.

He's got a major work deadline on 8 April (yes, my due date!), so hopefully after then everything will get easier. We should be installed in our own home, baby should be born and weather should be good enough for walks by the river and quality family time.

I was stood in front of the mirror earlier trying to draw my belly in just to see what a normal me looks like Didn't work

Bleu - you could always rent your place out and rent somewhere more convenient for him to work from temporarily. The good thing about babies is that they are 'portable'. Gets trickier when they start school.

I would have moved closer to DHs work but my mother's place isn't costing us anything (although I may have to redecorate here after DD and the cat have finished wrecking it!)

Dear me. I thought perhaps as much from the few comments you had made that things were stressful for you guys. I hope that things ease for you soon.
Here's looking to a sunny future

It must put a lot of pressure on DHs/DPs, knowing their income will have to support the family including LO, in this economic climate... My own DH has certainly be more worried lately.

Ha ha ha - that's funny Schulte. Do you mean you were holding it in or you were actually drawing your shape on the mirror?

When I went swimming with DD the other day the pool was full of daddies for once (half term). One of them was extremely attractive (tanned, toned, just enough chest hair and no back hair ) and I caught myself eyeing him up, preening and pulling my tummy in. Then I realised I was 7 months pregnant and looking absolutely ridiculous in swimwear which really isn't fitting properly and hadn't even done my legs before I went to the pool. I quickly hid under the water and tried to stay there for as long as possible.

Yes...renting is a possibility too...though because we have a new property the rent we'd get would be only half of the mortgage (if that)... but it is something we've talked about and will end up entering into any future negoiations with companies.

It's the economic climate really...all sorts of little things have conspired against us; I'll not go into it as I'm quite stressed and so will 'poor poor pitiful us' the whole thing, when things could of course be far worse... It is a horrible stress to the poor men though I know; they feel such things quite keenly I'd say.