Due April 2009 - Tralalaboomdiay, our bumps grow every day!!

[BabyBolat]

Place your bets on how long this thread will last, my guess is two weeks!!

i agree with you conkertree. I don't want my child not to have my surname. But equally I don't it to not have it's father's name. I wouldn't want it to just have my name as that implies to me that the child's father isn;t part of the child's life. and he will be, we're planning on being together, and even if we split i;d hope we'd always both be in the child's life. It's the child's indentity after all, it'll come from both of us, and also be something uniquely of it's own, so i like the idea of both our names joining together to make a new name. I don't think either of us should be left out.

I've tried explaining it to him, and even broached the difficult issue of what would happen if we were to split and i was left with a child with a different name to mine, but he's not for budging. Says that he's supported me while I split with my ex, is supporting me now, is moving to edinburgh for me and this is the only thing he wants

btw i love eilidh and i love hazel, and you've all just made me weigh myself and now i'm fed up with yous. put on a stone and a half but weirdly still fit into my jeans

frekkles- baby weight- all that extra fluid in your body doesn't make you get bigger just heavier

Schulte. I love the idea of saying he can name the next one but he has already put his foot down and said no more since it is a little girl so that wont work!!

Why couldnt it have been a little boy then we wouldnt have this problem! Stupid as it may sound, because we had decided on a boys name before the scan I do still kinda mourn (dont think thats the right word but cant think of another) for my little Jasper I was really looking forward to having him!!

Nutty. I kinda like the idea of actually calling her Jessicat/Jessikat but I dont think she would thank us for it when she is older!

I really like Eilidh and Aurora and Frekkles I would definitely push for a double barrelled surname.

Im sorry if I have missed anything out but you all talk so much when Im not looking I cant remember it all!

Conker, I do know a bit about this, although I am not officially a psychologist but rather a sociologist. I always dip my toe into the psychology water though.

I think both are needed - at least a hour a day with both parents, eg cooking together and then having dinner together round the table or doing something en famille like a game or a walk, plus a bit of independent time as they get older (from about age 8-9), eg calling for friends, going to the newsagents on their own, that sort of thing. That way parents maintain good communication whilst allowing their children to develop maturity and self-knowledge. I also think it is absolutely vital for children to do chores, increasing in duration and responsibility as they get older. In this household we are working hard on the last one, I hasten to add, as oddly there is resistance ... particularly on the part of DD who is appalling at everything except cooking.

frekkles - i totally agree with your views on the double barrelled name and the way you say it about being the child's identity - maybe the time to discuss it more is just after you've pushed it out of you, and he gazes in wonderment at this new being that you've produced.

boffinmum - thanks for that - any idea if any research has been done or of statistics (even very basic ones) that have been compiled - dh works in a urban priority area in Glasgow but cant find any specific figures on Glasgow so wondered if anyone knew of any studies done elsewhere - but as I say its a longshot.

I just had two BLT sandwiches and am STILL hungry. What now???

oh and frekkles - i seem to have put on not far off two stone but i dont feel all that big, and i dont think i have overeaten - just when hungry, apart from the chocolate maybe.

but today had vegetable soup, a bagel and an apple and an orange (trying to get my stomach/bowels working better) sorry if tmi - but having much more problems this time with poo .

lets all dump our scales together and forget about weight just now. after all creme eggs are back in the shops and they will be here until (hopefully) all our babies have arrived.

schulte - blt yum yum - bit of fruit? or some christmas cake - do you think it counts as drinking at work if i have a large slice of christmas cake with lots of brandy in it? suppose the alcohol must have been cooked off though.

All this talk of weighing yourselves has made me brave getting the scales out and...................................

I weigh slightly less now than I did when I was 10 weeks pregnant and got weighed for my booking in appointment!!!

I have the biggest grin on my face and cant get rid of it Im nearly shaking Im really pleased with myself although I dont know how the hell Ive managed it I havent exactly eaten well this pregnancy.

Right Im going to go again now I just needed to tell someone

xXx

very scarry times

I'm not going to weigh myself for at least 2 years as its far to scary and i've also notised creme eggs in local shop. I have now been told i look full term which i surpose i do.

Ds has now announced that he doesn't want the baby and we should give it away. This is also scarry and my hormones are a bit haywire as i verbally attacked 2 jerhoviahs witness on the door step this morning with shouts of "would you let your child die rather than give it a blood transfusion" I am now apologising to any j.witnesses who post on mn. I am usully very respectful of other peoples life style/ religious choices. This morning i felt close to tears as i shouted at them. Dh thought it was funny but i didn't recognise myself.

The birth is getting closer v'scarry, stomach flips every time i think about it

Im sorry that last post comes across as a bit harsh after what everyone has said about what they've put on. Im really really sorry thats not at all how I meant it.

xXx

oh ... ok i guess some people are lucky and dont put on much weight. hmm....(puts the biscuit back down).

thats great claireykitten maybe you should lead the how to keep yourself at a sensible weight group and teach the rest of us how to do it - think its too late for me.

have just been looking at slingmeet.co.uk - anyone else planning to use a sling? I used a didymos with struan but would like a lighter weight one for the summer months with this lo. might go along to one of the meets and see what kinds they have.

The birth! Yay! I wish I could do it now, then collect the baby in April. In between I'd get drunk every night and stuff my face with taleggio, pate and parma ham.

Wouldn't that be lovely?

dont worry claireykitten - its great that you've managed not to put much on - some people are lucky that way i guess. good on you.

mrsfossil - i know it probably wasnt meant to be funny - but your post did make me laugh lots. i have had similar irrational episodes a few times - usually when ds has woken us yet again and we've taken him into bed and then he's started singing to himself etc and i start off laughing but end up crying for no rational reason - think dh is getting more used to it now. pg hormones are great - who needs mind altering drugs.

sure your ds will love the new baby once he gets used to it - although i'm dreading that bit too.

schulte - sounds great. i have been in such a good mood the last couple of days - partly cause we got a lot sorted yesterday (holiday, phone and business cards) but partly cause i was looking into the garden picturing summer at home with ds and the new baby, sipping wine with dh and enjoying all the lovely pates etc that we are missing out on just now.

and the birth - we will get through it - we are built to get through it, its just something you have to do.

No No conkertree dont put the biscuit down!!!

Thats how Ive got to where I am lots of biscuits chocolate and anything else I fancy as I say I really dont know how I have not put LOADS of weight on

I am probably a bit of a weirdo but I am really looking forward to the birth. Was the most amazing experience - if a little painful

Schulte you're not weird at all thats me as well as long as they let me have the birth I want.

I was the weird woman who 5-10 minutes after having ds whilst they were still trying to deliver the afterbirth said that if they promised me the birth pool I would do it all again and couldnt wait to have another!!!

Im just not normal am I!!

xXx

Oh did you have a water birth? I would love one! Mind you then I'd have to take off the TENS machine and that thing really worked for me.

i definitely would count it as one of the more enjoyable days i've had - more because its an amazing experience to go through rather than cause it was fun or anything, but for most of the second stage (i get confused - the bit up to the pushing stage) I had my tens machine which also really worked for me, gas and air, and was bouncing on a ball listening to miss saigon and various other musicals - really a very enjoyable way to spend the afternoon.

if the pushing stage is shorter this time, i definitely wont complain, but yes - in one way i am looking forward to the birth too.

i went through a being scared of it time last time round, but by the time i got to 40 weeks, i just wanted it to happen, however it went, and so was relieved more than anything when it all finally kicked off.

Hello Everyone!

It has taken me a week just to catch up on all your posts!

Well, the holiday is over and dh is back at work and I am 'home alone' now that I am on maternity leave. I'm not even going to try to comment on all the new things that you have been talking about while I've been away but I've enjoyed reading it all very much. I've also looked at the photos you've posted - what gorgeous girls you are!

Had 26 week scan yesterday and the babies are all doing well - they are all just over two pounds each which is the size a normal single baby would be at this stage. I can't tell you how relieved we are to be in the 'safe' zone after feeling anxious for so long! I have put on two stone (!!) and my tummy feels VERY heavy now - I get quite breathless from the least amount of exertion - anyone else?! The midwife measured me as 38 weeks even though I'm only 26 which should give you some idea of my girth!!

We went out and bought our first lot of baby stuff after the scan as we were too scared we might jinx it if we got things before they were viable - it's so exciting to see all these cute little things and think that in eight weeks (!!!) there will be little people in them (if I can make it to 34 weeks). Am also feeling a tad nervous at the thought - I hope I don't end up curled up in a corner crying while they scream their heads off and wish they had a more capable mother!!

Anyway, it's been lovely to catch up on all your news - I've missed your conversations and advice . So nice to 'meet' all the new April mums also.